Your Fertility Counsellor

What if manifestation wasn’t about forcing an outcome — but about practicing the feelings you long to live in?

In this episode, we open space to explore a gentler way of holding hope on the fertility journey: through micro practices of gratitude, compassion, and connection that can shift how you move through each day.

Together, we talk about how small rituals — a daily gratitude, a moment of self-compassion, or sharing one tiny hope with your partner — can become anchors of steadiness in uncertain times. Fear may always walk beside you, but compassion can walk there too, sof...

What if clarity didn’t come all at once — but through gentle layers we peel back over time?

In this episode, we explore the quiet patterns that shape the fertility journey: the tendency to overthink, the longing to control, and the surprising freedom that comes when we allow space for life to unfold.

Together, we talk about the restorative power of rest, and how walking side by side — literally and figuratively — can transform conversations. Whether it’s stepping into nature to calm your nervous system, or realizing that not every challenge needs to be solved in one sit...

What if making fewer decisions could bring you more peace in your fertility journey?

In this episode, we talk about the hidden weight of decision fatigue — how endless choices can quietly drain your energy and cloud your clarity.

You’ll learn how to focus on the decisions that matter most, release the ones that don’t, and use rest and mindfulness as tools for better choices. These small shifts can ease anxiety, create space for clarity, and remind you that feeling tired or overwhelmed isn’t failure — it’s being human.

This isn’t about doing...

What if honoring your grief was part of your strength — not a sign of weakness?

In this episode, we open space for a deeper, often unspoken part of the fertility journey: the quiet weight of grief, the exhaustion that lingers, and the courage it takes to keep showing up.

Together, we explore how emotional fatigue, decision overload, and the heartbreak of intangible losses are not signs that you’re failing — but signs that you are human. That you are living through something deeply complex with extraordinary grace.

You’ll be invited to reflect on the m...

What if the next few months weren’t just about outcomes — but about how you want to feel along the way?

In this episode, we shift the focus inward: beyond tracking cycles and timelines, toward emotional clarity, grounding, and meaningful connection. You’ll be guided to visualise the version of yourself you want to grow into — emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually.

We talk about asking deeper questions, reconnecting with your partner, and letting go of beliefs that no longer serve your journey. Through intentional reflection and gentle curiosity, you’ll be invited to create space — for healing...

What if the past six months weren’t just something to get through — but something worth pausing for?

In this episode, we take a gentle, honest look at your fertility journey so far this year. Through guided reflection, you’ll be invited to slow down, check in with yourself, and notice the emotional weight you may still be carrying.

We talk about how acknowledging your emotions, spotting patterns, and opening up to your partner can help create space for healing and clarity. This isn’t about fixing or rushing — it’s about letting yourself feel, release, and...

What if journaling could be more than just writing — what if it became a tool for emotional clarity and resilience on your fertility journey?

In this episode, we explore how journaling offers a safe space to process emotions, reduce anxiety, and gain insight — no perfection required.

You’ll learn how simple practices like morning pages or evening reflections can help you stay grounded, and how prompts can gently guide your thoughts. Whether you write one sentence or a full page, it’s about showing up honestly.

Remember: “Journaling isn’t about having the right words...

What if slowing down could actually support your fertility journey?

In this episode, we explore how choosing slowness isn't just restful — it's restorative, especially when you're navigating the emotional and physical demands of fertility.

From nervous system regulation to creating calm amidst uncertainty, we unpack why slowing down isn’t stepping back — it’s stepping into your body, your needs, and your inner wisdom.

You’ll hear real stories of how taking intentional pauses — from digital detoxes to saying no to draining commitments — helped others reclaim their energy and clarity. We’ll talk about simple, sc...

What if going slower actually helped you move forward?

In this episode, we explore how embracing slowness can bring clarity, connection, and calm — especially in a world that rewards hustle. From the myth of multitasking to the magic of presence, you’ll hear how slowing down isn’t falling behind — it’s coming home to yourself.

Join me as we unpack the transformative power of intentional slowness. Learn how single-tasking sharpens your focus, why “white space” in your calendar matters, and how simple shifts — like listening more deeply or walking without your phone — can change your day (and your...

What if the best form of self-care didn’t cost a thing — and was just outside your door?

In this episode, we’re taking a walk into the power of nature. From lowering stress and calming the mind to improving your overall mood and focus, being in green spaces offers surprising benefits backed by science. And the best part? It’s simple, accessible, and completely free.

Join me as we explore these fascinating studies that show how time in nature reduces rumination, boosts wellbeing, and supports both mental and physical health — even if it’s just for 20...

Fertility can be a winding road — full of hope, fear, and everything in between.

In this episode of The Fertility Counsellor Podcast, we’re diving into the emotional side of the journey. We’ll talk about what it really feels like to face the unknown, how fear shows up, and why even the tiniest wins deserve to be celebrated.

This isn’t just for those trying to conceive — it’s for doulas, partners, and anyone walking alongside someone on this path. I’m sharing practical tools to help support birth partners, build stronger support systems, and create spac...

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough attention — the mental health of new fathers.

Becoming a parent can be joyful, but for many dads, it also comes with stress, isolation, and even postnatal depression. In this episode, I’m opening up a much-needed conversation about the emotional challenges fathers face after the birth of a child.

We’ll explore what the research says, the red flags to look out for, and why emotional support and counseling matter — not just for moms, but for dads too. Because parenting is a shared journey, and both parents...

Let’s take a deeper look at the fertility journey — beyond just the treatments.

Fertility isn’t a one-size-fits-all path. It’s layered with emotions, expectations, and moments of both hope and heartache. In this episode, I’m creating space to talk about the full picture — the emotional weight, the healing process, and the power of community support.

We’ll explore what it really means to walk this road, how crucial it is to be seen and supported, and why emotional care is just as important as physical treatment — not only during fertility treatments but throughout pregn...

Let’s talk about the real journey behind IVF — the emotions, the decisions, and everything in between.

In this episode, I’m opening up about the complexities of fertility challenges, especially through the lens of IVF. From the emotional highs and lows to the financial strain and the overwhelming process itself, we’re unpacking it all.

We’ll break down how the IVF journey unfolds, what to expect along the way, and why mental health and a strong support system are absolutely essential.

Whether you're just beginning to explore fertility options or you're in the mid...

Let’s unpack what infertility really means—beyond the surface.

Infertility isn’t just a medical diagnosis — it’s a deeply personal and often overwhelming journey. In this episode, I’m opening up space to talk about the real stories behind the science: the definitions, the causes, and the emotional weight that so many carry in silence.

Let’s break down what infertility really means, what factors play a role for both women and men, and how conditions like endometriosis, PCOS, or sperm issues can impact fertility. This episode brings light to how stress, hormones, and mental hea...

Let’s be real — IVF isn’t just a physical process. It’s an emotional rollercoaster. And in this episode, I’m opening up the space to talk about the emotional hotspots that so many people experience but don’t always feel comfortable sharing.

Maybe you're waiting for that critical blood test. Maybe you've had one too many heart-heavy conversations with your partner. Or maybe you're just exhausted from the hope-disappointment cycle. If that sounds like you — you’re not alone, and this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about what to expect emotionally, how to prepare for...

This episode takes a heartfelt deep dive into the IVF journey—a path that’s as emotionally and mentally demanding as it is physically challenging. I explore what it truly means to be “ready” for this process—not only from a medical standpoint, but also in terms of mental and emotional preparation.

I’ll walk you through the IVF timeline, from that initial consultation all the way through to the hormone stimulation phase, egg retrieval, embryo transfer, and the anxious wait for pregnancy test results. I also discuss the crucial importance of communication—with your partner and your medical t...

In this episode, I open up about a deeply personal and emotional experience—a challenging day marked by injury, sadness, and the difficult decision to miss an important fertility conference. I share the wave of emotions that followed, from vulnerability and disappointment to unexpected moments of gratitude, and reflect on the lessons that surfaced through it all.

This conversation explores the importance of slowing down, reassessing our priorities, and nurturing the relationships that sustain us, especially during life’s tougher moments. I also dive into how hardship can reveal hidden silver linings and why embracing gratitude, even in t...

In this episode, I sit down for a heartfelt and eye-opening conversation with Johanna Wagner, a birth and postpartum doula, to hear about her journey into this deeply compassionate work and the profound impact doulas have in guiding families through pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period. Johanna explains how doulas differ from midwives and how they work alongside medical teams to create a more empowering birthing experience.

This episode explores the emotional challenges of childbirth, including navigating birth plans, managing trauma, and the importance of letting go of control in a highly medicalised environment. Johanna also highlights...

In this episode, I have the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Liow, the Scientific Director at Virtus Fertility Centre, for an inspiring conversation about his remarkable journey from veterinary medicine to becoming a leading figure in reproductive biology. Together, we delve into the fascinating world of embryology, exploring the latest advancements in technology, groundbreaking methodologies, and the crucial role of personalised treatment plans in fertility care.

Dr. Liow offers a heartfelt perspective on the emotional side of fertility, emphasising the importance of compassion, support, and individualised attention throughout each patient’s unique journey. We also discuss th...

In this episode, I explore how to navigate life's inevitable changes and find your footing when plans take unexpected turns. Change is an inherent part of life, but when it comes suddenly or deeply impacts us emotionally, it can be overwhelming. Whether it's a small adjustment or a major life shift, understanding how to manage the emotional highs and lows can make the process smoother.

I walk through the change curve, explaining how individuals typically respond to unexpected changes and the emotions that follow. I also highlight the importance of understanding yourself and your partner during these...

In this episode, we introduce you to Helen Yii, a leading expert in fertility counselling and a valued member of our team. Helen shares her inspiring journey, from how she embarked on fertility counselling to her experiences and key insights into her role. She discusses how she helps individuals, couples, and families navigate their fertility journey, offering guidance, support, and expert advice.

We also explore her career path, favorite projects, and the challenges she has overcome along the way. Whether you're interested in the field of fertility counselling or simply want to learn more about the incredible...

In this episode of Your Fertility Counsellor, I walk you through the IVF process step by step—from the initial timeline to egg retrieval and frozen embryo transfer. Beyond the medical aspects, I share insights on the emotional highs and lows of IVF, along with practical strategies to manage stress and prioritise your well-being.

Whether you're navigating IVF yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers guidance, encouragement, and a reminder that you’re not alone.

💛 Sharing is Caring! If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who might benefit. Together, we can cre...

In this insightful episode, we sit down with renowned fertility specialist Dr. Roland Chieng, the Medical Director of Virtus Fertility Centre Singapore, a fertility specialist, OBGYNE, and reproductive surgeon, to explore the intricacies of IVF, the emotional challenges couples face, and the role of counselling in fertility treatment. 

Dr. Chieng shares his journey from obstetrics to becoming a leading expert in IVF, his approach to patient care, and the importance of emotional well-being in the success of fertility treatments. Whether you're considering IVF or simply want to learn more about the science and heart behind fertility medicine, t...

In this episode, I dive into the significant emotional burden of infertility and the stress that comes with it. I highlight how the psychological distress can be just as intense as that of serious medical conditions, and explore how men and women respond to stress differently. 

I also talk about the physiological effects of stress on hormonal balance and share some practical techniques—such as breathing exercises, mindfulness, and movement—that can help alleviate stress. My goal in this episode is to encourage you to prioritise your well-being and take actionable steps toward managing stress more effectively.

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In this episode, I dive into the real challenges of staying committed to your goals, especially when life throws you curveballs. I also share 5 key strategies that helped me get back on track. Whether you’ve fallen off your habit streak or are feeling discouraged, this episode is packed with practical tips to help you bounce back stronger.

Don’t let setbacks keep you down! Tune in to discover how to transform frustration into fuel and make 2025 your best year yet!

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Welcome to a very special episode of the Your Fertility Counsellor podcast! We are thrilled to have a remarkable guest with us today, Sharon Lim, who brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table.

Sharon is not just a counsellor; her journey spans across medicine, pharmaceuticals, and counselling, offering a truly unique perspective. From studying medicine in the UK to working in pharmaceuticals in both the US and Australia, Sharon has seen it all. But her story doesn’t stop there—her transition into fertility counselling is both inspiring and heartfelt.

In this epis...

In today’s episode of Your Fertility Counsellor, I share essential questions to ask your IVF doctor, whether you're just starting your IVF journey or preparing for your first appointment. I emphasize the importance of preparation, clear communication, and building your “dream team” – your partner, doctor, and clinic – to ensure a supportive and informed experience throughout the process.

I also dive into why it's important to choose the right clinic and doctor, and how understanding their medical expertise, success rates, and approach to personalised treatment can make all the difference in your IVF journey.

This episode is...

In today’s episode, I’m excited to share the incredible insights I gained from my recent meetings with IVF doctors and specialists. The big takeaway: you are not alone on this fertility journey.

Whether it’s patient care or cutting-edge tech, we all share one goal—helping you succeed in achieving your dream of parenthood. I also dive into why live birth statistics matter more than early pregnancy tests when choosing an IVF clinic. And finding the right doctor? It’s all about that perfect match.

If you’re navigating IVF, don’t hesitate to reach out f...

In this episode, I will guide you through the key steps you can take before moving to IVF. We will dive into the Baby Road Map, a tool to help you truly understand your options when trying to conceive. From natural attempts to ovulation tracking, to hormone testing, and even IUI or IVF, I’ll explain each step in detail so you can optimise your chances of pregnancy.

Whether you’re just starting your journey or considering assisted reproductive techniques, this episode will bring clarity to your options and help you have informed conversations with your partner abou...

Here at the Your Fertility Counsellor podcast, we received a heartfelt letter from our dear listener, Susan who reached out for guidance on how to cope with emotional isolation that comes with fertility struggles. Susan shared that she and her partner are struggling to conceive and feel overwhelmed by the presence of pregnant friends and families, leading to feelings of jealousy, anger, and loneliness.

This episode is dedicated to Susan and to anyone else who may be facing similar emotional challenges during their fertility journey. Listen, as I share some practical advice and tips for couples who...

Today, I’ll be sharing my top tips to help you navigate the emotional challenges that can arise during Chinese New Year family gatherings, particularly when it comes to questions about fertility.

Check out my top tips for YOU:

Chinese New Year doesn’t have to be a stressful time. With a little preparation and a strong response strategy, you can face family gatherings with confidence and grace.

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Today, I’ll share 5 proven habit tips for a resilient New Year, 2025. As we reach the critical point when many resolutions start to fade, I will explain why habits fail and how to ensure long-term success. Learn about the common pitfalls, including overwhelming willpower, setting impractical goals, and the key timeline where most resolutions falter.

This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding your "why" and staying committed, even when motivation fades. Listen as I share some personal experiences and tips that provide a supportive framework for staying on track with your goals and creating lasting change.

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In today’s episode, we dive into understanding the female cycle and why it’s so important for male partners to be in the know. I will share some helpful insights on how hormones impact moods and energy throughout the cycle, helping both partners plan and connect better.

This episode encourages open conversations between partners to create a stronger bond and better navigate the ups and downs of the cycle together.

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In this episode, I explain how to create a powerful vision board that helps you set clear intentions and stay focused on your goals. We will also cover the science behind vision boards and the top 5 tips for making one that inspires you, including how to set the right mood, clarify your intentions, and organise by themes.

And we will address the common question: Should you include baby images on your vision board?

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In today’s episode, I will guide you through a powerful exercise to help you release unhelpful thoughts, emotions, and baggage as you move into the new year. If you're feeling weighed down by unresolved issues or past burdens, this episode will offer you practical tools to let go and step into 2025 with a fresh perspective.

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In today’s episode, I’m excited to kick off the podcast and talk about the mental and emotional ups and downs of the fertility journey. I know it can feel isolating and overwhelming at times, but I want you to know that you are not alone, and your feelings are completely valid. It’s normal to experience both hope and uncertainty, and it’s okay not to have all the answers right away. One of the key things I want to emphasise is the importance of reaching out for support, whether it's to a loved one or a professi...

Welcome to the Your Fertility Counsellor podcast!

I’m Tanja Faessler, an accredited coach, counsellor, and the founder of Counsellingconnectz and Fertilityconnectz. In this episode, I’ll share our journey—from starting in 2012 to supporting over 15,000 clients, a milestone that still fills me with gratitude.

At Fertilityconnectz, we are dedicated to guiding you through every aspect of your fertility journey—whether you're trying naturally, going through IVF, or exploring options like egg freezing or donor programs. On this podcast, we will focus on all aspects of your well-being—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, on all levels—because we believe t...