Canaries in the Coal Mine

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Why do so many men shut down emotionally? And where does it start?

For generations, boys have been told to “be strong.” But underneath that message was another one , "Don’t scare us with your feelings."

This cinematic episode explores how emotional silence begins, why it costs men so much more than we realize, and what it takes to unlearn the script that keeps everyone disconnected.

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What happens when you become the mirror in your family—and telling the truth makes you the problem?

Some families thrive on honesty. Others survive on denial. In this episode, we’ll explore what happens when awareness feels like exile, why guilt disguises itself as loyalty, and how telling the truth costs you belonging before it gives you peace.

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Is your parent a narcissist—or just emotionally immature? Understanding the difference between narcissistic parents and emotionally immature parents can change everything. In this video, we’ll define the key differences, share real-life examples you’ll recognize, and give practical tools to help you heal and move forward with clarity.

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Gaslighting is emotional abuse and psychological manipulation that makes us question our memory, perception, and reality. In this video we define gaslighting, share everyday examples, and give tools to rebuild trust.

In this video you’ll learn:

- What gaslighting 'really'  is — and where the term comes from
- Everyday examples: families, relationships, workplaces, friendships
- Practical tools to recognize gaslighting, set boundaries, and rebuild confidence in your own reality

Gaslighting doesn’t just make you doubt the abuser — it makes you doubt yourself. You are not crazy. You are not imagining...

In this episode, I share honestly what Complex PTSD feels like from the inside.

Not the clinical definitions, but the lived reality: why your body stays on guard, why rest feels impossible, and why shame follows you long after the moment has passed.

For years, trauma was thought of as a single event. But Complex PTSD forms when pain is repeated, ongoing, and often invisible — especially in childhood or close relationships. It doesn’t just mark memory. It reshapes identity, emotions, and relationships.

You are not broken. What feels like weakness is often your...

In this episode, I share honestly what it’s like from the 'inside', and I answer the questions so many of us carry: Is depression just a chemical imbalance? Why are so many people depressed today? And how do you actually begin to climb out when the weight won’t lift?

For decades we were told depression = “low serotonin.” Modern research paints a fuller picture. Depression is complex—an interplay of biology (genetics, hormones, brain chemistry, inflammation), life experience (trauma, stress, loss, neglect), and environment (social media, isolation, economic pressure, a culture that never lets us rest). You’re not...

Vagus nerve trauma, panic attacks, and nervous system healing. Learn how childhood trauma rewires the vagus nerve, why you still feel unsafe, and science-backed tools to reset anxiety and body memories.

What if your panic attacks, your constant bracing, your exhaustion—weren’t flaws, but survival instincts?

The truth is, your nervous system remembers. Childhood trauma doesn’t just live in your mind—it’s stored in your body, through a powerful pathway most people have never heard of: the vagus nerve.

In this episode, I share my own story about panic attacks on bridges...

What if your panic attacks... your insomnia... your people-pleasing—weren’t quirks, but survival instincts?

Childhood trauma doesn’t end when we grow up. It lingers—in our relationships, our nervous systems, and our sense of self.

In this video, we’ll unpack how trauma rewires the brain and body, why high-functioning adults still feel unsafe inside, and what healing actually looks like. We’ll explore:

- How trauma rewires the brain and nervous system
- Emotional flashbacks (aka why small things feel so big)
- Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn in adulthood...

narcissistic behaviors, narcissistic parent, emotional abuse, gaslighting, childhood trauma, CPTSD, inner child healing, toxic family dynamics, emotional neglect, trauma recovery

What if the red flags weren’t loud or obvious—what if they looked like 'love'? 
In this video we expose ten narcissistic behaviors you were taught to excuse, minimize, or even admire—especially inside families. 

Naming them is the first step to taking back your power and rebuilding real, safe connection.


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Narcissistic parent. Gaslighting. Childhood trauma. Estrangement. Emotional neglect. This video shares what happened when I confronted my father after years of silence and denial.

It’s been one year since my father and I last spoke.
Not because of a fight.
But because I told the truth—about our childhood.
About the emotional neglect.
About the alcohol.
About the silence.
About the damage.

This is the most personal video I’ve ever made.

If you were raised by someone who gaslit you, denied your reality, or acted like y...

Being a cycle breaker means healing generational trauma, setting boundaries, and choosing truth—even when it hurts. In this video, we explore what it really means to break toxic family patterns.

Being the first in your family to say “no more” can feel lonely, exhausting, and invisible.
But you are not broken. You are the beginning. 💛

In today’s video, we’re talking about the unspoken truth of being the cycle breaker:
the grief, the courage, the healing—and why it often feels like you’re falling apart before you come back home to yourself.
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Trauma isn’t always what we think.
It doesn’t just come from war zones, accidents, or abuse. 

Sometimes, trauma comes quietly—from emotional neglect, disconnection, or growing up without the support you needed.

In this healing deep-dive, we'll gently unpack:
✔️ What trauma really is (it's not the event-it's the body's response)
✔️ The difference between Big "T" and little "t" trauma
✔️ How emotional neglect and ongoing stress impact your nervous system
✔️ Common trauma responses like fawn, freeze, hyper-independence, and minimization
✔️ 5 Grounding Truths to help healing

We're pulling insight from trusted trauma...

Boundaries, people-pleasing, codependency recovery, emotional burnout-if setting limits makes you feel like the bad guy, you're not alone. Sensitive souls often carry the heaviest guilt.

Have you ever said yes with a smile… and then felt resentful, exhausted, or totally invisible?

Here's the truth: We're not monsters for needing space. We're not selfish for saying no.

We're the canaries in the coal mine-and our guilt isn't proof we're wrong. It's a sign we're rewiring old survival patterns.

In this cinematic deep dive from 'Canaries in the Coal Mine', we explore why bo...

Highly Sensitive Person traits, sensitivity, emotional healing - Have you ever been told you're "too sensitive"? Felt like your emotions were inconvenient, dramatic, or just "too much"?

Here's the truth: You're not broken-you're the canary in the coal mine. And your sensitivity isn't weakness; it's survival wisdom.

In this cinematic deep dive from Canaries in the Coal Mine, we explore what it truly means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Inspired by the pioneering research of Dr. Elaine Aron, you'll discover the four core traits of HSPs, the crucial difference between innate sensitivity and...

Have you ever felt like you were playing a part in your family—one you never chose?  
👉 The Hero.  
👉 The Scapegoat.  
👉 The Lost Child.  
👉 The Mascot.  
👉 The Caretaker.  
👉 Or the Switcher—always shifting, always adapting?

This episode dives deep into the 6 hidden roles children take on in dysfunctional families—and how they shape your adult identity, relationships, boundaries, burnout, and even your sense of self.

Whether you grew up with narcissistic parents, emotional neglect, alcoholism, or constant chaos—this video is a compassionate, no-fluff breakdown of the surviv...

Have you ever felt like the adult in your own childhood? Or found yourself constantly fixing everyone else’s emotions — even now?

In this episode, we explore 9 subtle but powerful signs you may have grown up in a dysfunctional family. We’ll talk about parentification, emotional neglect, codependency, and the quiet ways childhood trauma can follow us into adulthood.

Whether you’re a cycle-breaker, an adult child of alcoholics, or simply someone learning to trust their own emotions — this is for you.

🕊️ You’re not brok...

Have you ever felt like the adult in your own childhood? Or found yourself constantly fixing everyone else’s emotions — even now?

In this episode, we explore 9 subtle but powerful signs you may have grown up in a dysfunctional family. We’ll talk about parentification, emotional neglect, codependency, and the quiet ways childhood trauma can follow us into adulthood.

Whether you’re a cycle-breaker, an adult child of alcoholics, or simply someone learning to trust their own emotions — this is for you.

🕊️ You’re not broken. You’re a...

Ever feel like the one who notices everything… but no one else seems to care?

In this first episode of Canaries in the Coal Mine, Shannon shares a message every sensitive soul needs to hear—especially if you grew up in a dysfunctional, narcissistic, or emotionally unavailable family.

We’ll explore why deeply feeling people are often labeled as “too sensitive” in toxic systems, how gaslighting and silence create self-doubt, and what it really means to be the canary in the coal mine.