The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1058

We're revisiting this conversation because it's one of the biggest sticking points for men in relationships. You want to lead, you want clarity, and you want a stronger connection—but when it comes to setting real agreements and holding your partner accountable, things get messy.

In this episode, Tim and the team break down how to create accountability in your relationship without turning it into a business meeting or a fight. It starts with you getting clear on what you actually want. If you're not clear, there's no way to communicate it, let alone fo...

Episode #1057

We're bringing this one back because it's a topic that keeps showing up. You start making progress, in your marriage, your business, your health and then out of nowhere, you slide back. It's frustrating, and it's more common than you think.

In this episode, Tim sits down with Arthur, Andrew, and Austin to dig into the real reason why that keeps happening. It's called upper limiting. Whether it shows up as self-sabotage, complacency, or just falling off the path, there's usually something deeper underneath it.

They talk through how identity, validation, nervous...

Episode #1056

Your wife tells you she needs space, and you're left wondering what that actually means and what you're supposed to do next. Do you back off completely? Do you hold her close? How do you know the difference?

In this episode, Doug brings in his wife Erin, a coach who works with married women, to break it all down from her side of the relationship. They talk openly about what's really going on when a woman says she needs space, why those words usually have more emotion behind them than logic, and how to...

Episode #1055

You've been putting in the work. Morning routines are in place. You're communicating better. You're staying calm instead of reactive. But your wife still doesn't seem to notice. Or worse, she says nothing has changed.

In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin, a coach for women, to talk about why your efforts might not be landing the way you think. Erin shares what she sees on the other side of the relationship and why some women stay guarded even when their partner is making progress. They get into the fear...

Episode #1054

A lot of men feel like they're doing everything they're supposed to do, working hard, showing up for their families, keeping it together, but still feel empty, burnt out, or disconnected. In this episode, Doug sits down with master coaches Neil and Mark to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall and what finally gets them moving again.

You'll hear honest stories from men who've spent years in therapy without results, the surprising stats around male loneliness, and why doing more isn't the answer. This isn't a motivational pep talk. It's...

Episode #1053

In this episode, Drew shares his raw, honest story of what it took to hit rock bottom and why that moment became the turning point that changed everything. You'll hear how he went from nearly losing his marriage to discovering a version of himself he didn't know existed. This isn't about fixing everything overnight. It's about learning the tools to stop pretending, take responsibility, and show up fully, first for yourself, then for the people who matter most.

Whether you're feeling stuck, distant in your relationship, or just tired of carrying the weight alone...

Episode #1052

In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher Hansen to talk about something every married man needs to understand but few are ever taught. What it really means to lead in your marriage.

They dig into what happens when a man steps back from leadership and how that slowly chips away at trust, safety, and intimacy over time. You'll hear why emotional safety matters more than you think, why your wife might be spending more as a signal and not the problem, and how to stop trying to fix things by...

Episode #1051

We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most important conversations you'll hear if you're a married man wanting deeper connection and real intimacy with your wife.

Doug is joined by his wife Erin, a seasoned coach for women, to talk about something most guys miss. How emotional safety and real presence outside the bedroom shape what happens inside it.

If you've ever felt stuck in the same cycle where sex feels like a reward you have to earn or where connection feels out of reach, this is your episode...

Episode #1050

In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to let go and why it might be the one thing standing between you and the life you want. Doug shares a real story about a man whose marriage, business, and family were falling apart. Nothing was working. Then everything changed when he stopped holding onto the stories he believed were true.

This isn't about pretending things are fine. It's about being honest with yourself and asking where you might be holding on too tightly. If you've ever thought your wife just doesn't get...

Episode #1049

If you're the kind of guy who puts everyone else first and leaves yourself last, this episode will hit home. Doug and Chris unpack why self care isn't optional if you want to lead well at home, in business, and in life. This isn't about pampering yourself. It's about learning how to consistently show up as the grounded, confident man your family needs.

They walk through how putting yourself last often leads to burnout, resentment, and a quiet victim mindset. You think you're doing the right thing by pushing through and putting others first...

Episode #1048

If it feels like you and your wife have drifted apart, like you're just going through the motions or living as roommates, this episode is for you. Doug and Chris unpack one of the most common issues men bring up: how to bring back the spark and get the intimacy flowing again in your marriage.

Most guys think the problem is sex. But the real issue usually starts way before the bedroom. Emotional safety is what creates the space for connection, attraction, and fun to come back. Without it, you're stuck in a loop...

Episode #1047

Ever catch yourself wishing your wife would just change? That maybe if she did things differently, everything in your marriage would fall into place? In this episode, Doug breaks that myth wide open and flips the script because real change starts with you.

Doug walks you through a practical, no-BS approach to becoming the kind of man, husband, and leader you'd be proud of. He shares simple habits that lead to big shifts, including how to identify the real gaps in your life using a five-area self-assessment, how to build trust through action not...

Episode #1046

If you've ever been told to "open up more" but didn't know what that actually means or tried and felt it backfire, this episode is for you. Doug and Erin revisit one of the most important and misunderstood parts of any relationship: vulnerability.

They break down why most men think they're being vulnerable when they're actually just offloading, and how that difference can either build trust or break it. You'll hear how real leadership at home isn't about hiding emotion, but about learning how to share it from a place of strength. Erin offers...

Episode #1045

You can be the man everyone respects at work and still feel powerless at home. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who feel like they're crushing it in business but falling apart in their marriage. If your wife shoots down your ideas, questions your decisions, or says she's no longer attracted to you, this conversation will hit home.

They break down what's really going on when your wife is always in her masculine, how to stop reacting when she tests you, and what it actually means to "be the...

Episode #1044

Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently.

You'll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You'll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or...

Episode #1043

This episode is for the men who crossed the line and now don't know how to fix what's broken. If you've cheated, or you're carrying the weight of a past affair your wife doesn't know about, this conversation lays out exactly what happens next and what to do about it.

Doug walks through what women actually feel after infidelity the confusion, the emotional fallout, and the way trust doesn't just crack but completely collapses. He also breaks down what typically happens to men in this situation. The shame. The guilt. The regret. And how...

Episode #1042

In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men dealing with the silent drift in their relationships. One guy's wife hides her phone and avoids conversation. Another gets shot down every time he tries to initiate intimacy. Sound familiar?

They talk about why therapy often leaves couples stuck in the past and how most men unknowingly fall into the "nice guy" trap trying to fix things by being extra helpful, only to lose polarity and respect in the process.

You'll hear coaching insights around what to do when your wife...

Episode #1041

In this episode, we're answering a straight-up question from a listener.
"I feel like my wife and I are just roommates. There's no spark. How do I get the passion back without begging for sex?"

Doug Holt and Chris Hansen dive into what's really going on when men feel stuck in this kind of dynamic. They talk about the shift from being a strong partner to slipping into the "nice guy" role. It sounds helpful on the surface but often kills the attraction behind the scenes.

If you're feeling unappreciated, walking...

Episode #1040

We're revisiting one of the most eye-opening conversations we've had on the show. Most men were never taught how women's cycles really work. Most women weren't either. Yet when you start to understand what's happening week by week, everything changes in your relationship.

In this revisit, Doug is joined by his wife Erin, who breaks down the four phases of a woman's cycle and shows men how to support their partners in practical, everyday ways. You'll hear why she feels like a different woman at different times, how to time conversations and intimacy better...

Episode #1039

A lot of guys think they can only grow by surrounding themselves with men on their same level or above them. The truth is real growth happens when you reach back and help another man who is a few steps behind.

In this episode, Doug and Coach Mike talk about what it really means to lead, why lifting other men up deepens your own mastery, and how staying humble keeps you moving forward. They share stories about fatherhood, coaching, and the lessons that come when you stop trying to prove yourself and start serving.<...

Episode #1038

Most men say they're being real, but deep down, they know something's off. In this episode, Doug sits down with Eric "The Viking" at the TPM Ranch to talk about what actually changes when you stop hiding, drop the mask, and start showing up as your true self.

Eric opens up about the shift that happened when he finally got honest with himself and others. It didn't come from a big breakthrough or a single moment. It came from consistent, small actions. Real change showed up in how he led his team, how he...

Episode #1037

We're revisiting an important conversation that continues to hit home for so many men. What happens when the marriage is technically over, but you sense there's still a chance to reconnect?

In this episode, Doug answers a listener's question about when and how to approach reconciliation after separation or divorce. He breaks down why chasing your ex or falling back into old habits pushes her further away, and what it looks like to show up with real confidence instead of neediness.

You'll hear practical strategies for getting grounded, filling your own cup...

Episode #1036

Are you truly living, or just getting through the day?

In this episode, Doug and Coach Steve have an honest conversation about purpose, aging, marriage, and the kind of legacy most men never stop to think about. Not legacy in the financial sense, but how you show up as a man, how you lead at home, and what you're quietly passing on to your kids.

They share stories of mentors, tough transitions, and the moments that force you to ask, "Is this really the life I want to be living?" From broken...

Episode #1035

What really changes when a man stops pretending he's fine and finally asks for support?

In this honest conversation, Doug sits down with a couple from the UK to talk about what it actually looks like to grow as a man, a husband and a father.

They cover the shift from feeling isolated and emotionally shut down to building real friendships, taking the lead at home and showing up more fully in marriage and parenting.

You'll hear what it's like to go from carrying everything alone to feeling part of...

Episode #1034

In this throwback episode, we're revisiting a core conversation that's just as relevant now as when it first aired. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but your wife still pulls away, this one's for you.

Doug breaks down what really happens when men fall into the trap of chasing their wife. Whether it's constant texts, over-checking in, or trying too hard to fix the relationship, that energy often creates more distance instead of connection.

You'll hear why chasing is a form of needy energy, how it kills...

Episode #1033

Most men want to be better at communicating with their wife but don't always know how. Especially when it comes to listening without turning it into a checklist or interrogation. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it looks like to build real connection through everyday conversations — even when things feel distant or tense.

They talk about the "collecting berries" concept and how it helps men understand the way women process emotions and daily life. You'll learn why your curiosity matters more than your words, how to ask better questions, and what to...

Episode #1032

What do you do when you're fighting with your wife and it feels like you didn't do anything wrong? How do you handle conflict without making things worse?

In this episode, Doug and Chris talk through the real challenges men face when arguments come up out of nowhere. They break down what's actually going on under the surface, how to lead with calm confidence, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of more distance.

They also share personal stories about how they've worked through conflict in their own...

Episode #1031

Feeling stuck trying to figure out your purpose or what's next? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the real-life tension that comes when your work no longer feels aligned, but walking away from it all doesn't feel right either.

Doug sits down with Austin and Alan at the TPM Ranch to talk about the difference between obsessive and harmonious passion, why so many men chase identity through career, and what it really looks like to find purpose that fits the life you want.

You'll hear how both men wrestled...

Episode #1030

In this episode, Doug sits down with two longtime TPM members at the end of an unforgettable event at the TPM Ranch. They unpack something a lot of high-performing men wrestle with what self-love really means, how we unknowingly block it, and why most guys don't realize they're missing real male connection until they finally experience it.

They talk about the weight of leadership, why so many men feel alone at the top, and how being part of a strong, honest brotherhood changes everything. You'll hear firsthand how these men broke through years of...

Episode #1028

Most couples spend months planning the perfect wedding but how much time have you spent planning your actual marriage?

In this episode, Doug challenges you to think beyond the big day and start treating your relationship with the same intention and energy you bring to your business. He walks through why your marriage needs a clear vision, shared values, and regular check-ins just like any successful company.

Whether you've been married a year or a decade, this episode is a call to stop coasting and start building the kind of partnership you b...

Episode #1027

In this episode, we sit down with two TPM men to talk about what it really looks like to start a new relationship after doing the work on yourself. We unpack what changes when you show up with clarity, confidence, and your own life already in alignment.

They share honest stories about how their relationships shifted—not because they followed some script or played games, but because they focused on being real, doing their inner work, and raising their own standards.

Whether you're newly single, dating again after a divorce, or trying to...

Episode #1026

Most guys stick to surface-level friendships, talking sports, work, or the usual weekend plans. But deep down, there's a part of you that's craving more. Real connection, honest conversation, and support from other men who actually get it.

In this episode, we're recording from the TPM Ranch during the Legends Event with men who've done the inner work and keep showing up for each other. We talk about what it's actually like to build friendships where you can drop the act, say what's really going on, and not get judged for it. The guys...

Episode #1025 

What happens when you don't give your team the space to grow? They either leave for somewhere that will or they stay and go stagnant—and that's even worse. In this revisit episode, Doug and Tim break down why investing in your people isn't just a nice idea, it's essential if you want long-term success.

They share stories from recent team retreats, the lessons learned from bringing people together from around the world, and why real connection goes deeper than cheesy team-building exercises. You'll hear how culture, clarity, and genuine bonding moments make a hug...

Episode #1024 

Ever feel like you're doing life on your own, even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Doug sits down with two TPM legends, Mike and Justin, to talk straight about what real camaraderie looks like, why it matters, and how it changes everything from your business to your relationships.

They get into the power of being around like-minded men, how vulnerability actually builds trust (not weakness), and what happens when you stop comparing and start connecting. It's not about fake hype or locker room bravado. This is about having people in your c...

Episode #1023

If you've ever apologized to your wife and felt like it didn't land or made things more tense, this episode is for you. We talk about why "sorry" often falls flat, what your wife is really looking for, and how to approach conflict in a way that actually builds trust instead of just trying to smooth things over.

We also break down the importance of knowing your deeper why, not just for your marriage but for yourself. Because if you're not clear on what you're really fighting for, you're just spinning your wheels. This...

Episode #1022

In this revisit, Doug and Erin break down a common disconnect between men and women in relationships. What it really means when she's giving you feedback and how to hear it without getting defensive or shutting down.

They explore how masculine and feminine energy play into communication and why so many guys misread what their partner is actually trying to say. Erin brings the female lens to the table, explaining the deeper message behind what can sometimes come off as criticism.

Doug shares the patterns he sees in men who feel lost...

Episode #1021

In this episode, Doug sits down with Erin to talk about what really happens in a relationship when a man feels stuck. Like he's going through the motions, checked all the boxes, but still feels like something's missing.

Erin shares a raw and honest look from the woman's perspective. What it feels like to be partnered with a man who's lost his drive, passion, or sense of purpose.

They dig into how that affects the marriage, the energy at home, and why it often pushes her into a role she doesn't want...

Episode #1020

If you've been grinding to fix your marriage, doing the therapy, the books, the talking but nothing's changing… you're not alone.

In this episode, we unpack why traditional counseling often leaves men feeling stuck, and what actually creates real connection at home. Doug and Chris share a real story of a man who spent 20 years trying to fix his marriage the "right" way, only to find out he was missing a system built for men like him.

We break down the Triad of Connection, a simple, proven framework that helps you rebuild tr...

Episode #1019

Ever feel like your wife has built a wall between you? Maybe she's more critical, distant, or just not as open as she used to be. In this episode, we unpack why some women "harden" over time, what signs to look for before it gets that far, and most importantly how you can help shift the dynamic.

We'll break down the common mistakes men make (often without realizing it), how carrying the mental load impacts your relationship, and why simply suggesting solutions isn't enough you need to lead with action. You'll hear practical ways...

Episode #1018

Most men think their wife isn't interested in sex anymore. But what if that's not actually true?

In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for an honest conversation about what women really want in the bedroom and outside of it. Erin shares insights from her own coaching and real conversations with other wives, explaining why emotional safety, shared responsibility, and everyday connection are just as important as physical intimacy.

They talk about the things most men miss when it comes to creating lasting attraction, why women shut down, and...