You’re Probably Right

Episode 311 – Why You Change When You Like Someone (And Start Losing Yourself)
Why do confident, capable adults suddenly shrink in romantic relationships?Why do you stay steady everywhere else in life, but start overthinking, overgiving, and altering yourself the moment you really like someone?In this episode, we break down the psychology behind losing yourself in relationships, fear of abandonment, anxious attachment patterns, childhood bullying trauma, sexual deprivation, and the need to be chosen.This is not about blaming partners. It is about understanding why high functioning professionals, divorced parents, thirty year old women dating, and fifty year old me...

When an ex returns after ignoring your pain, exploring other options, or walking away, what does it really mean?In this long form monologue, I break down what it means when someone comes back. Is it growth, loneliness, ego, rejection elsewhere, or genuine change? How do you tell the difference between regret and convenience?We talk about:• Why people return after distancing themselves
• The difference between nostalgia and accountability
• How to evaluate change without playing games
• When attention is not the same as commitment
• How to avoid being used again when you are emotionally vulnerableThis episode is honest...

Anxious attachment. One sided relationships. Emotional overgiving. Modern dating detachment.What if loving deeply was never the problem?In this two hour monologue, I examine how to stay warm, expressive, and hopeful without becoming a doormat. We talk about anxious attachment styles, mixed signals, emotional inconsistency, and the difference between romance and self abandonment.This episode explores:• Why anxious attachment is often a response to emotional inconsistency
• How overgiving becomes self erasure
• The line between patience and self abandonment
• Why detachment is being mistaken for strength
• How to maintain self respect without becoming coldThis is not about beco...

Why did it feel so real to you, but somehow never seemed to matter the same way to them?This episode is a deep, unfiltered examination of one-sided relationships, emotional ambiguity, and the psychological toll of loving someone who was comfortable receiving without ever fully committing. It is not a dating advice episode, and it is not a motivational talk. It is a long-form breakdown of a dynamic many people live through but struggle to explain, even to themselves.We talk about what happens when generosity meets avoidance, when patience gets mistaken for permission, and when emotional labour is quietly...

Sometimes it is not the big requests that reveal the truth about a relationship. It is the simple ones.This episode is a long form monologue about what happens when asking for basic care, presence, or awareness quietly changes how someone treats you. It explores how some connections function smoothly as long as you remain steady, available, and accommodating, and how quickly things shift when you slow down, struggle, or speak honestly about where you are.Without naming anyone or telling a single story outright, this episode looks at the difference between being valued and being useful, between closeness and...

In this episode of You're Probably Right, the focus isn’t on who’s right or wrong, but on where effort actually lands in long-term relationships. Moving back and forth between what men and women are often asked to carry, this monologue explores emotional presence, communication, boundaries, reliability, and intimacy as lived behaviors rather than ideals. The conversation stays grounded, practical, and reflective—looking at how relationships tend to drift when effort is misdirected, and how clarity, consistency, and timing often matter more than intensity. This episode is for anyone interested in what sustains connection once things are real and life i...

There comes a point in life when the noise dies down, the momentum fades, and the questions you’ve been avoiding finally catch up to you.This episode is not about fixing your life.
It’s about listening to what’s been quietly asking for your attention.In Episode 305, I step away from performance, explanations, and surface-level insight, and sit with the questions that only appear after disappointment, after adaptation, and after you’ve spent years being composed, reasonable, and useful for everyone else.This is a reflective episode for people who have lived carefully.
People who learned to keep...

Episode 304 – The Quiet Cost of Always Being ReasonableThere is a version of being a good person nobody warns you about. Not kindness. Not decency. The quiet version, where being agreeable, steady, and capable slowly teaches people how far they can go with you.In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we talk about what happens when admiration turns sideways, when being valued quietly turns into being optional, and why chasing past versions of people never works. This is not about blame, bitterness, or turning cold. It is about noticing patterns most people feel but struggle to name.We look at c...

There comes a point in life when things do not fall apart, they simply slow down.The routines are familiar. The roles are established. You are functioning, reliable, composed. And yet, something underneath starts asking quieter, heavier questions. Not dramatic ones. Honest ones.This episode is a reflective monologue and guided question based exploration about what happens when you stop performing clarity for others and start listening to what your own life has been signalling. It explores the cost of staying agreeable, emotionally regulated, and reasonable for too long, and how years of choosing peace over truth can quietly drain...

Episode 302
The Edible Child, Omnipotence, and Why Adult Relationships Break the Way They DoThere is a reason so many adults enter relationships carrying guilt they cannot explain, responsibility they never agreed to, and fear they cannot name.This episode explores a quiet psychological pattern that begins in childhood and silently shapes adult relationships, attraction, marriage, parenting, and emotional burnout.The concept is called the edible child, not in a literal sense, but in a psychological one. An edible child is raised to emotionally feed a parent’s sense of meaning, control, identity, or regulation. Instead of being guided toward in...

Episode 301
The Difference Between Being Chosen and Being KeptThere is a quiet kind of heartbreak people rarely talk about.It is not rejection.
It is not betrayal.
It is staying in someone’s life while nothing actually moves forward.In this episode, I unpack the difference between being chosen and being kept, and why that distinction changes everything about how a relationship feels in your body, not just in your head.Being chosen creates clarity, momentum, and emotional safety over time.
Being kept creates closeness without direction, intimacy without commitment, and hope without resolution.Many people ar...

This is Episode 300 of You’re Probably Right, and it is a pause, not a celebration.This episode is for the people who gave their love, time, energy, and loyalty, only to feel drained, overlooked, or quietly discarded. It is for anyone who stayed too long, over gave, or tried harder when the relationship was already slipping away. Not because they were weak, but because they cared.In this monologue, MCM speaks directly to the experience of being used, emotionally neglected, or taken for granted, and the damage that does to self worth. It explores how one sided love erodes co...

Episode 299
Not Everyone Comes Back When You Finally Realize Their ValueA single sentence went viral and exposed something many people are not prepared to face, realizing someone’s value does not guarantee their return.This episode examines what people reveal about themselves after loss removes denial. It unpacks regret that arrives too late, the rewriting of personal narratives, the misuse of boundary language, and the uncomfortable difference between missing a person and missing what they provided. It also challenges the popular belief that awareness, apologies, or closure automatically earn second chances.Rather than assigning blame, this conversation focuses on ac...

Dating does not usually hurt people because of betrayal.
It hurts people because of soft warnings they chose to translate into hope.In this episode of You’re Probably Right Podcast, I break down twenty harsh but necessary truths about modern dating, the kind that do not show up as big dramatic moments, but as small comments, delayed replies, vague language, and mixed signals that slowly drain your energy.This is not motivation content.
This is clarity.We talk about what phrases like “I’m not ready for a relationship,” “let’s just vibe,” “I need space,” and “I don’t like labels”...

Episode 297 – How Do I Find Them?In a world where proximity doesn’t guarantee connection, how do we actually find someone worth building with? In this solo episode, MCM breaks down the quiet realities behind modern relationships—what “high-value” really means, whether settling is weakness or wisdom, and how changing roles and income gaps are reshaping who ends up with whom.From workplace crushes to partner standards, this is the kind of talk that might challenge your views—or help you finally make sense of them.Real, grounded, no hype. Just a conversation that might stick with you.

Some connections never become relationships, but they still manage to take everything out of you.This episode is a long form, story driven monologue about how certain modern connections form through repeated proximity, familiarity, and access, not clear intention or commitment, and why they so often leave one person steady and intact while the other is left depleted and confused.This is not a conversation about villains, manipulation, or blame. It is an examination of emotional imbalance, over giving, and what happens when one person quietly becomes the stabilizer in a connection that was never designed to sustain two people...

There are relationship questions people do not answer out loud. Not because they are dishonest, but because the answers are uncomfortable, complicated, and would force real decisions.This special Q and A episode is built around twenty questions that expose unhealthy attachment, mixed signals, people pleasing, and the quiet ways people shrink themselves to keep access, peace, or hope alive. These are not surface level questions. They are the ones you answer privately, when nobody is listening, and when you finally stop negotiating with yourself.If you have ever felt stuck, undervalued, confused, or like you were walking on eggshells...

Unplayable,Why Men Shrink Themselves and Attraction Dies, Episode 294
A lot of men do not lose their relationship all at once, they lose themselvesfirst.Inthis episode, I break down a pattern that shows up in heterosexualrelationships everywhere. A man starts out confident, funny, grounded, andattractive, then once he gets attached he starts editing himself to keep peaceand keep access. He over gives. He over explains. He swallows conflict. Hebecomes agreeable instead of authentic. And slowly, attraction dies.Wealso talk about the uncomfortable piece people avoid. In some relationships,warmth, distance, and intimacy become a steering wheel. Not always...

Ever ask yourself what are they really in my life for?Most people are not confused because relationships are unknowable, they are confused because they keep trying to understand behaviour through hope.Episode 293 is for anyone dealing with mixed signals, hot and cold behaviour, situationships, and anxious attachment. I break down what is happening with three diagnostic lists that force you to look at behaviour side by side, instead of romanticizing, guessing, or replaying messages.Nothing here is a hard rule. People are complex, context matters, timing matters, and there are always grey areas. But patterns still have a shape...

Episode 292 – I Don’t Want to Lose What I’ve GotIn this one hour monologue, MCM explores a truth many men struggle to admit out loud, the fear of losing what they have often turns them into someone they were never meant to be.This episode breaks down why men are often most attractive when nothing is on the line, and how relationships change once there is something to lose. From shrinking personalities, managing behaviour, and avoiding conflict, to sex fading and respect quietly eroding, this is a grounded look at what happens when men organise their lives around keeping a rela...

In Episode 291 of You’re Probably Right, MCM takes a grounded look at how people make sense of their lives when certainty is gone. This episode sits in the quiet space between who we thought we would be and where we actually are, examining how expectations, relationships, and personal responsibility collide over time.Rather than offering quick answers or loud opinions, this episode slows things down. It explores how people adapt when old frameworks stop working, how internal narratives shape decision making, and why clarity often comes from reflection instead of reaction.This is a reflective, experience based monologue meant fo...

Episode 290The Unspoken Contract of GivingWhat really happens when you give and receive nothing back, not rejection, not conflict, just silence.In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we unpack the psychology of giving in adult relationships and why unacknowledged effort can feel more painful than being told no. This is not about holidays, birthdays, or special occasions. It is about the everyday reality of giving that happens all year long in dating, marriage, friendships, situationships, and long term connections.We explore why people give in the first place, including clean generosity, anxious giving, guilt driven giving, image based gi...

In a world of dating apps and endless checklists, are we missing the one thing that truly creates lasting attraction? In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we dive into why presence—not looks, not checkboxes—matters most in finding a lifelong partner.Join us as we explore how the constant search for the perfect match can overshadow the real key to connection: the ability to be genuinely present. We’ll discuss why modern dating often erodes presence and how focusing on understanding and attention can transform the way we connect.If you’ve ever felt that dating is just a num...

You ever notice how grown adults will talk in full circles just to avoid saying, “Hey, I like you”?
People will write whole essays through subtext, emojis, half-sentences, and late-night “accidental” messages, acting like they’re sending government-classified codes instead of admitting they’re interested.In this episode, we’re breaking down the 30 ambiguous things people say when they want you… but they’re scared to show their hand.
You know the lines:“I don’t usually open up to people.”
“You’re different.”
“We should hang out… sometime.”
“Lol you’re trouble.”Every one of them is a breadcrumb, a little test, a...

Why do avoidant partners pull away when things feel close, yet return to the one person who stays steady, grounded, and emotionally light? In this episode of You are Probably Right, MCM breaks down the psychology behind avoidant attachment and the power of relief and controlled presence.You will learn:• why avoidants retreat when emotions rise
• why calm confidence creates emotional safety
• how relief lowers their defences and pulls them closer
• what controlled presence looks like in real relationships
• what avoidants respond to and what pushes them away
• how to stay centred without chasing or overgivingTh...

There comes a point where you have to stop asking, “Why are they doing this to me?” and start asking, “Why do I keep allowing it?”In this episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM speaks straight to the ones who have given more to one person than they ever have to anyone else – more money, more time, more patience, more emotional support – and got the least in return. You showed up as the best version of yourself, and they responded with crumbs, confusion, and bare minimum effort.This is not about calling you weak. It is about understanding why you overgive...

In this powerful episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down one of the most difficult emotional crossroads we face — knowing it’s time to walk away while every part of you still wants to stay. This conversation explores why we hold on, why the heart resists change, and how fear, attachment, hope, and history keep us stuck in places we’ve already outgrown.You’ll hear a deep, honest look at:
• why your intuition recognises the truth long before your heart accepts it
• how emotional memory and attachment create “false hope loops”
• the difference between love and emotional r...

Why does a good man, a man who loves you deeply, still get jealous?
Why does a man who loves you so deeply still get jealous?
This episode explains the quiet insecurity that wakes up in a loving man when you step into situations that make him feel unsure, even when he trusts you. We break down how fear, comparison, and past relationships shape his reactions, and why he sometimes pulls back or watches you more closely. This is an honest, relatable conversation for women who love a good man but still see jealousy show up in unexpected...

A reflective deep dive into why people distance themselves when you offer consistency, honesty, and emotional presence. This episode explores fear of intimacy, avoidant attachment, nervous system overwhelm, and why some people retreat when love gets real. If you've ever felt someone pull away just as you were ready to love them well, this one is for you.relationships, attachment, jealousy, fear of intimacy, emotional intelligence, self-worth, dating, avoidant partner, consistency, secure loveEpisode Tags (Optional but Suggested for Spotify SEO)

What does real love actually look like — not the movie version, but the human version?
In this two-part episode of You’re Probably Right, M.C.M. breaks down 100 powerful ways men and women express love, loyalty, protection, and vulnerability — side by side.This isn’t just a relationship checklist. It’s a deep dive into the emotional blueprints that shape how we love, what we need, and how we sometimes miss each other even when we care deeply.Whether you’re trying to understand your partner, heal from love that hurt, or simply learn how men and women connect diff...

What does real love actually look like — not the movie version, but the human version?
In this two-part episode of You’re Probably Right, M.C.M. breaks down 100 powerful ways men and women express love, loyalty, protection, and vulnerability — side by side.This isn’t just a relationship checklist. It’s a deep dive into the emotional blueprints that shape how we love, what we need, and how we sometimes miss each other even when we care deeply.Whether you’re trying to understand your partner, heal from love that hurt, or simply learn how men and women connect diff...

Speak to My Heart — When the Armor Starts to Feel Heavy
📝 Episode Description (SEO-optimized for Spotify, Apple, and YouTube)There comes a moment when silence stops protecting you and startssuffocating you.
This episode of You’re Probably Right isn’t a diagnosis, it’s a mirror —a quiet conversation with the part of you that’s tired of pretending you don’tcare.In Speak to My Heart, MCM reaches beneath the surface to talk tothe guarded soul — the one that keeps busy to outrun pain, the one that hidesbehind strength but quietly craves safety.
This is not about fixing yourse...

When love turns into a mirror, it stops being romance and starts being revelation.
In this raw, cinematic episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM explores the heartbreak of chasing someone who keeps running — not from you, but from themselves.This talk unpacks:Why avoidant partners pull away when love feels realHow emotional distance becomes a form of controlWhy anxious and avoidant types mirror each other’s fearsWhat “closure” really means when words can’t fix what silence already hasAnd how peace feels when you finally stop chasing and start healingThis one isn’t about revenge or regret — it’s about release.

In this deep, psychological episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down the hidden world of the dismissive-avoidant attachment style — the people who want connection, but only on their terms.Through real-life examples and quiet honesty, this episode explores how avoidant partners use politeness, physical distance, and “sorry” messages to regulate emotional closeness, why they appear calm when relationships end, and how their need for control quietly sabotages intimacy.Whether you’re the one who pulls away or the one left wondering what went wrong, this episode will help you understand the emotional blueprint beneath the phrase “No Strings Attached.”🎙️...

Men who love their partners still cheat sometimes, and not every “onetime” cheater becomes a lifelong liar. In this straight talk from a maleperspective, MCM unpacks why good men make bad choices, why intimacy can changeafter commitment, and how mismatched desire, silence, and resentment pushcouples toward betrayal. We cover unmet needs, opportunity, thrill seeking, thepsychology of the “bait and switch” in the bedroom, double standards aboutcheating, and what most men actually want in long term love. This is not anexcuse for infidelity, it is an honest look at how it happens and how to stoprepeating the same patterns.🎧 You’re Probably Righ...

Sometimes, love doesn’t end with a fight — it ends in silence.
In this deeply human episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM explores what happens when someone’s heart quietly walks out of a relationship long before their body follows.We talk about:The subtle signs someone’s heart is leaving before they say it.Why people emotionally withdraw and stop showing up.The psychology of detachment, disinterest, and emotional fatigue.How to stop performing for love and start protecting your peace.The difference between someone leaving to escape… and you leaving to evolve.If you’ve ever been devalued...

We all carry secrets — some small, some soul-deep. In this powerful, intimate episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM explores the hidden parts of our lives we rarely talk about: the things we bury, the emotions we mute, the truths we fear will change how others see us.From the psychology of secrecy and the silent cost of repression to the gendered ways we hide emotion, the quiet battles with mental health, intrusive thoughts, and even private desires we’re too ashamed to name — this episode dives into what it really means to be human beneath the surface.This isn’t about co...

I did things in love that felt right at the time — and I paid for them.In this episode I walk through the ten mistakes that cost me time, dignity, andpeace: caring past reason, mistaking intensity for connection, trying to earnlove by fixing problems, over-explaining, reading mixed signals as hope, andmore. For each one I explain why it felt sensible, why it hurt, when it mightmake sense, and the practical swap that actually protects your heart.If you want less drama and more clarity in dating and relationships, thisis your playbook.Keywords: relationship advice, heartbreak recovery, breadcrumbing, emotionalintelligence, dating red fl...

Why do we keep chasing the wrong people — and overlooking the right ones?
In this long-form, heartfelt episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down the science and soul of modern relationships — the green flags that signal safety, trust, and emotional maturity… and the red flags that quietly unravel love from the inside out.You’ll learn:Why your brain confuses chaos with chemistryHow to spot calm, consistent love (and stop mistaking it for “boring”)What real emotional safety feels likeThe ten Universal Green Flags that define healthy partnershipThe ten Universal Red Flags that warn when to walk awayHow to hea...

🎧 Episode Title (final SEO version)They Knew I Loved Them, But Let Me Fall Anyway — Healing After Being Led OnHave you ever loved someone who knew exactly how much you cared — and still let you keep falling, even when they had no intention of catching you? This episode is for the ones left holding the pieces after being led on, breadcrumbed, and emotionally drained by someone who claimed they “didn’t want to hurt you.”In this 90-minute deep talk, MCM breaks down the quiet cruelty of breadcrumbing and emotional manipulation — when affection feels real but commitment never arrives. From the psychology...