Legally Clueless

As the year winds down, many of us are running on fumes, juggling deadlines, expectations, and the pressure to “finish strong.” But what if success didn’t have to come with exhaustion?
What if ambition could feel soft, steady, and nourishing? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores how to redefine ambition, moving away from hustle culture and into harmony.
It’s a reflective conversation about ambition that honors wellness, rest, and purpose without guilt. In this episode, Adelle shares:
- The myth of hustle culture and how it silently shapes our self-worth
- How burn...

In this episode, we meet Nile Dawta, a reggae singer, songwriter, producer, and gender activist from Shauri Moyo. Her story is a moving journey through identity, purpose, and spiritual awakening. She shares how growing up next to Kamukunji Grounds shaped her activism, how she walked away from a stable job to follow her music, and how heartbreak, loss, and ancestral connection led her back to herself. This story beautifully reminds us that healing and creativity often flow from the same source: the ancestors who walk with us.

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This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet but familiar feeling, that sense that everyone else is moving faster than you. You know it, the comparison, the “shoulds,” the sinking thought that maybe you’ve missed your moment.

In this episode, Adelle explores timeline anxiety, how it shows up, why we experience it, and how to soften it with truth and self-compassion.

In this episode, she shares:
Why “life timelines” are myths we inherit, not truths we must follow
How comparison culture disconnects us from our own rhythm
Why growth isn’t line...

In this episode, Ann shares a deeply personal journey that began in the hallways of all-girls schools in Kenya, where curiosity, identity, and faith collided. She speaks openly about being labelled and isolated for exploring her identity, how her family and community reacted, and the painful but powerful road that led her back to self-acceptance and healing.

This story is a reminder of how silence and misunderstanding can wound but also how courage, honesty, and grace can rebuild us.
Listen now to hear Ann’s journey of becoming through shame, silence, and ultimately, self-acceptance.

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In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Apondi a life coach and relationship minister for a raw, intergenerational conversation on womanhood, freedom, and authenticity.Apondi opens up about the importance of financial independence as a form of agency, the never-ending work of setting and protecting boundaries, and how authenticity can irritate toxic people who prefer conformity.

She also challenges how we socialize both girls and boys unpacking how neglecting the boy child harms everyone and reminds us that growth never ends.
This is an episode about reclaiming power, choosing dignity, and...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the part of healing we rarely talk about, the loneliness that comes with growth. When you start choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and evolving, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost your people. But often, that loneliness is a sign that you’re shedding what no longer aligns with your peace. In this episode, Adelle explores:

💭 The quiet grief of outgrowing people
🌱 The in-between season between who you were and who you’re becoming
❤️ Why choosing yourself can feel like abandonment
🌻 How to find new forms of belonging th...

In part two of Steve's story, we journey through one of the most vulnerable seasons of his life, navigating his newborn son Zayn’s medical crisis, multiple surgeries, and the weight of financial strain. Steve opens up about the reality of asking for help, what fatherhood has taught him about presence, and how that season reshaped his view on love, faith, and masculinity.
This is a story about courage in vulnerability, partnership in pain, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going. In this episode, you’ll hear:
The emotional and financial weight of a child’s medica...

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Veronica, founder of The Ova Circle and a certified menopause workplace coach, to unpack what it really means to thrive through menopause. Veronica opens up about her personal journey, from confusing symptoms and dismissive doctors to discovering perimenopause, finding her voice, and building a thriving community for women going through the same. She breaks down the gaps in healthcare, the power of holistic approaches, and why it’s time for workplaces to become menopause-friendly. Together, Adelle and Veronica explore:
The difference between menopause and perimenopause.How shame and silence is...

This week on The Midweek Tease, Adelle opens up about a phase most women move through quietly: the luteal phase. That stretch of time before your period when energy dips, sensitivity heightens, and the world feels a little heavier. She unpacks what’s happening in your body, the pressure society puts on women to perform consistently, and how we can meet ourselves with grace instead of guilt. You’ll learn:
🌙 What the luteal phase really is and how it affects your emotions
💛 Why “doing less” is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom
🕯️ How to adjust your rhythm, rest i...

In part one of Steve Ataru’s story, we journey through Nairobi childhoods, the pressure of “golden opportunities,” and the courage it takes to start over. The moment that anchors this episode is raw and unforgettable: Steve’s newborn, Zayn, suddenly needs surgery and his wife’s intuition is the compass that saves precious time. This is a story about choosing alignment over approval, and learning to trust the wisdom right beside you. In this episode, you’ll hear:
Growing up across Eastlands, Juja, and Lang’ata, and how environments shape resilience.Leaving a partial scholarship in Russia to return home an...

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Wambui Wanjau, a home-birthing midwife and birth doula, to unpack the truths about pregnancy and birthing that too many women are never told. From being shouted at in delivery rooms to the calm of candlelit births, Wambui shares her journey across Kenya, Finland, and Australia, and what she’s learned about how women can reclaim power in one of life’s most sacred experiences. This episode dives deep into:
Why so many women feel unseen and unheard during childbirthHow to listen to and trust your body duri...

In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle continues her conversation with Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In Part 2, they dive into the realities behind entrepreneurship, the pressure to keep up appearances, the misconception that investing is only for people with “big money,” and the importance of structure in keeping your business and sanity intact. Susan shares powerful lessons on:
Knowing when growth is real and when it’s just for showWhy your business should grow at its own paceHow to start investing with as little as Ksh 100B...

Brenda’s finale follows the last mile of her childfree journey: pushing past healthcare gatekeeping to access sterilization, what true informed consent looked like, recovery, the unexpected discovery of a retroverted uterus (and pain relief after it was corrected), and the quiet peace that came with making a choice that fits her life. She also reflects on dignity in maternal spaces, conversations with family, and what autonomy has meant for love, sex, and community. In this episode:
From “no” after “no” to finally accessing sterilizationWhat respectful, consent-centered care looks likeRecovery, relief, and the feeling of peaceRetroverted uterus: naming it, fixing it...

In this empowering episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with certified fitness coach and nutritionist Coach Roseanne to unpack the deeper truths behind diet culture and how African women can heal their relationship with food, fitness, and their bodies. Roseanne shares her personal journey from being medically obese to creating a sustainable, shame-free approach to health. Together, they explore:
Why most diets fail, how mindset and identity play a bigger role than calories.The emotional link between food, shame, and self-worth.How to decolonize your plate and rebuild a healthy relationship with traditional African foods.The...

This week, The Mid Week Tease features Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In this part 1 of our conversation, Susan opens up about her journey from employment to entrepreneurship and the financial shock that came with losing a steady paycheck. She shares real, relatable lessons on:
Managing irregular income without panicThe mindset shifts that turn creatives into business ownersTracking your money (and why even Ksh 100 matters)Building systems that make your finances work for youSeparating business and personal money to regain control🎟️ Don’t miss the upcoming LCA Wellness Talk:
“Smart Mon...

Part 2 of this series follows a Brenda, deepening her path toward a childfree life; from navigating painful periods and stigma around tampons, to learning contraception, witnessing friends’ very different pregnancy choices, facing healthcare gatekeeping around permanent options, and finally finding language and courage through a childfree community.

In this episode:
Body literacy over pain and shameTampon myths, contraception, and informed choiceAbortion, pregnancy in school, and compassionHealthcare gatekeeping vs. consent-centered careCommunity as mirror: “I’m not alone”Content note: Menstrual pain, abortion, stigma.

Group Therapy (3-Part Series) on Childhood Trauma.
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In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with sleep coach, content creator, business owner, and published author Kitt Nyang'aya Kiarie for an honest conversation about identity. From navigating the pressures of relationships and motherhood, to honoring her individuality in marriage, Kitt shares how she has refused to lose herself in the roles society expects of women. She talks about raising children without shame, redefining body confidence, protecting personal agency, and why community and hobbies outside marriage are non-negotiable.

The conversation also touches on her work as a Kenyan sleep coach, her groundbreaking Happy Baby...

Social media has become part of our daily lives but it’s also quietly changing us. The endless scroll, the outrage-driven posts, the comparison traps… all of it can keep us in survival mode: tense, reactive, judgmental, and even less empathetic. In this episode of Mid-Week Tease, Adelle unpacks what survival mode actually feels like, the racing heart, the late-night doom-scroll, the sense of always being “behind” and explains how algorithms profit from keeping us there. But it’s not all bad news. You’ll also learn practical ways to use social media without losing your humanity: from pausing before reacting to...

In this episode, we document Brenda's path toward a childfree life, from a lively Meru childhood and firstborn duty to the moment, at seven years old, when she first questioned whether motherhood should be her destiny. Through community, Catholic-school conditioning, and a deep love of words, she begins naming a life that’s hers by choice. In this episode you’ll hear:
Meru roots: muddy play, tea farms, and a massive, close-knit communityFirstborn duty vs. being allowed to be a childEarly conditioning around womanhood/motherhood and the first “no”Reading as refuge and rebellionBody literacy at home vs. school expectat...

In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Catherine, the first Kenyan woman to lead a yoga teacher training in Africa, shares her extraordinary journey of healing and transformation. Born and raised in Kariobangi, Catherine discovered yoga by accident, but it soon became the tool that helped her navigate the challenges of her upbringing, heal generational wounds, and support her mother through recovery from alcoholism. You will hear how:
Yoga became a path of mind, body, and spirit healingCatherine rebuilt her relationship with her mother through forgiveness and compassionShe transformed pain into purpose by becoming a teacher and mentorHer...

In this Mid-Week Tease, Adelle dives into the hidden ways internalized shame limits women and how it often makes us judge each other too. Shame is sneaky; it feels personal, but really it’s society’s voice living inside of us. Adelle shares how shame silences us, shrinks us, disconnects us from others, and even makes us police other women. And drawing from Brené Brown’s research, Adelle unpacks what shame resilience looks like and how we can start reclaiming our power with awareness, compassion, and connection.

Reflection prompts in this episode:
What rules do you live by that...

Over the past two episodes, we’ve journeyed with Audrey through her childhood and the unimaginable loss of her beloved brother, Warren. In this final part of her story, Audrey shares how she navigated life after loss, the painful burial, the anger she felt at faith, and her long journey of slowly facing the places and memories she had been avoiding.

She also reflects on how unexpected moments, like her mother’s later pregnancies, brought new light into their family’s story. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief isn’t linear, and healing often comes in pieces...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Ingashian Gibendi, product leader, founder of The Career Whisperer, and a bold advocate for women crafting careers on their own terms. Ingashian shares why rest is not laziness but a radical act of reclaiming power in a world that equates worth with constant work. From taking unplanned career breaks, to rejecting toxic workplace cultures, to choosing life before titles, she reminds us that women have the right to pause and that those pauses can be life-changing.

Together, they explore:
The lie that titles define...

This week on Mid Week Tease, Adelle is joined by therapist Natali Mukami from Shamiri Health as they open up a deeply important conversation about childhood trauma. They unpack:
What childhood trauma really is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe subtle ways trauma manifests in our work, relationships, and self-perceptionWhy group therapy is such a powerful space for healingGentle tools you can begin using to manage trauma responses✨ Upcoming Group Therapy ✨
We’re closing out the year with our final 3-part Group Therapy of 2025, in partnership with Shamiri Health, led by three accredited psychologists. Theme: Childhood Trauma
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When Grief Silences Siblings 

In Part 1 of Audrey’s story, she took us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the cracks in her parents’ marriage, and the loneliness of family separation. In this second part, Audrey shares the unimaginable: the sudden loss of her beloved brother Warren. She opens up about the chaos that followed, the unanswered questions surrounding his death, and the invisible grief siblings often carry when families and communities focus only on the parents. This part of her story is raw, painful, and a reminder of how layered grief can be, and how i...

In this deeply honest episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with journalist, advocate, and founder of the Inua Dada Foundation, Janet Mbugua, for a vulnerable conversation on the realities of female friendships. Together, they explore:
How the media and society pit women against each otherThe quiet shame and trust issues that shape how we show up in friendshipsFriendship breakups, ghosting, and learning how to confront with loveWhy adult women aren’t taught how to make friends—and what intentional friendship looks likeThe everyday magic of sisterhood in small acts of care and presenceThis is a heartfelt remi...

Why do some relationships feel like home even when they hurt us? Why do we cling to people who echo the very wounds we’ve been trying to escape? In this episode of the Mid Week Tease, we unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, the way we trust, and the bonds we form, even the ones that break us. From understanding trauma bonds, to relearning trust, to breaking generational cycles, this is a heartfelt conversation on rewriting how we connect.

✨ We’ll explore:
How childhood sets the blueprint for love and trustWhat trauma bonds are an...

This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her story, where joy and unimaginable heartbreak collide, will be out next week.

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In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Amanda Kenya, a holistic obstetrician and gynecologist passionate about hormone health. Dr. Kenya breaks down the truth about hormones, beyond periods and fertility, revealing how they impact our sleep, mood, mental health, libido, skin, bones, heart, and so much more. We talk openly about perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause, and Dr. Kenya gives practical, life-changing insights on:
Why there’s no health without hormone healthThe three key hormones shaping our wellbeing: estrogen, progesterone, and testosteroneHow lifestyle factors like nutrition, sleep, and stress directly regulate hormone balanceWhy hormone therapy to...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the quiet legacy many of us carry: the wounds passed down through generations of women, and the strength we inherit too. From the silence of our mothers and grandmothers, to the resilience that allowed them to endure, this episode unpacks how we can recognize both pain and power in our lineage. Adelle shares reflections on:
The unspoken traumas women before us carried.The survival patterns we unconsciously repeat.The strength, creativity, and wisdom we also inherit.How to decide what ends with us and what continues.✨ We are living proof th...

This is Episode 341 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!

We’re sharing the second part of a powerful story from Petronilla, a mother of three. In Part 1, she opened up about her chaotic childhood, traumatic delivery, and the early struggles of raising her firstborn. In this episode, she continues her journey, revealing the painful family tensions around her marriage, the terrifying experience of giving birth prematurely, and her battle with postpartum depression. Through it all, Petronilla speaks candidly about what it takes to hold onto hope when life feels overwhelming.

✨ Listen out for:
How unresolved family woun...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lolo Cynthia, a women’s rights advocate and unapologetic voice on women’s liberation, sexuality, and self-determination. Lolo shares her bold journey of becoming, from creating the persona of “Lolo” at 18 to embracing her true self today. She opens up about therapy as a catalyst for transformation, learning to trust her gut, and the revolutionary act of decentering men. Together, we unpack:
Why proximity to power is not power.How to break free from performing for the male gaze.The pushback women face when they reject society’s rules.Prac...

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into:
What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles.The most common characters children adapt.The hidden cost of carrying them into adulthood.How to shed these roles and step into your true self.Navigating family relationships after you’ve stopped playing the part.Wellness Ta...

This is Episode 340 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!

We’re sharing the first part of Petronilla Njoki’s powerful story. From growing up in a single-parent household, navigating tough teenage years, and later stepping into motherhood, Petronilla opens up about the challenges she faced, including a traumatic delivery and the emotional rollercoaster of caring for her firstborn through serious health struggles. This episode is about resilience, faith, and the strength it takes to turn pain into purpose.

✨ Listen out for:
How growing up “raised by the wild” shaped Petronilla’s independence.The harrowing experience of premature la...