The Self Help Antidote

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What if your best performance doesn’t come from trying harder, but from letting go? In this electrifying episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Jo Groves, coach, presenter, trainer, and unapologetic story teller, who breaks down the art and science of authentic presenting.

We explore what it really means to show up: not just to deliver lines, but to create an experience. From rhythm and timing to the importance of detaching from the outcome, Jo unpacks how to move from a contrived delivery to spontaneous resonance.

We dig into...

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In this episode, we dismantle the sacred cows of self-help and hustle culture with equal parts honesty and introspection.

We start by questioning one of the most glorified slogans in fitness and life: “Go hard or go home.” Is it a motivational mantra… or just a socially acceptable way to ignore your body and trauma?

From there, we dive into:

·       The self-inflicted damage we often call “grit” or “grind.”

·       Why brutal honesty isn’t always brave, or kind.

·       The conversation we wish we could have had with our younger...

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In this episode, we’re joined by Jeffrey Sanow—former Senior Intelligence Officer for the CIA, strategic leadership presenter, author of Humint for Humanity, and a storyteller with a wealth of real-world experience in the highest-stakes environments.

Together, we unpack why change management is never just about systems—it’s about people.

Jeffrey shares sharp insights on what makes communication work across personalities, power structures, and cultures. We explore how great leaders tune into what others need (not just what they want), why inexperience is often an asset, and how ego—...

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Episode Description:
Are you living your life… or managing everyone else’s reactions to it?

In this episode, we dig into what happens when your self-worth gets tangled in the opinions of others. From the exhausting pursuit of universal approval, to the sneaky trap of meta-perception; how we think others see us. We explore how this mental noise hijacks our happiness, relationships, and performance.

We’ll unpack the difference between being affected by and defined by other people’s views, how emotional intelligence requires the guts to hear h...

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In a world obsessed with certainty, group identity, and the illusion of "the one right way," what happens when we choose to live in the question instead of clinging to the answer?

In this episode, we challenge the seductive comfort of tribalism and explore how identifying too strongly with a single worldview can shrink our humanity. We dive into the dangerous allure of "my truth" vs. the truth, and why people who promise you the right way may be leading you the wrong way.

Through the lens of self-compassion...

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What if the voices in your head, your doubts, your drive, your deepest wounds, weren’t just background noise, but characters in a play that you could rewrite?

In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, we dive into the transformative world of Anonymous Drama, a creative approach to emotional wellbeing that blends improv, wellbeing, psychology, and storytelling. Playwright, director and drama therapy advocate Mark Macnicol shares how creating scripts and characters, even if you have zero interest in “drama”, can help untangle emotional knots that feel too overwhelming to confront direct...

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This episode dives into the real cost of living on autopilot, and how to reclaim your direction through honest self-awareness, emotional courage, and a bit of play. We cover everything from choosing your environment like your sanity depends on it (because it does), to why “discipline” is a form of self-care, not self-punishment. Most importantly we discuss why the only person who can change your life is you.  People may offer well-meaning advice, but in the absence of autonomy living another persons plan for your life, steals your confidence and accountability.  

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Ever feel like you're stuck in the gravitational pull of your own comfort zone, orbiting the same problems like a satellite doomed to reruns of its own past mistakes? You’re not alone. Avoiding the Comfort Trap isn’t about radical, reckless change as much as it’s about understanding why we cling to familiarity, even when it holds us back, and how to break free without setting off existential alarm bells.

In this episode, my friend and colleague Jo Groves, joined by a live audience, take a deep dive into why be...

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What if uncertainty isn’t a void to fear but a blank canvas daring you to create? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the unknown, exploring how to reframe uncertainty as an opportunity, take small, bold risks, and build unshakable resilience.

Through relatable stories, sharp insights, and actionable strategies, we’ll show you how to turn fear into curiosity, mistakes into masterpieces, and setbacks into setups for growth. Whether you’re stuck at a crossroads or overwhelmed by the chaos of "what ifs," this episode will inspire you to grab the br...

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The first session in a coaching relationship is the foundation for success. It’s where trust is built, values and vision are clarified, and actionable goals are set. In this episode, we explore why this initial meeting is more than a simple introduction, it’s a blueprint for meaningful change. Drawing on the VISION framework, we’ll guide you through the step-by-step process of creating a collaborative and empowering session that helps clients align their values with actionable goals.

We’ll discuss the importance of building rapport, using tools like motivational intervie...

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n this episode, we navigate the seemingly random (yet deeply connected) threads of creativity, coaching, and the questions that unlock meaningful conversations. We begin with an observation, cats are very smart, and let curiosity guide us through the complex landscape of creation, thought partnership, and the power of listening.

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In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Russell Conwell’s iconic parable Acres of Diamonds. This story isn’t just about wealth—it’s about uncovering the opportunities, talents, and resources already within your reach.

We’ll explore the journey of Ali Hafed, a farmer who gave up everything to seek riches far away, only to miss the diamonds that lay buried beneath his feet. Through this lens, we unpack powerful lessons on contentment, perspective, and finding value in what you already have.

Join us as we discuss...

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Why is it so hard to change, even when we know exactly what steps to take? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the gap between knowing and doing. From the myths of laziness and willpower to the hidden forces of habits, ambivalence, and decision fatigue, we explore why change feels so elusive, and how to finally make it stick. Learn practical, research-backed strategies to design your life for success, align your goals with your values, and embrace small, sustainable actions for lasting transformation. Whether you’re tackling personal habits or...

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In this episode, we’re joined by two remarkable artists who are using creativity to transform lives and communities: Shaah, founder of the creative collective GRYSKLL, and Quentin Fountain, also known as Q. aka Media Pimp, an eMCee, producer, and engineer. Together, they share powerful stories of trauma, resilience, and the healing potential of art.

Shaah, a former member of Wu-Tang’s “Tha Beggas,” brings a multi-dimensional perspective to the conversation, with a background spanning music, film, photography, and writing. Through GRYSKLL, launched in 2021, Shaah has built a supportive community around creative...

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In this episode, Tiff and I are taking on the ever-persistent hustle culture, where busyness is celebrated as success, and exhaustion is often the reward. We’ll explore the real costs of endless grinding and how it can distract us from what genuinely matters. This isn't about scaling back ambitions but recalibrating them, diving into ways to improve our focus, identify our core values, and ensure our goals align with them. Drawing from Buddhist philosophy, we’ll discuss the art of being present and letting go of what doesn’t serve us. We’ll also...

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In this episode, we’re diving into the subject of empathy vs. sympathy, because in coaching and leadership, these two are not the same. It's not so much that empathy fails, but the confusion of empathy with sympathy that's the problem.  

Think of empathy as that friend who shows up with pizza when you’re stressed, while sympathy just sends you a sad-face emoji and a “Thoughts and Prayers” text. One builds connection, the other builds... well, awkward silence.

We’ll unpack why empathy is the lifeblood of successful coaching an...

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In this episode, we explore one of the most critical yet often overlooked skills for coaches: emotional self-regulation. Emotions drive decisions and behaviors more than any other aspect of mindset, and your emotional energy as a coach can either create an atmosphere of trust and growth or lead to barriers that hinder your client’s progress. Drawing on insights from affective neuroscience, we discuss how innate emotions like fear, anger, and love influence not only your clients but also your own coaching effectiveness.

We’ll break down the science behind emotions, refe...

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In this episode, we explore why prioritizing wellbeing isn't just a "nice to have"—it's a critical business strategy. Drawing inspiration from the visionary leadership of Walt Disney, we look at how businesses that proactively focus on wellbeing, like Walt saw Epcot long before it was built, can anticipate and solve hidden challenges before they surface. Wellbeing is more than offering gym memberships or wellness programs—it's about creating a culture where people feel valued, supported, and connected.

We’ll delve into how organizations can elevate their value by making wellbeing a corn...

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In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest obstacles coaches face when helping clients navigate change—the righting reflex. The instinct to "fix" or "correct" can create resistance, damage trust, and ultimately slow down the process of change. We'll explore why it’s crucial to avoid this reflex and instead guide clients to discover their own path to transformation.

We also unpack the concept of ambivalence, a natural state where clients may feel torn between conflicting desires or values. Rather than pushing for change, coaches can skillfully work with ambi...

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How does lasting behavior change happen, and where’s the evidence to support it? In this episode, we break down the science of behavior change using the analogy of climbing a hill—because like any steep climb, the journey to change is hard, but preparation is just as important as taking that first step.

We dive into three key models that help us understand the process of change: Motivational Interviewing, the Transtheoretical Model of Change, and Social Cognitive Theory. At the bottom of the hill, you’...

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In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, I chat down with my long time friend and collaborator, John Hardy, the Managing Director and Founder of FASTER Health and Fitness Limited. John is not only revolutionizing the fitness industry with cutting-edge training methodologies, but he's also an improv performer and stand-up comedian who masterfully blends the performing arts with professional development.

Join us as John shares his journey from being told he had no talent in the arts (thanks dad) to becoming a successful performer and entrepreneur. We dive deep into...

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In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, Tiff and I dive into a topic that’s as essential as your morning coffee—setting boundaries. But let’s be real, it’s easier said than done, especially when your brain has been hardwired by a childhood that could have doubled as a Quentin Tarantino movie. I share a bit of my own story of growing up in a highly violent environment, where my worldview was shaped by survival instincts and a desperate need to people-please. Surprisingly, it wasn’t exactly a recipe for happiness...

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In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we're diving into the nuanced difference between opinions and beliefs. Sure, everyone has an opinion, but a belief? That’s a whole different ball game. And to illustrate just how wide that gap can be, we’re revisiting a legendary moment in history.

Imagine it’s 1859, and you’re part of a massive crowd watching Charles Blondin, the daredevil tightrope walker, make his death-defying journey across Niagara Falls. The crowd erupts in cheers as he successfully crosses the raging waters. He then asks, "Do you b...

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In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, we delve into the art of communication by exploring the 9 essential keys that unlock genuine influence. Unlike common misconceptions, persuasion isn't about manipulating others; it's about empathetically engaging with them. Join me, as I unpack the science behind effective persuasion, highlighting why you can't simply tell people what to do. Instead, you must understand their motivations from their perspectives.

Discover how these keys can transform your approach to influence, fostering authentic connections and mutual understanding. Whether you're leading a team, negotiating...

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In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we dive deep into the critical role leaders play in fostering team wellness and the remarkable impact it has on overall performance. Our objective is to understand how leaders can set the tone for a healthy work culture, demonstrate quick state changes through movement, and explore the performance benefits of various wellness practices. Discover how leaders set the tone for their team's wellness culture and the importance of modeling healthy behaviors. Learn about the profound impact a leader’s wellness has on team performance and wh...

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Let's be real: the only time we'll be completely stress-free is when we're done and dusted, pushing up daisies, or whatever euphemism you prefer for the great beyond. Stress is part of the contract we signed when we decided to exist. Ok, maybe that's a bit rich, but stress is in fact an unavoidable part of life.  It's a healthy, sometimes annoying, at it's worst a debilitating health risk, but ultimately it's purpose is to evoke a beneficial response to our environment.

But hold on, since the dawn of time both w...

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Welcome to our hustle-busting episode of "The Self-Help Antidote"! This week, Tiffanee Cook is back (wow I have missed her)!  And we're blowing the lid off the age-old mantra of "try harder, work harder." Spoiler alert: it's not always the answer! Join us as we explore how endless grinding might be murdering your creativity in its sleep. 😱

We'll dive into the surprising truth about how hustling can turn your brain into a creativity-free zone. Imagine trying to paint a masterpiece while running a marathon.

We've got the antidote to hust...

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Despite the enormous body of information on behavior change, many people find changing unwanted behaviors—whether around weight loss, work, or relationships—to be among the most frustrating and elusive struggles in their lives. The National Institutes of Health reports that 97% of individuals who set a goal of weight loss will either fail to lose the weight or keep it off for a span of five years. Social media is filled with self-help gurus who often blame this on a lack of inner attributes. But what if that’s a completely false narrative? Psycho...

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In this episode, we delve into the world of leadership coaching, exploring the evidence-based theories that underpin its effectiveness. Coaching is a powerful tool for personal and professional development, leveraging psychological and social dynamics to foster growth and change.

We begin by discussing scientific coaching models and theories that emphasize learning, growth and development.

Some of the core theories that make coaching so effective, that we discuss in this episode are: