The Collaborative IEP

Your child's IEP looks pretty good on paper. So how do you know it's actually being implemented?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I'm talking about IEP implementation, a question that came up again and again on my intake calls this past week. As we head into the holiday season, a stretch when many parents step back from the IEP, I'm sharing the two tools I use with teams to keep implementation on track.

In this episode, I explain:

• Why attending the annual meeting and approving the plan is not enough

How do you make sure your voice as a parent is truly heard at an IEP meeting?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I talk about parent participation as a strategy rather than something that just happens in the room. With so many of you heading into fall IEP meetings, I want you to start thinking about how you communicate before, during, and after the meeting, instead of walking in and simply responding to whatever the team brings up.

I compare it to a real estate closing. Some people sign without reading, some...

How do you handle your own stress as a caregiver, especially when your body seems to be working against you?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I'm talking about caring for the caregiver and why it matters for co-regulation with our children. Parents of kids with disabilities carry an extra layer of stress on top of everything else life brings, and our bodies keep the score. I share what has finally started working for me after years of trying, and why taking care of yourself is one of the ways you take care of your...

Trying to get more minutes of specially designed instruction into your child's IEP? Or fewer, so there's more room in the general education classroom?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I explain why the real question is never actually about minutes at all, and how building the IEP in the right order gets you closer to what you actually want.

In this episode, I explain:

• Why requests for more or fewer minutes usually point to a different underlying need

• How to prioritize when your family can't get everything you want...

What is the one thing that can turn a productive IEP meeting into a standstill in a matter of seconds?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I talk about how easily a meeting can get derailed, not because anyone was unkind, but because someone tried to summarize a hard topic quickly and left too much unsaid. I share a story from my years doing family law negotiation that shows exactly how it happens, and I walk through what to do when it happens to you.

In this episode, I discuss:

• How sh...

What do you do if you don't like the language in your child's IEP?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I answer a question that came in from a Down syndrome association and applies to almost every family I work with: what to do when the wording in an IEP or evaluation feels off, unfair, or just plain wrong. Parents are not only allowed to weigh in on how an IEP is written, they are supposed to.

In this episode, I explain:

• Why parents can and should weigh in on how an...

How do you actually get more minutes in your child's IEP?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I'm answering one of the questions I hear most, whether that means more special education minutes, more time with a related service provider, or more of a specific intervention. It's a question that comes up constantly at intake, and it deserves a real answer.

In this episode, I explain:

• The two clarifying questions that shape every request for more minutes

• How building your IEP in order supports a stronger case for more serv...

Is my IEP good, and is the school doing everything it should be doing?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I take on a question I hear all the time, one I gathered from parents at the Down Syndrome Affiliates in Action Conference: is this IEP good, and is the school doing everything it should? I think we're asking the wrong question, and today I explain why that matters.

In this episode, I explain:

• Why the IEP document matters legally but is not the finish line

• Why asking whether the...

This episode publishes on the first day of school in my district, and I am starting the year with a thank you to teachers.

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I highlight the people who make a school a community. I tell you about my fifth grade science teacher, who was also my neighbor and my mom's colleague, and what watching her taught me about advocacy long before I ever sat at an IEP table.

In this episode, I discuss:

• Why school community matters more to our IEPs than we tend to...

We're back, friends, and we're back right on time for back to school season.

In this episode, I'm sharing my tried and true method for getting your child's team ready for the new school year, and it starts with something you already have in your house: one of those barely used notebooks that came home in June.

I'll walk you through exactly how I use it, what to jot down over the next two or three weeks, and how that page becomes your back to school email to the team.

Then we get...

Can a private therapist come into your child’s school to support their IEP or 504 plan?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, we continue the conversation around navigating complex IEP situations by answering one of the most common questions parents and advocates ask: whether an outside provider can or should be brought into the school setting.

In this episode, I explain:

In this episode, I share a personal reflection on stress, caregiving, and advocacy, along with what I’ve learned about recognizing when pressure and intimidation are affecting your ability to advocate clearly.

In this episode, I discuss:

IEP advocacy is emotional work. Caregiving is emotional work. And when we combine the two, it’s im...

Have you ever walked into an IEP meeting and felt like the room was stacked against you?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I talk about something many parents and advocates experience but don’t always know how to name: the stress and intimidation that can happen when schools bring large teams of staff into special education meetings.

Sometimes there are legitimate reasons for having multiple professionals at the table. But other times, the number of people in the room can feel overwhelming and create a power imbalance for parents.

In th...

Have you ever brought up something at an IEP meeting — and the team simply didn’t know what you were talking about?

Sometimes the issue isn’t disagreement.

It’s a lack of knowledge.

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, we explore what to do when your IEP team lacks training or familiarity with the research, practices, or concepts you’re raising.

Whether you’re discussing the science of reading, PDA profiles, interoception, or another emerging topic, parents and advocates often find themselves educating the team.

You’ll learn:

Do you ever leave an IEP meeting thinking, “That one test score does not tell the whole story”?

In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, we tackle what happens when schools rely on a single data point — a MAP score, an iReady number, one behavior report, or one teacher comment — to justify denying services or changing placement.

This installment in the “Seven Simple Solutions to Solve Your Sticky IEP Situations” series focuses on Smoke and Mirrors — when rhetorical or incomplete information takes over the conversation.

You’ll learn:

A Simple Special Education Advocacy Strategy for Parents

Do you ever leave an IEP meeting feeling frustrated, unheard, or completely misunderstood?

If you’re a parent navigating special education, you are not alone. In this episode of The Collaborative IEP Podcast, we break down a simple, practical advocacy strategy you can use when school staff don’t seem to understand your concerns, your child’s needs, or your “why.”

This episode is packed with plain-language guidance for parents who want to improve communication at IEP meetings without escalating conflict.

You’ll learn:

Have you ever walked into an IEP meeting and immediately felt it? The tension. The forced smiles. The “we’re fine” energy that is very much not fine.

In this episode, we talk about what to do when the room feels hostile before the first agenda item is even mentioned — when people look uncomfortable, defensive, or already annoyed… and you’re trying to advocate without getting pulled into the emotional undertow.

When the vibe gets tense, some of us talk too much, shut down, over-explain, fidget, or accidentally let our face do the talking. So we start wit...

Advocating for your child can feel isolating, exhausting, and deeply personal. Even when you understand the system, there are moments when the stress, emotion, and stakes make it nearly impossible to do it alone.

In this episode, I share a candid look at what it really feels like to hit that point — including my own recent experience navigating an IEP challenge for my family. We talk about the signs that it may be time to bring in professional support and why hiring an advocate or attorney isn’t a failure — it’s a strategy.

This conversa...

We’ve all hit that moment in an IEP meeting where the conversation just… stops. No agreement. No movement. Just two sides locked in place. That’s impasse — and when it happens at school, walking away isn’t really an option.

In this episode, I go back to the foundations of advocacy and negotiation to talk about what to do when discussions stall and you’re stuck in that uncomfortable space between what your child needs and what the school is willing to offer. Using real-life examples, we break down practical strategies parents can use when talks feel frozen...

Okay, "bullying" may be a strong term, but we've all been there. Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—especially when you’re being told “this is just how it is.” In this episode, in which I again take us back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP, we refocus on the advocacy and negotiation skills parents need when school teams hold the power and control the narrative.

While we often focus on practice and interventions, this episode zeroes in on what to do when school staff present information as unquestionable fact—and parents are left feeling talked ove...

Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—even when you know a lot. In this episode, I come back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP and refocus on the advocacy side of special education.

I revisit the three skills I believe are essential to advocating successfully for your child: understanding special education law, understanding special education practice, and having strong advocacy and negotiation skills. While we’ve spent a lot of time on practice, this episode zeroes in on the third skill—negotiation.

I walk through a mediation strategy I use to avoid piecemeal decisi...

Advocating for your child can feel overwhelming—even when you know a lot. In this episode, I go back to the roots of The Collaborative IEP to break down the three essential skills every parent advocate needs to navigate special education with more confidence and less burnout.

Along the way, I share a very real “life lately” check-in, including the challenges of an unstructured holiday break, the emotional weight of comparison, and why even experienced advocates can feel knocked off their feet when it comes to their own kids.

You’ll learn:

If you’ve ever looked around at your life and thought, “Why does everything feel so hard and why am I handling it better than I expected?” — this conversation is going to feel like a long exhale.

Today, I’m joined by my friend Kara Riska, host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast and a seasoned coach who helps mothers navigate the emotional load of raising children with disabilities. What started as a totally different recording plan (long story) turned into a deeply honest conversation about stress, shifting seasons, burnout, identity, and what it actually looks like to feel gr...

If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, “How can someone so smart fall apart over a planner, a backpack, or one tiny assignment?” — this episode is going to feel like a deep breath.

Today I’m talking about something I’m seeing everywhere right now: executive functioning struggles that masquerade as motivation or behavior issues. Between advocacy work, school visits, and conversations with families, I’m hearing the same themes — kids who want to do well but genuinely can’t keep up with the planning, organizing, remembering, and transitioning that school demands.

I break down what...

If you’ve ever sat in an IEP meeting thinking, “How on earth are multilingual families supposed to navigate this?” — this episode is going to feel like a deep breath and a flashlight.

I’m joined by Colleen, a speech-language pathologist turned advocate who spends her days doing two things most people only talk about: supporting bilingual learners in early intervention and showing up at the IEP table alongside families who need a knowledgeable partner in their corner. She’s the real deal — part SLP, part advocate, and fully committed to helping parents participate meaningfully in a process that w...

If you’ve ever wondered whether your child’s struggles with reading are actually connected to ADHD, learning differences, confidence, or all of the above, this episode is going to feel like a giant exhale.

I’m joined by Megan Penrod, founder of Developing Readers Academy, who brings a fresh, whole-child approach to literacy. Yes, she teaches phonics. Yes, she uses Orton-Gillingham. But she also teaches kids what neurons are, how their brains grow, and why a mistake isn’t a failure — it’s a “pot of gold” that helps build a new pathway. (Honestly? I want someone to talk...

Have you ever wanted to talk to me on the phone while I'm driving? Didn't think so... but this week you get the opportunity anyway!!! Sit in traffic and talk inclusion with me!

I've had several friends, clients, and educators raise this question over the last couple of weeks: How much modification is appropriate for a student? Is there a limit, a tipping point, that would determine that a child's placement shouldn't be in the general education classroom? And if a child is accessing GenEd with a lot of modifications, what does assessment look like?

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If you’ve ever found yourself juggling all the things—family, advocacy, work, and maybe a touch of “why am I like this?”—this episode is for you.

I’m joined by Dr. Angelyn Franks, a speech-language pathologist turned mindfulness researcher, to talk about what burnout really looks like and how we can actually start managing stress in ways that work for us. We go deep into the difference between real, values-aligned self-care and the kind that just feels like another chore on your to-do list. (Spoiler: if your “relaxing” pedicure feels like a task, it might be time to rethi...

What happens when the people who protect our students’ rights are suddenly… gone?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s happening inside the U.S. Department of Education—why hundreds of staff in special education and civil rights offices were laid off, what the courts are saying about it, and how it all connects to the larger story of a government shutdown that’s using our most vulnerable students as leverage.

I know—heavy stuff. But stay with me. This isn’t about panic; it’s about empowerment. My goal is to help you understand the...

What if something as simple as a nickname could change everything about how someone feels included?

In this episode, I'm getting personal about belonging—what it means, how we create it, and why it matters so deeply for our kids (especially those with disabilities navigating school and community spaces).

Drawing from my experiences as a mom, teacher, coaching, student, athlete, and human, I explore the surprising power of nicknames and small, intentional gestures that say "I see you. You belong here."

In this episode, I share:

"School choice" sounds empowering — but for kids with IEPs and 504s, it often means fewer protections, fewer services, and fewer options.

This week on the podcast, I’m breaking down what school choice really is, how it’s being pushed at the federal and state levels, and what it means for children with disabilities.

🎧 Listen now and learn how these policies could impact your child — and what you can do before making a move.

What really works when a child has ADHD and/or ODD? In this insightful (and delightfully real) conversation, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Schwartz—a special educator, Board Certified Behavior Analyst, and PhD in cognitive and physical disabilities—to unpack practical, research-backed strategies for kids who need more than “preferential seating and extra time.”

 Together, Dr. Rachel and I explore:

We're wrapping up our look at the University of Florida Literacy Institute (ULFI)'s reading interventions by checking out some of the tools they have in their online toolbox. These include a Blending Board, A Word Work Mat, the Decodable Readers, and their training videos. I will pull them all up and give you a Behind the Scenes look into what UFLI instruction may look like. Then, we'll wrap ups til a list of questions that you can ask your child's team to ensure if it is porposing UFLI (or any other reading program that has or has not...

In this episode we're still pulling the curtain back a little more on Orton Gillingham and UFLI's Lesson Planner. We're looking at each step of the 2-day lesson plan and talking bout what instruction looks like. That leads to some really important questions you can ask to ensure that your child is receiving multi-sensory, explicit, sequential, systematic, cumulative, diagnostic, and structured yet flexible instruction. Since I'm trained in IMSE, I provide a little insight into how UFLI and IMSE differ, which may also lead to some helpful questions and insights.

“My child is in a reading intervention… but is it really OG?”

If you’ve ever asked this question, you’re not alone — and this week’s episode will help you find the answer. I've had so many schools say they're doing OG when they're really doing anything BUT ... buuuttttt it's hard for the lay advocate/parent to know how to understand what they are doing, and what they SHOULD be doing! That's why I've decided to dive into a popular curriculum, UFLI, to give you nitty gritty examples, lists of questions you can ask, and additional insights that...

New school year, new routines… and sometimes new frustrations.

In this week’s episode, I’m breaking down the most common pitfalls at the beginning of the school year for IEP teams—and what you can do about them.

From vague “good day/bad day” reports, to scheduling mix-ups, to delays in services, these are issues I see every single year. The good news? They’re fixable—and I’ll share practical strategies you can use to set the year up for success.

🎧 Listen now and take one big step toward smoother IEP collaboration this fall.

If you’ve ever made an All About Me book for your child (and if you’ve ever listened to this podcast!), you know how helpful it can be. It’s a simple way to introduce your child to teachers and staff, share their strengths, and explain their needs in a clear, approachable way.

But here’s the part many parents don’t realize: an All About Me book can also serve as a legal protection tool.

In this week’s episode of the The Collaborative IEP Podcast, I break down why this parent-friendly tool isn’t just c...

We’re back, baby!!!!  Let’s catch up!  In this episode of the Collaborative IEP podcast, I open up about the recent chaos in my life—from back-to-school stresses to personal health issues and preparing to move  Griffin into college. You’ll learn why peeling wallpaper, wet hair, and general household chaos are a reflection of our hectic life. I talk about the insanity of our summer schedule before talking about Jack’s start in high school, emphasizing the importance of All About Me Books, Back to School emails, and regular communication with teachers. This heartfelt, relatable episode gives you a glimpse...

Our focus this summer is to bring you quick, content-rich episodes on special education and advocacy, inspired by our latest product, the IEP Guru Academy. This week, we delve into 'Behavior and Belonging,' part of the inclusion series. We'll explore the legal supports for behavior in the IEP, discuss common barriers to inclusive education, and provide practical advocacy tips. Join me as we navigate the intricacies of supporting behavior to promote inclusivity. Don't forget to share your feedback on this series!  If you like this episode, you might like our behavior series in the IEP guru Academy

In this episode, I wrap up our journey through Part B of IDEA, give you a quick look at Section 1419 (preschool grants), and share a personal advocacy lesson about the power of “using all the words” at the IEP table. I also invite you to help shape future episodes and highlight resources like the Collaborative IEP Membership and IEP Guru Academy to support your advocacy journey.

[00:00] – Welcome & Listener Input

[02:15] – Section 1419 (Preschool Grants) Overview

[04:21] – Collaborative IEP Membership

[05:52] – Advocacy Lesson: Use All the Words

[16:07] – IEP Guru Academy

[17:58] – Final Thoughts & Congratulations<