The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1043

This episode is for the men who crossed the line and now don’t know how to fix what’s broken. If you’ve cheated, or you’re carrying the weight of a past affair your wife doesn’t know about, this conversation lays out exactly what happens next and what to do about it.

Doug walks through what women actually feel after infidelity the confusion, the emotional fallout, and the way trust doesn’t just crack but completely collapses. He also breaks down what typically happens to men in this situation. The shame. The guilt. T...

Episode #1042

In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men dealing with the silent drift in their relationships. One guy’s wife hides her phone and avoids conversation. Another gets shot down every time he tries to initiate intimacy. Sound familiar?

They talk about why therapy often leaves couples stuck in the past and how most men unknowingly fall into the “nice guy” trap trying to fix things by being extra helpful, only to lose polarity and respect in the process.

You’ll hear coaching insights around what to do when your wif...

Episode #1041

In this episode, we’re answering a straight-up question from a listener.
“I feel like my wife and I are just roommates. There’s no spark. How do I get the passion back without begging for sex?”

Doug Holt and Chris Hansen dive into what’s really going on when men feel stuck in this kind of dynamic. They talk about the shift from being a strong partner to slipping into the “nice guy” role. It sounds helpful on the surface but often kills the attraction behind the scenes.

If you're feeling unappr...

Episode #1040

We’re revisiting one of the most eye-opening conversations we’ve had on the show. Most men were never taught how women’s cycles really work. Most women weren’t either. Yet when you start to understand what’s happening week by week, everything changes in your relationship.

In this revisit, Doug is joined by his wife Erin, who breaks down the four phases of a woman’s cycle and shows men how to support their partners in practical, everyday ways. You’ll hear why she feels like a different woman at different times, how to time co...

Episode #1039

A lot of guys think they can only grow by surrounding themselves with men on their same level or above them. The truth is real growth happens when you reach back and help another man who is a few steps behind.

In this episode, Doug and Coach Mike talk about what it really means to lead, why lifting other men up deepens your own mastery, and how staying humble keeps you moving forward. They share stories about fatherhood, coaching, and the lessons that come when you stop trying to prove yourself and start serving.<...

Episode #1038

Most men say they’re being real, but deep down, they know something’s off. In this episode, Doug sits down with Eric “The Viking” at the TPM Ranch to talk about what actually changes when you stop hiding, drop the mask, and start showing up as your true self.

Eric opens up about the shift that happened when he finally got honest with himself and others. It didn’t come from a big breakthrough or a single moment. It came from consistent, small actions. Real change showed up in how he led his team, how...

Episode #1037

We’re revisiting an important conversation that continues to hit home for so many men. What happens when the marriage is technically over, but you sense there’s still a chance to reconnect?

In this episode, Doug answers a listener’s question about when and how to approach reconciliation after separation or divorce. He breaks down why chasing your ex or falling back into old habits pushes her further away, and what it looks like to show up with real confidence instead of neediness.

You’ll hear practical strategies for getting grounded, filling...

Episode #1036

Are you truly living, or just getting through the day?

In this episode, Doug and Coach Steve have an honest conversation about purpose, aging, marriage, and the kind of legacy most men never stop to think about. Not legacy in the financial sense, but how you show up as a man, how you lead at home, and what you're quietly passing on to your kids.

They share stories of mentors, tough transitions, and the moments that force you to ask, "Is this really the life I want to be living?" From broken...

Episode #1035

What really changes when a man stops pretending he’s fine and finally asks for support?

In this honest conversation, Doug sits down with a couple from the UK to talk about what it actually looks like to grow as a man, a husband and a father.

They cover the shift from feeling isolated and emotionally shut down to building real friendships, taking the lead at home and showing up more fully in marriage and parenting.

You’ll hear what it’s like to go from carrying everything alone to feelin...

Episode #1034

In this throwback episode, we’re revisiting a core conversation that’s just as relevant now as when it first aired. If you’ve ever felt like you're doing all the right things but your wife still pulls away, this one’s for you.

Doug breaks down what really happens when men fall into the trap of chasing their wife. Whether it’s constant texts, over-checking in, or trying too hard to fix the relationship, that energy often creates more distance instead of connection.

You’ll hear why chasing is a form of needy ene...

Episode #1033

Most men want to be better at communicating with their wife but don’t always know how. Especially when it comes to listening without turning it into a checklist or interrogation. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it looks like to build real connection through everyday conversations — even when things feel distant or tense.

They talk about the “collecting berries” concept and how it helps men understand the way women process emotions and daily life. You’ll learn why your curiosity matters more than your words, how to ask better questions, and what t...

Episode #1032

What do you do when you’re fighting with your wife and it feels like you didn’t do anything wrong? How do you handle conflict without making things worse?

In this episode, Doug and Chris talk through the real challenges men face when arguments come up out of nowhere. They break down what’s actually going on under the surface, how to lead with calm confidence, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of more distance.

They also share personal stories about how they’ve worked through conflict...

Episode #1031

Feeling stuck trying to figure out your purpose or what's next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into the real-life tension that comes when your work no longer feels aligned, but walking away from it all doesn’t feel right either.

Doug sits down with Austin and Alan at the TPM Ranch to talk about the difference between obsessive and harmonious passion, why so many men chase identity through career, and what it really looks like to find purpose that fits the life you want.

You’ll hear how both m...

Episode #1030

In this episode, Doug sits down with two longtime TPM members at the end of an unforgettable event at the TPM Ranch. They unpack something a lot of high-performing men wrestle with what self-love really means, how we unknowingly block it, and why most guys don’t realize they’re missing real male connection until they finally experience it.

They talk about the weight of leadership, why so many men feel alone at the top, and how being part of a strong, honest brotherhood changes everything. You’ll hear firsthand how these men broke throug...

Episode #1028

Most couples spend months planning the perfect wedding but how much time have you spent planning your actual marriage?

In this episode, Doug challenges you to think beyond the big day and start treating your relationship with the same intention and energy you bring to your business. He walks through why your marriage needs a clear vision, shared values, and regular check-ins just like any successful company.

Whether you've been married a year or a decade, this episode is a call to stop coasting and start building the kind of partnership you b...

Episode #1027

In this episode, we sit down with two TPM men to talk about what it really looks like to start a new relationship after doing the work on yourself. We unpack what changes when you show up with clarity, confidence, and your own life already in alignment.

They share honest stories about how their relationships shifted—not because they followed some script or played games, but because they focused on being real, doing their inner work, and raising their own standards.

Whether you're newly single, dating again after a divorce, or trying to...

Episode #1026

Most guys stick to surface-level friendships, talking sports, work, or the usual weekend plans. But deep down, there’s a part of you that’s craving more. Real connection, honest conversation, and support from other men who actually get it.

In this episode, we’re recording from the TPM Ranch during the Legends Event with men who’ve done the inner work and keep showing up for each other. We talk about what it’s actually like to build friendships where you can drop the act, say what’s really going on, and not get judged f...

Episode #1025 

What happens when you don’t give your team the space to grow? They either leave for somewhere that will or they stay and go stagnant—and that’s even worse. In this revisit episode, Doug and Tim break down why investing in your people isn’t just a nice idea, it’s essential if you want long-term success.

They share stories from recent team retreats, the lessons learned from bringing people together from around the world, and why real connection goes deeper than cheesy team-building exercises. You’ll hear how culture, clarity, and genuine bondi...

Episode #1024 

Ever feel like you're doing life on your own, even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Doug sits down with two TPM legends, Mike and Justin, to talk straight about what real camaraderie looks like, why it matters, and how it changes everything from your business to your relationships.

They get into the power of being around like-minded men, how vulnerability actually builds trust (not weakness), and what happens when you stop comparing and start connecting. It's not about fake hype or locker room bravado. This is about having people in your c...

Episode #1023

If you’ve ever apologized to your wife and felt like it didn’t land or made things more tense, this episode is for you. We talk about why “sorry” often falls flat, what your wife is really looking for, and how to approach conflict in a way that actually builds trust instead of just trying to smooth things over.

We also break down the importance of knowing your deeper why, not just for your marriage but for yourself. Because if you’re not clear on what you’re really fighting for, you’re just spinning...

Episode #1022

In this revisit, Doug and Erin break down a common disconnect between men and women in relationships. What it really means when she's giving you feedback and how to hear it without getting defensive or shutting down.

They explore how masculine and feminine energy play into communication and why so many guys misread what their partner is actually trying to say. Erin brings the female lens to the table, explaining the deeper message behind what can sometimes come off as criticism.

Doug shares the patterns he sees in men who feel lost...

Episode #1021

In this episode, Doug sits down with Erin to talk about what really happens in a relationship when a man feels stuck. Like he’s going through the motions, checked all the boxes, but still feels like something’s missing.

Erin shares a raw and honest look from the woman's perspective. What it feels like to be partnered with a man who’s lost his drive, passion, or sense of purpose.

They dig into how that affects the marriage, the energy at home, and why it often pushes her into a role she do...

Episode #1020

If you’ve been grinding to fix your marriage, doing the therapy, the books, the talking but nothing’s changing… you’re not alone.

In this episode, we unpack why traditional counseling often leaves men feeling stuck, and what actually creates real connection at home. Doug and Chris share a real story of a man who spent 20 years trying to fix his marriage the “right” way, only to find out he was missing a system built for men like him.

We break down the Triad of Connection, a simple, proven framework that helps you re...

Episode #1019

Ever feel like your wife has built a wall between you? Maybe she’s more critical, distant, or just not as open as she used to be. In this episode, we unpack why some women “harden” over time, what signs to look for before it gets that far, and most importantly how you can help shift the dynamic.

We’ll break down the common mistakes men make (often without realizing it), how carrying the mental load impacts your relationship, and why simply suggesting solutions isn’t enough you need to lead with action. You’ll hear prac...

Episode #1018

Most men think their wife isn’t interested in sex anymore. But what if that’s not actually true?

In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for an honest conversation about what women really want in the bedroom and outside of it. Erin shares insights from her own coaching and real conversations with other wives, explaining why emotional safety, shared responsibility, and everyday connection are just as important as physical intimacy.

They talk about the things most men miss when it comes to creating lasting attraction, why women shut down...

Episode #1017

If you're ready to grow but not sure where to start, this episode will help you figure it out. Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher to break down the key things to look for when you're choosing a personal development program. Whether it's for your marriage, your business, or your own mindset, not all coaching is created equal and the wrong choice can set you back more than you think.

Doug shares his checklist for spotting programs that actually deliver, including what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for, and how...

Episode #1016

We’re bringing this conversation back because it still hits home for so many men. On the outside, Stu had everything. Successful business. Healthy kids. Good marriage. But behind closed doors, he was quietly falling apart. No one could tell, and he didn’t know why. He just wasn’t happy.

In this episode, Stu sits down with Tim to revisit what life looked like before joining The Activation Method, the hidden cost of having it all, and the slow unraveling that almost broke everything. He shares what finally helped him pull out of that p...

Episode #1015

A lot of guys feel stuck in their relationships but don’t know where to start. They wait, overthink, or say things like, “I need to check with my wife first.” Sound familiar? In this episode, Doug and Erin Holt sit down to talk about what really makes a man attractive to his partner and it's not about being perfect or waiting for permission.

They get honest about what women actually want from their men, why leading yourself first is key, and how personal growth (done the right way) can totally shift your marriage. Whethe...

Episode #1014

In this episode, Doug sits down with Scott to unpack what it really means to emotionally connect with your partner. And no, it’s not about talking more or trying harder. It’s about presence, vulnerability, and learning how to show up fully as a man.

They talk openly about midlife struggle, emotional safety in relationships, and how most guys are chasing sex when what they’re actually craving is connection. You’ll hear personal stories from Scott’s transformation, going from emotionally reactive to grounded and intentional, and how that shift brought his wife close...

Episode #1013

Ever find yourself wondering why you're always the one apologizing in your relationship? You’re not alone. In this episode, Doug and Tim dig into a question that comes up all the time in coaching sessions: why is it so rare for women to apologize—and what does it really mean?

They break down the emotional weight behind apologies, how gender differences shape communication, and why “I’m sorry” might not come as easily for your partner as it does for you. More importantly, they walk you through what you can do about it. You’ll get...

Episode #1012

In this episode, Doug and Coach Neil break down what it really means to “eat your own cooking”—doing the work you expect others to do. It’s not about having all the answers or reading the next book. It’s about actually getting in the arena and being willing to trip, fall, and course correct.

If you’re tired of analyzing your life but still feeling stuck, this conversation is for you. Doug and Neil get honest about the fears that hold men back—especially husbands, fathers, and business leaders—and they lay out a no-fluff p...

Episode #1011

Doug and Coach Neil get into a real, grounded conversation about what it looks like to lead at home when things are shifting—whether it’s your kid pulling away for the first time or your marriage feeling a little off. They talk through the quiet stuff most men don’t say out loud: feeling alone, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you're really showing up the way you want to.

This isn’t about fixing your wife or your kid. It’s about you. Are you actually leading, or are you hoping things sort themselves...

Episode #1010

Most guys don’t realize they’re wearing a mask. Maybe it’s the “successful one,” the “nice guy,” or the “always-in-control” version of you. These masks usually start out as protection—but eventually, they just make life heavier, less real, and more exhausting.

In this episode, Tim, Grant, Arthur, and Jared get honest about the masks they've worn, how those masks formed, and what it takes to actually let go of them. If you've ever caught yourself saying “Why did I just react like that?” or “Why does this keep happening to me?”—there’s probably a deeper laye...

Episode #1009

What do you do when trust has been broken in your relationship—especially if you were the one who caused the pain? In this episode, Doug and Chris have a raw, no-fluff conversation about what it really takes to heal after betrayal. They unpack how long is “long enough” to sit in guilt, when it’s time to start setting boundaries, and why beating yourself up won’t rebuild connection.

This isn’t about quick fixes or fake apologies—it’s about doing the real work: owning your part, creating a new path forward, and protecting y...

Episode #1008

Ever find yourself resisting the very tools you know will help you? In this episode, Doug Holt sits down with fellow TPM coach Christopher Hansen to answer a powerful question from the community: “What part of the program do you struggle to live out in real life?”

The conversation is refreshingly honest. They talk about slipping on routines like the Alpha Rise & Shine, avoiding conflict cleanup, and the very human reasons why even experienced coaches still fall short sometimes. It's not about being perfect - it’s about being real, showing up, and staying in the...

Episode #1007

In this raw and honest conversation, Tim sits down with Justin McAuliffe - TPM brother, coach, and long-time volunteer at the Alpha Reset - to talk about what real change actually takes.

Justin opens up about the traps so many men fall into: chasing external validation, hiding behind success, or numbing out just to get through the day. He shares how the TPM process helped him stop pretending, start feeling, and finally come home to himself - not by fixing everything overnight, but by taking small, intentional steps forward.

They also unpack...

Episode #1006

Ever get hit with a comment like “you never help around the house” and instantly go on the defensive? Yeah - most men have. In this episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor and Alpha Reset grad Chris Hanson to break down a powerful concept: engaged indifference.

It’s not about shutting down or checking out. It’s about staying connected while keeping your cool - especially when your partner is testing the waters. Doug shares real-life examples, coaching insights, and a few tricks to help you lead with calm, stay curious, and create the kind...

Episode #1005

Most guys think getting healthy means grinding harder at the gym or forcing themselves into a strict diet. But in this conversation, we go deeper. Doug sits down with Kate Abate - performance coach, former pro bodybuilder, and gerontologist - for a raw, eye-opening look at what real wellness actually looks like for men today.

Kate works closely with men in The Powerful Man movement, and she’s seen firsthand how physical transformation is just the tip of the iceberg. From emotional eating and decision fatigue to the pressure of always being the provider, Ka...

Episode #1003

Feel stuck in your relationship and not sure whether to work on it or walk away? In this episode, Doug Holt and Coach Mark Smith break down the tough questions men face when their marriage or partnership feels off. No fluff—just real talk about what it means to lead in your relationship, how to stop avoiding the hard conversations, and a simple framework to help you decide if it’s time to recommit or move on.

If you've been feeling disconnected, unheard, or unsure whether there's still love left, this one’s for you. T...

Episode #1002

If you've been telling yourself “now’s not the right time,” it might be time to take a closer look at what that’s really costing you. In this episode, Doug Holt and Coach Mark Smith dive into the common trap a lot of men fall into—waiting, hoping, and putting off action in their relationships, health, and personal growth.

This isn’t about hype or motivation. It’s about being honest with yourself, owning where you’re at, and recognizing that hope alone doesn’t create change—leadership does. Doug and Mark share real stories from me...