Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Co parenting with a narcissist seems impossible. I know I’ve been there. If your husband or ex is narcissistic, here are 7 ways your he might try to undermine you and your kids, along with 7 ways to overcome it.

To find out how bad it is, see which of the 19 different emotional abuse tactics he uses. Take our free emotional abuse quiz.

The 7 Ways A Narcissist Will Undermine Co-Parenting

If you’re considering marriage infidelity counseling, you’re not alone. Most women in crisis start here, Googling late at night, hoping a professional can finally make sense of what’s happening in their marriage. Counseling can help in the right situation, but there are some realities women wish they had known before scheduling that first session.

5 Things to Know Before Starting Marriage Infidelity Counseling

Here are five things every woman should understand before going:

1. Counseling Follows the Story You Bring Into the Room

Most marriage infidelity counseling isn’t designed to ident...

Learning how to set boundaries in an emotionally abusive relationship may seem confusing and overwhelming.

Setting Boundaries With Your Emotionally Abusive Husband Will Establish Greater Safety

Have you ever tried to set boundaries expecting more safety and security, only to feel more exposed to harm than ever? That’s because traditional boundary-setting models simply don’t work in abuse scenarios.

Before I share what does work, here are a few resources:

 It’s hard to know what to do when your husband doesn’t love you anymore. If this has happened to you, here’s what you need to know.

Did you know there are 19 different types of emotional abuse? To see if you can recognize the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Transcript: What to Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Love You

Anne: Today we’re gonna cover what happens when your husband says he doesn’t love you anymore. We have a member of our community on today’s epi...

When a woman finds out her husband has been lying, one question she usually asks is, “Is my husband addicted to…” Here’s what you really need to know.

Before reading on, did you know that the real issue may be emotional abuse? To test this theory, if your husband uses p***graphy, take this free emotional abuse quiz. See if you’re experiencing any of the 19 types of emotional abuse.

When My Husband Said He is Addicted To…

If you’ve just discovered your husband has been lying to you and he claims struggl...

Healing emotional wounds in relationships, especially from a toxic marriage, is vital to our emotional health. Here’s how to find the right support. To discover if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 types of abuse that cause emotional wounds, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Step 1: Recognizing What Caused The Emotional Wounds

Understanding emotional abuse is the first step to getting help and staying safe. Before you go to any helping professional, it’s important to be educated about emotional and psychological abuse. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop helps women identify exactl...

It is crucial for women to recognize the signs of clergy misconduct, as those who experience betrayal or emotional abuse often turn to their faith communities for solace and support. Here’s what you need to know.

If you relate to this, you need support. Attend a Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Session TODAY.

Dave Gemmel, Associate Director of the NAD Ministerial Association, joins Anne Blythe, M.Ed. to discuss clergy misconduct. Congregants seek spiritual guidance, compassion, and leadership from clergy. When pastors, bishops, and other spiritual leaders use their authority to destroy a congregant’s trus...

If you’re wondering, “what does God say about divorce and marriage?” here’s what you need to know. The Bible has told righteous people throughout all of time to separate themselves from wickedness. The word we use today for “wickedness” is abuse. To discover if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Transcript: What Does God Say About Divorce and Marriage?

Anne: I have a member of our community. On today’s episode, we’re gonna call her Kayla. She’s going to be sharing her story. Kayla is a woman of faith. Part...

Has your husband (or his therapist) weaponized codependency language to harm you? Here’s why codependents anonymous might not be right for you.

Is Codependents Anonymous the Answer for Betrayed Wives?

When a husband lies and cheats, many women are told: “You’re codependent. You should go to Codependents Anonymous.”
But here’s the truth: men often pick up “codependency” language from sexual addiction therapists or marriage counselors, but it’s actually a form of victim blaming.

When a professional slaps the “codependent” label on a wife who’s been betrayed, it shifts responsibility...

Husband future faking is when a husband uses promises about the future (trips, counseling, moving, budgets, a baby, “I’ll change”) to control what you do today, delaying consequences, buying time, and keeping access, without producing consistent, verifiable change.

Future faking = promises now, no follow-through later.

10 Signs Your Husband Is Future Faking

He may not hit, yell, or seem like a mean, angry bully - but covert emotional abuse leaves invisible scars.

Are you're wondering, "Is my husband hiding money?" Here's how one woman found out.

Have an nagging dread, like your husband is cheating? You need to know this.

These are the best scriptures on betrayal for women finding out about their husband's lies and infidelity.

You deserve peace. Women say this is the best healing meditation for emotional abuse survivors.

Struggling with divorce and emotional abuse? Learn how the right support can help you.

Emotional & Psychological abuse victims "mimic" codependent traits: this is why you're not codependent. Read on to learn more.

If your husband won't stop lying, he's likely emotionally or psychologically abusive.

If you're noticing your husband seems delusional and irritable, here's what you need to know.

Women often carry the burden of being the peacemaker. But what does Jesus say about abuse?

Narcissistic abuse in marriage can make life unbearably lonely. One woman's story.

Are you trying to recover after being cheated on? Here's what you need to know.

If you’ve discovered your husband’s lies or infidelity, will marriage counseling help? What you need to know about the best marriage counseling near me for couples.

Did you know that most couples who are seeking counseling are dealing with emotional abuse? To find out if your husband is using any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Do We Need Marriage Counseling?

Are you considering marriage counseling because you just discovered your husband’s been lying to you. If you recognize that couple therapy is con...

Does shame cause your husband's infidelity? No, learn the real reasons he's hurting you.

If you’ve just discovered your husband’s dark secrets, most women don’t know where to turn for help. If you’re wondering what to do when husband betrays your trust, here are 3 things to consider.

1. Check To See If His Betrayal Included Emotional Abuse

Most men who betray their wives use emotional abuse tactics long before their lies are discovered. The first thing to do after your husband betrays your trust is to become educated about emotional and psychological abuse. To find out if your husband used any of the 19 different types of emotiona...

If his actions involve supporting exploitative material, his behavior on his phone constitutes abuse.

You've discovered your husband's secret infidelity. What to know BEFORE you go to couple therapy.

Figuring out what to do when discovering your husband's lies is brutal. Samatha shares her journey to peace.

A husband’s lying, infidelity, gaslighting, and emotional abuse causes betrayal trauma. The effects can leave women feeling lost, confused, and unsafe. Understanding the 4 stages of betrayal trauma can help you process what’s happening and take meaningful steps toward healing.

Most men who betray their wives are emotionally abusive. Before moving on, take our free emotional abuse quiz to see if you’re also experiencing emotional abuse.

The 4 Stages Of Betrayal Trauma

When a husband lies, cheats, or manipulates, it can make a woman feel stressed and worried. She might have trouble eating...

Anger helps victims of betrayal identify bad behavior and set boundaries.

Did you recently discover you husband flirting with women online or using pornography? Are you confused, hurt, devastated, and afraid? If your wondering “Is online infidelity cheating?”, here are 7 things you need to know based on the research. Did you know that online cheating is a form of emotional abuse? To see if you’re experiencing any one of the 19 different types of emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

1. Sometimes What You Discovered Is Just The Tip Of The Iceberg

It can be really upsetting to find out your husband is talking to other...

It's not your fault. Here's the real reason your husband yells at you.

Learn about the stages of healing from betrayal trauma. Get the resources you need to heal.

Is online infidelity cheating? Here's what researchers found out.

Psychological and emotional abuse leave no visible scars, but deeply impact a woman's well-being.

Do you suspect your husband is having an affair? Does access to his phone help prevent infidelity?

I went through so many stages of anger after infidelity. Here's what I learned.

If you're divorced, but your ex is still harassing and undermining you. Here's what you need to know.

If you’ve endured repeated betrayal from your husband, you’re not alone. Here's what you need to know.

Anne and Dave talk about the patterns he discovered while hosting 3 Seasons of The Cold Podcast.