G'day Gay Podcast

We’ve all got it — trauma, exes, daddy issues, an addiction to emotionally unavailable men — yes, we’re talking baggage. In this episode of G’Day Gay, Russell Ray and Pauly B crack open the metaphorical suitcase and ask the big questions:

🧳 What’s acceptable baggage?

🧨 What’s a total dealbreaker?

🛑 And how do you know when you are the walking red flag? From oversharing on date one to full-blown commitment phobia wrapped in “I’m just vibing,” we’re unpacking it all — with real stories, spicy opinions, and zero judgment (okay, some judgment). Whether you’re draggin...

What do you get when you mix a flamboyant Aussie, a fierce Californian, and a list of questions so bold they should be illegal? You get this week’s unfiltered, absolutely unhinged episode of G’Day Gay Podcast — hosted by the dynamic duo Russell Ray (America’s sassiest stage slayer) and Pauly B (Australia’s cheekiest mic master). This episode tackles the questions straight people love to ask gay people — even when they absolutely, positively, should not. From “Who’s the top?” to “Do you all love Beyoncé?” and “Can you redecorate my apartment?” — no stereotype is safe, no eyebrow unraised. Russell and...

Why is the gay community so obsessed with the perfect body? In this episode, Russell and Paul dive into the unrealistic body standards within LGBTQ+ spaces, the pressure to look a certain way, and why thirst traps run the algorithm. They also tackle gay baiting—why straight men love teasing their gay audience for clout while actual queer creators struggle for visibility. Plus, we’re telling you our messy stories about thirst traps gone wrong and wrapping up with an Oh Naur Moment of the Week that will have you gagged. Is it all just fun and games, or is i...

his week, Russell and Paul are joined by a Gen Z-er Leo Contreras for a no-holds-barred breakdown of the gay dating apps that raised us—and ruined us. From chaotic Grindr messages to wild Sniffies meetups and Hinge's softboi vibes, we’re comparing the apps we can’t live with… and can’t log out of. Do apps help us find love or are they just digital playgrounds for rejection and regret? We talk hookup horror stories, generational differences, and why some apps are thriving while others are giving crust. Plus, our Oh Naur Moment of the Week is one for th...

Is it love? Is it lust? Or are you just stuck in a situationship? This week, Russell & Paul break down the messy, confusing, and sometimes hilarious world of situationships—those "we're not together, but we're not just hooking up" relationships that leave everyone feeling stuck, hopeful, or frustrated. We’ll cover how to spot a situationship, when to walk away, and why so many queer men end up in these confusing dynamics. Plus, we’ve got some wild listener stories that will have you screaming, "Oh, NAUR!"

Is it love? Is it lust? Or are you just stuck in a situationship? This week, Russell & Paul break down the messy, confusing, and sometimes hilarious world of situationships—those "we're not together, but we're not just hooking up" relationships that leave everyone feeling stuck, hopeful, or frustrated. We’ll cover how to spot a situationship, when to walk away, and why so many queer men end up in these confusing dynamics. Plus, we’ve got some wild listener stories that will have you screaming, "Oh, NAUR!"

Being LGBTQ+ is one layer of identity, but being a person of color adds a whole different dimension. From dating struggles to workplace discrimination, from family expectations to representation in media, this episode dives into the unique challenges and strengths of being both queer and a person of color. Russell & Paul get raw and real about their own experiences, tackle the colorism that exists within the LGBTQ+ community, and invite a special guest to break down the double standards and biases that exist for POC in queer spaces.

Ever feel like life as an LGBTQ+ person just costs more? From higher living expenses in gay-friendly cities to weddings, surrogacy, and even therapy, the so-called "Gay Tax" is real! 💸🏳️‍🌈 In this episode, Russell & Paul break down the financial realities of being queer in today's world. We’re talking about housing, dating, legal fees, medical expenses, and even the cost of looking hot on Grindr. Plus, we get REAL about the unspoken financial burden placed on LGBTQ+ people just for existing.

For many in the LGBTQ+ community, chosen family isn’t just a phrase—it’s survival, love, and everything in between.In this episode, Russell and Paul dive into the importance of creating your own support system when biological families don’t always step up. They’ll share heartwarming, hilarious, and messy stories of friendships that turned into lifelong bonds, proving that sometimes the people who choose to love you are the ones that truly matter.

We all have that one friend who tells it like it is—but when does “keeping it real” turn into straight-up toxic energy? In this episode, Russell and Paul take a deep dive into the fine line between tough love and toxic friendships. From backhanded compliments to full-on frenemy behavior, they explore how queer friendships can sometimes be the best… and the absolute worst.

They’ll unpack personal experiences, red flags to look out for, and when to cut the cord on a friendship that’s doing more harm than good. Plus, a few anonymous listener stories will leave y...

Swipe right at your own risk! In this scandalous episode, Russell and Paul dive into the wildest, weirdest, and downright disastrous Grindr hookups that left them (and many others) questioning their life choices. From unexpected surprises to full-blown horror stories, no Grindr fail is off-limits. But that’s not all—special guest Cheekie Humbie joins the conversation, bringing jaw-dropping stories that will leave you gagged, shook, and maybe even rethinking your next "u up?" message. We’re spilling the tea on what happens when hookups go horribly wrong, the cultural differences between Grindr in the U.S. vs. Australia, and th...

Swiping, ghosting, Grindr—oh my! In this episode, Russell and Paulie B dive into the wild world of dating in your 30s and why it feels harder than ever to find "the one." From dating app fatigue to emotional baggage and the ever-growing list of deal-breakers, they break down the biggest obstacles keeping millennials single. Plus, they share their own chaotic dating experiences, red flag alerts, and some spicy listener stories that prove sometimes being single isn’t the worst thing. Is it really harder to date now, or are we just pickier? Tune in and find out!

The holidays are here, and Russell Ray and Paulie B are wrapping up the year with stories of tradition, growth, and fresh starts. From the joy of chosen family to the lessons they’ve learned in 2023, the duo reflects on what it means to celebrate as members of the LGBTQ+ community. Plus, hear about their ambitious (and maybe a little unrealistic) goals for 2024—and a few holiday disasters that will have you laughing all the way into the New Year.

In this episode of G’Day Gay, Russell Ray and Paul V. tackle the world of thirst traps and the social media beauty standards that dominate gay spaces. From Instagram to Grindr, who gets the likes, and why? The duo dives into the role of colorism, unpacking how lighter skin tones and Eurocentric beauty standards often dictate who’s celebrated and who’s overlooked. Russell opens up about his experiences as a Latino man navigating these biases, while Paul shares insights from Australia and beyond.

In this week’s episode of G’Day Gay, Russell and Paul dive deep into the messy, hilarious, and often heartfelt world of navigating relationships with exes. Is it healthy to stay friends with someone you once loved, or is it a recipe for drama? They share their own experiences, from awkward run-ins to surprising reconnections, and offer their take on how queer communities often blur the lines between friendship and romance.

The duo also discusses trending stories about celebrities who’ve stayed close with their exes, the unique dynamics of chosen families in the LGBTQ+ world, and wh...

Hosted by two friends from opposite ends of the globe—Russell Ray in Los Angeles and Paulie B. in Australia—G’Day Gay Podcast is your destination for all things queer in your 30s. From dating and relationships to travel, pop culture, and millennial life, they bring the laughs, the feels, and the tea every week.

Travel the globe with your favorite hosts, Russell and Paul, as they recount their unforgettable adventures in three iconic cities: Sydney, Barcelona, and Rome. From the electric energy of Sydney’s Mardi Gras to a wild night out in Barcelona’s Gayxample...

In this vibrant episode, Russell and Paul take listeners on a journey through their personal experiences in New York City, celebrating its role as a cultural and LGBTQ+ epicenter. Paul dishes on some unforgettable (and hilariously awkward) hookup stories, sharing the wilder side of dating in the city that never sleeps. Meanwhile, Russell gets sentimental recounting his real-life “meet cute” moment, where he met his boyfriend in true rom-com fashion.

Together, the duo explores the richness of NYC’s diversity, celebrating the way its blend of cultures, identities, and stories makes it a haven for minorities and a hub...

In this heartfelt episode, Russell and Paul take listeners on a journey through their personal coming out experiences, highlighting the differences shaped by their unique upbringings in Los Angeles and Australia. Russell shares the challenges of coming out in a bustling, diverse city while balancing cultural expectations and family dynamics. Meanwhile, Paul reflects on growing up in a smaller Australian community and navigating the pressures of societal norms and isolation.

The two hosts share moments of fear, triumph, and humor, as they explore how coming out not only shaped their identities but also set the foundation for...

In this episode of G’day Gay, Russell and Paul dive deep into the psychology, dynamics, and allure of dating “daddies” in the gay community. For Russell, dating an older man once provided a sense of stability and mentorship he couldn’t find in younger partners. He opens up about his experience navigating the complexities of dating a “daddy” and what he learned about attraction, age, and personal growth. Paul, on the other hand, talks about his ongoing attraction to older men, exploring the appeal that “daddies” have for many gay men – from their confidence and life experience to a sense of authori...

This week, Russell Ray and Paulie B. get real about the rollercoaster of relationships and friendships in your 30s. From heart-wrenching breakups to major breakthroughs, they dive into the emotional highs and lows that come with dating—and staying friends—in the gay community. They don’t hold back on the messy truth: how tangled it can get when exes start dating each other, and the impact it has on friendships and social circles.

With personal stories and a few cautionary tales, Russell and Paulie explore what it takes to navigate these murky waters, set boundaries, and keep t...

In this hilarious and cringe-filled episode, Russell Ray and Paulie B. spill all the juicy tea about dating disasters in their 30s. From ghosting and awful first dates to the weird and wild side of dating apps, they share their own shocking stories and hard-earned lessons from the front lines of gay dating. But the real kicker? They reveal a jaw-dropping fan submission: a date that went from “getting to know you” to a surprise role-play threesome… with a married man! 😳

Tune in for laughs, gasps, and a few “don’t try this at home” moments as the guys dive d...

In the premiere episode of G'day Gay Podcast, get to know your fabulous hosts, Russell Ray and Pauly V.! Hailing from opposite sides of the globe—LA sunshine meets Aussie charm—they’re diving right into what it really means to be in your 30s and gay today.

Russell and Paul share their unfiltered thoughts on the highs and lows of hitting the “Dirty 30s,” from navigating modern dating drama to dealing with career shifts, body image, and society’s expectations of where they “should” be by now. Expect laughter, raw honesty, and a taste of the wild ride that’s...