Beneath the Flowers Podcast

In dating culture, we know what breadcrumbing means.

It’s the slow drip of attention without intention.Just enough to keep you hoping.Not enough to move forward.

A text that says “thinking of you” but never makes a plan to see you.Warmth without clarity.Presence without commitment.

Breadcrumbing, in relationships, is confusing because it keeps you emotionally invested while withholding direction.

And because many of us have been hurt this way, we’ve learned to associate partial revelation with danger.

So when God leads us in fragments —when He gi...

If God is love, then our fear of it tells a story worth listening to.

Untangling of love languages and survival love

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Thank you for listening! This poem is inspired by the prompt: “let me tell you what it’s not…”

I thought about what being perceived feels like, and maybe what it would feel like when someone actually SEES me—beyond my beauty.

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I’ll write to you again soon.

~ Chérie

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A reflective meditation on anxious and avoidant attachment, secure love, and the slow healing God offers. An exploration of what it means to love without urgency, without lack, and with trust—learning a love that can breathe.

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The story I was trying to remember was the story of Bezalel in 1 Chronicles 29. ☺

Additional scripture references: Romans 11:29 and John 12:24

Presence ≠ lazy.

It is being mindful to discern the voice of God, follow His direction, and also having the heart posture of gratitude for what He is already doing in your life.

I’d so love to hear your thoughts on this, feel free to share in the comments.

It’s the start of a new calendar year, and I’m resisting the urge to rush.

Instead of asking What’s next? I’m asking a quieter, truer question—one rooted in faith and discernment:

What is mine to tend to for the long haul?

It might sound like an oxymoron, but I’m learning this is true: the slower I go, the faster I arrive.

Presence.

This isn’t a rejection of goals or six-month plans. It’s simply an acknowledgement that most of our lives are lived in the rig...

Please excuse the audio and stuffiness. :)

I’ve had my fair share of friendship breakups and heart pains. I’ve been the bad friend, the entitled friend, the absent friend, the rude friend, the fun friend, the hiking friend, the Jamaican friend, the list goes on. But in this season, I want to be more intentional with the people God blesses me with.

So I’m following His example. Friendships take time to grow (maybe not 3 years for us but still some time). Jesus values friendship.

The message on friendship is this — allow people t...

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Lately I’ve been thinking about what it really means to be made whole.

Not just “okay,” not just functioning, not just smiling for the group chat—but made whole in the way God intended.

After the deconstruction.After the ground shakes beneath us.After everything that isn’t in God’s will for us falls to the floor like broken dry wall.

And honestly?

There’s a version of “healing” the world keeps trying to sell us—quick, curated, and optimized for aesthetics. A kind o...

There’s a kind of faith we inherit—and then there’s the faith that grows in the soil of our actual lives.

In the storms, in the waiting rooms, in the still moments when God becomes more than an idea.

One is acquired.One is experienced.Both have purpose.Both shape us through sanctification.

But to grow, we have to recognize the difference.

How We Learn

There’s a season for taking in truth. Where we are studying, absorbing, listening, understanding.

And there’s a season for walkin...

Matthew 25: 35-40

Luke 6: 27-31

It should go without saying — we should care for ourselves first to ensure that we have enough to give. My prayer is that we function, as members of society, more like conduits and less like reservoirs.

Receiving and giving. Caring and being cared for. Loving and being loved. Reciprocity. Compassion. Trust.

Jesus taught that the greatest commandments are to love God and to love others. When we intentionally move beyond our daily routines to care for people in our community—whether by serving at a food pantry, help...

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app.

I so enjoy sitting with you all, Beneath the Flowers where we talk about what it really means to abide in the hands of the Gardener and to be in that process together.

I’ll see you all in the next live video! (still figuring out the logistics of making the video landscape while recording on my phone, but the message is clear - abide.)

See you again soon :)

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app.

In 2021, I got a tattoo on my wrist that reads “I surrender.”

Every time I pray, I look at it and remember a season where surrender felt less like peace and more like death.

Not a graceful release, but a tearing away of control I thought I needed to survive.

It’s painful when you’re taught:

* Be in control

* Depend on no one but yourself

* Your life is in your hands, and one wrong move could ruin it all.

This is the breeding...

When God speaks — I listen.

That quiet whisper, just loud enough for me to hear.

For me, it’s not always full sentences — and it often doesn’t make sense in the moment.

Around the time of this video, I was deep in prayer and reflection with God about finances, money, and overall wealth — both tangible and intangible.

It had been a couple of weeks since setting my intentions on understanding how God sees these things and during this trip it became extremely clear.

I believe th...

Beneath the Flowers by Chérie Jade

My flame flickers, enticing the gaze of passerbys the warmth of my presence flowing through the room I turn to see if they're staring at me If they look too long, they'll surely see I shine so bright to blind their eyes they often call me, "sunshine" but little do they know the weight I carry like bags of sand girded around my waist hindering every step, controlling the pace my heart, stoic, patched with words that say "be positive," no matter how much it hurts.

You’ve pro...

There’s something alluring about being called a “free spirit,” isn’t there?

We think of images of barefoot wanderers, untamed joy, and a life unshackled by rules or roles. Culture paints the free spirit as someone who lives by no one’s expectations—who follows their heart, resists structure, and answers only to their own truth.

It sounds harmless, even empowering.

It’s a dangerous half-truth, monopolized into an industry that capitalizes on a weary soul’s search for God, purpose, and meaning.

I was once there. A natural born rebel.

De...

Before we jump into today’s post - how are you? You can leave a comment in the comment section of this post or send me a direct message. I’d love to connect! I hope Beneath the Flowers becomes a refuge, where you can finally lay down your armor and breathe.

Actually, let’s breathe.

Find your resting breath.

Inhale for 4.

Hold.

Exhale for 6.

Hold.

Once more…

If the atmosphere I create with my words speak to you, I’d love to hold space...

The Lord placed this topic on my heart to write on May 6th and naturally I said, “Okay God, what do you want me to say?”

I’m just going to leave this here.

Oftentimes, we rest on what Paul defines as love in 1 Corinthians 13: 4 through 7 filling our bathroom mirrors with sticky notes, writing it in our journals, plastering it to the walls of our home, injecting into our personal situations without considering its original context. What Paul said in this chapter is part of a larger conversation about spiritual gifts in the body of Christ...

I’m just “spreading love and light” I would say….

There’s a certain type of person who always makes room at the table. Who softens their voice when someone else is speaking. Who apologizes when they’re the ones being interrupted. Who says "it's okay" even when it really, truly isn't. Who makes peace, even if it costs their voice. Who focuses only on the good, sweeping all the bad under a rug. That person used to be me.

I wore “nice” like a shield. Or maybe more accurately, like a soft, patchy cloak tha...

Part 2. - we are always in process…

We’re not meant to be finished products, we build as we go.

The perception others have of us isn’t in our hands. We are always viewed through the lens of their personal experiences, fears, and biases.

Get curious and ask good questions like “what makes you believe that to be true about me?” You might learn about the story they’re playing in their heart about you. That doesn’t mean you have to accept that story as your truth. Remember, our true identity is found in Ch...

This video was originally recorded December 2024, I sat on it and didn’t know when I was going to post it.

This morning I woke up and I couldn’t get it out of my mind, so here we are…

Jesus Christ is more than just a man, he’s more than just a prophet. He is GOD in the flesh. He came to atone for our sins and teaches us how to be human. He is the Messiah. ♡

As always, a few videos that might also be helpful:

Historical science = Archeology...

Our Spirit - is eternal, it is not bound by time or any construct humans have created, it never sleeps, it fights daily to connect with God the creator and giver of the breath of life; the part of our being actually having the human experience.

Our Soul - our mind, our will, and our emotions; the part of our being most susceptible to attack, hijacking, and control; the squishy bits; it’s what has desires, gets weary, but is not stronger than our spirit; what the Bible would call the “flesh” or “human nature.” (Romans 8:13) We must submi...

I’ve never shared my faith journey … in full… with the world. It’s been a private journey since I was a child and, even more so, for the past 10 years since August 2014, but the Holy Spirit has led me to share it in this moment. So, i’m being obedient. I hope in reading and watching this you can maybe see yourself in parts of my story.

Part 1, 2, and 3 are in writing on Substack ~

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As I was driving to work one day, I decided to press record. The video cut off 3 minutes in.. there’s so much left to say, but this is a start. I hope you hear my heart and know that your life has purpose, even if it seems cloudy right now.

Pruning isn’t easy and it’s extremely uncomfortable but so necessary for us to bear new and more fruit. We must drop our leaves, our branches must snap and fall, our roots must run deeper and wider, we must grow taller, me must honor the season...

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It’s true, making friends in 2024 as an adult and making friends in 2005 as a child are different. There’s so much more density to navigate as we age, so much so, we become jaded. Misconstruing a friendly gesture for romantic desire, lines blurred between likes and actual attraction, genuine support and fandom… what is it… illusive… it seems.

What if we approached our adult friendships with the curiosity of a child instead of with a critical eye, a “what’s in it for me” men...