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In this episode, Coach Lee takes you deep into the psychology behind the no contact rule and explains the real, often overlooked signs that no contact is working on your ex. Breakups are emotionally chaotic, and when you’re the one staying silent, it’s easy to assume that nothing is happening on the other side.

But in reality, your silence creates a shift in the dynamic, and that shift almost always produces visible — and invisible — changes in your ex’s behavior. Coach Lee breaks down each sign in detail, starting with micro-boundaries: the unfollows, refollows...

What do you do when your ex suddenly reaches out during no contact?
A lot of people panic, overthink, or respond too quickly — and that’s usually where things go wrong. In this episode, I explain what an ex’s text actually means, why it happens, and how to respond without losing the progress you’ve made.

You’ll learn:
• Why an ex sends a “temperature check”
• How to avoid breaking no contact the wrong way
• What their message reveals about their mindset
• The smartest way to respond — or not respond
• How your silence shapes th...

Are You Addicted to Your Ex?

Are you really still in love with your ex… or are you addicted to them?

In this episode, Coach Lee explains why missing your ex can feel less like heartbreak and more like withdrawal. When a relationship ends, your brain is still craving the dopamine, the validation, the familiarity—and that craving can make you obsess, beg, stalk their social media, or feel like you’ll never be okay without them.

But here’s the truth:

That desperate pull toward your ex isn’t love. It’s chemical. An...

When a breakup happens, there’s usually pain… but sometimes an ex pushes it further. Maybe they take advantage of your silence, try to get a reaction, play games, or say things they know will cut deep. There comes a point where you look at the situation and realize, “This is not love anymore. This is disrespect.”

In this episode, I talk about what it means when your ex goes too far, why they do it, and what it reveals about them — not you. You’ll learn why stepping back isn’t weakness, why protecting your dignity is powerful, a...

When the person you love says they “need a break,” it can feel like the ground shifts beneath you.

One moment, everything feels steady but the next, you’re trying to make sense of the distance that came out of nowhere. You might replay every word, every moment, searching for clues. But what most people don’t realize is that when someone asks for a "break," it’s not always about needing time alone.

It’s often about uncertainty, fear, and emotional confusion.

In this episode, Coach Lee talks about what a “break” really means in...

When you go no contact with an avoidant ex, it might look like they don’t care — but that’s not what’s really happening beneath the surface.

In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the true stages of no contact for an avoidant ex — what they feel, how they process silence, and why their calmness often ends with sudden panic or regret.

Avoidant exes don’t handle emotional loss the way secure people do. At first, they feel relief — convinced that distance equals peace. But that “peace” eventually cracks. What follows is a slow unraveling that en...

The Egomaniac Attachment Style: The Hidden Side No One Talks About

Most people have heard of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles.

But what happens when someone’s attachment isn’t about love or connection — it’s about ego?

In this video, I explain what I call the Egomaniac Attachment Style.

This hidden side of attachment shows up when a person needs admiration more than intimacy.

Their relationships revolve around control, validation, and protecting their self-image instead of building trust. If you’ve ever felt like your ex (or partner) a...

When someone ends a relationship, it often looks simple on the outside: they make the decision, walk away, and insist they’re sure of it. But the truth is rarely that clean. In this episode, I explain why your ex might still be wrestling with their feelings for you, even if they’re the one who chose to leave.

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The first thing to understand is that relief often comes right after a breakup. It can give the dumper a false...

Don't Fix What They Broke

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When a breakup leaves you reeling, there’s a strong temptation to rush in and patch things up—especially if you didn’t want the relationship to end. You might feel like if you can just fix it, explain yourself better, or show them how much you care, everything will fall back into place. But here’s something most people overlook: if they were the one who broke it, fixing it for them actually makes things worse.

In this episode, I talk about why stepping back—and stayin...

They didn’t think it would matter.

When they let you go, they figured they’d be fine. Maybe even better off. In their mind, you’d be easy to replace. Someone else would come along and fill the space. They believed they could move on without consequence, without even looking back.

But people like you don’t come around every day. And that’s something they never truly considered—until the silence set in. Until the conversations weren’t as natural. The laughter didn’t sound quite the same. The connection didn’t flow. The comfort wasn’t...

They don’t come back when you chase. They come back when you let go.

In this video, Coach Lee explains why letting someone go often has a more powerful impact than trying to convince them to stay. If you're wondering why your ex suddenly comes back after you've stopped reaching out or walked away, this video will help you understand the psychology behind it.

Letting go creates mystery, space, and the contrast they didn’t expect to feel. It shows strength instead of desperation—and that shift can change everything.

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In this episode, we’re digging into something a lot of people struggle with after a breakup. I'm talking about how to make your ex actually feel the loss. Not out of spite, not to play games, but because deep down, you know they took you for granted. Maybe they assumed you’d always be there. Maybe they expected you to fall apart or chase them the moment they walked away. And maybe… that’s exactly why they left in the first place.

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In this episode, we’re talking about something that hits deep: what it feels like when someone walks away—but expects you to wait. Maybe you’ve been there. You gave your heart, your time, your consistency… and in return, they gave confusion. Silence dressed up as “space.” Excuses instead of effort. And yet, part of you still held the door open, hoping they’d come back. This conversation is for the ones who waited—out of love, out of belief, out of loyalty—until one day, you realized that love shouldn’t feel like waiting in emotional limbo.

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Breakups are messy—even for the one who ends it.

In this episode, I walk you through the timeline of what usually happens after someone breaks up with you. Not right away, but in the weeks and months that follow, there’s often a shift they didn’t expect. The relief fades. Doubt creeps in. And if you’ve gone quiet, that silence starts to get loud.

We’ll talk about the common phases dumpers go through, why they sometimes reach out even when they’re not sure what they want, and what it really me...

What really causes someone to regret the breakup?

In this episode, I walk you through five real moments that often shift the mindset of someone who left you. These aren’t guesses or vague ideas—they’re specific turning points. Internal realizations. Psychological cracks. The kind of things that don’t always show up on the surface, but mean everything when you're trying to understand what’s going on behind the silence.

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If yo...

They thought you’d wait forever.

They thought you’d stay in place.

That you’d stay loyal no matter how long they disappeared.

That you’d be available whenever — if they ever changed their mind.

And for a while… maybe they were right.

But something changed. You didn’t just wait. You grew. You got quiet. You got stronger. And now… they don’t know where you stand. And that uncertainty? It’s doing something they never expected — it’s making them feel your absence.

In this episode, Coach Lee...

They walked away. But somehow, they still feel in control.
That ends now.

In this video, I’m going to walk you through how to take your ex’s power away. Not by playing games, but by showing them—subtly and clearly—that they don’t hold emotional control over you anymore.

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So many people give their ex power without realizing it. Every little reaction… every attempt to show them what they’re missing… even just overthinking what they post. I...

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$7 Reunion Blueprint at https://ReunionBlueprint.com You think they’ve moved on. They’re silent. Distant. Maybe even cold. But behind that silence, something else is happening—and they don’t even realize it. In this video, I’ll reveal five hidden ways your ex is subconsciously testing you after the breakup. Not because they’re playing games… But because they’re trying to protect their pride, their narrative, and the version of the story that makes them feel right. And every time you don’t react the way they expect you to— you shake their certainty a little m...

Your ex might seem calm, distant, or completely fine after the breakup.

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Maybe they’re silent. Maybe they’re posting like life has never been better.

Maybe they’ve even convinced themselves that they’re at peace.

But here’s the truth—they’re struggling more than they’ll ever admit. Breakups don’t bring instant clarity.

They create doubt, emotional contradictions, and hidden struggles that most people refuse...

Right now, it might seem like your ex is completely certain about their decision. They’re acting distant, cold, and unbothered—like you never really mattered to them. But here’s the truth… they’re more confused than you think.

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Breakups don’t bring instant clarity. Instead, they create doubt, second-guessing, and emotional contradictions that your ex may not even recognize yet. In this episode, I’ll break down five psychological...

Your ex may seem unaffected by the breakup, but that’s likely not the full story. There are several reasons why they appear to feel nothing—at least, for now.

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When your ex decided to break up, their brain rewarded them with dopamine, the same chemical that gives a sense of satisfaction when completing difficult tasks. Since...

Your ex may act fine after the breakup, but deep down, they’re feeling emotions they won’t admit to anyone—including themselves. In this podcast episode, Coach Lee reveals the hidden pain your ex experiences as time passes and why they might start to regret leaving you.

The Pain of Uncertainty: Why they start questioning if breaking up was a mistake.

The Emotional Crash: How their initial relief turns into emptiness.

The Power of Nostalgia: Why their brain rewrites history to focus on the good...

At first, it might seem like your ex is doing just fine after the breakup—maybe even relieved. But that feeling won’t last forever. In this episode, Coach Lee dives deep into why your ex actually feels worse as time goes on and how their emotions shift in ways they never expected.

Why your ex’s emotions are delayed after the breakup – Understanding the psychological timeline that makes them feel worse over time.

How nostalgia rewrites the past – Why your ex starts remembering the good times more t...

The Impact of Radio Silence on Your Ex

Radio silence is one of the most effective strategies after a breakup, particularly if your ex was the one who ended the relationship. It works hand in hand with no contact but has its own unique impact. By removing yourself from your ex’s life completely—no texting, no social media updates, no interaction—you create a noticeable absence that forces them to feel the consequences of their decision.

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Does No Contact Work with a Borderline Personality Disorder Ex?

Breaking up with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) presents unique challenges, leading many to question whether the no-contact rule is effective in this situation.

In this audio/video, Coach Lee explores how no contact impacts individuals with BPD, the reactions you might encounter, and whether this approach fosters healing, clarity, and even reconciliation.

What You’ll Discover in This Video:

Why No Contact Works Differently with a BPD Ex: How emotional instability and extreme mood swings influence th...

Why Your Ex Misses You Later (And What You Can Do About It)

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After a breakup, you may find yourself missing your ex almost immediately, but they often take longer to feel that same sense of loss. This delay happens for a reason, and understanding why can help you handle the situation in a way that increases your chances of getting them back. Here’s what happens in your ex’s mind after a breakup and what you can do about it.

1. The...

One of the most surprising ways to get your ex back is to genuinely move on. It sounds counterintuitive, but detaching from the relationship and focusing on your own growth can actually make your ex reconsider their decision. In this video, Coach Lee explains why shifting your mindset away from desperation and toward self-improvement increases your attractiveness and draws your ex back toward you.

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Why Your Ex Might Be Struggling After the Breakup

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When a breakup happens, it’s easy to think that your ex is completely fine—especially if they’re the one who initiated the split. However, the reality is that they’re likely struggling in their own way. Understanding why your ex might be having difficulty with the breakup can provide valuable insights into their behavior and help you navigate this challenging period.

If you’re following the no-contact rule, staying silent and not ch...

When it comes to breakups, the no-contact rule is one of the most powerful tools you can use to heal, regain your confidence, and, in some cases, increase the chances of reconciliation. However, your ex may not make it easy for you to stay silent. Even if they ended the relationship, they might use subtle (and not-so-subtle) tricks to get you to reach out first. Understanding these tactics and why they use them can help you stay strong and avoid falling into their trap.

Here are some common tricks your ex might use to make you break...

Breakups are hard enough on their own, but they can become even more painful when your ex responds with anger, cruelty, or mean-spirited behavior. It’s natural to feel confused and hurt, wondering why someone who once cared about you is now acting this way. Understanding their behavior can provide clarity, help you process your emotions, and guide you in making the best decisions moving forward.

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Breakups are never easy, especially when you’re the one left behind. Emotions can run high, and the urge to reach out, explain yourself, or try to change your ex's mind can feel overwhelming. But as counterintuitive as it may seem, silence is one of the most powerful tools you have after a breakup. In this article, we’ll explore why silence works, how it impacts your ex, and why it’s the be...

What It Means When Your Ex Says They Need Time or Space

It’s common to feel confused and even panicked when your ex, boyfriend, or girlfriend says they need “time” or “space.” These words often leave people wondering: is this the end of the relationship, or is there still hope? In this article, we’ll explore the meaning behind those phrases, the possible reasons someone might say them, and what you should do in response to improve your chances of reconciliation.

1. A Gentle Breakup
One reason your ex migh...

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What to Do When All Else Fails: Strategies for Getting Your Ex Back
When you're at your wit's end, unsure of what else to try, and willing to take some risks to rekindle your relationship with your ex, it can be a challenging and emotional time. These moments often come when you're ready to move on but feel the need to try one last thing. Here are some unconventional strategies that carry some risk but have been...

What Is Your Ex Thinking If They're Dating Someone Else?

After a breakup, seeing your ex dating someone else can be incredibly challenging. You might wonder what’s going through their mind and whether this new relationship is a rebound or something serious. Here are key insights into what your ex might be thinking if they’ve moved on to someone else and how this dynamic can evolve.

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"If" is a poem by English poet Rudyard Kipling, written circa 1895 as a tribute to Leander Starr Jameson. It is a literary example of Victorian-era stoicism. This is a reading by Coach Lee, especially encouraging young men.

If you can keep your head when all about you   
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated...

Deciding whether to move on from an ex can be challenging. Many grapple with the emotional turmoil of a breakup, questioning whether waiting or trying to get back together is worth it. Below are some key considerations to help you navigate this decision.

1. Ask the Right Question: Should You Try to Get Them Back?
Instead of asking if you should give up, ask if your ex is worth the effort. Reflect on their behavior during and after the breakup. If they left without trying to resolve issues or walked away over trivial matters, this could...

When Your Ex Begins to Feel the Impact of Loss: Exploring the Shift in Emotional Dynamics After a Breakup

Breakups bring a challenging range of emotions. Typically, one person may feel caught off guard and devastated, while the other may seem to hold all the power. However, the emotional dynamics between the one who initiated the breakup and the person who was left behind can shift significantly over time. Known as “role reversal,” this transition often surprises both individuals, flipping the feelings of control and relief into unexpected emotions like regret or even a deep sense of loss...

Making the Breakup Impactful for Your Ex: Steps Toward Potential Reconnection

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Breakups often leave one person holding all the cards, typically the one who initiates the split. If you’re hoping to reignite the relationship, it’s crucial to understand that your ex needs to feel the cost of the breakup on an emotional level. Without this sense of loss, they may never fully understand what they gave up. In this guide, we’ll explore why creating a meaningful sense of consequence can influence their willingness to reflect on and po...

No Contact: Now What?

When going through a breakup, many people understand the importance of giving space, or as I call it, going "no contact." However, once you're in no contact, the question becomes, now what? In this article, I’ll help guide you through the next steps, whether or not your ex decides to reach out.

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1. When Your Ex Reaches Out
The biggest question I hear is, What should I do if my ex contacts me? This is a pivotal mo...

When Your Ex Begins to Feel the Impact of Loss: Exploring the Shift in Emotional Dynamics After a Breakup

Breakups bring a challenging range of emotions. Typically, one person may feel caught off guard and devastated, while the other may seem to hold all the power. However, the emotional dynamics between the one who initiated the breakup and the person who was left behind can shift significantly over time. Known as “role reversal,” this transition often surprises both individuals, flipping the feelings of control and relief into unexpected emotions like regret or even a deep sense of loss...