Self Control

Do you believe you're capable of doing more?

Being more productive?

Becoming a better person?

Do you want to stop procrastinating on everything, big or small?

Well then why aren't you doing it!?

I asked myself the same question.

Honestly- we don't do that stuff because we don't know how.

And we don't know how because we aren't even looking at it the right way.

In this episode I want to show you how to be the source of your own motivation! I...

If you're feeling stuck in a rut...

Or feeling trapped in your job or in your relationship...

The feelings of wasted time and disappointment can become quite painful.

The good news, you may not be stuck at all!

In this episode I will share with you a simple but powerful technique for reframing our thoughts of being trapped or feeling stuck.

When we shift where we are looking, and learn to take control of what we can control, we realize we are moving again! You can get started TODAY...

Late last year I realized I was barely talking to my partner.

I was also struggling to communicate in the workplace.

Sound familiar?

Not sharing your thoughts, not sure what to say, people talking over you and at you...

The truth is, if we don't express what we think and feel, we don't actually know what we think and feel. Our life is just happening to us, passing us by.

So, let's talk about it! I'll tell you what I did to start the conversation at home and how...

Do you find yourself wishing you had better self-control?

Many of us, myself included, are faced with shame and guilt when we can't do what we BELIEVE we SHOULD do.

My life improved once I stopped that negative, abusive way of thinking, and started looking at self-control in a new way.

You can try this for yourself today!

In this episode I will break down the old way of thinking about self-control and present a new way for forward for you.

This mindset shift plus your own determination could...

You can and you will find your purpose!

Thanks for stopping by. On today's episode we will discuss a major, major issue that many of us face.

How do you find your purpose in life?

Of course, no podcast (no matter how great 😉) can tell you your purpose. In fact, despite all the challenges and struggles in my life, I have never struggled with my purpose.

So what can I really tell you?

If you are feeling boredom and dissatisfaction, if you are asking "what is the point of my...

No one can tell you how to live your life!

This is a big reason why we fail to quit our bad habits using SOMEONE ELSE'S advice.

But of course, you'd still like help with a plan of action, right?

Wouldn't it be great if someone could give us a personalized method for curing our anxiety or stopping unhealthy habits like smoking, pornography use or procrastination?

This is exactly what this podcast can do for you.

I cannot judge you and I can't instruct you on how to live...

Thanks for checking out the Self-Control podcast!

Are you feeling down these days or feeling like you're in a rut?

Do you find yourself thinking about the bad things in life?

The most empowering part of this podcast is that I will share with you behaviours and tips that you can begin today to feel better sooner than later.

So when it comes to "not feeling 100%" or if you're looking to change your life for the better, let me drop some wisdom on ya.

In this episode, I will...

On today's Mindfulness Minute, we'll continue talking about natural remedies for anxiety, as well as understanding self-doubt and frustration.

Ultimately, these are a problem of being distracted.

But distraction doesn't happen here or there, it happens ALL OVER our life. It is a way of life.

You want improved productivity? You want to feel happy? Proud?

Focus!

Easier said than done, but practice makes perfect. Let's talk about it. In less than 10 minutes, I will leave you with something you can start this week to level up your mindfulness...

If self-discipline happens in our mind, what are the actual, physical tasks we can do to strengthen it?

One of these behaviours is EXPRESSION.

But how do you express? What are you supposed to say?

How does it help?

All of this will be answered in less than 10 minutes. In this episode, I will explain how expression frees us from a life of "not thinking for our self" and tell you exactly what I had to express (and how to do it) in order to quit numerous bad habits.

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I want to let you know that YES, there are natural ways to increase focus and concentration.

The fact that you are reading this means you have already started. So let's keep going!

If you are aware that you struggle to stay focussed...

Or if anxiety is getting worse because you can't achieve your goals...

Now is the time to bring mindfulness into your life. These improvements won't come over night, but it's time to start the process of repetition.

Through watching our self and our thoughts over and...

For years, I was in the grip of both a pornography and marijuana addiction. Many, many days of my youth wasted.

Toxic habits like these lower our energy, put us in a bad mood, ruin our self-confidence, and WORST OF ALL, they blind us to who we truly are! They rob us of our potential.

Looking back on how I quit these 10 and 15-year-long addictions, I have developed a clear process that I want to share with you. You can apply this process to nearly any toxic habit or vice.

And you have...

There are too many ways to be distracted these days.

So why add to that by distracting yourself?

If you find that you're not getting enough done, not staying on task, and struggling to concentrate, you may be asking yourself "how can I focus better?"

Then the anxiety starts to creep in...

Not getting enough done, falling behind, doubting yourself.

This has been a major problem for me, but through mindfulness I have begun to find ways to both manage my anxiety and improve my focus and attention.

I have spent years trying to understand why I fell into toxic habits like pornography, marijuana, and overeating.

I tried and failed to quit those habits more times than I can count.

Today, I consider myself free and clear of both porn and weed. Now I am working on healthy eating. (I've lost 30lbs, but the battle continues!)

It wasn't until I regularly did these 3 things that I began to understand why I self-sabotaged with harmful behaviours. Then and only then, was I able to quit.

In this episode, I will...

We humans are gifted with many great powers.

In this episode I will remind you of two of them: the ability to see the past, present and future, and the ability to talk to our self.

But as the late Uncle Ben said, "with great power comes great responsibility."

Are you worried about your future? Guilty about your past?

Do you talk to yourself like an enemy or a friend?

Do you see and express the life you want? The life you could build?

Or do you...

Is there a so-called "bad habit" in your life that you're trying to quit?

How's that going?

Have you considered that maybe it has something to teach you before it leaves your life?

My biggest and longest addictions took years to break, but over that time I learned so much about myself.

So hopefully, using what I learned, you can get past those unhealthy habits much quicker and still get the benefits of living an authentic life.

Today's episode is a little longer but I think you'll find it...

Everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you a miracle cure or a product that will change your life.

I'm no different.

However- I believe the cure and the product exist within you already. I'm just encouraging you to look and listen hard enough to find them.

So, if you're working on improving some unhealthy habits...

If you have mental health issues, and you're feeling:

-Guilt and shame about your past

-Fear or hopelessness about the future

-Like becoming someone else, someone different

In our last few episodes we've been talking about Binary Entrapment.

What the hell does that mean and how can it help you?

It is THE fundamental understanding I needed to quit my addictions and improve my mental health.

This is something you CAN control if you're looking to stop feeling guilty, be less distracted and quit self-abuse and end self-sabotage.

So in the interests of communicating it to you as easily as possible...

Here is a 10 minute recap I did on my phone. Consider it my personal voicemail...

This is part 2 of the previous episode. Start there if you haven't already.

Frankly, I lived in a very childish way for a long time. Now that I've begun to really grow up, I'm reflecting on how I grew out of my addictions and limiting beliefs.

It is childish, and small, and immature to sit there and hate the present moment.

It is stupid to wish things were different.

It doesn't do me any good to let the scars from my past push me into distraction and fear. Push me away...

All of us, myself included, have said "I need to change!"

And then we say tomorrow, or next time, or next month.

But I have discovered that that very mindset--that way of thinking-- is TOXIC!

So whether it comes to quitting bad habits, or working on slowing down an addiction, we have all made the mistake of distracting ourself with the future.

Substance abuse, behavioural addictions like gambling and sex, and unproductive habits like procrastination and lack of self care...

All of these are a response to painful, misunderstood...

If we spend 2 hours a day eating, then in 70 years, that's over 50, 000 hours!

Doesn't that seem like something we should pay close attention to?

And yet, because it is so routine and habitual, eating becomes automatic.

We eat whatever, whenever, and do other things at the same time.

Now, it's not my place to judge how you live your life, but...

If you're like I was, and you are dissatisfied with how you look and feel in some way, then it may be time to examine HOW you eat.<...

Self-improvement is a scam.

Many, many people (myself included) try to gain recognition, or make money, selling YOU the idea that you need to improve.

No more. At least not for me. It's time for me to be more honest with you, the listener.

If you're crawling around the internet, looking at YouTube videos, and dreaming that you could be like those social media influencers...

If you're burning and bitter with the idea that you need to change and be better...

Just stop.

To be "like someone,"...

I've been away for awhile talking to the voices in my head.

Now, I'm not making fun of those with real mental illness, but ask yourself this:

Aren't there voices in your mind too?

Anxious thoughts, self-doubt, fear of failure?

What if we could use those voices for good? To actually get where we want in life?

There are two things you can start today that will do exactly that for you.

In this exclusive, audio-only episode I will walk you through how I:

Quiet...

"How can I develop unshakeable discipline like Cristiano Ronaldo?"

A good question, but it starts us off on the wrong foot.

In this episode I will share with you my process for developing discipline FOR our self and BY our self. The most empowering thing is that you can start RIGHT NOW and see changes immediately.

So if you're looking to feel better, get more out of life, and be more productive--it might not come overnight-- but there are steps we can take today. Let's get started!

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Want...

Recently a listener reached out to me and asked how I learned what I know.

This episode is my answer to that.

So much of my insight into mental health has been through my own struggles with addiction and bad habits. I was able to learn so much by understanding and overcoming pornography, marijuana, and overeating.

That is all I can offer you: the courage to observe and understand yourself is your key to freedom.

So if you're looking to improve your life in some way, try starting here.

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Some listeners have been curious about my personal story. So today I want to share a little bit of my journey.

This is the tale of how I went from anxious, introverted, and afraid to feeling strong and empowered. I believe that if you are willing to try mindfulness, and to reflect upon your past actions, you can begin this journey too.

The most empowering part of this process is that we can start right now and do it every day! It doesn't take money or any extra time. This is the story of self-control!<...

Constant anxiety about the future, or guilt about the past, distracts us from living in the present. If this goes on long enough, we lose track of who we are and what we want. Or worse...

We never get to know who we are, and we don't live the life we deserve.

Taking ownership of our life begins in the mind.

If you want more out of life, and you want to stop this frantic, uncertain way of living, you must begin to take control of your thoughts.

This has been...

Anxiety about your future, and guilt about your past, are two major reasons for discomfort in the present. We think our self into negativity daily.

So if you are working on mindfulness, and becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can now begin to keep a record of these behaviours.

It's one thing to be aware of our negative thoughts, and the times we lose focus and become distracted, but are you ready to take these moments and make something useful from them?

For me, journalling has accelerated my self-development and made me...

How much of your anxiety is caused by what you have to do later today?

Are you overwhelmed by life? Do the simplest things begin to pile up and it all feels impossible?

What about guilt or shame from the past?

Harsh words that were said. Important tasks procrastinated again.

Those feelings are valid, but is RIGHT NOW the right time to be thinking about all these monsters from other dimensions?

Events in the future, regrets from the past: they're not here with you now are they?

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Social anxiety sucks. We want to be popular, we want to be liked...

Hell, we just want a friend or two!

Could mindfulness be your friend as you work to become more of a people person?

I still struggle from time to time in social situations but these 3 steps help when I feel overwhelmed. Give them a shot and let me know how it goes!

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This episode is the third in a series of 3 Mindfulness Milestones. Times in your day when you can check in with yourself and...

It is very easy to go through life DISTRACTED.

TikTok, Facebook, Netflix, Podcasts...

Constant music, constant videos, un-ending noise!

What if all that time spent living life with one eye, or one ear, on the phone was slowly draining you?

Who you are, what you do, what you want...

You've never fully understood those things because you were distracted all the time. Distracted by media, by technology, by other people, and by your own fantasies and daydreams!

Is it time to get a grip? To get a...

Do you reach for your phone within a few minutes of waking up?

How does that make you feel?

Blasting your tired eyes with bright white light. Filling your mind with other people's thoughts and bad news.

Does that seem like a great way to begin another precious day on planet earth?

If you would like to begin your day in a way that serves YOU...

In a way that makes you feel calm, and able, and ready to deliver...

Try this simple 3-step process in the...

Any challenge in your life can be solved with the help of mindfulness. But how exactly?

If you have been listening to our recent episodes on mindfulness, you may feel overwhelmed by just how out-of-control and distracting your own thoughts can be.

You are not alone.

Talking about mindfulness has forced me to confront the fact that I am constantly thinking about the past or the future, and distracting myself when I should be focussed.

So what can we do? What can we do when we realize we are distracted and daydreaming all the time?

The answer lies right inside you.

Come with me and...

The first of many Mindfulness Minutes. Bonus episodes for you with the reminder to stay mindful during your day.

Enjoy!

"We are what we repeatedly do," wrote American historian Will Durant (paraphrasing Aristotle).

And so if you repeatedly find yourself falling into stress, anxiety, worry, or any other negative emotion when you'd rather be... living your life, it may be time to ask:

Am I really living?

The truth is, much of our time on this earth is spent doing the little things like commuting to work, eating, or cleaning up.

And if that time has become "prime time" for you to focus on negative thoughts, and stressing yourself out with...

Mindfulness is a tool that anyone can use at anytime to feel better immediately.

Not bad, right?

But what's the catch?

You need to be willing to define it and use it all the time!

In this episode, I will share with you my current definition of mindfulness and give you 3 questions to ask yourself if you are feeling stressed out, hopeless or uncertain about life.

Make sure you are following this podcast because the next 2 episodes are going to break down these 3 questions and support you as you...

Not only was I a heavy marijuana user for many years, I also used pornography for even longer than that!

Sometimes I think it's a miracle I ever made it out of my parents' basement.

And I am not here to preach to you about your life choices.

But!

I want to let you know a secret that I have discovered since quitting both porn and weed...

Each time you reach for the pipe, the cigarettes, the cellphone, the hand lotion...

You are ignoring your intuition as...

It can be very hard to accept that YOU are the one holding yourself back in life.

The silver lining is that YOU also have the power to get out of your own way!

In this episode I want to share with you the 3 ways I was holding myself back in life especially during the time I was a heavy weed smoker.

Whether or not you use marijuana, if you feel like you could be getting more out of life, do not ignore these 3 warning signs that YOU are to blame.

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We've all heard it: attention is currency.

Well, it's time you started paying yourself!

Our ability to focus, and to control our attention, is one of our strongest tools and greatest gifts.

With the power of visualizing, and reframing your current problems, you can unlock this great power to achieve your goals.

As an added bonus- this can also help with impulse control and managing bad habits.

In this episode, I will recap the idea of reframing your problems through focus and introduce 2 more concepts:

The benefits...

Is your New Year's resolution starting to seem a little difficult?

Perhaps there's a goal you want to achieve that seems too far away,

Or even a bad habit you just can't break...

How are we supposed to know just what to do?

There's no instruction manual for our life!

Where do we find the confidence to take the right steps?

In today's episode, I'll give you two important key words to work with:

CLARITY and COURAGE.

We will walk through 3 steps for...