Marriage Monthly
Marriage Monthly is a monthly boost for your marriage, intended to give guidance, point out landmines, provide tips and encourage community as you navigate your most important relationships.
Stop Trying to Fix Your Spouse (It's Backfiring)
Are you exhausted from trying to change your husband or wife? Do you feel like if they'd just listen, everything would be better? You're not alone—and you might be making it worse.
In this episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa sit down with longtime friends Max and Freda Calderon—married 28 years, blended family, and a story that almost didn't make it. They share the hard-won lessons that kept them together when giving up felt easier, and why the thing most of us do to "help" our spouse is actually pushing them away.
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Selfless Love: Put WE First and End the Fight in Marriage
Romance is great, but it’s not what keeps a marriage strong. In this Love Month episode, we’re shifting the focus from “be romantic” to “be selfless”—because most marriages don’t fall apart from incompatibility… they fall apart from selfishness. If you’ve felt off-track lately, overwhelmed, or stuck in tension, this episode is a jolt back on track.
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Why “me over we” creates constant friction in marriageHow conflict is often about unmet desires, not the surface issueThe simple shift that makes...Staying United in a Divided World
Division is everywhere—politics, social media, opinions, and constant noise competing for our attention. And if we’re not careful, that division doesn’t just stay “out there”… it finds its way into our marriages.
In this January 2026 episode of Marriage Monthly, we talk honestly about how couples can stay united in a divided world. We explore why so many marriages are being discipled more by headlines than Scripture—and how refocusing on shared values, respect, and intentional connection can bring strength, peace, and unity back into your relationship.
This conversation is practical, faith-filled, and deeply encoura...
Help! I Need to Change (Marriage Growth Part 2)
What happens when you are the one who needs to change in your marriage?
In part two of this Marriage Monthly mini-series, we shift the conversation to the spouse who knows something needs to change—and isn’t sure where to start. This episode offers encouragement, clarity, and practical next steps rooted in biblical truth, personal responsibility, and hope for the future.
Marriage is one of God’s greatest tools for growth, and even the hardest seasons can lead to restoration, deeper connection, and renewed trust.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
When Your Spouse Won’t Change (Part 1)
Does it feel like you’re waiting… and waiting… for your spouse to make a change?
Maybe it’s a job decision, a health issue, an addiction, or something you’ve talked about a hundred times. This month’s episode is all about your side of that frustration—what to do, how to stay grounded, and how to walk through this season with faith, patience, and strength.
In Part 1, we speak directly to the spouse who is watching, waiting, and hurting… but still wants to honor God, love their spouse well, and approach this season with wisdom.
...Rebuild Spiritual Connection: Make Your Marriage Thrive
How do you rebuild spiritual connection in your relationship? In this month’s Marriage Monthly, we unpack why spiritual intimacy is foundational for a thriving marriage—and how to rekindle it when you’ve drifted. From the Bible’s vision of “one flesh” to practical rhythms like prayer, worship, serving, fasting, and forgiveness, this episode gives you a hopeful path back to unity.
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Why spiritual oneness is part of God’s original design for marriageThe “bank account” effect of daily deposits (humility, grace, forgiveness)What usually breaks spiritual connection (distraction, division, different priorities, discou...Is Your Marriage in the Red?
💛 “Have you been making more withdrawals than deposits lately?” - SEPTEMBER 2025 Marriage Monthly
In this month’s episode of Marriage Monthly, we’re unpacking a powerful truth: your marriage is like a bank account. Every word, action, and attitude is either a deposit that builds connection—or a withdrawal that creates distance.
Whether you’re feeling drained or full of love, this episode will help you become more intentional about the way you invest in your spouse. Through laughs, vulnerable stories, and practical encouragement, we’ll explore how to reset the balance and love generously, just as Christ ha...
Building a Life Together: 42 Years of Faith, Forgiveness & Love
🎙️ 42 Years Strong — The Secrets to Building a Marriage That Lasts
What does it take to build a marriage that stands the test of time — through addiction, recovery, dreams, disappointments, and God’s redemption? In this powerful Marriage Monthly episode, Gabe and Alyssa sit down with Steve and Julia Jordan, who share their 42-year journey of building a life together.
From meeting at age 8, to surviving deep valleys of bitterness and alcoholism, to seeing God restore their relationship and bless them with a dream home they now use for ministry — this conversation is filled with real, ha...
Why Celebration Keeps Marriages Strong
🎉 30 years of marriage! In this special anniversary episode, we’re recording from the King George Hotel in San Francisco, where it all began. From sweaty wedding dresses to surprise flowers, we’re diving deep into why celebration is essential in every season of marriage.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in routine, discouraged in your relationship, or just needed a reminder to smile more together—this episode is for you. Let’s talk about why celebrating your spouse might just be the missing piece to a joyful, long-lasting marriage.
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Break the Cycle: Ending Toxic Patterns in Marriage
“Why do we keep doing this?”
That question might be the key to unlocking a whole new season in your marriage.
In this month’s episode, we dive deep into the unseen cycles that shape our relationships—many of which we inherited, others we’ve accidentally created. From generational trauma and addiction to criticism, over-scheduling, and emotional disconnection, we unpack the spiritual and practical steps it takes to recognize and break these toxic patterns.
💬 Drawing from personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-earned lessons from nearly 30 years of marriage, we explore how couples can rewrite their story—t...
Will We Last? The #1 Predictor of Marriage Success
Will our marriage really last? That’s the question most couples ask—whether they say it out loud or not. In this powerful episode, we unpack the top predictor of marital success based on brand-new research shared by Les Parrott at a recent marriage conference: perceived partner commitment. What does that mean, and how do you build it?
We break down the difference between commitment busters and commitment builders—everything from separate bank accounts and secrets to road trips and red lipstick moments. We share insights from 30 years of marriage, including personal stories, scriptures, and the hard lesson...
Balancing Marriage and a Busy Life: Parenting, Careers, and Prioritizing with Steve and Lori Barker
In this episode, we’re joined by our friends, Steve and Lori Barker, to talk about the challenges of balancing a busy marriage and life filled with parenting, careers, and everything in between. From juggling schedules, prioritizing each other, to how they make time for their dreams and personal growth, Steve and Lori share their insights and experiences on maintaining a strong relationship through life’s busiest seasons. We also dive into how they integrate their faith and stay connected through it all, offering practical advice on how to stay grounded and emotionally healthy while managing a hectic life. Whet...
Building a Lasting Marriage: Lessons from Our Marriage Retreat
Join us as we recap our powerful marriage retreat! We dive deep into the four essential habits for a thriving marriage, inspired by Ted Lowe's book, 'Your Best Us.' Discover practical tips on having 'serious fun,' prioritizing God in your relationship, cultivating love and respect, and practicing your promises. Learn how to overcome common marriage barriers like busyness, seriousness, and the challenges of raising children. We also discuss the importance of date nights, intimacy, and open communication. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for decades, this episode offers valuable insights to strengthen your bond and...
14 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage This Valentine’s Day!
Happy Valentine’s! Whether you’re all about the romance or you think it’s just another day, we’re here to give you 14 creative ways to show love to your spouse—not just on Valentine’s Day, but all year round!
There are so many things in life that can distract us from prioritizing our spouse, so we’re sharing practical, fun, and flirty ways to keep the love alive in your marriage. From love notes and surprise treats to sexy texts and spontaneous date nights, these simple y...
EP. 50 - How to Support a Struggling Spouse: 10 Practical Tips for Marriage | January 2025
Are you or your spouse navigating a difficult season? Whether it’s financial pressure, health challenges, or emotional struggles, this episode of Marriage Monthly dives deep into how to support a struggling spouse with care, empathy, and intention. 💛
Join Gabe and Melissa as they share 10 practical and faith-driven strategies to strengthen your marriage during tough times. From understanding their pace to encouraging their passions, each tip is rooted in Biblical wisdom and real-life experiences. You’ll also learn:
How to truly listen and provide a safe space for your spouse.Why consistent encouragement and small w...EP. 49 - Dealing with Drama: The Peace Plan for Your Marriage | December 2024
Drama can feel unavoidable, especially during high-pressure seasons like the holidays, but it doesn’t have to define your marriage. In this episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa Kolstad dive into the unique challenges couples face when drama creeps in and share their proven five-step P.E.A.C.E. Plan for navigating conflict and restoring harmony in your relationship.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The root causes of marital drama and why it often doubles in December.How to approach disagreements with intentionality and prayer.The P.E.A...Episode 48 - EXPERT Travel Tips to Create Lifelong Bonds on Vacation | November 2024
Welcome to another enriching episode of Marriage Monthly, where Gabe and Melissa Kolstad dive into the joys and intricacies of vacationing together. This episode is not just about the relaxation and escape vacations offer, but about deepening bonds and creating lasting memories. Whether it’s exploring the cultural tapestry of Copenhagen, experiencing the heritage-rich scenes of Scandinavia, or simply enjoying the thrill of new destinations, Gabe and Melissa share their insights on how vacations can significantly enrich relationships.
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•Strategic Vacationing: Learn the art of p...
Episode 47 - Staying Connected: Balancing Family & Busy Seasons
Do you ever feel like life’s busyness is pulling your family in different directions? In this episode, we unpack the challenge of maintaining meaningful connections amidst work, schedules, and the chaos that comes with raising teenagers. Whether it’s reclaiming family dinners, embracing intentional moments, or balancing personal goals with relationships, we’ve got practical insights to help you reconnect.
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Navigating the Shift: How to adjust when teenagers start working and schedules get hectic.Replacing Busy with Intentionality: Why swapping “busy time” for “together time” makes all the differ...Episode 46 - 3 Signs of a Miserable Marriage (And How to Fix It)
In this eye-opening episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa dive into the three critical signs that indicate a marriage may be heading toward misery. With compassion and practical advice, they help listeners identify these signs and provide actionable steps to restore joy and connection in their relationships.
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Sign 1: Emotional Disconnect: Learn to recognize when communication breaks down and feelings of loneliness set in. Gabe and Melissa discuss the importance of prioritizing emotional intimacy and engagement.Sign 2: Constant Conflict: Understand how frequent arguments can...Episode 45 - How to Maintain Tenderness and Love in Marriage
In this heartwarming episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa are joined by a very special couple—Melissa's father, Pastor Ken Wooten, and his wife, Luetta. Together, they share invaluable insights on how to keep the sweetness alive in marriage, drawing from decades of personal experience and a deep commitment to each other.
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Sweetness in Marriage: Discover how small, daily acts of kindness can transform your relationship. From holding hands to bringing morning coffee in bed, Gabe and Melissa highlight the power of these simple gestures.Influence of Up...Episode 44 - Why Couples Cheat and How to Recover: A Guide to Restoring Trust in Marriage
In this powerful episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa delve into one of the most difficult challenges in relationships: infidelity. With compassion and insight, they explore the complex reasons why couples cheat and provide a comprehensive guide on how to recover from broken trust.
Key Topics Covered:
- Understanding Infidelity: Dive deep into the reasons behind cheating, from distorted views of sexuality to emotional dissatisfaction within the marriage.
- Biblical Perspectives: Learn about the biblical principles surrounding marriage, trust, and restoration, emphasizing that God honors the process of rebuilding a relationship.
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Episode 43 - Healthy Households | June 2024
In this episode, we discuss the importance of maintaining a healthy household and share tips for a happy marriage.
Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 42 - How To Keep It Hot | May 2024
Learn how to keep things spicy in your relationship with these helpful tips! Don't let the spark die.
Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 41 - From Power Trips To Partnership | April 2024
In this episode, we discuss the transition from power trips to partnership in relationships. Tune in for valuable insights and tips on how to build a strong and healthy partnership with your significant other.
Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 40 - Unlocking the Secrets to a Balanced Marriage: The 3 Types of Love You Need | March 2024
In this eye-opening episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa Kolstad dive deep into the heart of what it means to say "I love you" in a marriage. Discover the three essential types of love - Eros, Phileo, and Agape - and learn why your marriage might feel out of balance without them. From the passionate beginnings with Eros to the deep friendship of Phileo and the unconditional, sacrificial Agape love, the Kolstads share personal insights and biblical wisdom on how to nurture each type of love in your relationship. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode...
Episode 39 - How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage | February 2024
In this video, we'll discuss how changing your thoughts can positively impact your marriage. Learn the power of mindset and how shifting your perspective can improve your relationship with your spouse. Don't miss out on this valuable advice for a healthier and happier marriage! #marriageadvice #mindsetshift #relationshipgoalsÂ
Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 38 - Why Boredom In Marriage is Dangerous | January 2024
In this episode, we're talking about boredom in marriage and how to overcome it. Whether you've been married for a few years or a few decades, boredom can sneak in and take a toll on your relationship. We'll discuss practical tips to spice up your marriage and keep the spark alive! #MarriageAdvice #relationshiptips
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Episode 37 - How To Have Less Stress This Holiday | December 2023
Don't let the stress of the holidays get to you! In this video, we're going to share some tips on how to have less stress this holiday season. From dealing with kids and Christmas on your own to marriage during the holiday season, we've got you covered!
No matter what kind of holiday stress you're dealing with, we're here to help. Check out this video and learn some tips on how to have less stress this holiday season!
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Episode 36 - Is Money Destroying Your Marriage? | November 2023
If you're feeling like money is destroying your relationship, then you're not alone. This episode of Marriage Monthly is about money and how it can be a problem in your marriage. Most importantly, we will provide ways to overcome this and share our best practices that will solve this problem. Money should help your marriage, not destroy it.
In this episode, we'll be discussing the topic of money and how it can be a problem in your marriage. We'll be discussing the different ways money can damage your relationship, and offer ways to manage money and communication...
Episode 35 - Why Sex Matters | October 2023
On October 2023, we'll be discussing Why Sex Matters in marriage. Join us to find out what makes sex such an important part of a strong and fulfilling relationship!
If you're married or in a committed relationship, then you know that sex is an essential part of a strong relationship. In this video, we'll be discussing why sex is so important and what makes it so special. We'll give you advice on how to make sex in your marriage even better, and discuss the benefits of sex in marriage!
Whether you're a newlywed or have been...
Episode 34 - My Spouse is Driving Me Crazy PART 3 | September 2023
In this episode of Marriage Monthly, hosts Gabe and Melissa Kolstad discuss a common issue that many couples face: when your spouse is driving you crazy. They delve into the reasons why spouses can clash and how to understand and appreciate each other's differences. They also provide practical tips for resolving conflicts and improving your marriage. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 33 - My Spouse is Driving Me Crazy PT 2 | August 2023
In this episode of Marriage Monthly, hosts Gabe and Melissa Kolstad discuss a common issue that many couples face: when your spouse is driving you crazy. They delve into the reasons why spouses can clash and how to understand and appreciate each other's differences. They also provide practical tips for resolving conflicts and improving your marriage. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 32 - My Spouse is Driving Me Crazy PT. 1 | July 2023
In this episode of Marriage Monthly, hosts Gabe and Melissa Kolstad discuss a common issue that many couples face: when your spouse is driving you crazy. They delve into the reasons why spouses can clash and how to understand and appreciate each other's differences. They also provide practical tips for resolving conflicts and improving your marriage. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for years, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship. Tune in to Marriage Monthly for more marriage tips and advice from a Christian perspective.
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Episode 31 - Is My Spouse High Maintenance? | June 2023
Check out this episode to learn how to get a handle on your spouse's high maintenance behavior, and find out how to make your relationship happier and more fulfilling!
If you’re in a relationship, whether it’s been going well for a while or not so well, this episode is for you.
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Episode 30 - What’s Missing in Most Marriages? | May 2023
In this episode, we talk about spiritual intimacy in marriage. We discuss what it means, how to have it, and why it’s so important.
If you’re in a relationship, whether it’s been going well for a while or not so well, this episode is for you. We discuss why spiritual intimacy is so important in a relationship, what it looks like, and how to create it. Whether you’re newly married or in a long-term relationship, this episode is a must-listen!
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EPISODE 29 - Fail Proof Your Marriage | April 2023
In this episode, Gabe & Melissa talk about Fail Proof Your Marriage! In this episode, we're going to be discussing the steps you need to take to make sure that your marriage is fail-proof.
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EPISODE 28 - 3 Signs of a Miserable Marriage | March 2023
Check out this weeks Marriage Monthly! In this video, we're going to share 3 Signs of a Miserable Marriage. If you're suffering in your marriage, chances are you're living out one or more of these signs and if you aren't suffering in your marriage, you will know what to avoid to make your marriage even better.
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Episode 27 | Bringing Sexy Back
As were in Valentines month, we want to encourage you with a few ways to bringing sexy back. Join Gabe and Melissa Kolstad in the secrets of showing your partner true, lasting love.
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Episode 26 | Are you DOUBTING your spouse?
In this video, Gabe and Melissa are discussing the phenomenon of doubt in marriage and how to deal with it.
Spouses can doubt each other in a number of ways, and it can pose a number of challenges in the relationship. If you're feeling doubtful about your spouse, hopefully this video helps! We're here help you navigate through this difficult period and build a stronger relationship in the process.
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Episode 25 | Tips for making your LOVE life more EXCITING
In this video, we'll be discussing tips for making your love life more exciting with Gabe and Melissa Kolstad in our mission of helping you improve your marriage.
Whether you're new to the dating scene or you're feeling a little stale in your relationship, this video is for you! We'll give you some tips on how to spice up your love life and make it more enjoyable! So what are you waiting for? Get started on your journey to a more exciting love life!
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