bed hoppers - swinging in the UK

Trigger warning: There are some tough themes in this episode including hospitals, operations, trauma and near death descriptions. If any of these impact you, you might want to skip this one.

In this episode we cover what's been going on and why this month has perhaps been the toughest we've ever faced. During a routine operation Mrs H goes into anaphylactic shock - we talk about what happened, what it meant for us and how she's doing several weeks on. We take the opportunity to thank family and friends for their help, care and support. Hopefully normal...

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In this episode we interview filmmakers Dillon and Urvashi, who discuss their documentary ‘More Than Monogamy’. The film is designed to educate on ethical non-monogamy - and is a fantastic beginners guide to swinging, ENM and more.

Dillon and Urvashi talk about some of the trials of getting the film made, why they set out to explore the topic and tell us a little bit about their own journeys in swinging. We cover the positives and negatives of the swinging lifestyle and have some fun along the way.

If you...

Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast. 

In this episode, we revamp the show a little bit and also interview the delightful Bex and Paul from untamed nights.

We talk about their journey, how they got started and what it's like running events. They offer some top tips for heading to events and how to make the most of your experience. We cover items for desert islands and have a great natter about all things swinger lifestyle. 

We hope you enjoy the new stuff - thanks for hopping into our bed.

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Hello and welcome to episode 222 - the last of season one!

In this edition Mrs H poses some questions around performative sexy times. Do you put on a show when you play with someone? Is it performative or are you just being you? We talk about putting on a show and if that's our bag, what we do for solo dates and if we prep more for other people. It's a fun little end to the first season of the bed hoppers podcast. 

Until season two arrives, thanks for hopping into our bed!

In this episode we recount our visit to Bristol Gardens Health Spa in Brighton. We talk about the venue being a professional naturist spa and its features, including a cafe, steam rooms, and private themed playrooms. We ponder if it’s a hook up place or somewhere to relax and unwind… Take a listen to our review to find out more.

We also mark our podcast’s eight-year anniversary. Mr. H reflects on the personal "cost" of production, including the intensive editing time and the emotional toll of negative online feedback. We talk about the future of the sh...

Welcome to the latest edition of the bed hoppers podcast. We're back after a few weeks of illness for Mr H.

We talk about what we've been up to since Christmas and New Year and take a look at what we've got coming up.

Mr H asks Mrs H if we're really swingers - and what all of this stuff means to us. Are we successful, would or should we change things? Is our approach moving along? It's a pretty big discussion that gets a little pokey (don't worry though - we're all good, promise...

In this episode we invite sexy friends Secret Stag and Secret Vixen behind the mic once more and catch up on what they've been up to over the last year. They talk about adventures in hot wifing, a trip to a hotwife takeover event in the states, answer our questions and share some of their sexiest moments. We cover how they're going in their lifestyle journey and look to what 2026 might mean for them. 

It's a handy episode if you've been following them, are interested in hotwifing and hot wife events and if you're up for a c...

In this episode we talk about 2025 and explore some of our highs and lows for the year. We talk a little about the future and what the coming year might look like for our adventures. We chat about some forthcoming solo dates and our plans for how they might work. Mr H is getting ready to go to a party - so we talk about boundaries, possible situations and how to keep Mrs H involved. It's a handy one if you're exploring solo adventures, thinking about how your year has been and what you might get up to in 2026...

Thanks for checking us out! In this delightful episode we follow up on Mrs H's side quest, which we spoke about in the previous podcast. Essentially, she was challenged to film some naughty content and send it to Mr H whilst he was on his solo date. Did she film it? Did she send it? Was it sexy? For the answers to this and more, take a lovely listen to this show!

We cover how we're feeling about pictures and videos, if that's changed following the side quest and what we might do in the future. Might...

Ahhhh swingers and posting pictures. Have you ever joined a swinging site and recoiled in horror at some of the pictures posted? Perhaps you feel like you could never compete? Or maybe you constantly share pictures and videos every three and a half minutes? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are prob'ly human! Congratulations! We talk about all things posting pics and vids. We cover what we like, what doesn't work for us and how things have changed. Mrs H accepts a challenge and we share our thoughts on why we do what we...

This episode features delightful guests Mr and Ms J - who talk about their journey into the swinging lifestyle. We cover a whole host of things from dealing with anxiety, diving straight into clubs, what they'd throw in the lifestyle bin and what challenges children might bring into their adventures. Mr and Mrs H also have a bit of a chat about getting videos and pictures - it's only the start of that conversation but we'd love to know your thoughts. Bob us an email at bedhoppersuk@gmail.com 

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Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast. In this episode we talk about our last week or two and how it feels like we’re turning a corner. From awesome threesomes to sexy solo dates and steps in the right direction on meds, it has certainly been a delightful period!

We bring you up to date on our latest escapades, talk about our solo adventures, recount some sexy moments and celebrate how things are on the right track. It might not all be perfect, but it’s lovely to share a slice of the good stuff that’s been g...

This episode starts with an update from us, we check in on Mrs H's menopause progress, chat about the Thrifty shades of grey event and touch on some of our recent adventures.   Our main feature is an interview with Sam, an energetic single man in his early 40s, who describes himself as bisexual and "ADHD as hell". Sam is navigating the lifestyle after a 16-year vanilla relationship, exploring experiences while seeking companionship. He talks about some of the challenges, his advice for newcomers and how he'd bring up the lifestyle conversation with a new partner. He's a delightful guest with p...

We invite two lovely ladies, Bunny and A, to join us for a chat exploring their journey, swinging lifestyle experiences and what they'd throw into room 101. They talk about their new relationship, how it came about and what it means for them and A's partner. We touch on our recent social event, announce a new one and they fire a question or two at us. It's a fabulous interview, digging into new relationships, exploring new dynamics and finding out more about hot husbanding too. 

If you're interested in our Thrifty Shades of Grey event in December, do g...

In this episode we speak to Jess, who shares her personal journey and insights into the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle. Jess, describing herself as a "9-year-old who has been to a lot of therapy", recounts entering the scene through polyamory after university and later discovering swinging post-lockdown.
She identifies as solo poly, preferring to engage in swinging independently, shaped by her own desires and boundaries. Jess emphasises the importance of "doing the work" to unlearn monogamous norms, reframing jealousy, and establishing clear boundaries, particularly not dating monogamous individuals or poly people with negative views on swinging. She covers body image...

In this episode we bring you up to date on what's being going on in our lives. From poorly pets, to great lifestyle success, solo dates, all the way through to HRT - we give you a behind the scenes look at life with the bed hoppers. Find out if Mrs H picked up on some recent sexy hints!
We move on to talk about Channel 4's Open House programme. We talk about what worked for us in season three, what could have been better and why we occasionally yelled at the TV. We add some listener views...

In this episode we chat to single fella Gav. He talks about his journey, how he's started exploring his bi side and some of the challenges you might face as a single gentleman exploring the swinging lifestyle. We cover advice for newbies, what Gav would put in the lifestyle bin and if we've ever deleted one of our podcast recordings. It's fun romp through one man's journey from newbie to experienced swinger.

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Look out for Gav on Fabswingers and other sites at gavla7799.

In this episode (part two of two) we talk about our final few days in Cap d'Agde and our experience as part of the Spicy Match and Libertine event. We cover the foam party, Le Glamour and our overall experience in the French naturist village. We pick up where we left off on the question 'are we shit swingers?' and try to figure out what's changed and why. As ever, we'd love your thoughts - so please reach out to bedhoppersuk@gmail.com. 

This one is perfect if you're looking to explore Cap d'Agde, thinking about a...

In this episode we talk about our trip to the South of France, visiting the naturist village of Cap d'Agde. 

This one is a two parter - with more to follow, but we do explore the first half of our week. We talk about about some of the clubs, events and what we got from our Spicy Match trip. From poolside orgies to cold sores - this one covers a lot of ground! Mr H takes time out to reflect on 'if we are good swingers?' and we talk about our style. If you're heading to C...

In this episode we talk about Mrs H's solo adventure in Paris. Was it all Pokemon hunting or was there something a little more naughty? We explore how it all went, how we felt during the trip and talk a little bit about what Mr H got up to whilst Mrs H was away. 

Will Mrs H bring him back a croissant, will it be too hot in Paris, will Mr H have changed the theme tune again and what happens when storm stops play? Find out all of this and more in this delightful edition of t...

This episode features a candid conversation with delightful guests Ads and Chantelle, about their experiences in the swinging lifestyle.

They discuss how they initially entered the lifestyle through an amateur adult content blog and the subsequent evolution of their relationship, including Chantelle's discovery of her bisexuality and Ads's exploration of his own.

The couple shares insights into overcoming challenges, such as ghosting and boundary violations, and emphasise the importance of communication and building a supportive community within the lifestyle. They also touch upon their role in organising social events and offer advice to newcomers, advocating...

In this episode we dive into a discussion about rules and boundaries. We talk about how our rules have evolved from when we first started swinging, how they’ve changed and why we’ve changed them. We explore why we have them there in the first place and if we’ve broken any rules along the way.

You might find this a useful listen if you’re about to explore ethical non monogamy and swinging - or it might be a timely reminder to have a discussion about your current rules and boundaries. Either way, we dig into the...

In this episode we catch up on our solo dating experiences and explore why we've been having some separate play dates over the last few months. We cover what's to come and why we might keep this activity as part of our overall play experience. If you're looking to explore this aspect of Swinging, this one might inspire a conversation or two. And if you're just looking to be entertained, there's nothing better than Mrs H trying to tell a sexy story (we can't back that up). 

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Did you know that data is sexy? Join our episode today and find out about a recent survey we put out about swinging and people's experiences. We make some surprising discoveries about when people started, who brought it up and what people would throw in the swinging lifestyle bin. From age ranges to play-style preferences, we excel at exploring a whole range of data (ha! spreadsheet puns - I wonder what the formula for those is?).

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Come along to the Manchester Mixer - details here...

This episode features Rich and Jo, who playfully describe each other before discussing their entry into the swinging lifestyle via online platforms and initial club experiences. A key theme is communication, which they highlight as crucial for navigating their relationship and has positively impacted their "vanilla" life. They also delve into their adult ADHD diagnoses, finding relief in understanding their behaviours, and discuss the potential link between neurodiversity and the lifestyle, including the concept of "risky sexual behaviour".

Navigating jealousy and boundaries is explored through personal anecdotes, emphasising that jealousy is normal but manageable within agreed...

Thanks for joining our 200th episode! Some very special guests host this one and put us (Mr and Mrs H) under the spotlight. The conversation explores the podcast's origins, our favourite episodes, and memorable guests, and touches on some of the challenges too. We explore events we've have hosted and dream events we'd host if given the chance!

Of course, we trade some playful jabs about our past misadventures. We offer some podcasting advice and future aspirations for the show. 

Thanks for hopping into our bed - here's to another 200!

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In this episode we talk about how we've had a few dates recently and offer some top tips on the topic.

We discuss our experiences with 'social dates' - exploring potential romantic connections with other couples or singles within the swinging lifestyle. We share advice on initiating contact, choosing appropriate venues, communicating effectively, and navigating the complexities of physical intimacy on a first date.

Our conversation also touches on pre-date preparations, communication methods, and dealing with post-date reflections. Finally, we offer tips for listeners on how to have successful social dates, emphasising safety, respect, and...

In this episode we talk to the delightful Ticket2Ride and quiz them about how they got started, what it's like identifying as a straight girl in a bi-world and how not everyone has a fantasy. We take time out to explore their journey, the ups and downs and what they'd like to throw in the lifestyle bin. We also announce a brand new event - a social in Manchester!

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Check out our guests on SwingHub at 'Ticket2Ride' and on Fab at https://www...

In this episode we talk to the New Forest Couple - that's Andrew and Clare. We explore their journey, approach and some of the challenges they've faced along the way. Clare opens up about how and why events and meets can be a struggle and offers some great advice for anyone with a disability looking to join the lifestyle. This is an open and honest conversation that you will not want to miss.

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Find out about The New Forest Couple by heading to Swinghub and...

In this episode we interview sexy friends Pennylane and Starlord. Be warned though - it's Mr H's birthday and it's possible that we've had some cocktails. We explore some of the challenges they've faced, what they'd throw in the lifestyle bin and learn how they got started in the swinging lifestyle. Join us for a really fun conversation and exploration into how this couple have navigated their experiences.

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Find out more about Starlord and Pennylane by heading to fab at: https://www.fabswingers.com/profile...

In this episode we talk to Shiv and Tom - a couple who are relatively new in their journey. They talk about their experiences, how they got started, advice for folks just starting out and what they'd throw in the lifestyle bin. It's a fun little conversation - with something for everyone.

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Find Shiv and Tom on Swinghub by searching 'Shiv&Tom'

Want to come along to our awesome Candyland event in January 2025? Head here to grab your tickets: https://wanderlustswingers.com/london/<...

Welcome to the bed hoppers podcast!

In this episode we kick off a brand new series of interviews. We'll be chatting to guests about their journey, their thoughts on ethical non monogamy and the highs, lows and challenges that they've faced. This week we are joined by Ruby and Cole who share how they got started, talk about their dynamic and their tips on what to do if you get locked out of your room.

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Find Ruby and Cole on Swinghub b...

In this episode we explore New Years Eve (NYE) and some of our previous experiences of the night. We talk about what to expect, how to survive and tackle some of our top tips. We touch on house parties, nights at clubs, managing expectations, what to wear and more. If you're thinking of doing a swinger club on NYE (be it your first club visit or your 100th) then this might just be the episode for you! 

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Want to come along to our awesome Candyland e...

In this episode we take time out to explore an article that featured in the Sun. We talk about some of the reactions from the community and how we feel about it. We also share a story where Mr H faces a challenging moment and isn't performing to his normal standards. What went wrong and what have we learned since then?

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Read the article we mention: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/31158998/gran-canaria-nude-beach-swinging-orgies-sex/

Visit our website here: https://www.bedhoppers.co.uk/

In this episode we field some questions from our listeners and discord community. Questions include if we see ourselves in the lifestyle in 10 years time, would we ever leave, is there anything we'd change about our journey and who do we admire? We work out which celebs would be on our hall passes and if we've had any negative experiences that have had a lasting impact. It's a fun rambling exploration of our past, present and future. 

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In this edition of the bed hoppers podcast we talk about female masturbation and put Mrs H in the hot seat. We talk about when she started, how frequently and what it means to her. We both explore the OMGYES site and talk about our experience in trying it out. Mrs H attempts to talk us through some sexy times too.

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In this episode Mrs H goes on a solo date and has a sexy catch up with a lady friend. We talk about what she got up to (cue awks retelling of sexy times), what the experience was like and if she'd like to do it all again. Since it's us, not everything goes to plan - so we also talk about what went wrong and how we might do things differently. We talk about solo play in general and then a have a recording from some delightful friends covering their experiences in going Han-Solo. 

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In this episode we talk about some of the surprising challenges that folks might face whilst being in the swinging lifestyle. We know that things aren't always roses and rainbows, so we asked our community to send in things that shocked them once they had started swinging - and what really surprised them. From costs and cliques to reactions about bi guys and expectations around bi ladies - this one covers a whole bunch of surprising things!

Do let us know what has surprised you since you've started on your adventures. Stay tuned to the very end...

In this episode we talk about our Neon Dreams event at Vanilla Alternative. We cover the behind the scenes gossip, the naughty times, the changes to VA and how it went for us. If you've ever wondered what a swingers takeover might be like, how VA has changed over the years or just want a nose about how our recent event went - then this is the episode for you. From lap dances and photography classes to pre-parties and walks of shame, there's something here for everyone!

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In this episode we take a trip down memory lane and talk about how our lifestyle journey began. We work through how we've changed in the eight or so years and also reflect on how the scene has changed in that time. If you've ever wondered how we got started or how things have changed in the lifestyle, then this might just be the episode for you.

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