The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1204

Successful businessmen are used to making decisions, solving problems, and staying in control. But what happens when that same approach enters family court?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with family law attorney April Jones to discuss why CEOs, founders, and high-performing men can struggle when divorce moves from the boardroom into the courtroom.

April brings more than 35 years of legal experience to the conversation. She is the founder and CEO of Jones Law Firm, which she built in 2000, and her firm has handled thousands of complex...

Episode #1203

What do you do when you've tried marriage counseling but feel like you keep revisiting the same problems? What if your wife seems more interested in her phone than connecting with you? And how do you handle sexual rejection without becoming needy, resentful, or afraid to initiate again?

In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen return to a practical Q&A covering three situations men commonly face when their marriage feels disconnected.

The first question comes from a man who has already tried marriage counseling and...

Episode #1202

The holidays are supposed to bring families together, but for many couples, they create stress, resentment, arguments, and disconnection.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug and Erin Holt talk about how husbands and wives can approach the holiday season differently. Instead of waiting until schedules, gifts, family expectations, business pressures, and traditions collide, they encourage couples to plan for the experience they actually want to create.

For business owners and executives, the end of the year can already carry enormous pressure. Add family gatherings, travel, gifts, children, traditions, and expectations...

Episode #1201

When was the last time you went on a date with your wife and showed up with the same curiosity, energy, and intention you had when you first met?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews sits down with Stephen, a longtime member of The Powerful Man movement, to talk about bringing "first date energy" back into a long-term marriage.

After nearly 11 years of marriage, Stephen realized that even regular date nights can become routine. You go to dinner, see a movie, and spend most of the evening talking about...

Episode  #1120

What do you do when your marriage feels more like two roommates sharing a house than two people in love?

In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen answer questions from men dealing with two painful relationship situations: a marriage with no spark or passion, and hearing the words, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Doug explains why providing financially, staying faithful, helping with the kids, and working hard don't automatically create emotional connection or attraction. A man can believe he's doing everything r...

Episode #1199

What happens when the woman you married starts changing in ways you don't understand?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with Dr. Amanda Hanson, known as the Midlife Muse, for a conversation about supporting your wife through growth, perimenopause, menopause, changing desires, and the evolution of a long-term marriage.

Dr. Amanda has worked with thousands of women, including wives of men in The Powerful Man community. She explains why one of the most valuable things a husband can do is stop assuming he knows what his wife...

Episode  #1198

If your wife seems uninterested in sex, the problem may not be that she has no desire.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug and Erin Holt challenge a common assumption men make in sexless or disconnected marriages: "My wife just doesn't want sex anymore."

Erin shares that the women she knows and coaches often still have strong sexual desire. What can disappear is the emotional connection, attraction, safety, and space that allows that desire to be expressed with their husband.

Doug and Erin explore the difference between simply w...

Episode #1197

What happens when you believe you've outgrown the people around you?

It's easy to think the next level of growth means surrounding yourself only with people who are further ahead. But in this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Coach Mike Brown explore why some of your greatest growth can come from helping the men behind you while continuing to learn from those ahead.

Mike explains that helping another man reach his next level creates an opportunity to deepen your own understanding. Doug connects this to mastery: if you...

Episode #1196

Has your wife been asking you to get help, try counseling, find a coach, attend a retreat, or simply do something about your marriage?

You may hear it as criticism. She may be trying to tell you something much more important.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Erin Holt discuss what may be happening long before a wife starts seriously considering divorce. Erin shares the female perspective on the years of conversations, attempts at connection, requests for change, and emotional work that can happen before a woman reaches...

Episode #1195

Does it feel like your wife is constantly correcting you?

Maybe it's how you load the dishwasher, handle the laundry, take care of the house, or follow through on something you said you'd do. It can start to feel like she's controlling, nagging, or treating you more like an employee than her husband.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Erin Holt explore what may actually be happening underneath this dynamic.

Erin explains how couples often enter marriage with completely different blueprints for how a household should...

Episode #1194

This is a revisit of an important TPM conversation for men who feel stuck, stagnant, or unsure what comes next.

You've built the career. You've handled the responsibilities. You've checked many of the boxes you thought would create fulfillment. But somewhere along the way, you lost some of your energy, passion, or sense of direction.

In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with Erin Holt to explore what it looks like when a man knows he's capable of more but isn't taking action toward it, and what...

Episode #1193

When does taking care of yourself become abandoning your partner, and when does constantly taking care of everyone else become self-sacrifice?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen tackle a question many husbands and fathers struggle with: how do you make time for yourself without leaving your wife feeling like she's carrying the family alone?

Doug explains how two unhealthy patterns can develop. On one side, a man works hard, provides for his family, and quietly expects something in return. Without ever discussing those expectations with his...

Episode #1192

How do you have a difficult conversation with someone you care about without turning it into a confrontation?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen work through that question in real time after Doug receives a message about someone close to him who appears to have lied. Normally, Doug's instinct would be to address the issue head-on. But this person is already going through a difficult season, which raises a bigger question: Does every problem need to be confronted immediately?

Doug and Chris explore the difference between...

Episode #1191

What do you do when you've spent years trying to fix your marriage, but nothing seems to work?

You've read the books. You've listened to podcasts. Maybe you've tried therapy or marriage counseling. You understand a lot about relationships intellectually, yet at home you're still struggling to connect with your wife, manage your emotions, or create the marriage you actually want.

In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen discuss why knowing more isn't always the answer. For many men, the missing piece isn't information. It's having...

Episode #1190

Have you ever sat in your car after work and dreaded walking through your own front door because you don't know what kind of mood you'll find on the other side?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen talk about what happens when a man starts walking on eggshells in his own marriage. To avoid arguments and keep the peace, he stops saying what he thinks, ignores broken agreements, and slowly gives up pieces of himself.

The problem is that keeping the peace doesn't necessarily create connection...

Episode #1189

When divorce catches you off guard, the instinct can be to shut down, pull away, and assume there's nothing left you can do. But before you walk away, there's an important question to ask: Have you truly done everything you can?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with Christopher Hansen for a deeply personal conversation sparked by a longtime friend facing divorce. After learning his friend had been struggling for months without reaching out, Chris wrestled with the urge to shake him awake and encourage him to fight for...

Episode #1188

This is a revisit of one of our most impactful episodes.

What if your wife actually wants a better sex life just as much as you do?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin Holt, for an honest conversation about one of the most misunderstood topics in marriage: what women truly want when it comes to intimacy. Rather than focusing on techniques or quick fixes, Doug and Erin reveal why emotional safety, connection, and intentional leadership create the foundation for a fulfilling sex life.<...

Episode #1187

What does it really take to build a strong body, a successful business, and a thriving marriage without sacrificing one for the other?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with world-renowned strength coach, Highland Games world record holder, business owner, and TPM alumnus John Oden. Together, they explore the mindset, habits, and daily decisions that have helped John maintain elite fitness while growing a business, investing in his marriage, and raising a family.

John shares why consistency always beats intensity, how he overcame self-doubt and setbacks early...

Episode #1186

What if the biggest thing missing from your marriage isn't communication... but emotional safety?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin Holt, to unpack one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships: emotional safety. While many men naturally see themselves as protectors and providers, Doug and Erin explain that true leadership goes beyond physical protection. It also means creating an environment where your wife feels emotionally secure, understood, and supported.

Drawing from their own marriage, Doug and Erin share how a lack of emotional...

Episode #1185

This is a revisit of one of our most valuable episodes.

Choosing the right coach, mentor, or personal development program can change the direction of your life. Choosing the wrong one can cost you time, money, and missed opportunities.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by TPM Advisor Christopher Hansen to answer a question many men ask before investing in themselves: How do you know which coaching program is right for you?

Drawing from decades of experience in personal development, Doug shares the four key...

Episode #1184

Understanding your wife's menstrual cycle could be one of the most practical ways to strengthen your relationship.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin Holt, for an honest conversation about a topic many couples rarely discuss: the menstrual cycle and how it affects a woman's energy, emotions, communication, and connection throughout the month.

Erin walks through the four phases of the menstrual cycle, using the seasons as an easy-to-understand framework. She explains what women may experience physically and emotionally during each phase, why many...

Episode #1183

What does it really mean to lead in your marriage?

In this episode, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis unpack one of the most common pieces of feedback men hear from their wives: "I want you to lead." While the message sounds straightforward, many men are left wondering what leadership actually looks like in everyday life.

Drawing from a real coaching conversation inside The Powerful Man community, Tim explains why leadership isn't about taking control or making every decision. It's about creating clarity, building trust, and becoming someone your partner can rely on...

Episode 1182

This is a revisit of one of our most impactful episodes.

What if the best thing you could do for your marriage is to start leading yourself first?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by his wife, Erin Holt, to explore a question many men wrestle with: What will my wife think if I invest in myself? Together, they offer both the masculine and feminine perspectives on why personal growth isn't selfish. It's one of the greatest gifts you can give your relationship.

Erin shares...

Episode #1181

A thriving relationship isn't built by one person. It takes two people choosing to create it together.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis explore what happens after you've started rebuilding trust in your relationship. Many men work hard to become better husbands by taking ownership, improving their habits, and showing up differently. But there comes a point when lasting growth requires both partners to actively participate.

Tim shares a simple three-step framework for men who want to strengthen their relationship without losing themselves in the process...

Episode #1180

What if the energy you bring into your relationship matters more than the words you say?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis explore the idea of vibration and how your thoughts, emotions, environment, and identity influence the way you show up as a husband, father, and leader. While "raising your vibration" is often misunderstood, Tim and Lawrence explain that it's less about feeling positive all the time and more about creating a grounded, healthy perspective that allows you to navigate life's challenges with confidence.

Using examples...

Episode #1179

What if the connection you're looking for in your marriage has very little to do with sex and everything to do with emotional safety?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt is joined by TPM Coach Scott Wolford to explore what it truly means to create deep connection with your partner. Drawing from Scott's personal transformation through The Powerful Man, the conversation challenges the common belief that intimacy begins in the bedroom. Instead, they reveal how emotional presence, vulnerability, and consistent leadership create the foundation for lasting intimacy.

Scott shares...

Episode #1178

If you want a stronger relationship, take an honest look at your calendar.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis explore a simple but revealing question: Do your inputs match the relationship you want to have? Many men hope for more intimacy, deeper connection, and a stronger marriage, yet the way they spend their time often tells a different story.

Using the analogy of training for an Ironman, Tim explains why expecting a thriving relationship without consistently investing in it is like expecting to finish a race...

Episode #1177

You can put in all the effort in the world, but if it's not the effort your wife is asking for, your relationship may still feel stuck.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis unpack one of the most common traps successful men fall into: believing that working harder on themselves automatically leads to a stronger marriage. While personal growth is important, it isn't a substitute for genuine connection.

Tim shares the story of a man who was committed to coaching, routines, and self-improvement but still struggled...

Episode #1176

Growth doesn't come from knowing more. It comes from applying what you already know.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and TPM Coach Neil explore what it really means to "eat your own cooking." As coaches, they believe they can't ask others to do the work if they aren't willing to do it themselves. That mindset sparks a conversation about personal growth, integrity, accountability, and why lasting transformation requires action, not just information.

Doug and Neil discuss the trap of constantly consuming books, podcasts, and self-improvement content without ever...

Episode #1175

Most men think getting healthier means spending more time in the gym. But what if the real answer is training smarter, moving better, and staying consistent?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with performance coach Franz Snyman to discuss a practical approach to fitness for busy men. Drawing on three decades of coaching experience, Franz explains why chasing the "perfect" workout often keeps men from taking action, and how simple, sustainable habits create lasting results.

Together, they explore why strength is only one part of overall fitness...

Episode #1174

Sometimes the biggest breakthrough in your marriage doesn't come from a grand gesture. It starts by taking responsibility for the things you've been avoiding.

In this live Q&A episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt coaches several men through real relationship challenges, including separation, rebuilding trust, dating after divorce, balancing business with marriage, and navigating emotional conflict. Each conversation reveals practical ways men can reclaim leadership in their relationships without trying to control or change their partner.

Doug explains why emotional safety is built through consistency, how taking ownership without blame...

Episode #1173

The legacy you leave isn't something that starts in the future. You're creating it every single day.

In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with TPM Coach Neil to revisit one of the most important transitions men face: watching their children grow up while continuing to evolve as the father, husband, and man they want to become.

The conversation opens with Neil reflecting on a meaningful moment—sending his 11-year-old son away on his first extended trip without either parent. That experience becomes the entry point into a...

Episode #1172

The feedback that stings the most is often the feedback we need to hear.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis explore why so many men become defensive when their partner shares difficult feedback, and how learning to stay open can completely transform a relationship.

For many men, criticism from a wife or partner can feel like a personal attack. The instinct is to defend, explain, react, or shut down. But Tim and Lawrence explain that beneath the discomfort is often an opportunity for deeper connection. Instead...

The life you want may be waiting on the other side of the emotions you've been trying to avoid.

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis explore why so many men unknowingly stay stuck by avoiding uncomfortable emotions like guilt, shame, rejection, loneliness, confrontation, and silence. Whether it's throwing yourself into work, fitness, hobbies, alcohol, social media, or even becoming overly busy with family responsibilities, these coping strategies can keep you from experiencing the connection, freedom, and fulfillment you're truly looking for.

This conversation is for men who feel like...

Episode #1170

Can a relationship recover after betrayal? And if trust has been broken, what does it actually take to rebuild it?

In this revisited episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen have an honest conversation about what happens after trust is broken through infidelity, addiction, or any major breach in a relationship. They explain why healing is about more than saying sorry, why accountability matters, and how both partners have a role in rebuilding a stronger foundation.

You'll hear why setting healthy boundaries is just as important as taking responsibility...

Episode #1169

What is polarity, and why does it matter so much in a relationship?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis break down what polarity really looks like in everyday life. It's not about being controlling or acting tough. It's about knowing who you are, being present, taking initiative, and creating a relationship where both people can thrive.

Lawrence shares how years of being the nice guy left him passive in his marriage and disconnected from himself. As he began taking more ownership of his life, making decisions...

Episode #1168

What does polarity actually mean in a relationship? Is it about taking control, or is it something much simpler?

In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews sits down with Lawrence Davis to unpack one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships. They explore why so many men confuse leadership with control, how being the nice guy can quietly weaken connection, and what it really looks like to create trust, attraction, and emotional safety.

Through honest stories from Lawrence's own marriage and personal growth, you'll hear how small shifts like making...

Episode #1167

This is a revisit of one of our most important conversations because shame is something almost every man deals with, whether he realizes it or not. It can quietly shape the way you think, the way you lead, and the way you show up in your marriage, your business, and your life.

In this episode, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis take a deeper look at where shame comes from, how it develops over time, and why it often hides beneath the surface of success. They explain the difference between guilt and shame, why so...

Episode #1166

Shame has a way of shaping how you see yourself without you even realizing it. It can show up as feeling like you're not good enough, constantly chasing success to prove your worth, avoiding difficult conversations, or believing you have to keep everything bottled up.

In this episode, Tim Matthews and Lawrence Davis unpack where shame comes from, why it quietly drives so many men, and what it actually takes to move past it. They talk about the difference between shame and guilt, how childhood experiences influence the way we show up in relationships...

Episode #1165

Has your marriage started to feel more like a partnership built around schedules, kids, and responsibilities than a real relationship? If you feel like you and your wife are simply roommates with rings, you're not the only one.

In this episode, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen break down what happens when couples lose connection, intimacy, and the spark that once brought them together. They talk about the resentment that quietly builds over time, why so many men avoid coming home, how unspoken expectations create distance, and what it really takes to turn things around.<...