The Hello Someday Podcast For Sober Curious Women

“Maybe you should reevaluate your relationship with alcohol”.  

That’s what my mother said to me when I was 23 after I told her I had spent a very long night on my bathroom floor throwing up bile.

Mom was right. I definitely needed to examine my relationship with alcohol.

My take? Ignorance is bliss. Nothing to see here. Move along. 

Instead of examining my relationship with alcohol, I spent my 20s and 30s trying to control my drinking.

Luckily, the world has changed a lot in the last 25 years. <...

Do you ever know someone is upset before they’ve even said a word?

Do you ever feel like you absorb everything?

Someone else’s bad mood. A critical comment. Tension in the room. A conversation you replay in your head for hours.

And by the end of the day, wine feels like the easiest way to finally turn it all down.

If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

I’m talking with psychotherapist, life coach, and host of Emotional Badass, Nikki Eisenhauer, about highly sensitive people, empath...

What does an unhealthy drinking culture at work look like? 

“Do you ever know someone is upset before they’ve even said a word?

And immediately start wondering: Is it me? Did I do something wrong? How can I make this better?

I do.

I’m realizing how much of my life I’ve spent trying to keep the peace, absorbing other people’s moods, avoiding conflict and swallowing what I actually feel.

And when I am angry, hurt or irritated, I have a habit of immediately questioning myself:

Am I being too sensitive? Am I overreacting? Should I just let i...

If you’re in your 50s, 60s, or 70s and wondering whether it’s really worth changing your relationship with alcohol now, I want you to hear Susan’s story.

Maybe your kids are grown. Maybe you’re an empty nester. Maybe you’ve been drinking for 30 or 40 years and wine is woven into your marriage, friendships, holidays, vacations, Friday nights, and the way you relax at the end of the day.

Susan Weiss, a member of The Sobriety Starter Kit® and now an SSK Ambassador, stopped drinking at 60.

In this episode, Susan shares what...

If you’re a good mom, a capable woman, and the person everyone counts on—but wine has become the only part of the day that feels like it belongs to you—this episode is for you.

In this SSK Member Story, I’m talking with Mollie Farrell, a former attorney, certified coach, mom of two, and now the community manager inside The Sobriety Starter Kit® private community. Mollie shares how mommy wine culture taught her that drinking was self-care, why her earlier 30-day breaks never created lasting change, and what helped her move from enduring life with...

Sarena is a longtime listener of The Hello Someday Podcast and a member of the Sobriety Starter Kit® community. In this episode, she shares what finally made her stop trying to make moderation work, what surprised her about the first few weeks alcohol-free, how she navigated Italy without drinking at less than a month alcohol-free, and what her life looks like now at one year.

For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link:

https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/i-spent-7-years-trying-to-make-moderation-work-sarenas-alcohol-free-story/

4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking L...

If you’re the woman who holds everything together—the good mom, reliable friend, capable employee, partner who manages the schedules, emotions, details, and needs of everyone around you—this conversation might hit close to home.

I’m talking with psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Platonic and Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, about why real self-worth isn’t about convincing yourself that you’re confident or learning to appear more secure.

For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link:

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What Are The Risk Factors For Alcohol Use Disorder?

If you’ve ever wondered why you seem to struggle with alcohol more than your friends—or why cutting back feels so much harder for you—the answer isn’t simply that you need more willpower.

There isn’t one single reason someone develops alcohol use disorder.

Your risk is shaped by a combination of genetics, mental health, life experiences, environment, stress, culture, coping skills, and your relationship with alcohol itself.

And understanding those risk factors matters because the earlier you recognize that alcoh...

Thinking About Drinking Again After Going Alcohol-Free?

Once you’ve gotten a period of time alcohol-free, how do you protect the progress you’ve made and avoid sliding back into the drinking cycle?

Going back to drinking usually doesn’t begin when you actually pick up a glass.

There are often emotional and mental warning signs that show up long before the physical act of drinking—and learning to recognize them gives you an opportunity to interrupt the process before you find yourself back in the drink → regret → repeat cycle.

I know becau...

Did you know that identifying your personal core values can help you reinforce WHY you want to live an alcohol-free life and find more meaning and fulfillment in your choice?

It’s true. Values are your compass to a big, brave, beautiful life. 

But sometimes we aren’t even sure what we value, because our parents, culture and spouses tell us (directly or indirectly) what we should care about.

So that’s where core values work comes in.

In this episode, we explore the topic of how to identify your personal core values...

In this episode, I'm talking with Kate Kripke, a maternal mental health expert, therapist, coach, and host of the Motherhood Uncut podcast, about the invisible emotional load so many women carry—and why anxiety, guilt, perfectionism, and overwhelm often drive us toward coping strategies that ultimately make us feel worse.

We dive into the connection between motherhood anxiety, emotional discomfort, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and drinking, and talk about what it actually looks like to stay present with hard feelings instead of escaping them.

If you're the mom who everyone relies on...

If you’ve been going back and forth for a while now about whether you want to stop drinking I’m betting you’ve been asking yourself all the wrong questions.

My guest today is Deb Masner, founder of the Alcohol Tipping Point and was the host of The Alcohol Tipping Point Podcast. 

Deb is going to take us through 20 new questions you should be asking yourself to change your drinking. 

For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link:

https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/20-new-questions-to-ask-yourself-about-your-drinking/

4 Ways...

Have you ever looked like you had everything under control while quietly falling apart inside?

Have you ever thought, "I'm fine. I just need to get through this."

Or maybe...

"I don't want to be difficult."

"I don't want to inconvenience anyone."

Today I'm sharing a much more personal story than I usually do. What was supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime family trip ended with three broken ribs, a collapsed lung, and a hospital stay — and it forced me to confront something I'd been minimizing for ye...

If you're the woman who gets everything done, shows up for everyone else, looks successful from the outside, and still ends the day exhausted with a glass of wine in your hand, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I sit down with Sonia Kahlon, co-host of the Sisters in Sobriety podcast who spent years building a successful career while quietly questioning her relationship with alcohol.

Like so many women, Sonia didn't hit the stereotypical rock bottom we often associate with alcohol problems.

But she was exhausted, anxious, disconnected from herself, and...

If you've ever worried that drinking is the thing that makes you fun, social, connected, or interesting, you're not alone.

Maybe you're the woman who looks like she has it all together but secretly wonders why so much of your social life revolves around alcohol. Maybe you've imagined that quitting drinking means saying goodbye to laughter, friendships, spontaneity, and fun.

In this episode, I'm joined by Julie Derashinski and Jenny Hopf, co-hosts of the Midlife Confidential podcast, for an honest conversation about what really happens when you stop drinking.

We talk about friendship...

If you’re the good mom who drinks at night because you’re exhausted, angry, overstimulated and secretly wondering why you feel so unhappy when your life looks “fine” from the outside—this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I’m joined by Nicole Phillips, author of The Negativity Remedy and host of The Kindness Podcast. Nicole is almost 14 years sober, and she shares how kindness helped her move through depression, anger, alcohol, breast cancer and the negativity loops that can keep us stuck.

This isn’t about pretending everything is okay. It’s about learning h...

If you've ever counted down the minutes until you could pour a glass of wine, convinced yourself that every mom drinks to survive parenting, or wondered why motherhood feels so much harder than you expected, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I'm joined by fellow podcasters and authors Stefanie Wilder-Taylor (Drunk-ish) and Sara Kaufman Bradstreet (No More Wasted Days) for an honest, funny, and deeply relatable conversation about motherhood, drinking, and what changes when you stop using alcohol to cope.

Between the three of us, we've lived through almost every stage of parenting—fr...

Do you wonder if you’ll ever have fun without alcohol?

Despite all the reasons you want to stop drinking, a lot of us find ourselves looking back at vacations, girls' weekends, summer nights, and celebrations thinking alcohol was what made them special.

In this conversation, I sat down with sobriety coach, podcast host, and longtime recovery advocate Angela Pugh to talk about one of the biggest obstacles women face when they want to drink less: romanticizing alcohol while forgetting everything that came with it.

We talk about why your brain loves to re...

What happens when alcohol becomes part of everything?

Not because you're drinking all day. Not because you've hit a dramatic rock bottom.

But because it's woven into your evenings, your marriage, your friendships, your vacations, and the way you unwind after a long day.

That's where Trisha found herself.

She's a registered nurse, mom of three, and someone who spent years believing she just needed to figure out how to control her drinking. Alcohol wasn't ruining her life. In many ways, it felt like part of a life she loved.

If you're the woman who has always been the responsible one — the good student, the hard worker, the person everyone can count on, but wine has quietly become your reward at the end of the day, this episode is for you.

Today, I'm talking with Katharine, a mom of three, tech sales executive, longtime member of the Sobriety Starter Kit community, and someone I've had the privilege of watching grow over the last three years.

In this conversation, Katharine shares how she went from counting down to wine o'clock every night to building a life th...

If you've ever worried that stopping drinking will make you less fun, less attractive, or less likely to find your person, this conversation is for you.

In this SSK Member Story episode, I'm talking with my friend Kim, who I've known for more than a decade. We met in early sobriety and have stayed connected through years of growth, setbacks, day ones, and hard-won lessons.

Kim shares her experience navigating sobriety while single, dating, and searching for connection. We talk openly about loneliness, self-abandonment, social anxiety, attachment patterns, and the belief that alcohol was necessary...

If you’re the woman who looks like she has it all together…but secretly counts down to that first glass of wine every night…

This episode is for you.

In this conversation, I’m talking with Mary — a member of The Sobriety Starter Kit community — about what it looked like to drink a bottle of wine almost every night while still showing up for work, parenting, paying bills, and doing all the things.

From the outside, her life looked successful and normal.

On the inside, she felt anxious, overwhelmed, emotionally...

You can be the good mom. The business owner. The woman volunteering at school and showing up for everyone else… while secretly counting drinks, hiding bottles, and waking up at 3am terrified that this can’t keep going.

“I’ll just moderate better this time.”

“I can’t imagine never drinking again.”

In this episode, I’m talking with Jennifer, a member of The Sobriety Starter Kit community, about what it really looked like behind the scenes of her drinking life—and what finally helped her stop after years of trying to cut back, take breaks, a...

This episode is part of my SSK Member Story series, where women share what drinking was really like before they stopped—and what finally helped change stick.

Today I’m talking with Sarah, who is almost 200 days alcohol-free. Sarah spent 15 years as a CFO working intense hours, raising kids, carrying a huge amount of pressure, and using wine to cope with the stress, resentment, exhaustion, and mental load.

Sarah didn’t have some dramatic “rock bottom.” From the outside, her life looked successful and together. But inside, she kept waking up...

If you know the cycle of drinking more than you planned, waking up with anxiety, trying to piece together the night before, promising yourself you’ll stop, and then somehow starting again by Tuesday or Friday, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I’m talking with Jessica, a member of the Sobriety Starter Kit community, who is celebrating almost 6 months alcohol-free. She shares what it was like to live inside the “I’ll start again on Monday” loop, what finally helped her get out of it, and how her life, confidence, marriage, motherhood...

Do you ever find yourself pouring a glass of wine at the end of the day… collapsing on the couch… and telling yourself “this is just how I unwind”?

If that’s been running through your head, this episode is going to hit close to home.

Today I’m talking with Anna, a member of the Sobriety Starter Kit community, who went from daily “couch wine” and years of trying to moderate… to being 28 months alcohol-free.

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If you’ve ever wondered how to handle business travel without alcohol, you’re not alone.

For so many high-achieving women, drinking is woven into every part of work travel:

Airport bars while waiting for flights

Wine at client dinners

Cocktails at networking events

Drinks in the hotel room to unwind

It can feel like alcohol isn’t just available—it’s expected.

So the idea of navigating work trips, conferences, and client dinners without drinking can feel overwhelming, awkward, and honestly… a little impossible.

In thi...

In midlife, a lot of women start noticing that alcohol hits differently. The glass of wine that used to feel relaxing now messes with your sleep, ramps up your anxiety, leaves you feeling emotionally fried, and makes it harder to bounce back. And if you’ve been stuck in the cycle of moderating, taking breaks, doing Dry January, and then starting over, you are so not alone.

In this conversation, I’m talking with Claire Davis, founder of The Midlife Mentors, about why so many women begin questioning their drinking in their 40s and 50s, h...

If you’re the woman who holds everything together, manages everyone else’s needs, and still ends the day overwhelmed, resentful, and reaching for wine, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I’m talking with Beatriz Victoria Albina about a pattern that quietly drives so much stress, anxiety, overgiving, and overdrinking: emotional outsourcing.

Bea is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing. Together, we talk about why so many women end up stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment — and how to begin br...

If you’ve ever told yourself you need to drink less, get your life together, or finally follow through on the changes you keep thinking about—but then found yourself right back where you started—this episode is for you.

I’m talking with Eric Zimmer, host of The One You Feed podcast and author of How a Little Becomes a Lot, about why lasting change usually doesn’t happen through one huge breakthrough. It happens through small, repeated choices that slowly build momentum.

For the full show notes, kindly go to this podca...

Alcohol sometimes doesn’t just numb stress or overwhelm—it also numbs resentment, loneliness, disconnection, and the quiet questions you don’t want to face. And when you take that coping mechanism away, your marriage can come into sharper focus fast.

In this conversation, I’m talking with Katherine Waddell—licensed marriage and family therapist, couples specialist, and expert in discernment counseling, a short-term process that helps couples decide whether to repair their relationship or separate with clarity instead of panic.

We talk about what happens when sobriety changes your awareness, how alcohol can mask relationsh...

A lot of women don’t realize they’re dealing with burnout.They just feel tired, irritable, stretched thin, and like everything takes more effort than it should.

And when drinking becomes the way you cope, it can make it even harder to see what’s really going on.

In this episode, I’m talking with burnout expert Cait Donovan, host of FRIED: The Burnout Podcast and author of The Bounce Back Ability Factor. Cait has such a smart, grounded way of talking about burnout that cuts through the noise and gets to the truth. We talk...

If you’re trying to drink less or stop drinking, alcohol cravings can feel incredibly frustrating.

You might make it through a few days or even a couple of weeks, and then suddenly the desire to drink shows up again—usually when you’re stressed, overwhelmed, tired, or just trying to unwind at the end of the day.

In this episode, I’m joined by Mary Tilson, a professional recovery coach, yoga and meditation teacher, and the founder of Sun and Moon Sober Living.

We talk about why alcohol cravings happen, how to creat...

Ten years ago, when I couldn’t get more than four days without drinking, I kept thinking about one thing: my son.

He was eight years old. And I imagined him ten years into the future.

I stopped drinking when Hank was almost eight and Lila was almost two. Not because everything fell apart—but because I could see where things were headed if nothing changed.

Fast-forward a decade.

On my 50th birthday, my son texted asking if he could have his friends over that nigh...

In Part 2 of my 10-year sober celebration, we go deeper into what happens after the decision sticks: the surprising internal shifts you don’t expect, the tiny everyday wins that quietly change everything, and the bigger external changes that become possible once alcohol isn’t in the way.

You’ll hear from women in my community about how sobriety changed the way they handle stress, relationships, and boundaries — and what was different the time they finally made their last Day One stick.

And I’m sharing my own story too — espe...

Ten years ago, I couldn’t get past Day 4 without drinking. I was exhausted, anxious, overwhelmed, and quietly terrified about where my life was headed if nothing changed.

Today marks a full decade alcohol-free—and when I look back, what moves me most isn’t just that I stopped drinking. It’s how that one decision changed the trajectory of my entire life… and my family’s life too.

But the most meaningful part? The women I’ve met on the alcohol-free path.

This episode is a celebration of that ripple effect.

Because one...

What do you do when you want to drink again—not because you’re “back at zero,” but because midlife (and menopause) is hitting hard?

I’m talking with Dana Bowman, author of Humble Pie, about the messy truth of long-term recovery colliding with midlife—think perimenopause, parenting teens, sleep disruption, body changes, and the quiet pressure to keep performing like nothing’s happening. Dana and I have both lived the “I quit… then went back… then quit again” reality, and we’re naming what so many women experience but rarely say out loud:

Life gets better w...

How do you rewire your brain to stop using alcohol to cope—especially when you’re stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in the drinking cycle?

I’m joined by Kate Vitela, a psychiatric nurse who’s triple board certified in mental health, addiction, and coaching, and the voice behind the Rewired Sober podcast. Kate brings the perfect mix of neuroscience + real-life recovery talk—no shame, no dogma, no “you’re broken” narrative.

We get into what’s actually happening in your brain when alcohol becomes your go-to off switch… and why your brain c...

If you’re a high-achieving, sober-curious woman who’s drinking less (or not at all) but still feels pulled toward scrolling, snacking, shopping, streaming, or stress habits that don’t actually make you feel good—this episode is for you.

Today I’m talking with bestselling author Catherine Gray who wrote The Unexpected Joy Of Being Sober and Sunshine Warm Sober. Her new book Little Addictions dives into the everyday compulsions that feel “too small to matter”… until they quietly start running your time, mood, money, and mental health.

This conversation isn’t about becoming stricter or more d...