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In this Society anything you do is bad if your actions do not line up with the popular narrative. This podcast Goes against popular narratives. The intention of the speaker and “His” Podcast is to provoke thought and for entertainment purposes only. Please be aware that some content may be emotionally triggering and of a sensitive nature. Therefore Listener discretion is advised.

Show Me Love (Part 3: Points 24–30)Episode 260
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Yesterday at 6:51 PM

In the final part of Show Me Love, MCM walks through points 24–30, showing you how to state what you want clearly, protect your energy, and stop measuring your worth by reply speed. You’ll also learn how to weigh happiness vs. money in opportunities, make love a choice instead of a lifeline, and heal old wounds before building new connections.




🔑 Keywords: dating podcast, relationship advice, show me love series, emotional healing, stop chasing relationships, self-love, alignment in relationships, modern dating podcast, healing before love


Show Me Love (Part 2: Points 12–23) Episode 259
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Yesterday at 6:48 PM

In Part 2 of Show Me Love, MCM continues with points 12–23, unpacking how to stop tolerating disrespect, why you shouldn’t interpret distance as a challenge, and how to protect your energy. This section dives into authenticity, stability over drama, using solitude for growth, keeping your schedule intact, and leveling the power in your relationships.




🔑 Keywords: relationship boundaries, stop disrespect, dating confidence, authenticity, personal growth podcast, self-care, emotional health, dating advice podcast, modern relationships


Show Me Love (Part 1: Points 1–11)Episode 258
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Yesterday at 6:44 PM

Description:
In Part 1 of Show Me Love, MCM breaks down the first 11 shifts that can transform your approach to relationships. Learn why chasing love pushes it away, how to stop outsourcing your worth to others, and how to set standards that protect your time and energy. This episode covers self-worth, boundaries, intimacy vs. intensity, approval-seeking, rejection as alignment, and more.



🔑 Keywords: relationship podcast, stop chasing love, self-worth, boundaries, dating advice, intimacy vs intensity, rejection, self-love, mental health podcast, personal growth


Rolling Too Deep – Episode 257
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Last Saturday at 11:20 PM

In this episode of It’s You’re Probably Right by MCM, we talk about the weight of life when it feels like you may never “arrive.” Bills don’t stop, responsibilities pile up, and even when you take a break, the stress follows.MCM reflects on:Why “rest” isn’t always restful when paychecks stop.How to position yourself to succeed when you’re single or creative.Negotiating your value at work — and in life.Protecting yourself from people who only come for what they can take.Building inner stability through discipline and self-care.Moving forward even without guarantees of money, relationsh...


More Than You Think – Part 3: The Gig Episode 255 | You're Probably Right
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Last Thursday at 2:00 AM

In this charged continuation of the More Than You Thinkseries, we finally meet Marcus—the man Eva once married, the artist who’s beenliving in the shadows of her life. Now broke and barely holding on, Marcus getsa shot at redemption: a San Francisco performance that could change everything.All he needs is $700 and a reason to believe in himself again.But asking Eva for help? That comes with a cost.Tensions rise, truths surface, and the collision course between Marcus andJulian reaches its breaking point—on stage, in front of everyone. This isn’tjust about music. It’s about identity...


More Than You Think – Part 2 You're Probably right (Fiction Episode)Episode 254
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08/24/2025

She’s not what he said. She’s more.In Part 2 of More Than You Think, we hear Eva’s side—the backstory, the baggage, the men who never left, and the one who might’ve stayed too long. This is a slow unraveling, told in Eva’s own voice, from behind the makeup, the money, and the mistakes.It’s not an explanation. It’s not an apology. It’s just what happened.If you’ve ever kept someone in your life because they made you feel safe…
If you’ve ever shut someone out because they saw too much…
If you’ve...


More Than You Think A You’re Probably Right Fiction Special
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08/24/2025

Welcome to a special episode of You Are Probably Right. I’m M C M.What you’re about to hear is different. This isn’t commentary. It’s not a conversation. It’s a story.But it’s the kind of story that tells the truth in a way advice never can.It’s for anyone who’s ever waited a little too long. For anyone who’s ever felt like they were almost chosen—but never quite enough. For anyone who’s felt the ache of wanting someone who doesn’t know what to do with something real.So sit down. Get quiet...


Chosen, Not Convenient: How Strong Couples Actually Work | Episode 252
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08/24/2025

A clear, practical talk on building a strong relationship. We cover sharedmission, respectful communication that maintains trust, a simple reset plan forpast issues, real-world rules for money and phones, desire and boundarieswithout games, and a clean repair script for conflict. You'll leave with aweekly check-in you can run tomorrow plus three commitments to keep you honest.SEO Keywords
strong relationship, couples communication, trust reset, conflict repair,intimacy, money rules for couples, phone privacy agreement, weekly check-inTimestamps
00:00 Opening and promise
03:30 Shared mission, team first
10:30 Talk that keeps respect
19:30 Trust and the reset plan
28:30 Attraction, jealousy...


Episode 251 – Five Questions That Can Wreck (or Rescue) Your Relationship
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08/21/2025


A viral 45-second clip asked five “deep” relationship questions—but are theyreally deep, or dangerously shallow? In this episode of You’re ProbablyRight, we unpack each question in full—what it gets right, what it misses,and why microwaved counseling can quietly poison your marriage. With vividstorytelling, real-world scenarios, and hard-earned wisdom, this 90-minuteconversation dives into:If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re with the right person—or feltrattled by quick-fire relationship “tests” online—this episode is for you.Show Notes:Listener Reflection Questions (SEO-rich prompts):Keywords / Tags for Search:
relationships, marriage, dating advice, fulfillment, intimacy, toxic cycles,love questions...


Every Little Thing She Does Isn’t Magic: When Love Feels One-Sided| Epd - 250
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08/21/2025

In this raw and unfiltered episode of You’re Probably Right, we go straight into the heart of marriage and long-term relationships — when love feels one-sided. Drawing on real stories, timeless truths, and unspoken frustrations, this episode exposes why so many men and women feel disconnected under the same roof. We’ll talk about silence, intimacy, negotiation, influence, and the lies modern culture feeds us about love. And along the way, we’ll unpack how different men — Beta, Sigma, and Alpha — experience these struggles uniquely, and what it takes to bridge the gap before silence wins. This is not about blame. This...


Time After Time: Why We Keep Choosing the Wrong People | Ep 249
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08/20/2025

Why do we keep circling back to the same kinds of partners, the same heartbreaks, the same endings — time after time?In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we explore why good people often fall into bad love. Through vivid storytelling and real-life scenarios, we uncover the hidden patterns that keep us hooked on the wrong relationships. You’ll hear about the illusion of change, why familiarity feels safer than growth, and how to finally break the cycle for good.This isn’t just another “relationship talk.” This is an invitation to pause, reflect, and begin choosing differently — time after time.The...


Every Breath You Take: Was He Really the One Who Got Away? | Ep 248
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08/20/2025

This episode borrows its title from one of the most famous songs of the ’80s — a track so haunting and unforgettable it became a global anthem of longing. Years later, it was reimagined by The Notorious B.I.G., introducing a whole new generation to its power.But here’s the question: Why does a song like that still resonate? Because we all know the feeling of watching, waiting, and wondering about someone who slipped out of our lives. Was he the one who got away, or just the one who broke you?In Episode 248 of You’re Probably Right, we go be...


EP247 – The 10 Signs He’s Just Not Into You
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08/20/2025

📄 Description (for Spotify)In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we dive deep into the truth every woman needs to face in dating: knowing when a man simply isn’t serious about you.Over 10 vivid, real-world signs, we explore the ways men reveal their lack of commitment—whether it’s late-night “what are you doing?” texts, endless future promises that never happen, or avoiding defining the relationship altogether.This is not about shame. It’s about clarity. Because the sooner you see the truth, the sooner you can stop wasting time on men who don’t value you, and start saving your h...


EP246 – The 7 Signs She’s Just Not Into You
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08/20/2025

In this episode of You’re Probably Right, we dive deep into one of the toughest truths men face in dating: knowing when she’s just not interested.For 44 minutes, I walk you through the signs most guys miss—signs that end up wasting months or even years of their lives. From canceled plans to cold body language, from endless “I’m busy” excuses to watching her flirt with someone else right in front of you, these are the red flags you can’t afford to ignore.If you’ve ever found yourself chasing, over-explaining, or settling for scraps of attention, this...


How to Fight Fair: 7 Conflict Rules That Can Save a Marriage | You’re Probably Right (Ep. 245)
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08/19/2025

Conflict is inevitable — but unfair conflict can destroy love. In Episode 245 of You’re Probably Right, we unpack 7 battle-tested rules that help couples argue without tearing each other apart. From learning to pause before reacting, to avoiding low blows, to repairing with “touch gloves,” these principles transform fights into opportunities for connection.Whether you’re married, dating, or simply want healthier communication, this episode gives you a blueprint for fighting fair — so your relationship grows stronger instead of weaker.00:00 – Intro | Why fighting fair matters in love & marriage01:57 – The truth about conflict | It’s not the fight, it’s how you fight06:11 – Rule 1...


Episode 244 - Pulling Back Isn’t Power
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08/19/2025

Everyone says it: “Pull back your energy. Let them miss you. Stay silent and they’ll value you more.” It’s the advice plastered across TikTok, Instagram, and dating podcasts. But what if that’s not power — what if it’s avoidance?In this episode of You’re Probably Right with MCM, I challenge the popular mantra of withdrawing your presence as a strategy in relationships. If you feel like a backup option, you don’t need silence or games — you need communication. Real confidence isn’t disappearing to test someone; it’s speaking honestly, even if your voice shakes.We break down why emotio...


Episode 243: 20 Questions Men Wish You’d Never Ask
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08/19/2025

What happens when a man answers the questions he's never supposed to answer? In this bold, raw episode of You're Probably Right, host M.C.M. takes on 20 deeply uncomfortable questions about masculinity, relationships, vulnerability, and how it really feels to be a man in today's shifting culture.From emotional labour to outdated expectations, weaponized incompetence to quiet grief—nothing is off-limits. Whether you're a husband, father, boyfriend, or woman trying to understand the emotional maze of modern men, this episode will challenge you to listen differently.🎧 Why listen?Get a rare unfiltered male perspective on love, pressure, loneliness, and legac...


Episode 242 - Why Women Say They Want Vulnerable Men, But Don’t Always Choose Them
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08/18/2025

In this episode of You’re Probably Right, host MCM breaks down one of the most confusing parts of modern dating: why men are told to open up, but often penalized when they do. We explore the science of first impressions, the psychology of attraction, men’s mental health stigma, and why timing and framing make vulnerability either magnetic or off-putting.Through storytelling, research, and real-world examples, you’ll learn:Why women’s desire in men balances confidence with emotional intimacyHow psychology explains dating double standardsThe three dials of male vulnerability: timing, framing, and doseGuidance for both men and women on build...


15 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Actually Love You – Part 3 | You're Probably Right Podcast
08/15/2025

In the final part of this three-part series, we uncover signs 11–15 that your partner might not truly love you. From open contempt to constantly bringing up their ex, these red flags can help you spot when the relationship isn’t what it seems. We talk blunt truths, real-life examples, and why you deserve respect and genuine affection. If you missed Parts 1 and 2, check them out first.Show Notes & Time Stamps00:00 – Welcome to You’re Probably Right Podcast – no fluff, no filters
00:50 – Intro to Part 3 and quick recap of Part 2
02:22 – Reminder: This is entertainment first, not absolute advice
02:46 – Sign 11: They te...


15 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Actually Love You – Part 2 | Probably Right Podcast
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08/15/2025

In Part 2 of this 3-part series, we dive into signs 6–10 that your partner may not love you the way you deserve. From secrecy around phones and finances to double standards, public embarrassment, and dismissing your opinions—these behaviours chip away at respect and connection. You’ll hear examples, the emotional impact, and why these patterns matter. Remember, it’s about honesty, respect, and protecting your own well-being.00:00 – Introduction
Quick welcome and reminder of what the Probably Right Podcast is all about—straight talk, no fluff. Recap of Part 1 and setup for today’s discussion on signs 6–10.02:22 – Sign 6: They’re very protective of t...


15 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Actually Love You (Part 1)
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08/15/2025

In this first part of the three-part series, we break down the first five signs that your partner may not truly love you.
From avoiding quality time to speaking to you like a friend instead of a lover, these subtle behaviours can reveal a lot about the state of your relationship.Each sign is explored with real-world examples, psychological insights, and practical advice, helping you recognise patterns that could be harming your connection.
Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, these insights can help you see clearly, have honest conversations, and make informed choices about your future.00:00 – Introduction


Episode 239 - Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship – Part 3
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08/14/2025

In Part 3 of Being Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship, we explore the deeper emotional and psychological traps that kindness can create when it’s given too fast, too soon. MCM breaks down the subtle ways over-giving can shift power, expectations, and attraction in relationships. This episode unpacks how to balance generosity with self-respect, how to avoid getting trapped in an unbalanced dynamic, and how to protect your energy while still being genuine.If you’ve ever wondered why being “too nice” hasn’t gotten you the love or respect you deserve, this conversation might change how you approach connection...


Episode 239 – Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship Part 2
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08/14/2025

In Part 2 of Being Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship, I explore the hidden dangers of moving too fast when showing kindness and generosity in the early stages of dating. This episode continues the deep dive from Part 1, focusing on why overinvesting too soon can lead to imbalance, resentment, and even emotional disconnection.
Whether you’ve been told you’re “too nice” or you’ve experienced a partner pulling away after you gave too much too soon, this conversation will give you the clarity to protect your energy and keep your self-worth intact.🎧 Listen to Part 1 here: Episode 239 – Part 100:00 – O...


Episode 239 - Too Nice Too Quickly in a Relationship Part 1
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08/14/2025

In Part 1 of this three-part deep dive, we explore why being “too nice” too quickly can backfire—especially when dealing with avoidant partners. Drawing from eight key reflections, this first segment covers shifts 1 through 3, unpacking the subtle behaviours that can unintentionally erode attraction and respect.We’ll look at how over-giving, rushing emotional intimacy, and neglecting personal boundaries can create imbalance, and why these patterns are often misunderstood as kindness. This episode challenges you to rethink the way you show care in relationships, helping you set a foundation for genuine connection without losing yourself.0:00 – Opening monologue & episode overview
2:15 – Introduction to “too nice...


Episode 238 – From Losing Yourself to Loving Yourself: Rebuilding Self-Respect After a One-Sided Relationship
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08/12/2025

In this powerful episode of You’re Probably Right, MCM breaks down the one thing that can make or break every relationship: self-respect.From spotting the subtle ways you lose yourself in love, to understanding why constant giving never earns lasting affection, this conversation is raw, practical, and eye-opening. You’ll learn how to identify unhealthy patterns, set non-negotiable boundaries, and rebuild the confidence that makes you magnetic.We cover:The hidden signs you’ve been trading self-respect for loveWhy “transactional caregiving” leaves you empty and resentfulStep-by-step actions to reclaim your independence without dramaHow to spot a partner who values you over w...


Episode 237 – 25 Questions Women Want to Ask Men (But Don’t)
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08/11/2025

In this unfiltered episode of You’re Probably Right, I take on 25 straight-to-the-point questions from women about men, dating, and relationships. From why “great guys” are still single to the truth about commitment and attraction, nothing’s off-limits.These aren’t scripted answers — they’re raw, real, and from the heart.Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:47 – Why this episode is different: 25 real questions from women
04:20 – Q1: Why are “great guys” still single?
06:36 – Q2: Are some men too picky?
10:26 – Q3: What do men want in a partner they haven’t found yet?
16:10 – Q4: Are men too focused on looks?
21:43 – Q5: Do men h...


Ep 236 – What Silence Heard: An Hour-Long Letter from the Avoidant | You're Probably Right Podcast
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08/09/2025

You thought I didn’t care. The truth is, I cared so much it scared me.”
In this intimate, hour-long monologue, MCM steps into the mind of the avoidant — the partner who pulls away, stays silent, and leaves questions unanswered. This is not an apology, not a plea, and not a rebuttal. It’s a rare, unflinching look at what the avoidant carries, what they fear, and what they can’t always say out loud.
Whether you’ve been left by an avoidant, loved one, or lived with distance in your relationships, this is a letter you won’t forget.🎧 Lis...


Why Hiding Who You Are Will Cost You Everything
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08/07/2025

In this solo monologue, M.C.M. drops the filter and speaks truthfully about why we lie at the start of relationships
🕰️ Timestamped Show Notes:00:00 – Introduction
Welcome to Episode 235. A different format today: a full monologue, read from a personal essay with spontaneous thoughts interspersed.02:16 – Why It’s So Hard to Tell the Truth at the Start
Explores the discomfort and fear people feel when entering new relationships, and why vulnerability feels dangerous even though it's necessary.04:31 – The Role of Self-Worth
How desperation vs. confidence impacts our willingness to be honest. When you don't value yourself, you're more l...


EPISODE 234 — Is She the Woman and Doesn’t Even Know It?
08/04/2025

EPISODE 234 — Is She the Woman and Doesn’t Even Know It?
🎙️ You're Probably Right Podcast with Amsterdam
📧 YPRpodcast@gmail.com
🎧 Listen on Spotify | Listen on AppleShe might not show off. She might not know her own value. But real men notice. In Episode 234, Amsterdam lays out 5 traits of a traditional, high-value woman — the kind the world overlooks but every good man prays for. Emotional control, inner confidence, nurturing strength, and grace under pressure. This one’s not about being trendy. It’s about being timeless.00:00 – Opening & Intent:
Amsterdam sets the tone — this one’s for women and for men who want to rec...


EPISODE 233 — Is He the Man and You Don’t Even Know It?
08/04/2025

EPISODE 233 — Is He the Man and You Don’t Even Know It?
🎙️ You're Probably Right Podcast with M.C.M
📧 YPRpodcast@gmail.com
🎧 Listen on Spotify | Listen on AppleSome men walk like lions but never roar. In this episode, MCM breaks down six markers of quiet strength that show a man might be “the one” without even knowing it. He shares stories, real-life imagery, and raw insights on what makes men magnetic without chasing attention. This one’s for the women trying to figure him out—and the men who need to be reminded who they are.00:00 – Intro:
MCM sets the...


Episode 232 — Love Where You Work? Dating in Workplaces, Schools, and Churches
08/04/2025

Episode 232 — Love Where You Work? Dating in Workplaces, Schools, and ChurchesDate: August 4, 2025
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🔗 Listen on Apple PodcastsIn this episode, MCM gets real about something most people deal with but rarely admit: catching feelings where you work, study, or worship. Can you find love where you spend your days—and not wreck your career or your faith life? Episode 232 breaks down the myths, the risks, the psychology, and the rules. If you’ve ever had a “work wife,” a crush in Bible study, or been tempted to shoot your shot with someone on campus—this one’s for you.Why “don’t d...


what time is are you read to commit Episode #231
08/04/2025

A grounded, direct talk for men on how to know you're truly ready for a serious relationship—and the traits in a woman worth betting your long-term happiness on. No fluff. Just real talk
relationship readiness · when to commit · choosing a life partner · healthy relationship · marriage advice for menI


Episode 230: You're Probably Right – What If That Is Love?
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07/30/2025


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What Silence Said You're Probably Right – Episode 229
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07/23/2025

Ever wanted to say something to the one who let you bend until you broke? In this episode of You're Probably Right, MCM delivers the words many never get to say out loud. It’s not a rant. It’s not revenge. It’s clarity. This is a message to the emotionally distant, the ones who took and disappeared, thinking the door would always stay open.Through sharp truths and raw reflection, this episode explores the aftermath of one-sided love, the power of silence, and what happens when you finally stop explaining yourself.Keywords: emotional detachment, ghosting, self-worth, one-sided relationships, emotio...


The CASA Framework™ — A New Way to Understand Personality, Attachment, and Emotional Compatibility Episode #227
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07/22/2025

This episode marks the official introduction of the CASA Framework™, a 4-part personality model created and coined by MCM, host of the You're Probably Right podcast.CASA stands for:Cognitive – how you think (verbal, visual, kinesthetic)Attachment – how you bond (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)Social – how you interact (introvert or extravert)Agreeableness – how you relate (empathetic or assertive)This framework unlocks 48 possible personality types and provides a deeper understanding of how we love, clash, communicate, and connect.In this Season 9 opener, MCM walks listeners through:The psychological history behind CASAHow it compares to MBTI, Enneagram, and the Big FiveReal-life examples across dat...


Top 10 Signs He’s Quietly Leaving You #226
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07/22/2025

Top 10 Signs He’s Quietly Leaving You
(1060 by You’re Probably Right)Spotify Description:
He’s not mad. He’s not cheating.
But he’s slipping away — and you can feel it.
Some men don’t storm out — they disappear one habit at a time.
Here are ten signs he’s quietly leaving, and you’re not crazy for noticing.
This is Ten Sixty — by You’re Probably Right with your host and friend, MCM.
Full-length podcast episodes available now on Spotify and Apple.#WomensIntuition #LoveGoneCold #ToxicLove #DatingTruths #EmotionalDistance #QuietBreakups #YoureProbablyRight #1060byYPR


Top 10 Signs She’s About to Leave You #225
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07/22/2025


(1060 by You’re Probably Right)Spotify Description:
She’s still there — but not really.
She’s smiling — but it’s not the same.
If you’ve been wondering whether your girl is halfway out the door, here are ten signs you’re not imagining it.
This is Ten Sixty — by You’re Probably Right with your host and friend, MCM.
Hit follow to catch more raw truths in sixty seconds.
📲 Full episodes available on Spotify and Apple.#Relationships #Breakups #DatingAdvice #ModernLove #RedFlags #MensMentalHealth #YoureProbablyRight #1060byYPR


Episode 224: 30 Brutally Honest Questions Men Rarely Answer
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07/21/2025

Episode 224: “30 Brutally Honest Questions Men Rarely Answer”Ever wondered what men really think—but rarely say out loud? In this bold, revealing episode, MCM dives into 30 raw and uncomfortable questions men usually avoid answering—because the truth isn’t always flattering, and women won’t always like the answers. This episode is not about excuses. It’s about truth.From emotional detachment to loyalty tests, emotional shutdowns, unspoken regrets, and silent exits—this is the male mind, unfiltered. Whether you’re in a relationship, recovering from one, or trying to understand men better, this one’s for you.🎧 Listen if you’ve ever asked:“Why...


Episode 223: Discarded – The Emotional Cost of Being Thrown Away
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07/18/2025

Title: Discarded: The Emotional Cost of Being Thrown Away
Description:
In Episode 223 of You're Probably Right, MCM takes an unfiltered look at what it means to be emotionally discarded in a relationship. This isn't about dramatic breakups—it’s about the quiet, painful fade-outs. It’s when a partner keeps you around physically but emotionally leaves the room.This episode breaks down the psychological toll of being thrown away, how it manifests in everyday behaviour, and why so many men stay silent through it all. From being used as a placeholder to dealing with gaslighting and emotional distance, we unc...


Episode 222: What Men Really Want (But Rarely Say Out Loud)
#222
07/17/2025

🎧 Episode 222: What Men Really Want (But Rarely Say Out Loud)
Podcast: You’re Probably Right with MCMIn this honest and grounded episode, MCM pulls back the curtain on what everyday men actually want, need, and value—but rarely say out loud. Forget the clichés and alpha-male stereotypes. This is about the quiet men, the consistent men, the men who don’t perform for social media but hold it down in real life.From emotional pressure and relationship misunderstandings to outside interference from so-called “guy friends,” this episode gets to the core of how men experience love, loyalty, and modern partner...