Love After Lies
Welcome to the Love After Lies podcast, where we help couples who have been devastated by infidelity find hope and healing for their relationship. We're your hosts, Josh and Avonlea Roy. We've walked the painful road of infidelity in our own marriage, and we're going to show you how we overcame the impossible so that you can have more love, freedom, connection, intimacy, and happiness in your marriage.
Fighting Through Fear
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In this deeply vulnerable episode, we return to the raw and painful moments of August 2023—a pivotal month in our healing journey. We talk about the impossible odds of saving our marriage after betrayal, the emotional weight of therapeutic separation, and the heart-wrenching process of rebuilding from ground zero. From moments of profound spiritual insight—like a lakeside baptism and the realization of hidden idols—to crushing lows marked by loneliness, fear, and exhaustion, this episode pulls back the curtain on the intense work of healing. We also reflect on what true intimacy means...
13. Sacred Wounds & the Ezer Kenegdo
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In a spiritual context, a "sacred wound" refers to a deep, transformative trauma or suffering that, instead of being a source of negativity, becomes a catalyst for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with the divine or oneself.
When God creates Eve, He calls her an “ezer kenegdo.” That’s the word used in the original Hebrew in Genesis 2:18. Turns out, this phrase is notoriously difficult to translate into English.
Josh and Avonlea discuss how these two important topics influenced their healing journey.
Calling in "The...
12. Can You Trust Your Spouse?
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Josh and Avonlea dive deeper into their journey of recovery and healing and share some of the resources that helped them navigate through the process.
Affair Recovery "The Shocking Truth About Trust"
Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp
Find a CSAT Therapist
Find an APSATS Therapist
Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal
11. Getting Down to Business
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Josh and Avonlea share more details about their journey and specifics about how they handled the first month after D Day.
Episode 10. Betrayal Trauma & Post Traumatic Growth
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In this episode, Avonlea and Josh talk about trauma and betrayal trauma, as well as a lesser known subject: post traumatic growth.
Episode 9. Sex & Addiction
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Josh and Avonlea share what they have learned about lust, sex, and addiction, and how that knowledge empowered them on their journey of healing and recovery.
Episode 8. To Divorce or Not?
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Josh and Avonlea discuss the question of divorce after infidelity.
Episode 7. Therapeutic Separation & Sex Addiction
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Josh and Avonlea talk about their decision to separate, and how they first learned about sex and lust addiction and how it might be impacting their relationship.
Episode 6. Let's Talk About Sex
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In this episode, Josh and Avonlea talk about how sex went wrong in their lives.
Episode 5. Avonlea's Betrayal Trauma Coping Tools and Strategies
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Avonlea talks about her journey and navigating betrayal trauma.
