Self-Leadership Group

In this workshop we're diving into beliefs—the deep-rooted thoughts that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world. 

Some of these beliefs can really empower us, but others silently hold us back. 

These are our limiting beliefs. 

They often form early in life and become our core beliefs.

But the good news? Beliefs are not facts. They’re learned—and what’s learned can be unlearned or rewritten. And, this unlock and self-discovery is where there is significant potential for growth. 

Gratitude isn’t about ignoring problems or forced positivity—it’s a science-backed tool that can rewire your brain, boost resilience, and improve relationships, performance, and wellbeing. In this workshop, we’ll explore the real science of gratitude and give you a proven, practical framework you can start using today.

We're going to look at 6 key areas were Gratitude has been proven to have an impact:

So here are some of the incredible findings from a massive amount of scientific research:

A Self-Contract fills the accountability gap.

Most men struggle with the gap between good intentions and consistent action. We're excellent at setting goals but sometimes we can fail at the daily execution required to achieve them. and it's in the daily execution that the longer term goals are achieved A self-contract creates a bridge across this gap.

Benefits of Self-Contracts:

Increased Follow-Through: (A study published on schoolplanner found that those who wrote down their goals were 42% more likely to achieve them)so written commitments have 42% higher completion rate than mental...

Performance Mindset is a mental approach that prioritises:

•Growth

•Focus

•Resilience

To achieve high performance in any field, not just sport, but also work/ business, stage, and personal endeavours.

Most mental blocks stem from society’s definition of success – external (out of our Control)

•Confidence problems? You probably tie your confidence to results

•Overly nervous & tense? You are likely worried about results

•Struggle with Resilience? You probably beat yourself up after perceived negative results

Understand the Process Vs Results Paradox

Create and dev...

In this workshop you'll understand the importance of professional boundaries. You'll also learn how to set and manage them.

Professional boundaries are the limits we identify and set through actions and/or communication to protect our time, energy, values, and responsibilities in our work and leadership roles.

They define what’s okay (what we’re comfortable with) and what’s not (what we’re not comfortable with) okay in relationships, work, and life.”

At their core, boundaries are all about who we give power to. They force us to anal...

In this powerful and engaging workshop, professional rugby player and trainee sports psychologist Sebastian De Chaves shares the practical application of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for high performance and everyday mental resilience.

Drawing from his experience in elite sport and psychology, Sebastian walks you through the CBT model of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours—highlighting how our internal responses drive external outcomes. You’ll explore the concept of “mind the gap”, which introduces a moment of conscious awareness between stimulus and response, helping you to make more empowered choices under pressure.

Expect a blend of theory, humour...

In this workshop we dive into something that affects every part of your life—boundaries. Boundaries relate to several of the 7 pillars from the confidence workshop, notably, knowing your values and your why, self-trust, and who you surround yourself with. 

Most of us weren’t taught how to set boundaries. Boundaries are not about pushing people away. They’re about protecting yourself and what matters to you. And, as the endless studies and evidence shows us; this is closely related to building and maintaining confidence. 

 (Consider this the 8th pillar of...

This is a new and specific hypnosis centred on consolidating this psychological anchor so you can use it to your advantage when you need to. 

As you know it's a technique for immediately changing your state, your energy. And it's very much a practice. And with practice it gets better. It gets stronger. And unlike other mental skills and techniques, this is very fast and easy to implement. 

It's a really powerful and very effective proven technique for immediate state change to the mind and body. 

When the trigger is fired, the sta...

In this workshop we reinforce the NLP anchor from last the Part 1 workshop and follow this with a new and specific hypnosis centred on consolidating this psychological anchor so you can use it to your advantage when you need to. 

As you know it's a technique for immediately changing your state, your energy. And it's very much a practice. And with practice it gets better. It gets stronger. And unlike other mental skills and techniques, this is very fast and easy to implement. 

It's a really powerful and very effective proven technique for immediate state ch...

There are thousands of papers published on self-confidence or self-esteem, and many of these papers connect self-confidence with success in life.

In this workshop you will:

 - Understand Confidence 

 - Learn how to build confidence (Through 7 Key Pillars)

 - Come away with a Powerful NLP Anchoring technique for immediate state change, trigger confidence when you need it! This is not to be missed. 

Anchors are used widely at the highest levels of sport, business & performance. 

NEW: Hypnosis - Achieve Your Goal

Powerful Visualisation Exercise for Achieving your goals. 

Visualization is a skill that can be trained and improved with consistent practice, just like any other skill.

So if you say you're no good at visualising, then you're probably right, if you haven't been practicing it. 

People often think of skill development as a physical thing. 

There are significant opportunities for mental skill development too, and this is one of them. 

Visualising what we want is a mental skills, that can be easily overlooked in today's world as society, the news, soc...

This isn’t about ‘feeling better.’ It’s about having an internal support system when life gets tough. In this Part 2 workshop you'll understand what self-compassion is, and you'll learn to develop your own internal support system. Create your personal self-compassionate affirmation to keep and revisit when times inevitably get tough. 

Self-compassion. That might not be something you hear often, especially when we talk about being a man. But self-compassion isn't about being soft—it’s about having your own back. It’s about resilience, emotional strength, and long-term mental health and mental and emotional strength.

Self-compassion means treating yourself, just like how you would be kind to a good friend or family member who is going through a tough time. (helping them move emotions, moving that energy).

It's about being understanding and supportive to yourself, even if you made a mistake, feel not good enough, or are...

EI about Identifying and understanding your own emotions and the emotions of others, as well as managing your own emotions and even influencing the emotions of others. High EI is linked to greater personal, social, and professional success.

It affects communication, resilience, leadership, teamwork, relationship building, conflict resolution and more.

Unlike IQ, emotional intelligence can be developed over time with practice. In this workshop you'll discover how.

A growth mindset is a way of thinking about yourself and your abilities that embraces the idea that you can develop, improve, and grow through effort, learning, and persistence. It's about believing you're a work in progress rather than a finished product.

In this workshop you'll learn everything you need to know about understanding, building, and thriving with a Growth Mindset.

key characteristics:

The opposite of a negative, fixed mindset is a Growth Mindset.

A growth mindset is a way of thinking about yourself and your abilities that embraces the idea that you can develop, improve, and grow through effort, learning, and persistence. It's about believing you're a work in progress rather than a finished product.

In this workshop you'll learn everything you need to know about understanding, building, and thriving with a Growth Mindset. 

key characteristics:

5 Minute Audio: Building Resilience - Powerful Daily Framework

A 9 minute visualisation to build resilience. 

Mental & Emotional Resilience: Understanding and developing a mindset that embraces growth and endurance, not just to survive hardships but to learn, evolve, and emerge stronger. 

This includes developing emotional understanding strength, managing stress, and seeking support when needed.

In this workshop you'll understand mental & emotional resilience as well as having practical tools, techniques and exercises for developing and strengthening your mental and emotional resilience.

This is the Hypnosis audio recording from the workshop on 'Fear & Overcoming Fear'.

Watch or listen to the full 'Sleep - Education & Optimal Framework' module, before listening to this. Ensure to implement the sleep Framework as outlined in the education module. 

Everything you need to know about Sleep and an optimal framework to improve the quality of your sleep. 
For visuals and to take a screen grab of the framework, watch the full video in the 'Classroom'. 

Full workshop audio on visualisation and neuroplasticity, including a Visualisation Audio and Hypnosis recording. 
Please note: the Visualisation and Hypnosis audio sections have been extracted from this workshop so you can listen to them independently. 

A 15 minute hypnosis to promote Neuroplasticity. Do NOT listen to while driving or operating any machinery. 

Visualisation training to complete daily. Do NOT listen to while driving or operating any machinery. 
Before playing, prepare by choosing one of your long-term (6 month goals), really think about the goal, then press play on the audio. 

Having listened to part 1 and spent the necessary time forming your first three SMART goals (remember, it's not a rush), now you're ready for part 2. Do not move to part 2 until you've completed part 1. 

As always, any questions either ask me directly or bring them into the Open Support Sessions

Knowing your Psychometric test results, particularly around personal growth and your strengths and weaknesses within this section, coupled with knowing your values, and your 'why' from last week's workshop, this provides clarity, drive/ intrinsic motivation, focus, alignment/ authenticity, resilience, and direction when setting meaningful Goals.

Each of us has only one WHY. It’s not a statement about who we aspire to be; it expresses who we are when we are at our natural best. It's a mission statement. 

At this point, having completed the psychometric test and discovered your core Values, your improved self-awareness is ready for another level: Knowing your 'Why'. 

In this video workshop you will:

Take your time with this. It does not need to b...

Russell reached out to me in March 2024 after a seminar I gave. He's a competitive kickboxer. He initially wanted to compete without his performance being negatively impacted by performance anxiety, poor sleep, and high stress levels. 
Russell is also a father and a busy sales manager.

Not only did Russell become Irish Kickboxing champion, but he was then selected for the world championships in Vienna. Russell also found his performance in work was enhanced significantly. 

From this conversation you'll learn how he:
 - He is now able to perform at his very best in...

In this video, I explore the evolutionary roots of anxiety and how it has served as a survival mechanism for our ancestors. I discuss how anxiety helped early humans stay alert to threats and navigate social dynamics. I also highlight the mismatch between our ancient responses and modern life, emphasizing the importance of managing anxiety with modern psychological tools & techniques. I encourage you to reflect on these insights and consider how they apply to your own experiences.