Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Has your husband (or his therapist) weaponized codependency language to harm you? Here’s why codependents anonymous might not be right for you.

Is Codependents Anonymous the Answer for Betrayed Wives?

When a husband lies and cheats, many women are told: “You’re codependent. You should go to Codependents Anonymous.”
But here’s the truth: men often pick up “codependency” language from sexual addiction therapists or marriage counselors, but it’s actually a form of victim blaming.

When a professional slaps the “codependent” label on a wife who’s been betrayed, it shifts responsibility...

Husband future faking is when a husband uses promises about the future (trips, counseling, moving, budgets, a baby, “I’ll change”) to control what you do today, delaying consequences, buying time, and keeping access, without producing consistent, verifiable change.

Future faking = promises now, no follow-through later.

10 Signs Your Husband Is Future Faking

Covert emotional abuse is difficult to identify. If you’re wondering if you’re husband is using covert emotional abuse, here’s what you need to know.

To discover if your husband is emotionally abusive, take this free emotional abuse quiz.

Anne Blythe, M.Ed. Host of The FREE Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast, talks to Nadira, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community about her husband’s covert emotional abuse.

6 Examples of Covert Emotional Abuse

Are you asking yourself, “Is my husband hiding money?” If you suspect he might be keeping secrets, including financial ones, it’s important to recognize the signs. From sneaky spending habits to secret accounts, there are common tactics some use to hide things from their partners. This quiz will help you uncover if he’s lying in general, giving you the insight you need to determine whether money is part of the equation.

Here’s What To Do If You Wonder, Is My Husband Hiding Money?

1. Recognize The Signs Of Financial Deception

Is your husba...

“Am I paranoid? Why do I feel like my husband is cheating on me?”

Laurie Hall, author of An Affair of the Mind, couldn’t prove her husband was cheating. But no matter how hard she tried, the feeling of dread wouldn’t go away. Laurie shares her powerful story.

If you feel dread about your husband, it would be that you’re experiencing one or more of the 19 types of emotional abuse. Take our free emotional abuse quiz to find out.

Why Do I Feel Like My Husband Is Cheating? Am I Just Paran...

Here are some of the most common scriptures on betrayal. Then I’ll dive into an analysis of betrayal—specifically in the context of a husband betraying his wife, using examples from the scriptures of Judas. Here’s what you need to know If you’ve been betrayed and are turning to scripture for guidance.

scriptures about Betrayal and Broken Trust

Psalm 41:9 (ESV)
Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.

Psalm 55:12–14 (ESV)
For it is not an enemy who taunts me—then I...

If you, like many victims of betrayal are desperate for stillness and peace. It’s hard to find the perfect betrayal meditation to heal from your husband’s infidelity. Here’s what you need to know.

Did you know that infidelity is a form of emotional abuse, so you’re really healing from so much more. To see if he used any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

When You Need Peace & Healing NOW

We understand how exhausting and stressful it is to experience emotional abuse. Y...

Divorce isn’t just paperwork—it’s a complex emotional and logistical process that’s almost impossible to navigate alone. Divorce and emotional abuse go hand-in-hand. If you’re struggling after divorce, the right support can make all the difference.

This episode is part of a series:

This episode follows Felicia’s Story
Part 1: This Is Why You’re Not Codependent – Felicia’s Story
Part 2: Divorce and Emotional Abuse – Felicia Checks in 9 Months Later (THIS EPISODE)

If you’re a woman going through the pain of a divorce, you don’t have to go through it al...

Felicia spent years wondering if she was codependent. She didn’t realize she was experiencing emotional and psychological abuse. If you’re wondering if you’re codependent. Hopefully Felicia’s story can help you see why you’re not codependent.

If you’re experiencing emotional abuse check out our Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session Schedule, we’d love to see you in a session.

This episode follows Felicia’s Story
Part 1: This Is Why You’re Not Codependent – Felicia’s Story (THIS EPISODE)
Part 2: Divorce and Emotional Abuse – Felicia Checks in 9 Months Later

You’re Not Code...

If you’re realizing, “My husband won’t stop lying.” You’re not alone. Angel shares her heartbreaking experience, giving her second husband every opportunity to change. Lying is part of emotional abuse. To find out if you are emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz.

If your husband won’t stop lying, you need support. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.

Transcript: My Husband Won’t Stop Lying

Anne: Today we have Angel , a survivor of two marriages that ended due to addiction. She has six awesome kids. Welcome.

Angel: T...

If you're noticing your husband seems delusional and irritable, here's what you need to know.

Women often carry the burden of being the peacemaker. But what does Jesus say about abuse?

Narcissistic abuse in marriage can make life unbearably lonely. One woman's story.

Are you trying to recover after being cheated on? Here's what you need to know.

If you’ve discovered your husband’s lies or infidelity, will marriage counseling help? What you need to know about the best marriage counseling near me for couples.

Did you know that most couples who are seeking counseling are dealing with emotional abuse? To find out if your husband is using any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Do We Need Marriage Counseling?

Are you considering marriage counseling because you just discovered your husband’s been lying to you. If you recognize that couple therapy is con...

Does shame cause your husband's infidelity? No, learn the real reasons he's hurting you.

If you’ve just discovered your husband’s dark secrets, most women don’t know where to turn for help. If you’re wondering what to do when husband betrays your trust, here are 3 things to consider.

1. Check To See If His Betrayal Included Emotional Abuse

Most men who betray their wives use emotional abuse tactics long before their lies are discovered. The first thing to do after your husband betrays your trust is to become educated about emotional and psychological abuse. To find out if your husband used any of the 19 different types of emotiona...

If his actions involve supporting exploitative material, his behavior on his phone constitutes abuse.

You've discovered your husband's secret infidelity. What to know BEFORE you go to couple therapy.

Figuring out what to do when discovering your husband's lies is brutal. Samatha shares her journey to peace.

A husband’s lying, infidelity, gaslighting, and emotional abuse causes betrayal trauma. The effects can leave women feeling lost, confused, and unsafe. Understanding the 4 stages of betrayal trauma can help you process what’s happening and take meaningful steps toward healing.

Most men who betray their wives are emotionally abusive. Before moving on, take our free emotional abuse quiz to see if you’re also experiencing emotional abuse.

The 4 Stages Of Betrayal Trauma

When a husband lies, cheats, or manipulates, it can make a woman feel stressed and worried. She might have trouble eating...

Anger helps victims of betrayal identify bad behavior and set boundaries.

Did you recently discover you husband flirting with women online or using pornography? Are you confused, hurt, devastated, and afraid? If your wondering “Is online infidelity cheating?”, here are 7 things you need to know based on the research. Did you know that online cheating is a form of emotional abuse? To see if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

1. Sometimes What You Discovered Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

It can be really upsetting to find out your husband is talking to other...

It's not your fault. Here's the real reason your husband yells at you.

Learn about the stages of healing from betrayal trauma. Get the resources you need to heal.

Is online infidelity cheating? Here's what researchers found out.

Psychological and emotional abuse leave no visible scars, but deeply impact a woman's well-being.

Do you suspect your husband is having an affair? Does access to his phone help prevent infidelity?

I went through so many stages of anger after infidelity. Here's what I learned.

If you're divorced, but your ex is still harassing and undermining you. Here's what you need to know.

If you’ve endured repeated betrayal from your husband, you’re not alone. Here's what you need to know.

Anne and Dave talk about the patterns he discovered while hosting 3 Seasons of The Cold Podcast.

Are you wondering if your husband might be dangerous? Learn more now.

Financial abuse in divorce is shockingly common, here are the best ways to protect yourself.

It's possible to heal from your husband's emotional abuse. See if you relate.

If a therapist has suggested a therapeutic disclosure, this is what you need to know.

If you're healing trauma from hidden abuse, here's how to move forward.

Here's how to protect your child from online dangers.

It's possible to heal from your husband's emotional abuse. See if you relate.

Maybe your struggling with the idea of divorce, but it seems like the safest thing. Here's what to consider.