Fight Me

What do your weekend rituals, first concert, and secret talents reveal about you? We swap questions and pull back the curtain on our lives, sushi Saturdays, VIP movie nights, and that post-gym coffee that sets the tone. We talk about why a crowded city walk can reset a week, how sports now serve as a light backdrop rather than the main event, and why a good series can still surprise us.

Books become a map of how we think: Dallas Willard’s The Divine Conspiracy for careful, formational reading; big-idea and history titles like Atlas Shrugged and A...

What if disappointment isn’t the end of the story but the beginning of a better one? We dive into the messy, everyday realities of marriage and dating, where unspoken expectations clash with real people and real seasons, and offer a path from silent frustration to practical hope. Instead of chasing an idealized script, we show how to translate “the gap” between fantasy and reality into clear language, compassionate listening, and small experiments that actually stick.

We start by tracing how expectations form long before vows: family models, cultural roles, and past relationships quietly draft the rules for wh...

When did “I’m so busy” become the default greeting? We’re pulling that thread and rebuilding something better: meaningful margin you can actually feel. We talk honestly about why saying no is hard, how guilt warps our calendars, and what it takes to turn life from reactive to intentional. Along the way, we share funny high school excuses, night-shift war stories, and the moments that taught us presence beats pressure.

We dig into practical strategies that work in real homes: creating buffers with 50-minute meetings and 10-minute transitions, reframing commutes into decompression, and using carpooling to buy back...

The most honest moments in parenting show up where control ends and trust begins. We sat down to map that messy, meaningful stretch between childhood and early adulthood: teens who want to self-solve, parents who want to protect, and the space where both can grow. From chaotic Guatemalan roads where our daughter learned to drive to the quiet car rides back from the gym with our son, we share how independence is built in real time, through practice, patience, and a lot of deep breaths.

We talk about trading lectures for curiosity, the small language shifts that...

What if your calendar told the truth about your relationships, who fuels you, who drains you, and where you’re giving your best hours? We dig into a practical, honest audit of your friendship circles and show how small, clear boundaries can protect your peace without shrinking your heart. Between bursts of dad-level humor and a few life-in-Guatemala stories, we map inner circles, spot red flags, and share low-drama scripts for saying no, not now, or let’s change the subject.

We explore the power of values as a compass for connection, how trust grows when you know...

A big dream should energize you, not paralyze you. We open with a few playful “would you rather” sparks (Oscar or Olympic gold? Unicorn horn or squirrel tail?) and then dive into the real engine of progress: breaking a bold vision into the next doable step. Jami shares a raw, practical account of navigating five knee surgeries over two years, from bilateral distal femoral osteotomies to unexpected setbacks like infection and a femur crack, and how tiny, time-bound goals, weekly check-ins, and honest self-commitments turned overwhelm into momentum. Action beats anxiety, and integrity, doing what you said you would by w...

The scariest health problems rarely shout, they whisper. We open up about family history, cholesterol that crept higher than expected, and the mental gymnastics that make us delay tests we know we need. What starts as playful would-you-rathers turns into a grounded look at resistance to change, why exercise alone didn’t move the numbers, and the simple routines that actually did.

We walk through the pre-pandemic warning signs, the first labs that flagged risk, and the lockdown routine that quietly rebuilt our health: fewer ultra-processed snacks and sodas, more vegetables and fiber, and batch-cooked meals that ma...

Are you driving your life or just along for the ride? This powerful question sits at the heart of our exploration into the stark difference between living a default future versus creating a generative one.

Like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day, many of us find ourselves stuck in cycles we didn't consciously choose. We wake up one day wondering how we ended up where we are, often blaming external circumstances rather than recognizing our own role in creating our current reality. The truth? What we're not actively changing, we're unconsciously choosing.

Drawing from personal experiences...

Guatemala's Independence Day traditions stand in stark contrast to what most Americans might expect. While the United States celebrates with brilliant fireworks displays, Guatemalans mark their freedom with torch-running ceremonies and the playful (if somewhat aggressive) throwing of water bags at runners. The symbolism runs deep – flames of freedom carried through communities while school children parade in national colors, practicing for months to perfect their performances.

When you're raising teenagers, finding reliable resources becomes crucial. Nothing beats honest feedback directly from your own kids. Sitting down with your teen and asking "What have I done well as yo...

Ever wondered what happens when a leadership coach and executive trainer breaks her own feedback rules with her husband? Welcome to the raw, unfiltered first episode of "Fight Me," where hosts Jami and Chad Bader dive straight into the messy reality of their most recent disagreement.

After 18 years of marriage and raising two teenagers while running a nonprofit in Guatemala, Jami and Chad have developed some serious communication skills—but that doesn't mean they always get it right. When Jami calls out Chad's recent complaining habit during a car ride home from the gym, what follows is a...