The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1028

Most couples spend months planning the perfect wedding but how much time have you spent planning your actual marriage?

In this episode, Doug challenges you to think beyond the big day and start treating your relationship with the same intention and energy you bring to your business. He walks through why your marriage needs a clear vision, shared values, and regular check-ins just like any successful company.

Whether you've been married a year or a decade, this episode is a call to stop coasting and start building the kind of partnership you b...

Episode #1027

In this episode, we sit down with two TPM men to talk about what it really looks like to start a new relationship after doing the work on yourself. We unpack what changes when you show up with clarity, confidence, and your own life already in alignment.

They share honest stories about how their relationships shifted—not because they followed some script or played games, but because they focused on being real, doing their inner work, and raising their own standards.

Whether you're newly single, dating again after a divorce, or trying to...

Episode #1026

Most guys stick to surface-level friendships, talking sports, work, or the usual weekend plans. But deep down, there’s a part of you that’s craving more. Real connection, honest conversation, and support from other men who actually get it.

In this episode, we’re recording from the TPM Ranch during the Legends Event with men who’ve done the inner work and keep showing up for each other. We talk about what it’s actually like to build friendships where you can drop the act, say what’s really going on, and not get judged f...

Episode #1025 

What happens when you don’t give your team the space to grow? They either leave for somewhere that will or they stay and go stagnant—and that’s even worse. In this revisit episode, Doug and Tim break down why investing in your people isn’t just a nice idea, it’s essential if you want long-term success.

They share stories from recent team retreats, the lessons learned from bringing people together from around the world, and why real connection goes deeper than cheesy team-building exercises. You’ll hear how culture, clarity, and genuine bondi...

Episode #1024 

Ever feel like you're doing life on your own, even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Doug sits down with two TPM legends, Mike and Justin, to talk straight about what real camaraderie looks like, why it matters, and how it changes everything from your business to your relationships.

They get into the power of being around like-minded men, how vulnerability actually builds trust (not weakness), and what happens when you stop comparing and start connecting. It's not about fake hype or locker room bravado. This is about having people in your c...

Episode #1023

If you’ve ever apologized to your wife and felt like it didn’t land or made things more tense, this episode is for you. We talk about why “sorry” often falls flat, what your wife is really looking for, and how to approach conflict in a way that actually builds trust instead of just trying to smooth things over.

We also break down the importance of knowing your deeper why, not just for your marriage but for yourself. Because if you’re not clear on what you’re really fighting for, you’re just spinning...

Episode #1022

In this revisit, Doug and Erin break down a common disconnect between men and women in relationships. What it really means when she's giving you feedback and how to hear it without getting defensive or shutting down.

They explore how masculine and feminine energy play into communication and why so many guys misread what their partner is actually trying to say. Erin brings the female lens to the table, explaining the deeper message behind what can sometimes come off as criticism.

Doug shares the patterns he sees in men who feel lost...

Episode #1021

In this episode, Doug sits down with Erin to talk about what really happens in a relationship when a man feels stuck. Like he’s going through the motions, checked all the boxes, but still feels like something’s missing.

Erin shares a raw and honest look from the woman's perspective. What it feels like to be partnered with a man who’s lost his drive, passion, or sense of purpose.

They dig into how that affects the marriage, the energy at home, and why it often pushes her into a role she do...

Episode #1020

If you’ve been grinding to fix your marriage, doing the therapy, the books, the talking but nothing’s changing… you’re not alone.

In this episode, we unpack why traditional counseling often leaves men feeling stuck, and what actually creates real connection at home. Doug and Chris share a real story of a man who spent 20 years trying to fix his marriage the “right” way, only to find out he was missing a system built for men like him.

We break down the Triad of Connection, a simple, proven framework that helps you re...

Episode #1019

Ever feel like your wife has built a wall between you? Maybe she’s more critical, distant, or just not as open as she used to be. In this episode, we unpack why some women “harden” over time, what signs to look for before it gets that far, and most importantly how you can help shift the dynamic.

We’ll break down the common mistakes men make (often without realizing it), how carrying the mental load impacts your relationship, and why simply suggesting solutions isn’t enough you need to lead with action. You’ll hear prac...

Episode #1018

Most men think their wife isn’t interested in sex anymore. But what if that’s not actually true?

In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for an honest conversation about what women really want in the bedroom and outside of it. Erin shares insights from her own coaching and real conversations with other wives, explaining why emotional safety, shared responsibility, and everyday connection are just as important as physical intimacy.

They talk about the things most men miss when it comes to creating lasting attraction, why women shut down...

Episode #1017

If you're ready to grow but not sure where to start, this episode will help you figure it out. Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher to break down the key things to look for when you're choosing a personal development program. Whether it's for your marriage, your business, or your own mindset, not all coaching is created equal and the wrong choice can set you back more than you think.

Doug shares his checklist for spotting programs that actually deliver, including what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for, and how...

Episode #1016

We’re bringing this conversation back because it still hits home for so many men. On the outside, Stu had everything. Successful business. Healthy kids. Good marriage. But behind closed doors, he was quietly falling apart. No one could tell, and he didn’t know why. He just wasn’t happy.

In this episode, Stu sits down with Tim to revisit what life looked like before joining The Activation Method, the hidden cost of having it all, and the slow unraveling that almost broke everything. He shares what finally helped him pull out of that p...

Episode #1015

A lot of guys feel stuck in their relationships but don’t know where to start. They wait, overthink, or say things like, “I need to check with my wife first.” Sound familiar? In this episode, Doug and Erin Holt sit down to talk about what really makes a man attractive to his partner and it's not about being perfect or waiting for permission.

They get honest about what women actually want from their men, why leading yourself first is key, and how personal growth (done the right way) can totally shift your marriage. Whethe...

Episode #1014

In this episode, Doug sits down with Scott to unpack what it really means to emotionally connect with your partner. And no, it’s not about talking more or trying harder. It’s about presence, vulnerability, and learning how to show up fully as a man.

They talk openly about midlife struggle, emotional safety in relationships, and how most guys are chasing sex when what they’re actually craving is connection. You’ll hear personal stories from Scott’s transformation, going from emotionally reactive to grounded and intentional, and how that shift brought his wife close...

Episode #1013

Ever find yourself wondering why you're always the one apologizing in your relationship? You’re not alone. In this episode, Doug and Tim dig into a question that comes up all the time in coaching sessions: why is it so rare for women to apologize—and what does it really mean?

They break down the emotional weight behind apologies, how gender differences shape communication, and why “I’m sorry” might not come as easily for your partner as it does for you. More importantly, they walk you through what you can do about it. You’ll get...

Episode #1012

In this episode, Doug and Coach Neil break down what it really means to “eat your own cooking”—doing the work you expect others to do. It’s not about having all the answers or reading the next book. It’s about actually getting in the arena and being willing to trip, fall, and course correct.

If you’re tired of analyzing your life but still feeling stuck, this conversation is for you. Doug and Neil get honest about the fears that hold men back—especially husbands, fathers, and business leaders—and they lay out a no-fluff p...

Episode #1011

Doug and Coach Neil get into a real, grounded conversation about what it looks like to lead at home when things are shifting—whether it’s your kid pulling away for the first time or your marriage feeling a little off. They talk through the quiet stuff most men don’t say out loud: feeling alone, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you're really showing up the way you want to.

This isn’t about fixing your wife or your kid. It’s about you. Are you actually leading, or are you hoping things sort themselves...

Episode #1010

Most guys don’t realize they’re wearing a mask. Maybe it’s the “successful one,” the “nice guy,” or the “always-in-control” version of you. These masks usually start out as protection—but eventually, they just make life heavier, less real, and more exhausting.

In this episode, Tim, Grant, Arthur, and Jared get honest about the masks they've worn, how those masks formed, and what it takes to actually let go of them. If you've ever caught yourself saying “Why did I just react like that?” or “Why does this keep happening to me?”—there’s probably a deeper laye...

Episode #1009

What do you do when trust has been broken in your relationship—especially if you were the one who caused the pain? In this episode, Doug and Chris have a raw, no-fluff conversation about what it really takes to heal after betrayal. They unpack how long is “long enough” to sit in guilt, when it’s time to start setting boundaries, and why beating yourself up won’t rebuild connection.

This isn’t about quick fixes or fake apologies—it’s about doing the real work: owning your part, creating a new path forward, and protecting y...

Episode #1008

Ever find yourself resisting the very tools you know will help you? In this episode, Doug Holt sits down with fellow TPM coach Christopher Hansen to answer a powerful question from the community: “What part of the program do you struggle to live out in real life?”

The conversation is refreshingly honest. They talk about slipping on routines like the Alpha Rise & Shine, avoiding conflict cleanup, and the very human reasons why even experienced coaches still fall short sometimes. It's not about being perfect - it’s about being real, showing up, and staying in the...

Episode #1007

In this raw and honest conversation, Tim sits down with Justin McAuliffe—TPM brother, coach, and long-time volunteer at the Alpha Reset—to talk about what real change actually takes.

Justin opens up about the traps so many men fall into: chasing external validation, hiding behind success, or numbing out just to get through the day. He shares how the TPM process helped him stop pretending, start feeling, and finally come home to himself—not by fixing everything overnight, but by taking small, intentional steps forward.

They also unpack what happens at the Al...

Episode #1006

Ever get hit with a comment like “you never help around the house” and instantly go on the defensive? Yeah—most men have. In this episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor and Alpha Reset grad Chris Hanson to break down a powerful concept: engaged indifference.

It’s not about shutting down or checking out. It’s about staying connected while keeping your cool—especially when your partner is testing the waters. Doug shares real-life examples, coaching insights, and a few tricks to help you lead with calm, stay curious, and create the kind of emotional...

Episode #1005

Most guys think getting healthy means grinding harder at the gym or forcing themselves into a strict diet. But in this conversation, we go deeper. Doug sits down with Kate Abate—performance coach, former pro bodybuilder, and gerontologist—for a raw, eye-opening look at what real wellness actually looks like for men today.

Kate works closely with men in The Powerful Man movement, and she’s seen firsthand how physical transformation is just the tip of the iceberg. From emotional eating and decision fatigue to the pressure of always being the provider, Kate breaks down w...

Episode #1003

Feel stuck in your relationship and not sure whether to work on it or walk away? In this episode, Doug Holt and Coach Mark Smith break down the tough questions men face when their marriage or partnership feels off. No fluff—just real talk about what it means to lead in your relationship, how to stop avoiding the hard conversations, and a simple framework to help you decide if it’s time to recommit or move on.

If you've been feeling disconnected, unheard, or unsure whether there's still love left, this one’s for you. T...

Episode #1002

If you've been telling yourself “now’s not the right time,” it might be time to take a closer look at what that’s really costing you. In this episode, Doug Holt and Coach Mark Smith dive into the common trap a lot of men fall into—waiting, hoping, and putting off action in their relationships, health, and personal growth.

This isn’t about hype or motivation. It’s about being honest with yourself, owning where you’re at, and recognizing that hope alone doesn’t create change—leadership does. Doug and Mark share real stories from me...

Episode #1001

Most guys have good intentions. You want to be supportive. You want to lift her up. But what if the way you respond is actually doing the opposite of what you think?

In this episode, Doug sits down with Brad Holt to talk about something subtle but powerful: invalidation. It’s one of the biggest blind spots men have in relationships—especially when it comes to trying to help, fix, or reassure.

From phrases like “You look great” to trying to talk her out of what she’s feeling, you might be accidental...

Episode #1000

After 1,000 episodes, we’re still getting the same core questions from men: “Why won’t my wife forgive me?”, “Why doesn’t she feel safe?”, and “Why is nothing I do ever enough?” In this episode, we’re cutting the fluff and giving you direct, honest answers.

Doug and Tim reflect on what’s really going on in your relationship—and how to start fixing it without trying harder or doing more of the wrong things. Whether your marriage feels stuck, your wife feels distant, or you're just tired of trying to guess what she needs, this episode...

Episode #999

Ever feel like you’re just surviving—barely making it through the day, disconnected from your partner, and exhausted from trying to hold it all together? In this episode, Doug sits down with Jason, a husband, father, and business owner who shares the raw truth of how he went from emotional shutdown, chronic pain, and near-divorce to rebuilding connection, purpose, and real partnership.

They talk honestly about what most men won’t admit: the emotional weight we carry, the struggle to show up at home after long days, and how easy it is to slip i...

Episode #998

What if that argument about the dishes isn’t really about the dishes?

Most guys fall into the same trap during conflict—we react. We defend ourselves, make excuses, try to explain things, or just shut down completely. I’ve been there, and I used to think being “right” would solve everything. It didn’t. It just made the fights last longer and left us both feeling more disconnected.

In this episode, I’m bringing back a short but powerful conversation that can shift everything. I walk you through how I stopped blowing up arg...

Episode #997

Most men wait until they hit a wall before they do anything about their health. But it doesn’t have to be that way. In this episode, I sit down with Jason Kidman — a tech guy turned health optimization coach — to talk about how he went from burnout and chronic pain to feeling better at 44 than he did at 29.

We cover practical stuff: peptides, hormone health, biohacking (yes, without the hype), and how the system most of us rely on — doctors, meds, insurance — often fails to get us feeling better.

If you’re a guy in...

Episode #996

How often do you find yourself being the one everyone else looks up to—but secretly wondering who’s helping you rise?

When you’re the guy with all the answers, where do you go when you need to level up?

In this episode, Tim sits down with Magoo and The Gift—two members of The Powerful Man’s Inner Circle—to break down what actually happens behind the scenes of this invite-only group. These aren’t just guys chasing success. They’re already winning—and still choosing to be pushed, challenged, and held to a high...

Episode #995

In this Revisit episode, Doug and Brad Holt unpack a tough but necessary topic: what really happens when men keep secrets in their relationships. Whether it's hiding money, covering up past mistakes, or just not being honest about getting help, these lies—big or small—start to build walls.

The conversation is real and direct. They share stories from the men they’ve coached and talk through what it actually looks like to come clean. The hard part isn’t just the confession—it’s facing the fear of what comes next. But if you’ve been...

Episode #994

Are you coasting through life, thinking things are “fine”—but wondering deep down if there’s more?

You’re not alone.

A lot of men come into our programs thinking they’ve already done the work. Marriage is solid. Business is moving. Life looks good on paper. But something still feels... off. That’s the power of choosing growth when everything seems okay—before it’s not.

In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of the latest Rising event—a next-level experience built for men who’ve already done the foundational...

Episode #993

Ever feel like you’ve checked all the boxes—career, family, success—but something still doesn’t feel right?

You’re not alone. And more importantly, you're not broken.

In this episode, Tim Matthews is joined by Gregory “Dynamite” and Derek “The Redwood” for a down-to-earth conversation about what it really means to feel lost as a man. They get honest about the times in their lives when they realized they were completely off track—and what it took to admit it, face it, and find their way forward.

This isn't about having a...

Episode #992

Are you doing everything “right” in your marriage—and still watching the connection fade?

In this special revisit episode, we’re bringing back one of our most downloaded conversations that hits hard for a reason. We break down the five subtle but damaging “nice guy” habits that well-intentioned men fall into—habits that quietly kill attraction and connection over time.

From being indecisive…
To constantly checking in with her emotions…
To overgiving while your own tank runs dry…

These behaviors might feel like love, but they’re often rooted in fear, insecu...

Episode #991

What if selling your business doesn’t bring the freedom you expected—but instead leaves you feeling lost?

It happens more than you'd think.

Too many business owners stay in the game too long, clinging to stress, burnout, or an outdated identity because they’re unsure of what’s next. Others rush into an exit thinking it’ll solve everything, only to realize the money didn’t bring clarity—or peace.

In this episode, you'll hear from Gary and Derek—two men who’ve navigated the emotional dynamics of exiting their businesses...

Episode #990

In this honest, no-fluff episode, Tim, Gary, and Mark open up about something most men never talk about—sexual abuse. They unpack how silence and shame shaped their lives, relationships, and how they saw themselves as men. But this conversation isn’t about staying stuck in the past. It’s about what happens when you finally tell the truth.

You’ll hear how opening up became the turning point—not just for healing, but for building real connection, trust, and confidence again. If you’ve ever felt like there’s a part of your story you can’...

Episode #989

Can you stay calm and confident—even when your wife is testing your limits?

We're bringing this one back for a reason. If you've ever found yourself defending, explaining, or reacting in frustration during conflict… this episode is for you. Because how you show up in those moments—especially when your buttons are pushed—is the difference between a marriage that grows and one that keeps falling into the same fight.

In this episode, Doug and Brad break down what it really means to practice "engaged indifference." This isn't about being cold or check...

Episode #988

What if the reason you're burned out, disconnected, or stuck isn't because you're doing too much—but because you're saying yes to all the wrong things?

Most high-achieving men are secretly overwhelmed. They’ve built successful businesses, provided for their families, and checked all the boxes… yet deep down, something feels off. In this episode, you’ll hear how one man’s struggle to say “no” led to decades of hidden pain, poor decisions, and relationships that never quite fit.

In this episode, you'll hear a raw and powerful conversation between Tim Matthews, Mark...