Igbo, Queer, and Unfiltered

This episode is for queer Africans whose lives are talked about like theories instead of facts in schools, churches, on Twitter, and over family dinners.

While family is meant to be your first home, for many queer Africans, it is also the first place where they feel silenced, erased, or threatened. This episode is for all queer people who understand that sometimes the deepest wounds come from your biological family rather than strangers.

We're going to jump right into one of the most exhausting things that queer people have to deal with: being asked to explain ourselves all the time. This can come from homophobic uncles at family gatherings or random strangers.

This one's for all the queer Africans who were told to tone it down so they could fit in. This one is also for everyone who hid pictures of themselves, changed their voice, and didn't talk at family gatherings because they thought that would keep them safe. Respectability politics are control, not protection. They don't stop violence, rejection, or gossip; they just make it easier to erase you. They will still call you an abomination even if you follow their rules.

This is meant for LGBTQIA+ Africans, who have been told that their existence is unimportant and that it comes from the West. It is for people who know what their rights are and won't give in any more. African governments, religious groups, and traditional gatekeepers don't dislike queer people because they think we are immoral; they dislike us because we can't be controlled, don't apologize, and can't be governed.

This one is for all the queer people who were told to be quiet, turn down their light, or wait for permission to shine. This is for people who have been through enough pain and finally chose joy as a way to fight back.

This episode is for all queer Africans and queer people of African descent who have been told that being silent equates to being respectful and that your presence, your love, and your life must be “private” to be accepted.Silence is not culture; it is control; it is shame masquerading as tradition; and it is erasing us.

This episode is for all queer individuals who have been told that they are a disgrace to their lineage, as well as for those who are being silenced, mocked, or erased for simply existing. This is also intended for individuals who have heard that homosexuality is not African.

This is for all queer individuals who have been told that their pain is too loud, their truth is too inconvenient, or their presence is too much. It is also for those who have witnessed fake "allies" disappear when the hate begins to creep in. Your silence when queer people are being harassed, deleted, misrepresented, or taken down says a lot. You can't be a part of our culture, style, and brilliance and then shut up when we're being attacked. There is no shame in this conversation; it is about the truth. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, that's...

We discuss the experience of losing the first home one has ever known, and the subsequent need to rebuild oneself from the ground up. This episode is not about pity; it is about presence. It is about demonstrating one's full presence in the face of loss, in a stylish, wounded, tender, and proud manner.#GriefAndQueerness #QueerAndUnbothered #GayIgboVoices #BlackQueerHealing #UnspokenFunerals

#AfroQueerLegacy #BeautyAsResistance #ChosenFamilyHeals #QueerAndNigerian #VisibleAndVulnerable

#SoftnessIsPower #StyleAndSurvival #QueerLiberation #MyMotherMyStyle #UnapologeticallyQueer

#FashionAsLanguage #ReclaimGrief #QueerBirthright #TendernessIsRadical #MyOwnKindOfRunway

This episode is for people who have felt bad about slowing down, who have been physically worn out by survival, and who are ready to see ease as a right instead of a reward. To rest is not to be lazy. Rest is what they never wanted us to have. It's about what it's like for queer people when everyone expects them to perform, prove, and produce just to be tolerated. We're told we need to be quiet to be safe, strong to be respected, and exceptional to be accepted. If you've ever been scared to stop, say no...

This is about the experience queer people have when those who raised them, prayed for them, or told them they loved them also make them feel unsafe. We are taught that family is vital, even if it means we have to shrink to fit in. If you've ever had to make emotional exits, rethink what home means, or remember that love should never need you to be quiet, this episode is for you.#QueerAndUnfiltered #LGBTQIANigeria #AfroQueerVoices #ChosenFamily #QueerBoundaries #FamilyIsNotAlwaysSafe #UnapologeticallyQueer #ProtectYourPeace #BlackQueerHealing #ComingHomeToYourself #EmotionalSafety #SoftnessIsPower #SurvivalAndResistance #QueerLiberation #QueerHealing

Being truly present, whether at work or in a creative setting, often means doing emotional work, choosing to be quiet, and always balancing the need to be safe and the need to be seen. This conversation is about survival, yes, but also about reclaiming joy, setting boundaries, and showing up with intention, even when it’s complicated. This episode is for all queer people who have had to hide their light at work, and for those who are learning how to shine anyway.

This episode explores what it's like to be a queer African in a world that always asks you to choose between visibility and safety. Being out comes with risks, both emotional and cultural, and sometimes physical. But hiding also comes with a cost. Queerness is still valid, no matter how you live. This is a reminder that pride can be loud and soft at the same time. This episode is for anyone who wants to hold on to their identity with purpose, protection, and power.#QueerAndUnfiltered #VisibilityMatters #LGBTQIANigeria #AfroQueerVoices #OutOnMyTerms #QueerVisibility #SoftnessIsPower #LivingOutLoud #BlackQueerJoy #QueerHealing #SafeQueerSpaces #SurvivalAndResistance #ComingHomeToYourself #UnapologeticallyQueer...

This is a conversation about what it means to love, be wanted, and connect as a queer African who has survived shame, silence, and secrecy. Anyone who is learning to love without apologies or guilt will benefit from this episode. #QueerAndUnfiltered #LovingOutLoud #QueerIntimacy #DesireWithoutShame #QueerHealing #LGBTQIANigeria #AfroQueerVoices #UnapologeticallyQueer #QueerLove #ComingHomeToYourself #BlackQueerJoy #QueerDating #SoftnessIsPower #HealingAndThriving

This episode is about how softness, rest, and care are radical acts for queer Nigerians, Africans, and members of the diaspora. Many of us were taught to be strong, quiet, and cautious just to survive. This is for anyone who wants to get rid of their shame, guilt, and fear about caring for themselves. It is a reminder that you deserve softness because you exist.#SoftnessIsSurvival #QueerAndUnfiltered #UnapologeticallyQueer #QueerSelfCare #AfroQueerVoices #HealingAndThriving #QueerRestAsResistance #EmotionalLabor #LGBTQIANigeria #ComingHomeToYourself #SelfCareIsPolitical #BlackQueerJoy #RadicalSoftness #QueerHealing

This episode is a love letter to the people who chose us and became our family when our biological family rejected us. When our biological families fail us, we find home in those who love us as we are without conditions, and we talk about what a chosen family means. This episode is for anyone who is building their own version of a family. It’s for queer Nigerians and Africans who are now writing new definitions of belonging that are rooted in care, loyalty, and joy. Love that is decided, not forced, is the most revolutionary form of re...

This episode talks about the complicated relationship between queerness and faith. Many of us were taught that our queerness was something to hide, fear, or pray away. But what happens when we start to regain our spirituality outside of shame, silence, and survival? We look at how religion has hurt people, how colonial interpretations of faith were used to justify homophobia, and how queer people are finding their way back to spiritual truth on their terms. This episode demonstrates that faith does not have to be based in fear. This episode is also for anyone who has been told t...

This episode explores the daily reality of code switching as a queer person in unsafe, unfriendly, or judgmental spaces. Many of us are constantly changing how we talk, dress, and show up to feel safe or accepted. Code switching may be rooted in survival, but it can often leave us feeling broken and exhausted. This episode is for anyone who has ever had to dim their light to stay safe, or who is looking for spaces where they can exist fully. We affirm together that our wholeness matters and that we deserve to take up space without apologizing.#QueerAndUnfiltered #C...

This episode elaborates on the process of learning to accept one's queer identity with confidence and pride. Homophobia can keep us from loving ourselves fully because of self-doubt and the heavy influence of culture, religion, and society. We look at what it looks like to let go of shame, change negative stories, and step into our truth without apologizing. This episode is for anyone who deals with queer identity in a world that tells them to hide it. Together, we say that being queer is something to celebrate, not something to overcome. Remember that you are not alone on thi...

This episode discusses the importance of financial independence for LGBTQIA+ individuals, especially in societies where queer people face job discrimination, family rejection, and limited opportunities. This episode also shares steps queer people can take to build financial stability, security, and safety. Money is not just about wealth, it is about freedom, protection, and the ability to live authentically. This episode gives you insight and motivation to help you take control of your financial future. Let’s continue the conversation by sharing your thoughts and listening.#QueerFinancialIndependence #SecureTheBag #QueerWealth #LGBTQIAFinance #FinancialFreedom #QueerAndUnfiltered #BuildingGenerationalWealth #QueerSuccess #EconomicEmpowerment #MoneyMatters #QueerEntrepreneurship #UnapologeticallyQueer

Mental health is already a struggle for many, but the weight of societal rejection, discrimination, and cultural expectations makes it even harder for queer people. In this episode, I share the unique mental health challenges LGBTQIA+ individuals face, from internalized homophobia and family pressure to the emotional toll of navigating a world that often refuses to see us.I talk about how to move beyond survival mode and step into a space of healing, acceptance, and resilience. This conversation is about acknowledging that our mental health matters, that our joy is valid, and that we deserve peace. Tune in a...

In this episode, I elaborate on the realities of queer love in societies where LGBTQIA+ relationships are not accepted. I look at what it means to be in a relationship while balancing visibility, safety, and cultural expectations. Queer love is powerful, valid, and deserving of celebration. This episode is a deep dive into what it means to love freely, regardless of whether you're single, dating, or just curious about queer relationships. Let's continue the conversation by listening and sharing your thoughts.

#QueerLove #LGBTQIANigeria #QueerRelationships #LoveIsLove #VisibilityAndSafety #DatingWhileQueer #ChosenFamily #UnfilteredConversations #QueerAndUnapologetic #SelfLoveAndRelationships

This episode focuses more on happiness, resilience, and the power of recognizing queer happiness. We deserve to thrive, love, and experience happiness, just like anyone else.I discuss the importance of finding joy in self-expression, relationships, friendships, and personal milestones, even in environments that try to suppress queer existence. I also share my moments of joy, from small wins to big celebrations, and how embracing them can be a form of resistance.I want to inspire queer people to find beauty in the everyday and build spaces where joy can flourish. Our happiness is, undoubtedly, revolutionary. Please take the t...

This episode elaborates on the relationship between family, culture, and coming out as a gay Igbo man. In a society that often resists change, I dive into what it means to embrace your truth.I share personal stories, reflecting on the fear, rejection, and emotional hurdles that come with coming out, as well as moments of resilience and self-acceptance. I also discuss how to navigate difficult family dynamics, set boundaries with unsupportive relatives, and find community within family or through chosen family.I'm aiming to provide insight, motivation, and support to folks struggling with acceptance. This episode is for...

In this episode, we explore the journey of living authentically in a society that often demands conformity. I discuss the emotional and psychological challenges of embracing your truth.I share my experiences of navigating self-acceptance, overcoming internalized fears, and setting boundaries with those who refuse to respect our identity. I also stress the importance of finding a supportive community and surrounding yourself with people who affirm and uplift you. Living authentically is not always easy, but it is liberating to do so. It is a journey of self-love, confidence, and the courage to choose yourself over social acceptance. Through t...

This episode tackles the widespread stereotypes and misconceptions about being gay, from the belief that homosexuality is "un-African" to the dangerous myth that queerness is a "Western influence."I also address harmful assumptions, such as the notion that homosexuality is a choice, that LGBTQIA+ individuals are promiscuous, or that queer individuals can be "fixed" through marriage. Drawing from my personal experiences and larger cultural observations, I highlight the impact of these misconceptions on the lives of queer Africans and emphasize the significance of challenging these narratives. Through this conversation, I hope to encourage critical thinking, dispel myths, and push f...

In this episode, I am sharing a deeply personal and honest conversation about what it means to navigate life as a gay man from Nigeria. I am introducing myself and setting the tone for this journey, a space where I can amplify queer voices, celebrate Igbo culture, and have unfiltered conversations. My story is about the challenges of growing up in Nigeria, facing rejection from family and society, and the resilience it takes to embrace who I truly am. The complexities of balancing cultural pride with my identity as a queer man come into play as I discuss why re...

 I would like to introduce you to Igbo, Queer, and Unfiltered, a space where identity, culture, and authenticity collide. This podcast serves as a celebration of what it means to be proudly Igbo, unapologetically queer, and completely unfiltered.I will take you on a journey that explores the complexities of living at the intersection of being queer and African through personal stories, cultural insights, and candid conversations. From addressing stereotypes to amplifying voices often overlooked, this podcast will provide authentic discourse, sprinkle in a dash of sass, and undoubtedly spill a little palm wine along the way. We will hav...