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Spotify vs. Apple. Robots grading our papers even though we’re not allowed to use ChatGPT to write them. Allison brings a story from r/AmIOverReacting about a woman whose boyfriend faked an entire online friend group she became a part of. Then, finding a “provider man” to date. Sprinkle sprinkle! Plus, selling your advice and solutions as a grift. The manosphere of Reddit is gross and sexist and Gabe is in the thick of it. They said no one could ever bring a post from r/imaginarygatekeeping to TLDRI. In r/pointlesslygendered, no woman would ever be emotional about...

Gabe has been on T for three years! A listener writes in to ask if her concerns about her boyfriend are legitimate or if she’s just in a relationship OCD (ROCD) spiral. Next, authors Hallie Bateman and Suzy Hopkins join the podcast to talk about working together as mother and daughter and their books about the hard moments in life, like when your husband leaves you for an ex girlfriend or when your mother dies. And finally, Allison convinced Gabe to join Substack and it’s been great!

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Gabe has a lovely woo-woo moment of connection with his dead uncle. Melisa has monetized being an oldest child. An OP laments an employer that asks him to bring Starbucks to the interview. A child steals an idol from a museum. A therapist accidentally sends a client a nude photo. A woman is the reason her co-worker is getting divorced--and it's not what you think. And finally, Gabe tries to guess Allison's baby name. He fails.  

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Hosting etiquette gets heated and dissected. A listener writes in upset that her friends let their boyfriends read their private text messages. Then, the first out British Rugby League player Keegan Hirst joins the podcast to talk about coaching for gay men, the standards for queer bodies, what it was like coming out while actively playing, and why having abs won’t save your life. Finally, Allison walks us through her first trimester of pregnancy. It's not fun. 

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Catacombs. A doctor demolishes UnitedHealth with a scathing email after they deny nausea meds to a pediatric cancer patient. A friend’s boyfriend gives a girl a very expensive birthday present …with a twist. r/meme breaks Gabe’s brain with a redo of the Gregorian calendar into a lunar calendar. r/serverlife brings us a story of an anonymous letter and the return of a ring lost at Texas Roadhouse. Then, AN ABSOLUTELY BANANAS story about a woman, her husband, her husband’s female best friend and a photoshoot. And finally, science tells us if human and plant DNA can...

Ginger beer and ginger ale. Pee and poop on the company’s time. There’s a difference between looking in shape and being healthy. A listener writes in asking how to handle jealousy of her friend who lives a privileged life. Next, the duo interviews the author of “Ping,” Andrew Brodsky, on digital communication and how it influences closeness between people. How do we convey tone and avoid heinous miscommunications? What do different methods of communication — voice memos, Instagram DMs, phone calls — say about the information being conveyed? And finally, our sliding door moments. What if Gabe and Allison never met?

A British publication ghosts Allison. Should students be allowed to show their work through dance instead of an essay? A researcher is almost kidnapped. Should she tell her boss? Gabe and Melisa share the different vibes of Nextdoor, Craigslist and Citizen. An r/AITH causes controversy over what is appropriate babysitting attire. And finally, can someone be allergic to their own earwax? And what does earwax mean exactly?

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First, Allison's ingrown toenail. Next, a listener writes in wondering if it's okay to contact their brother's ex who they always liked and are worried about. Dr. Drew Ramsey then joins the show to talk about the merits and limits of nutritional psychiatry, and how food and lifestyle factors like sleep influence mental health. And finally, Allison and Melisa have good advice and Gabe… has some stuff to say.

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An OP is annoyed that people don't introduce others to each other any more. Allison learns about how parasocial CrossFit and Peloton are. A letter to an ex is beautifully written and a total mic drop. This prompts Gabe to wonder why that would be helpful. r/TalesFromTheFrontDesk brings us stories of hotel guests who can not read signs. Then, r/somethingimade is the wholesome subreddit we all need. 

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Gabe and Allison need wrist-friendly keyboards. Then, a listener writes in to ask about resenting their partner for delaying life stages with jobs and interests that don’t make enough money. Next, author Lisa A. Phillips joins the show to talk about navigating first loves and talking to your teenager about sex and relationships. And finally, self-promotion! Allison has a novel out now! Go get it!

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Gabe recounts the tales of their neurologist who Allison hates. R/casualconversation brings us an awkward misunderstanding about cereal and bicycles, baby teeth and the Bill Clinton scandal. Gabe drops insane pizza lore from his time as a reporter. An OP in R/askwomen asks what the best piece of gossip you’ve ever heard is. Finally, an evil stepmother.

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Gabe and Allison disagree on apple flavoring. A listener writes in to ask what to do about their obsessive thoughts about their ex, even though they’re in a different relationship. Author Anu Gupta joins the show to talk about bias as a learned habit and how to listen and engage with people we want to examine their bias. Then, mermaids and the French Excursion. And finally, physical pain.

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An OP finds out a very bad family secret and wonders if they should share. Then, someone saw an influencer family recording content in the airport and then going back to real life. It’s weird. Gabe and Melisa explain a segment of the news called What Would You Do? Speaking of awkwardness in public, an introverted OP is told to smile by a sandwich clerk. A loyalty tracker ring keeps couples faithful by tracking their emotions and arousal. Then, Jesus heads.

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Dentists once again are untrustworthy. Or are they? An international question asks if it’s okay to expect friends not to cancel on plans all the time. Is this a national epidemic? Then, listener and parenting coach Marie Covington joins the show to talk about the pressure to immediately become a perfect parent and caregiver without any guidebook. And finally, flowers are in bloom, birds are singing! It’s springtime!

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Allison has maybe her best intro yet! R/datinghell features a guy who is convinced everyone wants to sleep with him. The trio describe each other as real estate--as one does. r/weirdbuttrue asks for redditors' favorite weird facts in an ineffective way. r/randomthoughts redefines being cool. And finally, are people utilizing their ceiling fans enough? 

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Gabe shares his feelings on seeing his videos pre-transition. A nonbinary listener from Colorado asks how to explain to their MAGA family why they are going no contact with them without their family thinking they're being brainwashed by the left. Then, Lucy Rose joins the pod to talk about writing a horror novel, why genre is so fun, and how cannibalism dovetails with parenthood. And finally, Allison did the voices for her rom com novel's audiobook and she was VERY nervous.

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Melisa and Gabe know a lot about Hamlet. Allison brings us a tale from r/amItheAngel that involves cheating and a very stupid man. R/nicegirls has a text thread from a girl who threatens someone with using her uncle’s political power? A former Bachelor contestant has become a bonkers evangelical podcaster with her billionaire husband. And finally, elephants.

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Everyone has hand problems. Then, a listener writes in wondering about a potential situationship who insists he’s too broken to date. Next, former hospice nurse and death doula Suzanne O’Brien joins for an incredible conversation about “a good death.” And finally, Melisa and Gabe explain dog whistles and their true meanings.

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Allison learns about a shot ski. In r/psychic a mother wonders how to nurture her clairvoyant child. r/coolguides brings the joy of the rules for writing episodes of the Coyote and Roadrunner. Plus, a guide to what each age of bees must contribute to the hive. Then everyone likes Gilligan’s Island, which brings a cute story about Gabe’s sister. r/nostupidquestions asks is it weird for a woman’s friend’s fiance to text her? Finally could a bug become a chef?

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Gabe has a financial tidbit for survivors of intimate partner violence. Then, a listener writes in with a theory that people need to get new best friends when they have kids, and wonders how to find a best friend. Then, somatic coach Victoria Albina joins the show to explore Gabe’s codependency and explain people pleasing as way more than we think. And finally, dancing!

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Melisa's dirty joke sparks a new ideology. r/relationshipadvice shockingly proves that sometimes getting a dog isn't the answer. r/confessions features an OP who is overlooking his new girlfriend's bad behavior because of her looks. r/nostupidquestions wonders if waiters can refuse certain orders. r/losangeles ask what it's like to be a regular. And finally, radioactive twinkies. 

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Allison is loving being a relationship coach! A listener writes in because her partner won't stop googling a random girl--multiple times a day. Journalist Charly Edsitty joins the chat to share what's been going on in tribal communities that mainstream media misses--including a fight for water. And finally, Gabe dishes on his new day-job. 

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Melisa explains the story of a husband who faked his own death. (After we recorded, he turned himself in.) What are our movie trope pet peeves? Then we head to r/whitepeopletwitter for a timeline of what it means to be progressive and counterculture. r/raisedbynarcissists brings us a story about a man who finally stands up to his mother. A female coworker asks a man to be her maid of honor for an offensive reason. And finally homemade umbrella-ella-ella eh eh eh!

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Gabe and Allison worry about their attention spans. Then, the duo gives advice to someone wondering about reconciling with a former friend and creative partner with whom they no longer want to be as close. Next, Julie and Yue of the Dateable Podcast join the show to nerd out about modern dating, ways to find more success on the apps, the misconceptions and why “icks” don’t allow for real relationships. In Hypotheticals, Gabe somehow manages to make it about blackmail. And finally, anxiety triggers. 

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The group discusses candy--in depth. r/self features a lovely nighttime ritual. A long tangent about movie trailers. r/weirdlyspecific sparks an Allison rant. r/relationshipadvice has an OP who is in a tricky financial situation. r/doctorsofreddit asks what was the best self-diagnosis they've heard. r/movies shows how misinformation can transform one's viewing experience. And finally, what even counts as a vegetable these days? 

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Gabe shares his horrific road rage incident from the perspective of one day after it happened. (We recorded this episode in November!) Author Molly Roden Winter joins the chat to discuss opening her marriage and her life to public scrutiny through her memoir MORE. And finally, the masculinity crisis. Why (the heck) are men so angry? 

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Allison dives deep into the hit film The BeeKeeper. r/murderbywords asks some tough questions about humanity. r/fauxmoi exposes a celebrity for being serious. r/thingsmykidssaid features a hilarious misunderstanding of recent history. r/amitheasshole exposes some problematic grandparents. r/relationshipadvice features more horrible in-laws. And finally, Gabe is furious that Allison doesn't know more about Gambit??? 

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Original Air Date: March 13, 2025

Welcome to the very special 5 year anniversary show!! Two former International Question writers give us INCREDIBLE updates. Then, our very first producer John Asante joins the show to reminisce about the podcast's origins and some dramatic, spicy behind the scenes tea. Plus, where will we be in five more years? Hopefully still here! 

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Original Air Date: July 24, 2019

Trigger Warning: Suicide Allison and Gabe help a listener figure out when it’s kosher to move in with a new partner. They’re then joined by Allison’s mom, Ruth Raskin (ruthraskinphoto), who discusses the challenges of raising a child with mental illness and the importance of facing it head on. Later they give all their thoughts and feelings about weddings. SPOILER: Do not have it outside.  

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Allison doesn't want to predict the future and Gabe's facial hair is itching. First, a listener writes in asking for advice on a potential estrangement from a brother and Gabe shares his personal experience. Then, Dr. Nicole Cain joins the show for a gorgeous, gentle and soothing talk about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and the options for treating trauma somatically. Were Allison and Gabe... "child stars?" And finally, Allison doesn't like Ryan Reynolds. 

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Allison officially loves witchy stuff. An OP has the perfect revenge for a woman who won't update her phone number. Next, a post prompts a discussion about the worst female protagonists. r/ask poses a question the trio can't resist. Gabe shares some funny name changes and then forgets the rules of Reddit Or Not. 

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Allison looks like a grown-up girl now. A listener wonders how to help her brother who won't go to therapy despite showing signs of mania again. Next, Meg Appelgate joins the conversation to talk about how the troubled teen industry takes advantage of parents' fears and traumatized kids, including her younger self. And finally, Allison shares what it was like to lose her mom. 

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Our election anxiety was correct. Then, Mark Ruffalo dreamed his own cancer diagnosis, we talk about taking sneaky photos of celebs at an event, and Gabe drops extensive Colin Jost dating lore. Next, Allison shares a post about a woman who overheard her fiance telling his boys he doesn't wanna get married and decided to let him off the hook. Gabe has an autistic question about why men complain about their wives. Then, cinnamon styrofoam and vanilla pods.

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Gabe and Melisa are slap happy up top. Then, a listener writes in asking what to do when her boyfriend's mental health is so poor it's making her life miserable. Next, psychotherapist Israa Nasir joins the podcast to talk about toxic productivity, the push to monetize every hobby, and how poverty, comparison, and hustle culture create more suffering. Hypotheticals is run by Melisa and boy, do we miss Allison. And finally, Melisa's origin story of becoming an expert on soap operas. 

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Allison’s gone and it’s just the DEI hires from the South today! After a bunch of tangents, we talk r/tipping, where flavors come from and which surprising ones Melisa hates, and a man whose wife is accusing him of fathering her friend’s baby. Then, an OP ends up telling lots of tall tales, and another watches 72 Disney movies. Gabe and Melisa recount their problematic 90s show choir experiences. Could Gabe beat RuPaul in a Drag Race trivia contest? 

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Gabe pretends to be Allison despite not doing any prep work. A listener writes in after being misled about the openness of a hook up's relationship status. Dr. Lee Airton then joins the chat to talk about all things gender. And finally, is posting strangers online kosher? (Not really!) 

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Gabe and Melisa carry the torch without Allison. r/amitheasshole tests a friendship group. An important shout out to Lady Gaga for being ahead of the curve. Melisa shares an intricate alien/time travel post that poses some intriguing theories. Gabe discloses some #cool childhood memories. r/paranormal reveals that new construction won't save you from the supernatural. And finally, is there a grief group for ghosts? 

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Allison's having a lot of water problems. A listener writes in asking if everyone needs to be in therapy even though they've had a hard time with past therapists. Author Jessica Slice then joins the show to talk about disability and dating, and her new book on disabled people being deemed "unfit parents." In Hypotheticals, what is Flurfle? Who is Janet Cilantro? And finally, our favorite songs. Melisa has a list. Gabe has facts about Jason Mraz. Allison only likes lyrics and has a great movie idea that we CAN NOT steal.

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Today an OP fucked up by wearing a hat to wash his hair. Then, we talk tattoos, pretzel bites, short haircuts, orange tic tacs, dental work, and writing comedy for others to read. What is this show about exactly? r/nostupidquestions asks why we bother working when we still can’t afford anything? (Welcome, comrade!) Gabe gets on a financial soapbox! Should he go to Peru? In r/accidentalally we see JK Rowling using the singular they and hear a conspiracy theory about transvestigators. Plus what went away without anyone noticing? #nostalgia 

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Gabe's tracking his hairline and getting shots in the butt. A listener writes in asking if and how they can save a friendship where the other person doesn't seem interested in being friends. Then, Dr. Marie Thouin joins the show to talk about the history of compersion and how it can be used outside of a polyamorous context. And finally, Allison’s book all about Modern Marriage is about to come out! You can preorder it by clicking here!

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