Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore the connection between perimenopause, sexless marriage, and rebuilding emotional and physical closeness. Podcast Highlights: • How perimenopause can affect libido, mood, and relationship dynamics • Why many couples experience a shift in intimacy during midlife • The psychological and physiological factors behind “sexless” periods in relationships • How couples can rebuild connection, communication, and closeness • Practical insights for partners navigating these changes together This conversation sheds light on a topic many couples experience but rarely talk about offering understanding, validation, and pathways toward reconnection. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Train...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison, exploring how fear begins as a powerful form of protection but can quietly take over when it never powers down shaping our thoughts, relationships, and nervous system in ways that once kept us safe, but now keep us stuck. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to l...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Healing Your Inner Child, unpacking how early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, emotional triggers, and sense of self. We’ll gently examine the parts of us that still carry old wounds, explore why those younger parts show up the way they do, and share compassionate, practical steps for building safety, resilience, and deeper self-understanding. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while th...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore why emotional distance happens, how resentment and unmet needs quietly build over time, and what it truly takes to reconnect in a meaningful way, breaking down the patterns that create disconnection and sharing practical, research-informed steps couples can use to restore emotional safety, intimacy, and partnership especially if you’ve started to feel more like roommates than partners. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along si...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained. In this episode, we explore why intimacy fades due to stress, trauma, hormonal changes, and pressure, not a lack of love and how compassion and nervous system awareness can create space for reconnection without shame or force.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what w...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores perimenopause, a neurological and emotional transition that affects the brain, nervous system, and relationships long before most people are warned. Often showing up as anxiety, brain fog, emotional reactivity, sleep disruption, or feeling “not like yourself,” these changes are frequently misunderstood or dismissed as stress. We unpack why they happen, how hormones affect the brain, and how understanding your body can replace fear and shame with clarity and compassion.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores resentment and how to let it go. Resentment often builds quietly when needs go unspoken or boundaries aren’t honored, slowly draining emotional energy and impacting relationships. We’ll explore where resentment comes from, how it shows up, and compassionate, practical ways to begin releasing it without ignoring your own needs. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores how nervous system patterns shaped by trauma slowly shift toward safety, regulation, and meaningful moments of calm.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been l...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Adaptation, why we act the way we act and how our behaviors are shaped by our experiences, environments, and nervous systems. Many of our patterns once helped us survive or cope, even if they no longer serve us in the same way today. Understanding this can bring more compassion, clarity, and choice to how we respond to ourselves and others. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Gentle Goal Setting, a compassionate approach to creating goals that honor your capacity, nervous system, and real life, focusing on progress over perfection and helping you move forward without burnout, shame, or unrealistic pressure.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with w...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over our 2025 highlights, reflecting on the moments, conversations, and insights that shaped this year. From meaningful discussions on mental health and relationships to practical tools for growth and resilience, we’re taking time to pause, look back, and honor what we’ve learned together along the way.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the g...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore The Gift of Gratitude, how gratitude can be more than a feel-good practice and instead become a grounding, supportive tool, especially when life feels heavy. We’ll talk about how gratitude can exist alongside stress, grief, and overwhelm, and how gently noticing what’s steady or meaningful can help build resilience, emotional regulation, and a sense of connection, even in challenging seasons. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my w...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode, we’re unpacking What We Need to Know About Millennials and Gen Z, the beliefs, pressures, and cultural shifts shaping how these generations think, work, relate, and cope. If you’ve ever wondered why younger adults communicate the way they do, value what they value, or struggle in ways that might feel new, this conversation will give you clarity, context, and compassion. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking alon...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we break down the emotional and psychological reasons people choose to go no-contact, how trauma and survival patterns influence that decision, and the often unseen costs that come with cutting ties. If you’re a therapist or someone looking to understand this behavior with more compassion, this conversation offers a clear, grounded perspective on what drives the trend and what healing can look like afterward. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of sp...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Making Friendships in Adulthood, why it can feel harder as we get older, what gets in the way, and the key shifts that help us build meaningful connections beyond small talk. If you’re craving real friendship, this conversation will show you how to step into the arena and find it.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing jou...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we dive into Caretaking Declining or Aging Parents, exploring the emotional and practical challenges of supporting the ones who once cared for us. Learn how to balance compassion with boundaries, manage guilt, and create a care plan that honors both your parents’ needs and your own well-being.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Parenting Little Kids with Big Emotions, why children’s feelings can feel so big, how to stay grounded when they’re overwhelmed, and what it takes to turn chaos into connection. Because when we understand the emotions beneath the behavior, we can respond with calm instead of control and help our kids feel truly seen and safe.    I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into The Next Chapter: Life with Your Adult Children, how to navigate the shift from parenting to partnering, maintain connection without overstepping, and find meaning in letting go. We’ll explore what it looks like to support independence, honor new boundaries, and celebrate growth on both sides, because every ending is also a beginning and this chapter can be full of trust, love, and connection.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the h...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode dives into Understanding Disorganized Attachment, what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it impacts our adult relationships. We’ll explore the push-and-pull dynamic of wanting closeness but fearing it at the same time, and how healing begins with recognizing these patterns and building safety in connection.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live wit...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Avoidant Attachment, what it looks like, how it develops, and the ways it can show up in our relationships today. Learn how emotional distance, self-reliance, and discomfort with vulnerability often trace back to early experiences, and discover practical ways to build deeper, more secure connections.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with t...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore anxious attachment, what it looks like in relationships, how it develops, and ways to move toward greater security. Tune in to learn how awareness and understanding can help transform anxious patterns into deeper, more stable connections.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best w...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Understanding Secure Attachment, we explore what it really means to feel safe, connected, and confident in relationships. We’ll break down how secure attachment develops, why it’s essential for emotional well-being, and how it shows up in both therapy and everyday life.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Therapists are People Too, I sit down with Justine Bond to talk about the human side of therapy because behind every professional is a person with their own experiences, growth, and story. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Flip the Script | Part 2 as Julie Russomanno once again interviews Kelly O’Horo. In this continuation, Kelly opens up even more sharing lessons on burnout, balance, and the deeper purpose behind her work.  I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this special episode, we flip the script as Julie Russomanno interviews Kelly O’Horo, diving into her journey, insights, and the passion behind her work offering a fresh perspective you won’t want to miss.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained!  In this episode, Kelly O'horo and Justine Bond dive into what to expect from couples therapy, breaking down the process, common challenges, and how therapy can help partners strengthen communication, rebuild trust, and create deeper connection.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we kn...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we sit down with Kelly O’horo to explore the topic of intimacy, what it really means, why it matters, and practical ways to cultivate more of it in your relationships.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Growing through Grief with Kelly O’Horo, we explore how connection, compassion, and self-awareness can support the healing process after loss. Whether you’re navigating your own grief or supporting someone through theirs, this conversation offers guidance and encouragement to remind you that you are not alone. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over The Psychology of Burnout and Recovery with Kelly O’Horo, exploring how burnout affects the mind and body, the challenges it creates in daily life, and the path toward resilience, healing, and renewed energy.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with wha...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Recovery and Renewal: A Fire Captain's Journey (Part 1), we talk with Dennis Joos, Retired Gilbert Fire Captain, about life on the front lines, the hidden toll of service, and what it means to heal after trauma. It’s a powerful story of identity, resilience, and finding purpose beyond the uniform.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Kelly O’Horo unpacks the importance of expressing anger — not avoiding it. Learn why anger isn’t the enemy, how it shows up in the body, and what healthy expression really looks like. Don’t miss this powerful conversation on one of our most misunderstood emotions.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Kelly O’Horo explore the topic of gaslighting, a subtle but powerful form of manipulation that can leave you questioning your own thoughts, memories, and experiences. We’ll break down what gaslighting really looks like, why it happens, and how you can begin to rebuild trust in yourself if you’ve been affected by it. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over the power of forgiveness with Kelly O’Horo, exploring what forgiveness really means, how it impacts your healing, and why it’s more about setting yourself free than excusing the hurt.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Thera...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over the foreseeable crisis: how to set boundaries and encourage autonomy with Kelly O’Horo, unpacking why over-functioning can lead to long-term challenges and how giving space can foster true growth and resilience. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we kn...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over parenting and dating after divorce with Tracy Kindeski exploring how to balance your role as a parent while opening yourself up to love again, all without losing your sense of self. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over healing and reinventing yourself after divorce with special guest Tracy Kindeski. Discover how to rebuild your identity, reclaim your peace, and move forward with clarity after a life-altering breakup. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores epigenetics and how we carry two generations of trauma in our bodies. We break down how traumatic experiences can alter gene expression and be passed down, affecting not just our mental health but also our physical well-being. Understanding this science helps us approach healing with more compassion and intention—not just for ourselves, but for future generations. Learn why what you carry might not have started with you, and how awareness can lead to transformation.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful framework called The Big 5 for Life, a concept designed to help you get clear on what truly matters to you and how to align your daily life with your deeper purpose.   If you've ever felt stuck, directionless, or unsure of what you're working toward, this episode will give you practical tools and reflective prompts to help you reset and refocus. Whether you're navigating a life transition or just craving more meaning, The Big 5 for Life offers a fresh perspective on how to live with more intention, joy...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over what it’s really like to experience EMDR therapy from the perspective of both client and therapist, featuring Jessica Silver.   I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may...

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how to learn to give the most generous assumption—a powerful mindset shift that leads to more peace, less conflict, and deeper connection in everyday relationships. By choosing to believe others are doing the best they can with what they know, we open the door to empathy, reduce emotional reactivity, and foster healing communication. Let's explore how this simple but profound approach can transform the way we relate to ourselves and others. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, an...