the Henny Flynn podcast
A space to settle in and listen, and see where the episode takes you. This inspiring, reflective podcast is an invitation to travel deeper, with compassionate self-enquiry. Henny shares insights from her own life, alongside practices that help us connect with our inner wisdom, explore our relationship with change and find a greater sense of flow. Henny believes we all hold our own answers, so there are no one-size-fits-all solutions here. This is a space to be with what’s true for you, and to grow from there. If you’re drawn to slowing down, listening in, and exploring what it m...
Holding Ourselves Through the Hard Stuff (S20E3)
I'm recording this from a hospital. I've found a quiet corner - it's Saturday morning and you might hear lifts beeping, trolleys, maybe some voices.
I'm here seeing a loved one. It's why there wasn't an episode last week. This isn't my story to tell, so I can't talk about details, but I wanted to share the context I'm in.
This episode is about how life throws curveballs at us, and how the work we do in quieter moments supports us when we're facing the bigger stuff.
You'll hear:
Why this experience...Digging deeper into The Field (S20E2)
This week sees the opening of The Field. And this episode is a reflection on how creating it has been a practice in the work of change. Art imitating life... or vice versa perhaps?
You'll hear...
How I've moved through doubt, fear, and excitement while letting this idea percolate A time when parts of me were clamouring 'I should have worked harder' Why self-awareness + self-compassion = compassionate self-enquiryWhat The Field offers as you're navigating changeThe Rumi quote that captures it all: 'Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there'Se...
You Have Always Been Enough - A Conversation with Soulla Demetriou (S20E1)
Today I'm in conversation with Soulla Demetriou - a dear friend, a teacher who profoundly shaped my journey, and the author of the newly released book You Have Always Been Enough.
Soulla introduced me to self-compassion work and later to Internal Family Systems, and our paths have been beautifully interwoven ever since.
In this conversation, we explore:
Soulla's journey from corporate London through pain, and the suffering that came from that, to yoga, mindfulness, self-compassion, and eventually Internal Family Systems - and why IFS felt like 'the jigsaw piece that made sense of everything'How...The Parts That Are Asking to Be Seen (S19E10)
You'll hear this episode begins with me sharing a complete technical breakdown. I had recorded a really lovely episode and when I went back to listen, it sounded like it was voiced by AI. I couldn't fix it, despite my best efforts, and so I had to start again.
It's often in moments like these that I turn to my old journals. When I opened one of them at random, this is what emerged:
A reflection on the parts of us that get activated when things go wrong The recognition that these aren't p...The Power of Going with the Slow (S19E9)
It's a sunny Saturday morning, and I've had a slow start. We're a little late recording this, but what's late? What's early? When there's no fixed time anyway.
I've talked about going with the slow before (back in Season 5), and I'm returning to it again because it's such a fundamental part of how I understand change. This time I'm exploring it through different lenses — the butterfly chrysalis, titration from trauma work, the alphabet between A and B.
In this episode, I explore...
How we're conditioned to move faster through change when our internal mechanisms do...Holding the Bitter and the Sweet (S19E8)
I'm back in my kitchen - this really feels like the place to speak to you - and I've been thinking this week about the juxtaposition between joy and pain, between the bitter and the sweet.
It's something that came up in a conversation I had recently, and something that's been arising in the Gratitude Quest. So I thought we could reflect on that together today.
In this episode, I explore:
• How we learn to make space for both joy and pain within us - not as a meme of 'what doesn't kill yo...
Naming What We Notice (S19E7)
I woke early this morning to check the technology for the Gratitude Quest, and found myself reading the gratitudes people have been sharing. The experience of reading them - particularly responses to today's prompt about sensation and touch - became the inspiration for what I want to share with you today.
I'm in my kitchen, in the big comfy chair by the warm Aga, Ronnie at my feet (until he gets bored and wanders off). The air is a little chilly on my skin, and I can hear the birds outside. This feels like a warm, reflective...
Small Gratitudes (S19E6)
Finding Gratitude in Simple Sounds
I'm back home after my travels, and you might be able to hear the tiny waterfall that pours into the brook along the edge of our land. Maybe you can hear the birds too.
This is a short episode about beginning with what's around us - sounds, objects, small moments - and how these simple things can become doorways to gratitude.
In this episode, I explore:
Why starting with sounds can be a powerful way into gratitude, especially when life feels hardThe beautiful science of birdsong and...What Are You Calling In? (S19E5)
I recorded this episode, wrapped in a duvet at a friend's house - you can hear my voice still finding its morning register. I'm away from home seeing friends and family. Understanding my intentions for being here resonates with the question I'd love to explore today: what is it I'm calling in by being here?
It's a question with layers - geographical and existential, practical and profound.
In this episode, I explore:
How we might recognise what we've called into our lives, both consciously and unconsciously, and how to hold that awareness without falling...Self-Talk as Self-Care (S19E4)
The Language We Use With Ourselves
Just before heading out to meet friends, I caught myself in a small moment of self-judgement: 'I'm meant to be ready already.' It's such familiar territory, isn't it? That subtle criticism we layer onto ourselves throughout the day. Recognising that moment sparked some thoughts... that led to this episode, exploring:
How our self-talk is a vital part of our self-care practice, shaping not only how we see ourselves but how we expect others to see usThe origins of our inner critic — recognising whose voice we're really hearing when we sp...Love is not blind (S19E3)
In this episode, I share something very personal.
As part of a quiet spell of sorting and clearing, Anton unearthed our wedding book — filled with photographs and handwritten messages from many years ago. Inside it was a poem my mother wrote and read at our wedding.
This episode isn’t about making changes or doing deep inner work.
It’s about love — how we see it, how we live with it, and the stories we carry about what it is.
I read the poem in full and let it speak for itself...
Sliding Door Moments (S19E2)
Sometimes we arrive at a decision we fully own - and still find ourselves unsure of whether to take the big step that makes the change happen.
In this episode, I explore the tipping point from preparation into activation - and the kind of care these sliding door moments ask of us.
We explore:
What it means when the change is ours - not driven by external circumstancesThe inner scale of decisions - how something can feel enormous inside us, even if it looks “small” from the outsideHow to stay with uncertainty with compassion - wi...Energy and Deliberation (S19E1)
As we step into a new year, this episode explores the quiet clarity that can emerge when we move with both energy and deliberation.
In this reflective, stream-of-consciousness episode, I share a short piece of writing that arrived unexpectedly — and then open it up gently, listening for what wants to be heard.
You’ll hear reflections on:
The juxtaposition between energy and deliberation — and how this can feel like clarity rather than conflictStrengthening the energetic trails that genuinely draw our attentionChoosing discernment over momentum, alignment over urgencyLetting go without attachment — even when something once felt rig...The Kindness of Boundaries (S18 bonus)
I wasn’t planning to begin a new season of the podcast just yet — and yet something called me back.
So this feels like a bonus episode. A moment of reconnection. A gentle hello.
In this short reflection, I share what’s been feeling most present for me as we move through this season — particularly the intertwining of kindness and boundaries, and how deeply they belong together.
I explore:
Why boundaries often come into sharper focus at this time of yearHow clarity can be an act of kindness — to ourselves and othersThe quiet conf...The Silence of Deep Presence (S18E10)
As this series draws to a close - and as the podcast quietly passes its 200th episode - I’ve found myself reflecting on silence.
In this episode, I explore:
Recorded from the warmth - and silence - of my kitchen, this conversation flows gently between reflections on r...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E9)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: Grief and Belief (S18E9)
My 3 key reflections, as I speak to you today are:
2. The old strategies we may have used to suppress feelings of vulnerability
3. Naming our vulnerability can be a powerful way of soothing it
With the compassionate self-enquiry...
What within you is asking to be seen today? ★ Support this podcast ★Grief & Belief: The Temple Within (S18E9)
A quiet, meandering and emotional reflection on the intertwined nature of grief and belief.
In this stream-of-consciousness episode, I explore:
The many ways grief can show up — from loss of loved ones to the living grief of change or unrealised dreamsStillness as a doorway into the temple — whether we see that as stepping into our grief or allowing it to enter withinBelief as a gentle trust in our deep interconnectionThe comfort that comes when we remember we’re not alone but part of something vast and wholeThe love that sits quietly inside it allAn invita...
Tuesday's Thought (S17E8)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: Threads of connection (S18E8)
My 3 key reflections, as I speak to you today are:
2. When we create, maybe the making of something is enough
3. There is Power and Pleasure when we Allow ourselves to connect with others... and with ourselves
With the compassionate self-enquiry...
How is it to notice these gossamer threads - seeing how wide and vast they are? ★ Support this po...Threads of Conversation and Connection (S18E8)
Some episodes arrive without a plan, and yet still something calls to be shared. This is one of those times.
An open reflection on what’s alive in the moment, exploring:
The invisible web of connection that holds us all, even across time and distanceHow love, memory and resonance live within the bodyWhat it means to listen inward and know when something has reached its natural closeThe gentle practice of managing what we consume and nurturing calmEveryday moments as quiet acts of self-compassionA tender, meandering meditation on connection, endings, and love - and a re...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E7)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: Choose with Love (S18E7)
My 3 key reflections, as I speak to you today are:
1. Paying our kind attention to the energy behind our choices2. The dignity of choice and the power we (re)claim when we choose to choose
3. The intersection of love and boundaries - and how boundaries are formed of love
With the compassionate self-enquiry...
What might be revealed if you pay deep attention to making one small choice...Choose with Love (S18E7)
A simple thought landed this morning: If you choose to do something, do it with love.
That thought (as these things often do) led to a whole host of other thoughts. Amongst them:
How the act of choosing relates to our sense of dignity, safety and belongingThe difference between duty, responsibility and our conditioned ways of responding to the worldHow beautiful boundaries help us act without resentment or feelings of guiltAnd how we can come to the same outer actions but with an entirely different inner experience.
As ever, I'd love to h...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E6)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: Who Are We Being in Our Doing? - Joyous Effort with Janet Ettele (S18E6)
My 3 key reflections, as I speak to you today are:
1. The deepest conversations take us to - and emerge from - the Thin Place2. Timings of how and when things happen are often curious things
3. The power of perseverance, especially in the face of shame
With the compassionate self-enquiry...
How could you beautifully acknowledge where you have...Who Are We Being in Our Doing? - Joyous Effort with Janet Ettele (S18E6)
A lost recording, now found.
What wanted to be shared arrived - and I’m so glad it did.
the master appears..."
Today I’m in conversation with Janet Ettele: musician, author and student of Buddhist teachings. We explore joyous effort - not striving, but the enlivening energy that arises when we understand the value of what we’re doing. We touch the thin places of life, the courage to continue, the practice of rest, and Janet’s beautiful line: who are we being in our doing?
...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E5)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: The Tipping Point: Decision, Indecision & Letting Go (S18E5)
My 3 key reflections, as I speak to you today are:
1. Sometimes life gifts you a moment where you can TRULY see the change you’ve enacted2. We may not be moving toward something different - we may simply be revealing who we truly are
3. Release has many meanings
With the compassionate self-enquiry...
What might be calling to be released with love? ★ Support this podc...The Tipping Point: Decision, Indecision & Letting Go (S18E5)
Sometimes change begins with a single step - brief, decisive, and full of possibility.
In this episode, I share a poem from My Darling Girl alongside reflections on surrender, decision, indecision, and the courage it can take to choose to move toward ourselves.
Settle in & listen & see where the episode takes you.
Henny x
POEM
You have been talking of surrender from My darling girl vol. 1
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Tuesday's Thought (S18E4)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: The Paradox of Help: Safety, Shame & Belonging (S18E4)
Today's reflection includes:
So... all of that leads to the invitation to explore (in...
The Paradox of Help: Safety, Shame & Belonging (S18E04)
Why do we sometimes refuse help, even when it might be exactly what we need?
In this episode I explore what happens when we’re feeling sensitised, sensitive, activated or triggered - and why even a simple offer of support can feel like a threat.
Together we look at the patterns that sit beneath our instinct to say no: the way our nervous system tries to keep us safe, how dignity and self-concept can override our needs, and why vulnerability can feel so exposing. And we explore the other side too - how accepting help ca...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E3)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: Boredom is the Mother of Creativity (S18E3)
Today's reflection includes:
So... all of that leads to the i...
Boredom is the Mother of Creativity (S18E3)
In this episode I explore the often-undervalued benefits of boredom - how allowing our minds to soften and wander makes space for curiosity, creativity and unexpected connections.
I share stories from a week in London, a valuable lesson from my mum, thoughts from the tube, a surprising chat with an Uber driver, and why choosing boredom over distraction can be a simple experiment worth trying.
This is a gentle invitation to be curious about being bored.
REFERENCES
Helping people change: Coaching with compassion for lifelong learning and growth by Richard Boyatzis, Me...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E2)
Welcome back to Tuesday's Thought, a bonus episode sharing reflections on the most recent episode of the Henny Flynn podcast: The Way of Love: Finding Our Response in a Troubled World (S18E2)
There was a single overpowering reflection this week... the power of hope.
Without hope we are hopeless, with it we are hopeFULL. This quote from David Roberts seems to say so much that could be useful... important... maybe essential, for us today: “Hope isn’t about the future as much as it is about the present."
I leave you with...
The Way of Love: Finding Our Response in a Troubled World (S18E2)
In this deeply reflective episode, I share what’s been stirring in me in response to all that is unfolding in the wider world. What does it mean to hold on to love when fear, hate, and division seem to be rising around us? How can we take meaningful action without being consumed by reaction?
What began as a plan to speak about freedom transformed into another offering — of thoughts, of writing, and of heartfelt reflection. I read something I wrote a little while ago, as well as a piece from My Darling Girl, and explore how love...
Tuesday's Thought (S18E1)
Welcome to Tuesday’s Thought – a short, reflective invitation to go a little deeper with the themes from the latest episode of the Henny Flynn podcast. In this bonus recording I share three observations, each with a reflective question that may support your own compassionate self-enquiry.
When you reflect on the themes we covered in last weekend's episode: Here Was Yesterday’s There: The Habit of Looking Ahead (S18E1)
Where has your mind been living today - and what happens when you gently return to now?Is there a thought you’ve been carrying that belongs...Here Was Yesterday’s There: The Habit of Looking Ahead (S18E1)
Do you ever find yourself looking forward to your next holiday… even when the last one just ended? Or counting down to lunch before your day has even begun? In this opening episode of Season 18, I explore our very human tendency to live ahead of ourselves — and how we can gently guide ourselves back to presence.
I reflect on conversations with my son, moments of yearning, memories from years gone by — and the beautiful, sometimes difficult practice of being with what is. I share thoughts on how cultural conditioning, unconscious habits, and even well-meaning manifestation messages can pull u...
A Single Breath: Reflections After the Pause (S18 bonus)
In this gentle bonus episode, I share a warm check-in after my August break — a space to pause, reflect, and ease back into the season ahead.
I speak about what it’s been like to step away from work, from digital habits, and from the usual patterns of busyness… and what’s been surprising, helpful, or quietly confronting about that process. I talk about the Love Shrine at Shambala, revisiting my book The Heart of Change, and how the deeper work continues even (and especially) in stillness.
I also read a new poem — A Single Breath — a...
Rest, Reset, Recalibrate: Digital Dopamine Detox (S17E9)
In this final episode of Season 17, I share a gentle reflection before stepping into my August break – a time I’ve been honouring for many years now as a way of resetting and softening.
But this year, I’ve been particularly aware of one thing: dopamine. And more specifically, how our phones – and work, and even exercise – can give us such powerful hits that we risk missing the deeper nourishment that comes with stillness, rest and real presence.
So I’m exploring what happens when we don’t reach for the phone… when we rest, reset, and gentl...
It Is as It Is: Flow, Trust & Abundance (S17E8)
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This week, I’m reflecting on abundance - not as magical thinking or wishful positivity, but as a deeply embodied trust in the resources, skills and love already within us, and around us.
I talk about the Finding the More Abundant Way group work I’ve been running, the tenderness of turning toward our beliefs about lack, and how Flow Journaling can help us soften into a more spacious, compassionate mindset.
I also share a journal entry from 2019 that still feels so true today - a reminder that t...
What We Already Know: Tapping Into the Skills We Forget We Have (S17E7)
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I’ve been meaning to talk about this for a while – and then a conversation in my kitchen with a friend reminded me why it’s such an important theme.
In this episode, I’m exploring the power of cross-skilling – noticing how the skills we use in one part of our lives can help us in another. Sometimes we forget just how capable we already are because we keep parts of our lives too separate. What if we could gently bring more awareness to the strengths we already have...
A New Kind of Pause: A piece of quiet (S17E6)
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This week, I’m sharing a podcast within a podcast...
It's the launch of something I hope you’ll love, that’s been gently forming behind the scenes.
A piece of quiet is a brand new private podcast offering. A weekly pause. A place to return to when life feels full, your heart feels tender, or you simply long for a few minutes of stillness and space.
In this episode, I’ll explain:
What A piece of quiet is - and how it...The Joy of Making Something You Love (S17E5)
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This is a full-hearted, creative, slightly giddy episode - recorded just after I finished the first piece for A Piece of Quiet, my new private, subscription-only podcast.
There’s so much newness stirring right now. The LoveWords cards are out in the world, my year-long group coaching programme is quietly filling behind the scenes, and now my new weekly pause - in audio form - for reflection, stillness and self-connection, is almost ready to enter the world.
In this episode, I reflect on the power of creativity - wh...
LoveWords & Oracle Cards: Unlocking Inner Wisdom (S17E4)
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How do you feel about oracle cards?
Love them? Dislike them? Unsure about them?
For me, I see them as another tool that can help us access our own inner wisdom.
In this episode, I share the story of how I reconnected with a long-lost set of Angel cards - and how that unexpected reunion became part of the change journey I’ve been on ever since. It’s an episode about openness, intuition, and how we can work with simple tools in ways th...
