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10 Lies You've Been Told About Your Marriage
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You’ve been lied to about your marriage.
Not by your spouse. By everything you’ve been told about what it takes to save one.
It takes two.
Give it time.
It’s too late.
We’re just incompatible.
We already tried counseling.
I hear these from our clients at Marriage Helper every single week. And every one of them is a lie.
Here’s the truth. Most of the time, your spouse is not the reason you can’t save...
This Could Absolutely Destroy Your Marriage
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Here's the truth: Your marriage is the most important relationship you have on this planet. So when that relationship is in crisis, you should trust someone to help you put it back together.
In this video, I break down what's happened in the marriage space over the last 24 months, what to look out for, and I even give you 3 options of people to work with who AREN'T Marriage Helper (of course I hope you choose us 🙂)
The bottom line is this – find someone you trust to help...
Forgiveness Sucks...
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They say forgive and forget.
That’s not how it works.
You can forgive without forgetting. You can forget without forgiving. Or you can do neither and carry it for the rest of your life until it turns you bitter.
Here’s the truth. Forgiveness sucks. It’s hard. And the day before I taught on it to my Connection Compass group, I found out someone had lied to me and stabbed me in the back. I didn’t want to forgive. I wanted to hate...
Does God REALLY Want You To Leave Your Marriage?
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God did not tell you to leave your marriage.
I need to say that plainly, because I keep hearing the opposite.
“I’ve been praying about it.”
 “I think God is showing me a way out.”
 “I just don’t feel it anymore, so maybe this is His answer.”
Friends, that is not an answer from God. That is sin wearing Christian language.
This week a man left a comment on one of my videos. His wife had been praying for months. There...
Why Your Husband Won't Talk To You (And How To Fix It)
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He talks to everyone at the party.
Then you get in the car and he goes silent.
You ask a question. Nothing. You tell him about your day. Nothing.
And you start to wonder if every other woman in that room was prettier, or funnier, or more interesting than you.
Here's what I've learned after years of this work. Most men don't go quiet because they stopped caring. They go quiet because somewhere along the way, talking stopped feeling safe.
...
Is AI Ruining Your Marriage? What You Need To Know
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AI can give you brilliant relationship information.
It can also give you brilliantly bad advice.
And you won't know which one you got until it blows up in your face.
Here's a true story.
A woman's husband was flying home from a business trip. She wanted to show him how much she loved him. So she asked AI what to do.
It gave her a list. She picked one.
Lingerie from Victoria's Secret. Rose petals from the garage...
How To Get The RIGHT Help For Your Marriage
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Doing nothing feels safe.
It isn't.
When your marriage starts falling apart, most people freeze. You don't want to make it worse. You don't want the conflict. You don't know what to say. So you wait and hope it settles on its own.
It almost never does.
You really only have three options when trouble shows up. Do nothing. Get the wrong help. Get the right help.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through all three, and why the...
How To Punish My Cheating Spouse
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They didn't make a mistake.
A mistake is grabbing the wrong bag at baggage claim. A mistake is an accident you didn't choose.
What happened to you was a choice. They knew. And calling it a mistake is just a softer word for something that isn't soft at all.
So the anger makes sense. The urge to make them feel a fraction of what you're feeling makes sense.
Which brings us to the actual question.
How do you...
Do Cheaters Always Cheat?
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Do cheaters always cheat?
You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse.
After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down three different kinds of affairs, because the answer to your question changes completely depending on which one you're actually dealing with.
The high opportunity, low involvement affair. Wrong place, wrong time, no...
Standing When Your Spouse Checks Out
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Everyone around you is starting to ask the same question.
Why are you still trying?
Your spouse is checked out. Maybe they've stopped sleeping in the same bed. Maybe they've moved out completely. Maybe there's someone else. And nothing you've tried has moved the needle even an inch.
So the people who love you start looking at you sideways. They think you're standing in a graveyard.
Here's what they're missing.
Standing for your marriage doesn't require certainty. It requires confidence.<...
Dr. John Gottman Reveals All The Top Secrets For Great Relationships
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Most marriage advice is recycled fluff.
This is not.
I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them.
Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings.
And what he told me?
Some of it will surprise you.
The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid...
Affairs, AI, and a 30 Year Crush – Reacting To Unhinged YouTube Comments
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You leave the comments. I read them.
This week I'm going straight into the ones that made me stop scrolling. The bold ones. The angry ones. The ones that questioned everything I teach.
A woman still carrying a crush from 30 years ago, wondering why it still hurts.
A commenter convinced that saving a marriage means forcing two miserable people to stay together.
Someone who swears you could never ask your spouse what makes them feel loved and actually get an answer.
<...How To Identify A Limerent Affair
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You're convinced nobody has ever felt what you're feeling right now.
I understand why. But I've sat with hundreds of people who felt the exact same thing.
The obsessive pull toward someone who isn't your spouse.
 The daydreaming that swallows most of your day.
 The spiral when they don't text back fast enough.
 The certainty that this one person is the only thing standing between you and a happy life.
It has a name. Limerence.
It feels like the dee...
"My Husband Paid Me $2000 To Marry Him" – Answering Listener Questions
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You made a commitment. But you're not sure you'd make it again.
That's where a lot of people are. And in this episode, I answer their questions honestly.
One woman has been married 41 years. She loves her husband. She's just never been in love with him. She's asking if it's too late, or if this whole thing was a 41-year mistake.
Another asks the thing most separated spouses are afraid to say out loud. If we're both doing fine apart, if we're both becoming...
How to Get Your Spouse to ACTUALLY Talk to You Again
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Most conversations with your spouse aren't going anywhere.
They're stale. They're tense. Or they've stopped happening altogether.
Every time you try to talk, it turns into the same fight. You go in circles. And somehow you land worse than where you started.
Here's the shift: stop circling. Start looping.
A circle erases. Every fight burns down whatever progress you made and...
Our Counselor Told Us To Divorce... We Saved Our Marriage Instead
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Everyone told Scott to walk away.
The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it.
He didn't walk away.
Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried.
In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me...
What To Do When You're Stuck In A Sexless Marriage
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You think it's a sex problem.
Most of the time, it isn't.
When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started.
Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck.
Here's the part...
Am I Wrong For Questioning My Marriage After What My Husband Told Me?
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He sent me a message.
He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home.
She read it and printed divorce papers.
Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened?
Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong.
She thinks he's gaslighting her. She...
The 4 Things That Make Your Spouse Want to Come Home
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Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them.
But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with.
You.
So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back.
In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the...
The Ultimate Guide To Saving Your Marriage When You're The Only One Trying
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You can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do.
That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pushing them further away.
In...
Stop Asking Your Spouse To Work On The Marriage – Part 1
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Asking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working.
Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem.
Stop asking.
Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night.
They need a different reason to walk through the door.
In this video, Amber and I break down how...
How To Choose Between Yourself And Your Marriage
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You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage.
That's the lie that keeps people stuck.
Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage.
Those aren't your only options.
In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so many marriages either dissolve or destroy the people inside them.
<...I've Been Teaching This Marriage Principle Wrong For 14 Years...
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I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years.
And I've been getting it wrong.
The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention.
It's true. But it's only half the story.
Because perception can be weaponized.
"He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one."
"He spent $60 on roses and didn't even put them in wa...
Counseling vs. Marriage Helper Coaching... What's The Difference? – MH LIVE
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3 Things To Know Before You Start Standing For Your Marriage
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Marriage advice isn't dead.
Bad marriage advice is dead.
Nobody wants to "just give it time." Nobody wants to be told to punish their spouse into coming back. Nobody wants a counselor telling them to have a revenge affair to "even the score."
(Yes, real counselors actually say that.)
You want your marriage back. With your dignity intact.
In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through the 3 things you HAVE to do before you start standing for your marriage.
<...The First 3 Steps To Save Your Marriage
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Your marriage didn't fall apart overnight.
It won't be saved overnight either.
But it can be saved.
Most people in a marriage crisis do the wrong things. Not because they're bad people, but because they're in pain.
They beg. They plead. They give ultimatums.
They go silent and call it "boundaries."
They follow every piece of bad advice the internet throws at them.
How To Stop Your Spouse From Leaving... Stop Trying
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If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them.
Block the exit.
Monitor their phone.
Guilt them into staying.
That doesn't work.
In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage.
You're focused on the exterior pull.
The other person. Th...
How To Stand Up For Your Marriage Without Ending It
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Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat.
Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache.
Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine.
She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house stayed dark for months. She became a shell of the woman she...
How A Spouse Feels After Cheating
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Most people whose spouse cheated are asking the wrong question: "Why did they do it?" The better question right now is: "What are they feeling now that it's over?"
In this video, Marriage Helper breaks down the three emotional states a cheating spouse typically falls into after the affair ends, and what each one means for the future of your marriage.
The spouse who feels nothing and justifies what they di...
This Could Change The Way You Think About Sex
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Is pornography sabotaging your sex life and your marriage?
In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down the three ways pornography creates unrealistic expectations, leads to sexual dysfunction, and destroys real intimacy in marriage. Whether it is visual pornography, erotic novels, or the shows you watch, the effects on your relationship and sex life are more damaging than most people realize. If you want a better sex life and a stronger marriage, it starts with addressing the real relationship problems underneath.
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What Most People Get Wrong About Marriage
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Are you stuck in the same relationship patterns and wondering why nothing ever changes? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down what most people get wrong about marriage and relationships, and what you actually need to do to turn things around. Drawing from a powerful biblical story and real-life experience, Dr. Holmes shares why real relationship change starts with you, why getting uncomfortable is the key to a thriving marriage, and how to stop waiting for your spouse to change so your marriage can...
When You Feel Like You're The Only One In The Marriage
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The 1 Thing You Can Do To Stop Your Spouse From Leaving
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Are you in panic mode because your spouse wants to leave, has moved out, or is talking about divorce? Your instincts are probably telling you to do whatever it takes to pull them back—but that might be pushing them further away.
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How do you get a spouse to stay? You cannot force or manipulate someone into staying in a marriage. To truly save your relationship, you must shift from controlling behaviors (beggi...
I Want To Save My Marriage But I Don't Know How To Start
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The Missing Piece To Saving Your Broken Marriage
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You’ve probably heard the classic advice: "If you want to save your marriage, you have to work on yourself." But what if that’s only half the truth?
In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Marriage Helper COO Marcos Silva reveal why focusing purely on self-improvement can actually be a trap that pushes your spouse further away. While working on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attraction) is a vital first step, doing it solely for yourself—or solely to manipulate your spouse's reaction—will leave yo...
The Real Reason for Sexual Disconnect In Your Marriage
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Are you living in a sexless marriage?
Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences a spouse can face. It destroys self-esteem, creates a "lonely" atmosphere in the home, and often leads to a cycle of pressure and withdrawal. But most of the advice out there—like "just communicate better" or "make a list"—doesn't actually work. Why? Because sexual frustration is rarely just about the sex itself.
In this deep dive, Dr. Joe Beam unpacks what actually drives desire and what erodes it. Whether you...
What Sexual Frustration Actually Reveals In A Marriage
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Can One Person Save a Marriage? The 7-Step Path to Stopping Divorce
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If your marriage has gone from "good" to "bad" and you’re terrified that you’ll be divorced in the next six months, you are not alone. Most people think it takes two to save a marriage—but at Marriage Helper, we’ve spent 30 years proving that one spouse can change the entire dynamic of a relationship.
In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down the fundamental process that has helped thousands of couples—even those in "hopeless" situations—turn things around and build a dream life together.
In...
The Marriage Turnaround Plan (Step-By-Step Guide)
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Why The Affair Partner Doesn't Actually Matter
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In today's Marriage Helper LIVE, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly explain why focusing on the affair partner doesn't actually matter, and take live questions from callers. This show also features segments from Micheal Felker and Nathan Grounds.
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