Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment

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Do you have an abandonment wound? Or are you questioning if you have one? An abandonment wound can affect your daily life in very subtle ways. An abandonment wound is usually the result of past experiences and it can hugely impact your life today, as an adult. The question is, how does your abandonment wound show up in your daily life? Seeing these patterns improve your wellbeing, choices, and relationships. Let's dive into the different ways your abandonment wound might show up at work, in relationships, and other areas of your life. You...

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If you struggle with anxiety, anxious attachment, and your mood - it is very possible you are living by hidden rules and inner guidelines without even realising it. Rules like “I must always please others” “I need to be chosen” or “I have to get it right or I’ll be on my own” can leave you feeling anxious, self-critical, and stuck in the same old patterns. They quietly fuel overthinking, low self-esteem, and the constant worry that you're not enough... in life, in love, and in h...

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If you’ve ever noticed that your anxiety or low mood is tangled up with self-esteem, this episode is a must-listen (or must-watch).
There are sneaky thoughts and beliefs holding you back, keeping you stuck in self-criticism, stopping you from feeling confident, and blocking you from being your true self.

This, mini episode (4) is here to give you the motivation and reminders to start breaking free, building healthier self-esteem, and inviting more happiness into your life.

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Today's bitesize episode is for those of you that prefer a real exercise compared to theory and ideas.

Rules for Living help you live a life where you feel OK, so long as those rules are met. The second they are not, that's when you spiral.

E.G. If you believe you should make everyone happy, you will lose yourself the second you think you might have upset someone.

In this mini episode, I am delivering a somatic...

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PART 2: Rules That Lead to ANXIETY

In today's bitesize episode I am sharing with you a key reason why you fall into panic, worry, & obsessing at certain times in your life. There is something that triggers this cycle and knowing about it has truly changed my life and how I manage my mood and thoughts.

If you care what others thinking, or notice yourself doing things you think you SHOULD or MUST do rather than what you WANT), this one...

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In this mini episode Carly Ann introduces a popular concept (Rules for Living) that is discussed in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. 
Rules for living are influenced by your own negative core beliefs and they actually maintain low self-esteem, anxiety, low mood, and self doubt

It is when your rule for living is broken that you spiral into worry and feeling bad

If you can begin to understand this psychological concept, you can begin to change your life

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Have you heard of limerence? The longing, obsessing, and thinking about someone you like.

In this episode Carly Ann talk about what limerence is, what keeps you hooked on them (why you can't let go).

What makes this different to any other episode? I talk about the fact that logically you do know better.

You have read the books and you're doing the inner work, yet you still hold on

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These are not your usual affirmations. In this video, you won’t just repeat words, you’ll be guided to see, feel, and imagine the outcome as if it’s already real. This combination of affirmations and guided imagery creates a powerful shift in your mind and body, making it easier to attract what you desire and rewire old patterns that hold you back.

If you’ve ever felt like affirmations don’t “work” for you, this practice is different. By engaging your imagination, emotions, and...

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You know the logic. You know what you should do. And yet… you keep repeating the same patterns. Why?

In this video, I break down what’s really going on beneath the surface when logic and self-awareness aren’t enough to create change. You've read the books, done the work, and yet you keep defaulting to old patterns.

You chase people, you over-give, you self-criticise - even though you know better.

Let's get clear on what is going on, plus you will receive your practice of the...

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TRY THIS: 5 Steps That Will Help You Overcome Your Biggest Fears
Fear can feel like it’s running the show.. keeping you stuck, small, and second-guessing every move. But what if you could face those fears head-on and finally stop letting them control your life? In this episode, I’m sharing five powerful, practical steps that will help you break free, to go from stuck to secure. Whether it’s fear of rejection, failure, abandonment, or the unknown, these 5 steps will stop you standing in your own way - you will gain courag...

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If your body feels like it’s either buzzing with anxiety or completely shut down, you’re not alone. In this mini training, Carly Ann explores how physical sensations like overwhelm, tension, or numbness can keep you stuck in the same painful cycles.

You’ll learn why your body reacts the way it does, how these sensations maintain anxious patterns, and one powerful tip you can start using today to find calm quicker.

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann...

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Did you know your behaviours influence so much of how you feel and what you do?

In this training, Carly Ann is sharing one powerful question that can help you shift your actions, align with your values, and become the version of you that you actually desire to be. Whether you’re stuck in old patterns or ready to take that next step forward, this episode will give you a simple but game-changing mindset shift.

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https...

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In this episode, we explore the power of emotions - how they show up, how they influence what we do, and why managing them matters so much, especially when you don’t feel good enough. You’ll hear insights on how emotions can hijack your thoughts and actions, and simple ways to work with them instead of against them. If you’re ready to get curious about your feelings and stop letting them run the show, this one’s for you.

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break...

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Welcome to Day 3 of Becoming Unstuck – today is all about your thoughts. 

If you ever feel owned by your mind, trapped in spirals of overthinking, self-doubt, or fear, this episode is yours.

If you know you have negative thoughts that move you away from who you want to be - listen now or save for later!

Carly Ann shares a brilliant, practical tool to help you stop being a prisoner of your mind and start becoming its leader. This mini training is a must-listen if you're ready to...

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Triggered?

Feeling stuck in the same painful loops? Rejected, blamed, out of control? 

Whether it is a specific person or a song on the radio, your triggers aren’t the enemy.. they’re the message. If you keep spiralling in love or life, this training is part of your RESET!

✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course

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Training 1/6 - Becoming Unstuck

Stuck in anxious loops or reacting in ways that don’t feel like you? This powerful exercise will help you take a first step in moving TOWRDS the life and love your desire and how to shift.

You’ll learn how to spot the moment you’re at a choice point, and how to move towards the secure, grounded version of you.

Join in with the exercise or just listen along, this is how you start becoming who you were always meant to be.

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This meditation is your emergency pause button when you need to soothe and regulate right now. To help with the spiral, the overwhelm, the noise in your head - this 5 minute audio will bring you back. Back into your body. Back into the present. Back into safety.

Whether you’re feeling anxious, triggered, heartbroken, or like you’ve left the room entirely, press play. Let these few minutes shift everything

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Cylinder Nine by Chris Zabri...

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If you’ve ever been stuck in a worry spiral...the kind that hijacks your mind, interrupts your sleep, and makes you question everything (non stop)..this episode is for you. I was in one recently. And while I didn’t fix it overnight, I found something that helped in the middle of it.

This isn’t a neat “5 steps to stop overthinking” episode. It’s a real look at what happens when anxiety takes over, and how to unmerge from the panic long enough to find your self. Carly Ann shares exact...

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We all fall into patterns – but some of them silently chip away at our self-worth. In today’s episode, Carly Ann is uncovering the sneaky habits and thought loops that keep you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety. 

These are 3 common patterns that damage your self-worth if left ignored. In this episode you will receive practical, powerful tips to start rebuilding your self worth from the inside out. 

Plus, stay tuned for a self-worth challenge you can start this week to begin showing up as the most confident, secure versio...

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Ready for a powerful mid-year reset? This guided manifestation meditation is designed to help you get back on track, reconnect with your goals, and start attracting the life you truly desire.

It will guide you to cut ties with what does not serve you and call in what you desire

Whether you're manifesting love, success, confidence, or a fresh start... this is your chance to pause, reflect, and realign with your highest self. This is the perfect time to raise your vibration and set powerful intentions for...

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Do you you keep going back to the good times with someone who’s no longer in your life? Whether that’s an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground.

In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stop thinking about them and r...

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A Radical Acceptance Practice

If you have anxious attachment, you may find yourself stuck in the highlight reel of your relationship - that means replaying the good times over and over, wondering what went wrong, and blaming yourself when the present doesn’t match up

This gentle, guided exercise is designed to help you practice radical acceptance - to hold space for the memories and accept the reality of what is, without self-rejection or shame. Through six grounding steps, you’ll learn to calm your nervous system and move forw...

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Your inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough.

Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic.

If you’re tired of...

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A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost. 

Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden.

Carly Ann is sp...

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For Low Self-Esteem

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You’ll learn 4 common ways therapists suppor...

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This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment.

In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to:

Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talk
Reconnect with your inner strength and self-belief
Start feeling good enough  as you are
Build confidence from within, not from external validation
Heal patterns of low self-worth and emotional insecurity

This meditation blends CBT-based tools, guided visualisation, and somatic grounding techniques to help you rewire negative b...

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Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy.

Plus, I’m giving you reflective questions and a motivational b...

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You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball. 

If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one...

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Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long? 

In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe. 

If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for you

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Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost?
Or maybe you know you’ve fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out.

This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you...

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Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you.

Join me as we unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of anx...

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Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self? 

Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem.

If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today!

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If you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline.

In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure.

Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow al...

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If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking.

In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far.

If you’re still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love...

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If you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!”

Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you’re too much, too needy, or never going to change, lis...

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Feeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them.

Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships.

🎧 Attachment triggers, relationship anxiety, anxious attachment podcast, reacting in relationships, healing attachment wounds.

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Register for the free workshop: Breaking the Cycle of Anxious Attachment

You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working? 

All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you.

Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to g...

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Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships  (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.

In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break!

Listen when you’re feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of over...

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Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost.

If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on.

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