Ready When You Are

We're flipping the burnout conversation on its head. If you’ve ever thought more sleep, better boundaries, or a new planner would solve your exhaustion — this episode is your wake-up call.

Kelly explores groundbreaking research that reveals what’s actually driving burnout in high-achieving women and professionals — and it has far more to do with internalized roles, identity suppression, and chronic self-surveillance than just workload.

You’ll hear the deeper story, real-world examples, and powerful coaching prompts to help you start unhooking from identities that are quietly draining you.

This isn’t surface-level advice — it’...

Why does personal transformation/change feel so messy, even after breakthroughs?

In this episode, Kelly tackles the frustrating reality of non-linear growth and reveals why the integration phase—that awkward space between knowing better and actually doing better—is where the real magic happens.

Learn the science behind why change feels so difficult, discover the four phases of integration, and walk away with practical strategies to navigate your own transformation journey. Perfect for high-achievers who are tired of expecting their personal growth to follow the same straight line as their career achievements.

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IS IT AMBITION OR ANXIETY? How to Tell What's Really Driving Your Success

You're crushing goals and always pushing forward—but is it healthy drive or hidden fear?

In this straight-talking episode, I break down how to tell if your achievements are fueled by genuine ambition or disguised anxiety.

Learn the exact signs your success might be running on fear, why high achievers often can't tell the difference, and my practical framework for shifting from anxiety-driven hustle to sustainable, fulfilling ambition.

If you've ever wondered why achievements don't feel as good as...

If you've been circling Ascend—curious but cautious—this episode is for you.
I’m breaking down the most common questions, concerns, and quiet hesitations women have before joining.

From:

“Is this the right time in my life?”

“What if my challenges are different from everyone else’s?”

“Do I have enough time?”

To the real reason many high-achieving women hesitate: they’re used to doing it all alone.
We’ll talk about what to expect inside Ascend, how it’s designed to respect your full life (not overload it), and why...

What if your greatest strength is keeping you stuck? Slowly draining your life force? In this eye-opening episode, we explore how our most celebrated qualities—the very traits everyone praises—can silently transform from lifesaving strategies into exhausting cages.

Your incredible work ethic, remarkable self-control, or amazing selflessness might be the very patterns keeping you trapped in diminishing returns and growing fatigue. We unpack why these patterns were once brilliant adaptations, how they become rigid over time, and most importantly, how to transform them from automatic reflexes back into conscious choices.

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You’ve achieved more than most. But you’re tired in a way that rest doesn’t fix.

In this episode, we explore a hard truth: burnout isn’t just about doing too much—it’s about doing too much while still operating from an outdated version of yourself.

You’ve leveled up, but your inner narrative hasn’t caught up. And that misalignment? That’s the weight.

We unpack:

Why burnout and imposter syndrome go hand in hand

The real reason your success feels so heavy

How old identity p...

In this, Kelly tackles the frustrating paradox that plagues high-achieving women: why do smart, successful women keep making the same self-sabotaging decisions?

Kelly dives deep into the unconscious patterns that hijack your intelligence and keep you stuck in cycles of overwork, perfectionism, and burnout. You'll discover:

Holding it together isn't the flex you think it is.

You’re still performing.
Still leading. Still producing.
But something doesn’t feel right anymore.

This episode explores the quiet internal shift that happens when high-achieving women begin to outgrow their current way of operating. Not because they’re broken—but because the old strategies aren’t aligned with who they’re becoming.

We unpack:

Why this isn’t about burnout—it’s about evolution

How different internal motivations drive high-functioning patterns

What to do when your outer li...

The last episode in our bonus series -- digging into the continuum and what the growth process looks like. Today we're talking about the messy middle - the transition from rigid to the adaptive stage. 

You’ve started making changes. You’re showing up differently. But instead of feeling empowered, you feel… unsettled, uncertain, maybe even like a fraud. Sound familiar? That’s the messy middle—the space between who you were and who you're becoming.

In this episode, we break down why transformation feels worse before it feels better and how to navigate the discomfort w...

In this bonus episode, we dive into the emotional chaos that often follows the first moment of self-awareness. The instant you see a pattern that’s been running your life, it can feel like a gut punch. But here’s the truth: the emotional aftermath — the shame, grief, and frustration — isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong. It’s part of the process.

In this episode, I’ll show you how to move through this emotional mess, so it becomes fuel for real, lasting change instead of getting stuck in the overwhelm.

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The biggest lie in personal development? "Just try harder." In this myth-busting episode, Kelly exposes why willpower fails to change your most persistent patterns and what's actually happening beneath the surface.

You'll discover:

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Are you achieving without awareness?

In this first episode of the Inside-Out Transformation series, Kelly explores what happens when success is running you, rather than you running your success. Discover what auto-pilot leadership actually looks like, how to recognize if you're operating on auto-pilot, and a simple daily practice to start building awareness.

If you're hitting goals but feeling an increasing emptiness with each milestone, this episode offers the first step toward transforming your relationship with success.

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Are you pursuing goals you actually chose, or ones you inherited? In this eye-opening episode, Kelly explores the invisible "success scripts" that drive high-achieving women's careers and lives without their conscious awareness.

You'll discover:

Whether you're questioning your current path or...

Why Most Feedback Fails & How to Fix It

Why do carefully crafted feedback conversations so often backfire? In this episode, I break down the real reasons most feedback fails – and it's not about delivery techniques or sandwich methods. Discover how identity threats, power dynamics, and past experiences transform feedback from helpful information into perceived attacks.

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In this episode of Ready When You Are, we dive into the disconnect many high achievers feel between their outward success and inner satisfaction. From the exhaustion of maintaining a "highlight reel" life to the deep-seated identity issues that make achievement feel hollow, we explore why traditional advice fails and how to create success that actually feels good inside. Tune in to learn how to bridge the gap and start defining success on your own terms.

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Why is saying no so difficult for smart, successful people? This episode goes beyond time management tips to explore what's really happening when boundaries feel impossible. From the fear beneath the 'yes,' to the identity tied to helping others, to the control issues making delegation feel risky - we get real about why knowing better isn't enough. With practical approaches based on what's actually driving your 'yes' pattern, this episode transforms how you think about boundaries.

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High achievers know they need rest, but somehow can't seem to take it. In this episode, we explore the recovery gap - why smart people struggle to rest despite knowing better. From the science of cognitive depletion to the hidden drivers behind recovery resistance, we get real about what's keeping you stuck in the cycle of burnout and what to do about it. No generic self-care advice. Just honest conversation about transforming your relationship with rest.

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You know that thing where you're crushing it at everything but secretly wondering why it feels so damn hard? Yeah, we're going there. Let's talk about high achievers and the real cost of excellence - because being 'good' at everything might be wrecking you more than you think.

From pushing yourself too hard (hello, perfectionism) to wondering why success feels empty despite doing all the 'right' things, we're getting honest about what's actually going on. Because here's the truth: excellence might have gotten you here, but it's time to figure out why it's not feeling so excellent...

Ever wonder why knowing what to do isn't enough to actually change? Why you keep hitting the same walls despite trying all the 'right' things? Let's get real about where you actually are in your journey - because that changes everything.

In this episode, I'm sharing the continuum I use - from auto-pilot (where success works but feels mechanical), to rigid (where you know something's off but can't shift), to adaptive (where real change begins), to integrated (where success finally feels natural). Understanding where you are on this journey? It's going to help you get the most...

Hi! I'm Kelly. I'm excited to be kicking off this new podcast after ending a long run (4 years and 205 episodes) of She Doesn't Settle. 

Ready When You Are is an invitation to be done with one-size-fits-all advice and discover what actually works for YOU. I've been doing this work for a long time (yes, I've got the education, the certifications -- I'm not some "influencer" who decided because I did a thing I should coach others to do the thing). That said, I've been through and done a lot of things. :) (You can confirm at my website be...