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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we're working with:

1. How does Sally get her blowouts to last all day? Linked @Sal.Gals hair tutorial here.

2. What is the etiquette for texting after a first date?

3. Extended family at a small international wedding?

4. Should I feel guilty about not attending a child's birthday party so close to Christmas?

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we're working with:

1. I need to elevate my husband's wardrobe.

2. Can we talk about wedding gifts for a sec?

3. A girl who I've been seeing for a bit had a friend kiss her at a concert... how should I proceed?

4. How should I go about feeling less guilty about carving out alone time after putting the kids to bed?

5. Chicago recs?

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries! Here's what we've got this week:

1. How do I compartmentalize my potential fertility issues with my friend's pregnancy success?

2. How am I supposed to tell if she's really "the one" or if there's a reason why I'm itching for another escape hatch?

3. I'm in the thick of wedding planning and my fiancee feels like I'm not helping enough.

4. My wife is struggling with anxiety and depression right now - how do I best support her?

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman, Randy Trembacki, and the newest member of Washed Media, Brett Nierengarten aka New Brett. Here's what we've got this week:

1. What's the deal with New Brett?

2. What constitutes the Midwest?

3. Should I let my boyfriend pay for his flight to a wedding that I'm invited to?

4. I'm trying to visit every national park. What are your favorites and which ones are must-see?

5. I broke up with my first-ever girlfriend after 2.5 months and I'm not sure if I made the right decision. <...

Happy September, folks! We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. I'm a 30-year-old woman getting back in the dating scene after a decade. What do I need to know?

2. Does Instagram feel blatantly too ad-focused now?

3. How do you repair your reputation after dating a very toxic person?

4. Do I leave my dream job for a job with more money and better benefits?

5. I feel guilty about posting a pregnancy announcement after struggling myself with infertility.

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Shouts to a listener of ours who's battling cancer.

2. My girlfriend doesn't reciprocate payments for things.

3. My wife has stopped putting effort into anything in our relationship.

4. What's the appeal of being an influencer?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Sally deFries and Brett Merriman. Here's what we're working with:

1. How do you approach your girlfriend about upping her "style"?

2. Give me UK recs?

3. I got engaged three months ago and I think it's time to call it off.

4. Where's the line between moving on and getting my ex back?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. When do you know you're ready to have kids?

2. Can I be nice to my Dad's girlfriend when my Mom is around?

3. Cowboy cocktail attire at a wedding plus Bozeman recs?

4. What gifts should you get for a pregnant friend outside the registry?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Reciprocating wedding invites?

2. I'm hesitant to start trying to conceive as a woman in finance.

3. How much is too much to ask people to spend on your birthday?

4. I'm not sure I support my friend's engagement. What should I do?

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We're back on The Mail-In fresh off a few Europe trips with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Europe pros/cons

2. Am I right to feel weird about my girlfriend talking to exes?

3. Sally's COSTCO list

4. My friend backed out of our all-inclusive resort room, what should I do?

5. Is it ok to propose in Italy after a wedding? Photographer?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries mixing it up. Here's what we've got:

1. The squad goes to Europe.

2. We're terrified of having a baby. What should we know?

3. How do I get over being fired from my last job?

4. How do you make the decision to switch careers from teaching?

5. Am I wrong for lying about how much money I make and having it affect our relationship?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Instagram story etiquette

2. What are we watching this summer - Love Island UK or USA?

3. We're talking hall passes

4. Can I be annoyed that my MIL put my SIL on her Costco membership?

5. My wife is bummed we're having a boy when she wanted to have a girl...

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki in the co-host chair. Here's what we've got this week:

1. Am I overreacting about my soon-to-be mother-in-law pressuring us in wedding planning?

2. What should I do with my engagement ring?

3. We purchased a home in our mid 20s and can't seem to get on our neighbors good side.

4. We have three events in one weekend - what should we go to?

5. Is it weird to put my brother-in-law in a separate scramble group on my bachelor party?

We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. My MIL is subtweeting my husband and I...

2. Should I make an effort to build a relationship with extended family after they've made it clear we're different people?

3. Is it a dork move to wear over-the-ear headphones in the office?

4. I'm having trouble adjusting to having a roommate again.

5. I've been with a girl for 2.5 years but I can't stop thinking about sleeping with other girls

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. I wasn't invited to a school program party. Should I just show up?

2. How do you deal with losing a parent?

3. How do you build a community as a working mom with no past friends/family around?

4. Should I be concerned about not having as many friends as my fiancée at our wedding?

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. My married neighbor won't stop sending me reels. Help.

2. My wife is reliant on AI to help "fix" her body and chronic pain and won't see a doctor.

3. What Masters merch would y'all snag?

4. I wan't my girlfriend to fall in love with Austin when she visits. What should we do?

5. Should we get a dog/cat before or after having a kid?

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. I was planning on proposing soon, but now feel emotionally abused and am thinking of calling it off - what should I do?

2. Getting through postpartum anxiety

3. My cousin-in-law wears flip flops and cargo shorts to weddings. How can I stop him from doing that at mine?

4. I asked a girl out who wasn't into me. Where do I go from here?

5. How do you repair a friendship with a former best friend? <...

We're back! The Mail-In Podcast with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Headed to a bachelor party at 32. Do I try to drink like I used to?

2. If I break up with my girlfriend, do I have any right to stay in her condo for a while?

3. Is it weird to wear a tuxedo to a non black-tie wedding?

4. Is my longtime best friend in love with me?

5. I have the opportunity to move wherever coming out of grad school with a remote job. Where should...

Back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. A follow up on last week's pregnancy-during-the-wedding question.

2. How long can you keep seeing multiple people?

3. Is it wild to listen to podcasts at 3.5x speed?

4. My wife and I have vastly different TV preferences and need a mediator.

5. How do I pack for a 10 day Europe trip with a kid?

6. What are your thoughts on relationship etiquette for two people when one person is fresh out of a relationship but...

Back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki filling in today. Here's what we've got:

1. How big of an age difference is too big when dating?

2. Should we do a registry for our new house or is that tacky?

3. Setting FaceTime boundaries with in-laws.

4. My girlfriend leaves her makeup bag in the car then blames me for not remembering to take it out.

5. Do I tell my sister I'm planning to get pregnant in the middle of her wedding planning season?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. New mom fashion help.

2. Should I feel weird about leaving my toddler with my in-laws for a weekend?

3. Bachelorette Party input on location, ideas, etc.

4. Brett & Sally's appetizer and vacation spot draft.

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Producer Randy Trembacki. Here's what we've got:

1. Should I go to this guys wedding with old coworkers I hate?

2. Compromising with my future wife on vacation activities.

3. What factors make moving the solution? Happiness? People? Location?

4. My friends do nothing but play board games and I hate it. How do I still hang with them without participating?

5. We're doing a destination wedding in Austin this fall - where should we do our welcome drinks?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Advice for handling a slacker on your work team?

2. My wife and I aren't sure whether to intervene with a couple experiencing parenting inequalities.

3. How do I go about asking her Dad for permission to marry her?

4. I have family jewels that I'd like to put in an engagement ring.

5. I helped my buddy get hired at my company a few levels below me.

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Back on ⁠The Mail-In⁠ this week with ⁠⁠Sally deFries⁠ and Will deFries. Here's what we've got:

This week, Sally is joined by Will (filling in for Brett who is on a ski trip) to talk a listener with intimacy issues, saving money while also enjoying your life, washing your hands before emptying the dishwasher, a new parent grabbag, lacking empathy because of your job, handling conflict, choosing where a couple should get married, and more.

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. How often do you wash jeans?

2. Sell my husband on moving to Austin from PA

3. Traveling to San Diego and Napa with a 9 month old

4. Should we even have a wedding at this point?

5. I'm 23 dating a 33 year old

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman & Sally deFries. Here's what we've got:

1. Can we get Sally's thoughts on Heated Rivalry?

2. My wife of 2 years cheated on me. Again.

3. Engagement ring shopping.

4. We've both put on a bit of relationship weight and I think she looks better now... but she doesn't.

5. We accidentally invited a third couple to a NYC trip.

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Happy New Year from the squad at The Mail-In Pod. Brett Merriman & Sally deFries back on the mic with y'all. Here's what we've got this week:

1. Having trouble managing a tough relationship with my dad while being there for my mom.

2. Friendships of the opposite gender?

3. Ski trip bachelor party out west?

4. If you're in someone's wedding party do you still get them a gift?

5. Should I propose on a trip even though we have things to work out?

6. How to tell my friends I'm pregnant when...

We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki. Here's what we've got:

1. What should I get my dad for retirement?

2. Throwing an end-of-year party for my law firm.

3. What should I do in a situation where a bartender was extremely rude to me?

4. My girlfriend goes out and doesn't answer when I'm there to pick her up. Should I end things?

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Producer Randy Trembacki for a dose of nostalgia and some questions on top. Here's what we've got:

1. Deciding between family members as a wedding officiant.

2. What does "a couple" mean at the store?

3. My buddy is getting married and we're not a fan of his fiancée...

4. Need help with my Thanksgiving mac n' cheese!

5. What is Randy thankful for?

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We're back on The Mail-In Podcast with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we've got this week:

1. How do I stop being habitually late to things?

2. Where do I meet single people at 31?

3. How do I manage too many bachelorette parties?

4. My girlfriend sneezes into her hands

5. What's the hiking like in Austin?

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We're back on The Mail-In Podcast for a Halloween edition with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we got:

1. Skipping my best friend's kid's birthday parties.

2. What are your thoughts on pursuing single fatherhood by choice?

3. Setting boundaries when moving back to the town your family lives in.

4. I'm pregnant with my first and am thinking about having one vs. two kids?

5. I'm feeling disrespected by my employer and wondering what to do.

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki filling in. Here's what we're working with:

1. Should I be bothered that a girl asked about me in a "are we dating the same guy?" group?

2. Am I within my right to charge my friends for a hotel room they checked out late from?

3. How can I bring up to my wife that her mom living with us is becoming a real problem?

4. How to make the best of working remotely in Japan for two weeks?

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Back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries! Here's what we've got taking you into the weekend:

1. What's the female equivalent of guys doing the ABC pants, polo, white sneakers outfit?

2. What is life like as a working mom?

3. Need help talking to my girlfriend's dad about proposing!

4. Should I donate sperm to be the biological father of my friend's baby?

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Back on The Mail-In with special guest Will deFries on the mic. Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki are there too. Here's what we're working with:

1. Trimming the wedding guest list?

2. How do I talk to my boss about ensuring my role is hybrid?

3. Need help supporting my brother through a tough time

4. I'm in my late 30s and not sure if I'm ready for kids?

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We're back on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman & producer Randy Trembacki. Here's what we've got this week:

1. Is it weird that I'm embarrassed to continue donating plasma as a side hustle?

2. Feeling burnt out at my sales job. How can I pivot without admitting defeat?

3. Dallas recs feat. Dallas native Dave Ruff.

4. Need help networking at work to climb the ladder.

5. I can't get over my boyfriend's ex of 10 years.

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We're back on The Mail-In from The Sauna aka Washed HQ with Brett Merriman and special guest, husband of Sally, Will deFries. Here's what we're working with this week:

1. My boyfriend is afraid of the dentist.

2. We're in the full swing of wedding planning and I don't want someone to come.

3. I need help putting together a business casual wardrobe on a budget.

4. What to expect after child #2?

5. New York City recommendations

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Powering through this week on The Mail-In with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries. Here's what we're working with:

1. Advice for taking a big trip with/without kids after a crappy year

2. My girlfriend complains that I need to be more accommodating to her ADHD around the house. I went and got diagnosed myself to prove that she can still do things.

3. How should I leave a group chat?

4. Should I have not paid my friends for bachelor party expenses from events I didn't attend?

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We're back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Sally deFries taking on your questions. Here's what we've got:

1. How do I let my friends know we're not interested in swinging?

2. AITA for getting annoyed with my gf for spending too much time shopping for gifts during our international trip?

3. Any recs for a day trip to Lake Tahoe?

4. Need tips for a night shift PICU nurse

5. Feeling stuck in a relationship, unsure whether to move on?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with Brett Merriman and Randy Trembacki. Here's what we've got:

1. Need help planning a girls mystery trip!

2. How to write the perfect best man speech?

3. When should we take our honeymoon?

4. How do y'all have so many friends?

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Back on The Mail-In this week with the full crew of Sally deFries and Brett Merriman. Here's what we've got:

1. Is there a way to have a wedding without dancing?

2. Do I have to pick my girlfriend up from the airport if her company pays for her Ubers?

3. MAJOR book club drama

4. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and anxious about spinals and epidurals in the case of a C-Section.

5. Tips for introducing your significant other to your family for the first time?

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