Long Haul Marriage Roadcast
Brian and Jamie Hackney, founders of Long Haul Marriage, discuss all things marriage in this raw, real, casual, and fun podcast. Married for 35 years, and having coached over 3000 couples, they share what they've learned, mostly the hard way, hoping to encourage couples, giving them tools that will strengthen their relationship, so they can be in it for the long haul!To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriageFollow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok.To donate to LHM: https://longhaulmarriage.betterworld.org
The Ten Commandments of Marriage
When's the last time you read the Ten Commandments? (Have you seen the movie 100 times like Brian?) Are you keeping the commandments? When's the last time you broke one?
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss the ten commandments from the Old Testament (in the Bible), in the context of marriage. It's a fun episode where Brian reads the commandment, and throws it to Jamie to discuss how that commandment would apply in marriage - not just the ones about marriage (like "thou shall not commit adultery"), but all of them!
Join the conversation, and make sure a...
RE-RELEASE: Zoe Penzes - Twenty-two, Single, and No Longer On-Line Dating!
In today's episode, Jamie and Brian sit down with Zoe Penzes, a dear friend of the family (and girlfriend of another dear friend of the family), and discuss what life is like for a 22 year old female in today's world. They talk about the sketchy online dating world, navigating how to meet someone in today's culture that has similar values, the fears and concerns about dating, and finding THE ONE. They discuss why many are opting to wait until much later to get married, if at all, and the temptation to be jaded because of our parents' experiences, as well as...
My Husband Needs A Friend!!
Yes, we all know we're addicted to our phones, to social media, and all of the crap that comes along with that! Not to minimize the truly tragic implications of that fact, but many times, the despair this brings makes us want to give up, or give in, missing what might mitigate some of the damage done by our disconnection. What if we just need a friend? What if we need to actually hang out with our friends again - remember that? What if we all decided to hang up and hang out, or at least hang out?
In to...
Advice From My 60 Year Old Self to My 30 Year Old Self
If you could go back to your young adult self, and give them your best nuggets of wisdom that life has taught you, what would you say?
Join us today as we talk about the different pieces of advice the slower, less stressed-out version of ourselves would give to our younger, stressed, hurried, worried, anxious, uptight, angry (you fill in your blank) version of yourself. Life will definitely teach you lessons, and most of the time, the only way you learn is to experience things for yourself. But the fast passage of time, and aging being the pesky li...
When your Brooding Teenager Becomes Your Best Friend
Thanks for hanging out with us!
Listen in as we talk about one of our greatest accomplishments - building and maintaining a healthy, lasting relationship with our children. We talk about the investment that gives the most rewarding return there is - a loving connection with our now adult children that will last a lifetime - our greatest legacy!
Jamie talks about her recent mother/daughter getaway with Chandler that will surely turn into an annual affair (if not more often). We talk about the challenges of connecting with our adolescent children (that all parents face), and...
Married, but... Could There Be Someone Better Out There??
Hi Listener! We're glad you're here.
Today, Jamie is still on a high, coming off of her recent Evergreen women's event in Broken Bow, and Brian asks her to hit the highlights, and explain why this was different than your average, run of the mill, women's retreat.
After talking about the pregnancy and eventual birth of the vision given to her by God, she then talks about the importance of giving time and space for connection, and the profound need for authentic community in our lives.
Brian then shifts the conversation to the normal tem...
*(Re-Release) Crashes, Detours, and Pit Stops On the Journey
In this reprised episode, the inaugural episode of the Roadcast, Brian and Jamie chronicle the beginning of their journey, discussing the hard and painful first years, the loss of their 2 year old son, Corban, and the ultimate healing that came, giving them the grace and strength to continue to fight for their marriage. This episode will encourage and inspire you to keep going, no matter what you face. We wanted to give some of our newer listeners to hear where it all started!
As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage!
We would lo...
You are NOT Alone! (Even if you'd rather your spouse leave you that way sometime)
In this week's episode of the Roadcast, Brian and Jamie discuss the heaviness of the state of the world right now, and how we are prone to want to process this with our spouse. The challenge comes when, because of how we are wired so differently, one of us would rather do ANYTHING that discuss this garbage, especially at length! So, what's a man (or woman) to do?
They get into this common situation, and give practical advice on how to navigate this tricky situation, while still maintaining close intimacy, and avoiding the trap of sharing way too much...
Are you a Saint or a Sinner? (Or Both?)
Saint or sinner? Which one are you? Which one are we? Is it possible we could be both?
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss simultaneity (the property of two or more events occuring at the exact same time) in the context of who we are, who we want to be, perhaps how others view us, how we view ourselves, and ultimately, how we choose to show up in any given moment.
Brian reads the story of "The Good Samaritan," the parable told by Jesus, recounted in the gospel of Luke, highlighting the three in the short...
Winterizing Your Marriage
In today's "snowed in" episode, Brian and Jamie talk a little about being snowed in together, how to avoid cabin fever, how to avoid slipping on ice, and how stupid it is to have major NFL playoff games in a blizzard!!
Jamie talks about her disappointment in having to postpone her Evergreen retreat, and the way Brian might have missed the chance (in the ealy going) to be truly emotionally supportive, and how, after fumbling the ball a bit, he went back and asked her about how she was feeling about it.
They talk about the co...
Mad at God, but Afraid to Admit It?
In this week's episode, Jamie brings up the topic of being hurt, disappointed, disallusioned, or being downright angry with God, but somehow, unable or "prohibited" from speaking it (as if God doesn't already know your heart). They discuss how many Christians have been taught at a fundamental level that it would be "sinful" to be angry with God, and how heretical it sounds to have to "forgive God," when God is perfect!
They get real about their own struggles around this, and when that finally changed for them. Jamie talks about the freedom that came as she got ho...
2026 Living Our Best Life!!
2026 is here, and we want it to be our best year yet - no hyperbole. Can we truly make that happen? Do we have any control over our lives, especially when we feel so many things are out of control in our world?
In today's first episode of the year, Brian and Jamie discuss setting intentions for your day, your week, your month, which all turn into your year! They share from personal experience, how doing daily mindfulness, and meditation practices, builiding in intention through affirmations have made a profoundly positive effect in their lives. They talk about prac...
2025 from The Rear View Mirror
In this final episode of the year, Brian and Jamie take a look back over 2025, the beginning of Long Haul Marriage, dealing with the grief of their less than sanctimonious departure from previous ministry positions, starting a new business TOGETHER, and testing the strength of their 35 year marriage in the most stressful pressure cooker in recent history! They talk of the ups and downs, and realize with grateful hearts, that there have been way more ups than downs! They talk about the rewards of their ministry, as well as lessons they've learned, and how their own marriage has grown through th...
(Parenting) Lessons from the Hot Tub
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss the always daunting, and tricky task of parenting - especially in today's culture where social media, and "popularized" parenting pressures from all sides, can make us question if we're doing anything right!! They discuss the stress of the holiday times, many times made worse by us working ourselves into a frenzy as parents, trying to be the "perfect" gift-givers for our kids.
They talk about their serendipitous conversation with 2 other couples in a 103 degree "World Spring" hot tub, which led to an incredible bonding experience, as they all shared just how h...
Men are Better Movers Than Women - There, I Said It! (Brian)
Today is Giving Tuesday (12/2/25)!! Looking for a good cause and a year end tax deduction? We would be honored if you would consider supporting Long Haul Marriage. A huge thank you to our supporters! As a nonprofit organization, we rely on the generosity of our listeners, so if you have been positively impacted by this podcast or our ministry, would you consider supporting Long Haul Marriage with a tax deductible donation? To give, just visit longhaulmarriage.org, and hit the donate button in the top right corner. Thank you so much for considering, and make sure to like, subscribe, and share...
Happy Thanksgiving!! Or is it?
Next Week is Giving Tuesday!
Looking for a good cause and a year end tax deduction? We would be honored if you would consider supporting Long Haul Marriage. A huge thank you to our supporters! As a nonprofit organization, we rely on the generosity of our listeners, so if you have been positively impacted by this podcast or our ministry, would you consider supporting Long Haul Marriage with a tax deductible donation? To give, just visit longhaulmarriage.org, and hit the donate button in the top right corner. Thank you so much for consider...
Does Real, Passionate Love Truly Exist, and Does It Ever Last?
Looking for a good cause and a year end tax deduction? We would be honored if you would consider supporting Long Haul Marriage. A huge thank you to our supporters! As a nonprofit organization, we rely on the generosity of our listeners, so if you have been positively impacted by this podcast or our ministry, would you consider supporting Long Haul Marriage with a tax deductible donation? To give, just visit longhaulmarriage.org, and hit the donate button in the top right corner. Thank you so much for considering, and make sure to like, subscribe, and share this podcast with all...
Does My Marriage Need An Overhaul??
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss their "Overhaul" package - the Marriage Intensive, and what all that entails. They discuss how much they personally loved the time spent with the couple over an entire Saturday, and the value they see in being able to knock out so much, all at once, without the hassle of rescheduling, trying to coordinate time off work, childcare, and all that. More than anything, they talk about loving to see couples commit to trying something new, and how inspiring it is to see couples become "unstuck," progressing, opening their hearts again towards one another, an...
A Testament To My Wife
Brian and Jamie are pumped in today's episode, as they passionately share about Brian's new book, A Testament To My Wife, A Light for the Lost, Confused Soul. (Now available on Amazon - link below).
They talk about the inspiration for the book (Jamie, haha), and go through each chapter, highlighting the themes, some of their favorite parts, quotes, and stories that they hope will resonate with readers. They discuss their hope that husbands, as well as wives, men and women both, will be inspired to glean truths that will lead to expressed gratitude in their own relationships.
My Spouse Cheated On Me - Now What!?
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie talk about infidelity in marriage, and the destruction, and devastation it causes, and the challenges couples face when choosing to try to forgive, and rebuild trust after the affair. Some, understandable so, say, "It's over!" Some want to forgive but can't. So can forgive, but find themselves not being able to trust the unfaithful spouse. So much to talk about. Brian and Jamie do their best to cover the highlights of the recovery process, and talk about the resources that they have seen help couples over the years. If you or someone you know is fac...
Disruptions, Detours, and Debacles - What's an Addict to Do?
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss their recent internet and phone outage, and how INCONVENIENCE it was for their lives, from business to entertainment, and how it forced them to rethink their day. Brian talks about how it exposed him for the true addict he is, and how reliant he is on his phone as a go-to for boredom, or isolation. Jamie talks about the up-side to being forced to surrender things out of your control, and to make "better" choices in those moments regarding how to spend your time. Life's distractions and detours can be wise teachers if we...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Long Haul Marriage!!
Happy Birthday to Us!!! Long Haul Marriage turns 1 on October 16th!! Can you believe it's been a year? It seems like just yesterday we were filing our 501c3 paperwork, stepping into the biggest adventure of our lives!! And here we are, just under 500 couples later, doing the thing we've dreamed about for years - giving hope to couples, and helping them with tools to transform their marriage, healing and strengthening it to last for the LONG HAUL!
Join us today as we look back over the last year that has flown by, and as we look forward to the ne...
Encore Episode (RE-RELEASE) - "I Do??" Yikes, Have I Made a HUGE Mistake?
In our second most listened to episode, we share the "bad and the ugly" of the first few years of our marriage, talking about how our basic differences, plus unhealed wounds from our past caused major issues - explosive anger, broken trust, disrespect, and the resulting broken hearts that ultimately caused us to consider divorce. We talk about seeking counseling, and Jamie reveals a secret that she believes allowed us to "crawl out of the hole" we were in. We have recommended this episode to so many struggling couples over the last 2 mo...
Hey ChatGPT! Why Is My Husband So Angry?
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie take a minute at the top to thank their faithful donors, to talk about the value in giving, even when one might think the gift insignificant, and how every little bit helps them do this important ministry. They simply do NOT want to say no, and because of your generous support, they don't have to!
They then shift into one of their most favorite discussions so far - the interesting topic of couples using google or ChatGPT for marriage advice. We all use google searches multiple times/week, and more and more of...
60 Year Old Fossil Found In North Texas
What will your life look like when you're 60? It will sneak up on you WAY FASTER than you could ever imagine! (Can I get a witness from all the old farts out there?)
In this week's episode, Brian and Jamie talk about how quickly Brian arrived at this milestone birthday, and what he has to show for it. They talk about how time flies, faster even than the cliche', and how important it is to set your priorities based on your highest values, and relentlessly pursue a life devoted to those priorities. For Brian and Jamie, it's all ab...
State of the Union Address
Mostly at a loss for words, Jamie and Brian share their heavy hearts regarding their personal grief over the state of the world right now...yes, in regards to the collective reaction to the horrific, extremely public assassination of Charlie Kirk, but more widely, to the state of the human heart in today's world.
Not wanting to make any political statements, or discuss "conspiracy theories," or deep dive into one of a hundred rabbit holes, they simply share their sadness over the hatred that has become so normalized, especially on and by social media platforms, and that has...
Are You Cheating On Your Spouse...with your Hobbies?
Made you look!! Ok, so you may not be having an affair, or cheating on your spouse, but are you prioritizing your golf game, or your girl's night above your marriage? Do you ever have to use the term "kitchen pass" around your buddies? Have you "joked" with your girlfriends that you feel like a "hunting widow" every September through December?
In this week's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss prioritizing your marriage above EVERYTHING ELSE. Although it takes some sacrificial living, and making some difficult choices, in the long run, giving your best to your marriage, your family, and...
Live to Work, or Work to Live?? Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to work we go!
Welcome back - and thank you for being here!! We missed you all. We're looking forward to Season 3, where we'll be sharing some more guest interviews, as well as some family/parenting content, as well as our usual marriage/relationship fare.
In our first episode of the new season, we dive into the work-a-day world, why we work "40 hours a week," leaving little time for ourselves, our passions/hobbies, and the people in our lives that truly matter to us. What got us here, and is there a way out!? We discuss the temptation to think we're trapped, even...
Vivez la diffe'rence!
We might sound like a broken record, but when it comes to issues that are problematic in marriage, none is more conspicuously at the top of the list these days than SOCIAL MEDIA, and our @#$% phones!! In today's episode, Brian and Jamie talk about the prevalence of "early divorce," throwing in the towel WAY too early, and how easy it has become in our current culture (not easy, as in not difficult emotionally, rather convenient). And what is leading many to be discontent, comparing their relationships or spouses to an on-line unicorn, is the addiction to social media, and the ne...
The Second Wife (It's Not What You Think)
This week, Jamie, is inspired by a Ben Rector post, talking about a chance encounter with the owners of a newish restaurant in San Jose, CA, called The Second Wife, brings some thoughts about putting yourself out there, risking "failure," and what that risk can bring into the world. Although not crowded (like, he was the only one there) when Ben walked in, he thought about the passion of the owners who had previously meticulously laid out the silverware on each table, how the cooks in the kitchen were prepared, and even how the owner commented, "Oh, you'll LOVE that d...
Prayers for South Texas Flooding Victims
In the wake of the tragic loss of life, property, homes, and loved ones, Brian and Jamie dedicate this episode to the victims and families of the Kerrville/South Texas flooding on July 4th. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all!!
We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.
A huge thank you to our supporters! As a nonprofit organization, we rely on the generosity of our listeners, so if you have been positively impacted by this podcast or our ministry, would you...
Laughter for the Long Haul
Have you ever had one of the cringiest, most embarrassing moments of your life, only to turn around a few minutes later to recall the event with your spouse, and find yourself laughing your butts off!!??
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie recount some of their most embarrassing, but most hilarious moments that they've shared, (while being publically humiliated), but lived to tell about. They talk about the importance of not taking themselves too seriously, being able to laugh at themselves, and the major bonding experience that this can be. Some of their most treasured moments of their ma...
Meet Kay Smith - Cactus Canyon GM, Chef, Adventurer, and Unreasonably Hospitable Person
You are in for a treat!!! In today's episode, you will be blown away by our new friend, Kay Smith. Jamie and I met Kay recently at one of our favorite Mexican food joints, and instantly knew we had encountered a kindred spirit! After just a couple of brief conversations, we knew we had to interview Kay for the podcast - mainly focusing on her hospitable manner, and the incredible culture in which she leads and works. But, boy, were we in for a surprise!! Who knew Kay was a chef in a former life, had grown up with incredible chall...
Meet Zoe Penzes - What Life is Like for a Single, 22 yr old Female
In today's episode, Jamie and Brian sit down with Zoe Penzes, a dear friend of the family (and girlfriend of another dear friend of the family), and discuss what life is like for a 22 year old female in today's world. They talk about the sketchy online dating world, navigating how to meet someone in today's culture that has similar values, the fears and concerns about dating, and finding THE ONE. They discuss why many are opting to wait until much later to get married, if at all, and the temptation to be jaded because of our parents' experiences, as well as...
How to Love and Support your Kids When You Disagree with Their Life Choices
In today's episode, Brian and Jamie answer a couple of questions from listeners, talk about parenting, and a few things they discussed on their online parenting workshop, as well as some things they've learned about parenting along the way. They zero in on how important it is to love and support your children, no matter what, even when that is challenging (because you might disagree with their current life choices).
We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.
A huge thank you to our...
Happy Anniversary to Brian and Jamie - From Honey Moon Hell to Happily Ever After
In today's special anniversay edition, Brian and Jamie talk about celebrating 36 years of marriage on June 3rd! They talk about how they met, the great, but rocky start, the train wreck, the counseling, and eventually all the healing that has led to the legacy that they are proud of today. They talk about their passion for helping other couples, giving them hope, and tools to try to save their marriages, or improve relationships, or even just have a more fulfilled life!
We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to...
How Satisfied Are You in your Marriage?
Parenting Workshop Link (This Thursday night, the 29th, at 8 pm CST)
https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage/new-meeting
John Gottman, 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work (referenced this when discussing the "4 Horseman of the Apocalypse - Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt)
In this episode, Jamie and Brian discuss the "Inverted Bell Curve" of Marital Satisfaction...first, how normal it is to fall into this pattern, (hence the curve), and secondly, how important it is to work through these frustrating seasons/years, so that you can experience the high level of satisfaction reported by...
Road Trip with Family - Vacation or Nightmare?
Parenting Workshop Link
https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage/new-meeting
After a week off to celebrate Mother's Day and Jamie's birthday in beautiful Santa Fe, NM, Brian and Jamie are back to discuss taking a road trip with their entire family (adult kids, and grandkids), as well as the upcoming Parenting Workshop which will feature hearing from their grown kids (Chandler, Christian, and Carson, 31, 29, and 24). Vacations with family can be amazing, or a total FAIL. We've experience a little of both, but are driving toward making the most of our time together by adopting a p...
Hosting a Wedding in Our Own Backyard!! Would We Dare Do It Again?
Brian and Jamie hosted a wedding for family friends in their OWN BACKYARD! In this episode, they talk about that experience, their extra busy weekend, and then talk about meeting couples at their vendor fair in Justin, Texas. They talk about one of their favorite services, their "hittin the road" premarital package, and how many young people are starting to take advantage of that, and why.
They also share their excitement about the upcoming Online Parenting Workshop they will be hosting at the end of May - (hoping to land on May 29), with their own adult kids, aged 31, 29, an...
UGH!! You Make Me So Mad!!
We've all had them - rip roarin' fights where we want to strangle our spouses (boyfriends, girlfriends, fiance's) - not really, but really. We get so frustrated, and we know that if our significant other would just grow up and quit being so stubborn, they would see our point, and agree with us. But instead, the stupid fight escalates, and what was, just minutes ago, a perfectly normal, fun evening, has now turned into a nightmare, with screaming, cussing, or worse yet, the silent treatment, the cold shoulder, stone-walling, not speaking for 2 hours, or 2 days sh$% show!! So, how do we...
