Behavior Gap Radio

In a world of AI-generated books, endless content, and virtual everything… maybe the rarest thing isn’t more information—it’s real human connection. In this episode, Carl asks a provocative question: What if the answer isn’t to become more like a machine, but more like a human?

Because connection—the kind that happens face-to-face, heart-to-heart—is becoming increasingly rare… and increasingly valuable.

Connection is the new luxury.

What if money is just a cheap shortcut? In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl shares a story about grandma’s dinner and explores the deeper forms of value we often overlook—like friendship, generosity, and shared purpose. Sometimes writing a check is the easy way out. But what if there’s something more valuable than money?

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What’s at the center of your life? In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl explores the idea that, for many of us, money has quietly become the organizing principle around which everything else revolves. But what if we chose something else? Family? Time? Meaning? It's worth asking.

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What if the problem isn’t you—it’s what we’ve been told is normal? In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl challenges our deeply held assumptions about money, enoughness, and the quiet madness of chasing what everyone else is chasing. Maybe the real goal is to be a little less normal… and a little more weird.

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In this episode, Carl revisits his favorite money metaphor—gathering wood for a fire—and adds a new layer: What kind of fire are you building? A small cabin fire or a 10,000-square-foot mountain lodge bonfire? The size of the fire changes everything. From burn rate to outflow, Carl explores how the metaphors we use shape the way we think about money and invites you to send him your own.

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In this episode, Carl explores the subtle but dangerous shift from treating money as a scoreboard to letting it become a mirror. When net worth stops being just a business metric and starts reflecting our fears, stories, and sense of self-worth, things get messy. What if the number isn’t telling you how you’re doing—but who you think you are?

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In this episode, Carl flips the script on everything we think we want from money. We don’t actually want money—we want what we think it will give us: safety, love, approval, and enoughness. And here’s the twist: you can feel those things before the numbers change. What if money isn’t the enemy or the goal… but the trick that wakes us up from the collective delusion we’ve been living in?

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In this episode, Carl challenges one of the deepest money myths out there: Money will finally make us feel safe, happy, or whole. He shares a core idea from his new book: You’re not bad with money, you’re just asking it to do the wrong job. From personal stories to a powerful quote by Austin Kleon, Carl unpacks how our suffering around money often stems from mistaken beliefs, not money itself. What if changing those beliefs could change everything?

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In this adventure journal episode, Carl shares a thought experiment that starts in a quiet cabin and ends with a radical reframing of how we think about money. What if money were like firewood—just fuel to keep things going? Not something to hoard, fear, or worship, but something to gather when needed, use wisely, and share freely. This isn't just a mindset shift—it's a new way of being. One rooted in trust, not scarcity.

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In this episode, Carl shares a raw segment from his new one-man show, built around two painfully honest sketches about envy and comparison. He reflects on the unspoken rules of the money game we all play—and what happens when someone dares to break them. From beaten-up minivans to Instagram-fueled status anxiety, this one’s about the stories we tell, the ones we’re afraid to admit, and the quiet power of saying four simple words: We can’t afford it.

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In this episode, Carl shares a raw, in-progress segment from his upcoming keynote. What if money is just a story we’ve all agreed to believe? A religion we all follow but no one admits to praying to? From Martians to mortgages, Carl invites us to step back and ask: When did we give money so much power?

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In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl returns from an accidental hiatus with a vulnerable reflection on why he keeps making the show—and why it matters that you share it. He relays a powerful idea from his recent conversation with author Austin Kleon: Money, up to a certain point, acts as a stabilizing force, but beyond that, it becomes an agent of chaos. If money walked into the room, what would you ask it?

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In this episode of the Deep Shift series, Carl explores how tactical curiosity—like obsessing over budgeting apps or fueling strategies—often hides something deeper. What starts as a surface-level decision can lead to a powerful emotional insight. Maybe it's not about interest rates… maybe it's about fear, identity, or old family patterns. Carl walks us through why it’s easier to talk spreadsheets than shame—and how simply asking, “Why are you asking?” can crack open the truth.

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In episode two of the Deep Shift series, Carl names the chase we all know too well: tactical curiosity. The frantic hunt for the perfect app, book, or tool isn’t really about solutions—it’s often a way to avoid the deeper, scarier questions. This episode invites you to pause the chase and ask, “What am I really trying to solve for?” Because awareness—not another download—is where real change begins.

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In this first episode of a new series, Carl introduces the Deep Shift framework—his attempt to map the real journey of change. It’s not about picking the right tactic or finding more information, it’s about uncovering what’s blocking the doing. From tactical curiosity to deep ritual, Carl explores why lasting change starts below the surface… and invites you to walk through it with him.

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In this wrap-up to the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl shares where the idea came from and why it matters. People don’t want another financial plan—they want to feel okay. They want someone to walk with, someone who listens with golden-retriever-level curiosity. In this episode, Carl challenges us to become that kind of friend: no agenda, no judgment, just love, presence, and deep curiosity. Turns out you don’t need to know anything about money to be a wise money friend. You just have to care.

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In the final episode of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl reflects on what it means to hold the mirror gently. A wise money friend helps you see what’s really there—not with blame, but with compassion. It’s that rare mix of an empathetic hug and a well-timed kick in the butt. Because real clarity doesn’t come from shame—it comes from being seen, kindly.

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In episode nine of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl highlights a defining trait of true support: Instead of rushing to give answers, instead asking better questions. The kinds of questions that invite reflection, spark clarity, and open doors. Because real change doesn’t come from advice, it starts with curiosity.

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In this episode of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl shares a simple but rare truth: A wise money friend doesn’t have an agenda. They’re not selling, fixing, or convincing. They’re just fully present—genuinely invested in your clarity. Once you’ve felt that kind of presence, you don’t forget it… and you stop settling for anything less.

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In this episode, Carl continues the Your Wise Money Friend series with a powerful reminder: A wise money friend believes you are enough—even when you feel like you’ve screwed everything up. They don’t excuse your mistakes, they restore your dignity. Because real change doesn’t come from shame, it comes from remembering who you are.

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In episode six of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl explores what it means to honor someone's dreams—big, small, wild, or vague—without judgment. A wise money friend doesn’t roll their eyes or ask, “When are you going to get a real job?” They lean in and say, “Tell me more.” This episode is about learning to hold space for dreams—our own and others’—with curiosity, not criticism. Because dreaming isn’t naive, it’s trust.

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In episode five of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl reflects on how true wisdom isn’t pushy. A wise money friend doesn’t rush your process or pressure your decisions—they wait with you. Because they know money decisions are rarely urgent, and often about something much deeper: identity, emotion, and transition.

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In episode four of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl shares how a wise money friend helps you pause, not to stop you, but to give you space. Space between the impulse and the action. Space to breathe, to feel, and to choose. Because the point isn’t control—it’s clarity. And that little pause? That’s where alignment begins.

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In episode three of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl reminds us that to a wise money friend, your story is never just about money. They listen between the lines—because behind every financial decision is something deeper: fear, joy, dreams, love. A wise money friend knows it’s all connected, and that’s where the real conversation begins.

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In episode two of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl explores the idea that wisdom isn’t about being right—it’s about being present. A wise money friend won’t hand you a to-do list or correct your choices. Instead, they ask the deeper questions that help you see yourself more clearly. Because the goal isn’t certainty, it’s clarity.

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In this special 1,300th episode, Carl kicks off a new series called Your Wise Money Friend. Episode one starts with a simple but powerful idea: A wise money friend doesn’t shame you. They don’t scold, lecture, or judge—they lean in with curiosity. Instead of asking, “Can you afford it?” They ask, “Tell me more.” Because real wisdom isn’t about telling you what to do—it’s about helping you explore why.

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In this kickoff episode, Carl introduces a new series called Your Wise Money Friend—a collection of short, gentle reflections to help you pause, notice your money patterns, and choose on purpose. No hype. No shame. Just tiny moments of clarity, like a quiet walk with someone who really gets it. Because money isn’t just math, it’s meaning.

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It’s not about what you spent—it’s about what you felt. In this field episode from Los Angeles, Carl shares a shift in how he thinks about money decisions. Whether it’s a new truck or a fancy coffee, the real question isn’t “Can you afford it?” It’s “What are you hoping this will do for you?” Because every financial choice has a feeling underneath it—and that’s where the real insight lives.

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Money isn’t math—it’s practice. In this episode, Carl reframes every financial decision as a chance to get more aligned with who you really are. Not perfect. Just intentional. Not based on someone else’s rules, but rooted in your own values. One choice at a time.

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What if every transaction became a moment of transformation? In this episode, Carl asks what would happen if your values showed up not after you spend, but right before—before the tap, the click, the buy. Because every transaction builds your story, and with one simple pause, you can start writing it on purpose.

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What if every transaction was a chance to practice your values? In this episode, Carl explores how even the smallest purchases—coffee, groceries, flights—can move from invisible habits to intentional choices. This isn’t about spending less. It’s about spending in alignment, where your money reflects the life you actually want to live.

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So much of what we do with money is just autopilot—spend, save, stress, repeat. In this episode, Carl invites us to slow down, feel the pattern, and create space between the trigger and the choice. Because clarity doesn’t live in someone else’s advice—it lives in the feeling between the pattern and the pause.

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Most people didn’t choose their relationship with money—it was installed by accident. In this short episode, Carl unpacks how our money stories get shaped by childhood, culture, and random moments… and how those unexamined stories still run the show. The good news? You can rewrite the code.

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In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl invites us to imagine a different kind of financial tool—one with a soul. Instead of pushing speed and convenience, what if your banking app paused to ask, “Is this you? Is this what you really want?” Not to judge, but to remind. What if every purchase included a breath—a moment of alignment? Soul and humanity at the center of your spending.

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In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl reframes the idea of “managing money” by asking a bold question: What if the real work isn’t about money at all? What if it’s about rewriting the invisible code running in the background—those old stories, patterns, and emotions driving your decisions? Because let’s be honest… you don’t need another budget. You need better code.

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In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl challenges the endless flood of financial advice by asking a deeper question: What if the problem isn’t that you don’t know what to do, but that you don’t know why you keep doing something else? Real change doesn’t come from another tip or trick—it comes from awareness. From pausing long enough to get underneath the behavior and uncover the belief driving it. That’s the shift, from advice to transformation.

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