Me & My Pod
Welcome to Me & My Pod — the raw, real, and often ridiculous journey of a cross-cultural marriage.We’re Ricardo and Christian. Twenty years deep into a Haitian-American + American love story with five kids, a life in ministry, and a whole lot we’re still figuring out.Each week, we take you behind the curtain of our relationship to talk parenting, faith, conflict, connection, money, marriage rhythms (and the lack of them), and what happens when love spans cultures, traditions, and expectations.We're not experts. We’re not giving out formulas. We're opening our lives and asking the questions you're probably asking t...
3 Marriage Secrets That Actually Work After 20 Years (Love is NOT What You Think)
Think love is enough to make a marriage last? After 20 years of marriage, 5 kids, and countless challenges, including almost losing their first baby, Ricardo and Christian share the raw truth about what actually makes relationships work long-term.
In this deeply personal episode, they reveal three marriage elements that saved their relationship when emotions failed them: why love is a choice not just a feeling, the difference between planning a wedding versus planning a marriage, and why parenting is both a privilege and an obligation.
What You'll Learn
The question Ricardo asks every...From Elopement to Ministry: Our Real-Life Love Story After 11 Days of Engagement
In this episode of Me & My Pod, we rewind to the chaotic beauty of our beginning: dating for 11 months, getting engaged, and eloping just 11 days later.
We talk candidly about what it looked like to skip the honeymoon phase and dive straight into married life during the first week of classes, living in a tiny attic apartment, navigating culture clashes, laundry wars, and learning each other’s habits the hard way.
But we also dive into the deeper stuff:
What it means to build a marriage without premarital counselingHow cultural and financial realities shaped ou...We Got Married 11 Days After Getting Engaged | Me and My Pod Ep. 2
What happens when two people from completely different cultures meet at Bible college, awkwardly cross paths over a “lost” Bible, and then end up married just 11 days after getting engaged? You’re about to find out.
In this episode, Ricardo and Christian share the full story how they met, their wildly unexpected engagement timeline, what their surprise wedding looked like (yes, in a gazebo with strangers humming Here Comes the Bride), and the early days of cross-cultural marriage.
If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to build a marriage across cultural lines or if yo...
Cross-Cultural Marriage Reality Check | Me and My Pod
In this raw and relatable debut episode, Ricardo and Christian share what nearly 20 years of marriage has taught them—especially when you're building a life across cultures. From a Haitian upbringing to a Chicago childhood, the Volcys unpack how their backgrounds shape how they love, lead, and live.
They're not coming as experts—but as a couple committed to showing up, learning together, and letting ministry and family life flow as one.
Key Takeaways:
Cross-cultural foundations deeply shape marriage dynamicsMarriage is a lifelong, grace-filled processMinistry and family should flow togetherRegular date nights matt...
