Friends with Benefits
Our family is completely unhinged — in the best possible way.My husband is my third husband. His second wife? She’s my best friend. And yes, we’re neighbors. She’s remarried too, and all of us do life together: the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. And trust me… we’ve had our fair share of ugly.But here’s the thing: this isn’t a show about perfection. It’s about community. It’s about laughing through the chaos, finding peace in the mess, and reminding anyone listening that “normal families” are mostly a myth created by people who never met one...
11- If I don't Laugh, I'll Cry
This week, I’m taking you through the wild, chaotic, unbelievable collection of stories that built me: three marriages, discovering I was adopted at 36, cancer, miscarriage, raising six kids in four different eras, losing my home in a tornado, and surviving the kind of grief that splits your life into before and after.
But this episode isn’t about trauma. It’s about resilience — the real kind. The kind that looks like chaos, humor, stubbornness, motherhood, and choosing to keep going even when you have no idea how. As I say in the episode: “Resilience...
10 - The Long After
In this episode, Kat and Kyle open up about the long road of recovery — the months and years after disaster when most people have moved on but the grief hasn't. They talk honestly about what community support actually looked like, who showed up, who stayed, and where it fell short.
This episode covers the questions that don't get asked enough: what do grieving families actually need that nobody gives them, what does moving forward really look like, and what does honoring a child mean when the world expects you to have healed by now.<...
9 - If You're in the After, This One is for You
This episode dives into the first days after child loss — the shock response, the physical symptoms of grief, the disorientation of the first 24 hours, the logistics no one prepares you for, and the emotional impact on surviving children. Katherine also shares how people showed up, the lies grief told her, and what she wishes every grieving parent knew in those early days.
Next week’s episode will focus on rebuilding, community support, and what helped (and didn’t) as her family began navigating life in the “after.”
8 - Strength in the Shadows
This episode of Friends with Benefits is a deeply moving exploration of survival, maternal instinct, and the unbreakable bond of family. Following our introduction to Arlan, we move into the day of the storm—a day that redefined "home" for Kat, Kyle and Ella.
The conversation centers on the parallel experiences of a mother, father and daughter: Kat, who faced the agony of being miles away in the air while her family was in danger, Kyle, who knew what was happening but powerless to stop it and 14-year-old Ella, who di...
7 - Before The Sirens
In this first episode of our three-part series, we step into the life of Arlan, a child whose love and curiosity left a lasting mark on his family and community. Together with his mother, Kat, we explore the ordinary moments of family life, the rhythms of community, and the subtle signs that something was quietly shifting. This episode is about connection, love, and the moments that matter most.
Content Note:
This episode reflects on the life of a child and the emotional context leading up to a life-altering event.
6 - Roll Call: The Kids Who Built Our Village
Three moms, seven kids, and one loud, blended village. In this episode, we introduce the kids who brought us together, share the chaos of daily life, confess our most unhinged parenting hacks, and compare how each of us handles the same parenting moment in totally different ways. If your house looks nothing like ours, that’s the point — every family does this differently. Welcome to the village.
5 - Love Is A Hot Mess
It’s Valentine’s season, so we’re talking love, relationships, and all the mess in between. In this episode, we share our best/worst dates, awkward dating stories, love language truths, and what we’ve learned about showing up in real relationships. Whether you’re single or partnered, this one’s for anyone who’s ever tried to date in real life.
4 - Kyle, The Man, The Myth, The Legend
Kyle’s birthday month always feels like it’s competing with Valentine’s Day — and somehow Valentine’s always wins.
In this episode, we try to give his day the spotlight it deserves. We share stories about the man behind the spreadsheets, laugh about the ways he gets overlooked, and play a quick bonus game called “Kyle or Valentine’s Day.”
Happy Birthday Month, Kyle. This one’s for you.
3 - Y'all Read Way Too Much Into This
Turns out people have opinions. A lot of them.
In this episode, we’re diving into the wildest comments, assumptions, and theories from our first episode.
Some of it is funny. Some of it is just plain wild. And some of it says more about the people watching than it does about us.
We’re responding, laughing, and setting the record straight.
Hit play and listen in.
2 - Weird Is The New Normal
Everyone asks the same thing: Is it ever awkward, weird, or jealous?
In this episode of Friends With Benefits, the ex-wife and the current wife talk honestly about jealousy, boundaries, kid moments, and the side-eyes people assume must’ve blown everything up—and how they didn’t.
Real life isn’t drama-free. It’s just handled differently.
1 - Not The Story You Think
This isn’t the kind of “friends with benefits” you think you know. In Episode 1, we meet two women connected by one man — the ex-wife and the current wife — who chose peace instead of drama.
We go back to the beginning to learn what ended the first marriage, how the new relationship started, and the moment their worlds collided.
No gossip. No shouting. Just the real story told with honesty, humor, and unexpected compassion.
Stick with us — this is just the beginning.
