She’s Working on it!
She's Working on It! A woman navigating mid-life while always working on living better and working smarter. Join her as she explores self-improvement, home improvement, work-life flow, happiness, change and transformation, design, style, shopping, and more.
Episode 35: Thinking About Thinking (and What to Wear Tomorrow)
Summary: In this episode, I’m keeping things a little lighter—but still thoughtful (and yes, a little meta). I start with two simple life hacks that have genuinely made my days better. Then I move into some reflections on purpose—especially how my own understanding of “little p” purpose has shifted over time. And finally, I wrap up with something I haven’t talked much about yet on the podcast: my love of style. From color pairings to pointed-toe flats, I share a few practical tips for finding joy in getting dressed—and how even the act of putting...
Episode 34: Staying Present in a Distracted World
Summary: In this episode, I continue reflecting on the role technology plays in our lives, especially in parenting, education, and our kids’ development. Inspired by conversations from Jonathan Haidt and the Your Undivided Attention podcast, I explore the ripple effects of screen time, AI, and digital media on childhood, attention, and learning.
We talk about everything from fear-based parenting and the decline of play, to the rise of “continuous partial attention” and the cognitive offloading happening with younger tech users. I share why deep reading still matters, how most ed tech isn't made by educators, and wh...
Episode 33: Teaching Kids About Tech (While Still Learning It Ourselves)
Summary
Before a recent trip to New York, I found myself deep in conversations about AI, cellphone use, and how families can navigate tech with more intention. In this episode, I reflect on grassroots movements, school initiatives, and why optimism, not fear, may be our best tool for helping the next generation use technology meaningfully.
🎧Podcasts
NPR's Fresh Air: Professors Are Using A.I., Too. Now what? (listen here)
📰 Articles
New York Times: The Professors Are Using Chat GPT, and Some Student...
Episode 32: Still Working on It—Even with No Voice (Graduation Weekend Edition)
Summary:
In Still Working on It—Even with No Voice (Graduation Weekend Edition), I’m a little raspy, a little run down, but feeling full in all the right ways. I’m sharing a few highlights from our whirlwind trip to NYC for my daughter’s graduation—a week packed with family, food, and meaningful moments. Laryngitis or not, this one needed to be told.
🎧Podcasts
Why Friendships Matter More Than You Think-The Science of Happiness Podcast
📚 Books<...
Episode 31: Even the Sheets Smelled Like Tuscany…
Summary: In this episode, I take you along on my recent trip to Italy—a journey that was as thoughtfully planned as it was soulfully experienced. From the quiet canals of Venice to the hilltops of Cortona and the timeless streets of Rome, I share the small moments that made this trip unforgettable: the meals, the places we stayed, the people we met, and the rituals that helped me slow down and soak it all in. I also reflect on what it means to make space for joy, to hold onto purpose (even the little “p” kind), and to com...
Episode 30: Little by Little, a Little Becomes a Lot
Episode Summary:
In this episode, I share some of the tiny phrases and everyday aphorisms that have stuck with me over the years—the ones passed down by my parents, picked up from friends, and repeated by mentors, colleagues, and even my husband. These short sayings hold surprising weight, offering comfort, clarity, and sometimes just the right dose of humor when we need it most.
I also reflect on Gretchen Rubin’s new book, Secrets of Adulthood, and how her work continues to resonate with me, especially in this midlife season of r...
Episode 29: Some Candid Thoughts About Midlife, Work, and Travel
Summary:
In this episode, I share some candid reflections on midlife, inspired by comedian Bill Burr’s take on self-improvement and writer Ada Calhoun’s exploration of what it really means to “have it all” as a Gen X woman. I talk about parenting, purpose, caregiving, and how midlife comes with a mix of big feelings, strong coffee, and sometimes hot flashes.
There’s a story about my son helping my dad get back to New York, a few thoughts on the quiet after a full house, and a peek at the Italy trip I’ve...
Episode 28 Beyond the Big Pivot: Embracing Little p Purpose
Summary:
In this episode, I explore the idea of "Big P" Purpose vs. "little p" purpose, sharing stories of reinvention from The Third Act series and insights from The Happiness Lab with Jordan Grumet. I reflect on finding joy in the process, connecting with my dad, and embracing small, meaningful shifts to live with purpose at any age.
Show Notes:
Podcasts:
The Happiness Lab-How to Find your Purpose-Interview with Jordan Crumet
This is Not My A...
Episode 27: Social Self-Care: Why Making Time for Friends Matters
Summary:
In this episode, Virginia delves into the growing trend of social isolation in a hyper-connected world, exploring insights from podcasts, books, and her own experiences. She shares lessons from the Blue Zones, where strong social connections contribute to longevity, and reflects on the powerful impact of gathering with friends at her recent wine tasting event. Listeners will discover why building and nurturing relationships is essential for well-being, and how being an "igniter"—someone who brings people together—can enrich not only our own lives but also those around us.
Show Notes:<...
Episode 26: Lessons from the Blue Zones: Longevity, Purpose, and Everyday Joy
Summary
In this episode, I explore how discovering the Blue Zones led me to reflect on the positive psychology movement, leveraging character strengths, and Atomic Habits. I share insights on longevity, purpose, and how small, intentional choices can have a big impact. Plus, a fun look at how my dad and I are incorporating these lessons into our daily lives!
Show Notes:
Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zones (Netflix Trailer): Get a glimpse into communities where people live longer, healthier lives.The Happiness Lab...Episode 25: Goals, Growth, and a Little West Side Story
Summary:
In my last episode, I didn’t give Rita Moreno nearly enough credit—so I’m making it right! Her resilience and ability to adapt remind me that progress isn’t always Hollywood-level dramatic; sometimes, it’s the small, intentional shifts that matter. From tracking goals to embracing the happiness curve, I dive into what’s working, what’s not, and how I’m setting myself up for success.
Show Notes:
Films
Rita Morena: Just a Girl Who Decided to Go For it-Official Trailer
West Side St...
Episode 24 Growing Older, Growing Bolder: Reinvention, Style & The Happiness Curve
Summary
In this episode, I explore the Happiness Curve—the U-shaped trajectory of joy across our lifespan—and how we can embrace aging with purpose and style. I highlight inspiring women like Rita Moreno and Iris Apfel, whose reinventions prove that life flourishes at any age. I also reflect on my parents’ clever reinvention, how they gradually transitioned into retirement while still working, giving them the best of both worlds—purpose, financial stability, and the freedom to enjoy life. Plus, a personal connection between Iris Apfel and my mom that I never saw coming.
Lin...
Episode 23: Your Superpower Revealed: The Art of Self-Reflection
Episode Summary:
In this episode of She’s Working On It, we explore the transformative power of self-reflection as a tool for personal growth. From revisiting habits and goals to embracing grace when things don’t go as planned, this episode highlights practical ways to move forward with purpose. Tune in for insights, accountability tips, and a reminder that progress isn’t perfect—it’s a journey.
Show Notes:
Episode Highlights:How self-reflection can serve as a superpower for personal growth.Revisiting goals, embracing grace, and staying accountable to yourself.I...Episode 22: Intermittent Fasting 101 – Building Habits That Stick
Episode Summary: Ever wondered if intermittent fasting could work for you? In this episode, I share my five-year journey with this lifestyle—how I got started, the challenges I overcame, and the freedom and balance it brought to my life. Discover how small, consistent changes can transform your health, habits, and mindset. Let’s take a closer look at what makes this lifestyle work!
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Episode 21 The Power of Fresh Starts: Embracing Change, Building Habits, and Shaping Your Year
Summary: In this episode, I’m kicking off 2025 by exploring the power of fresh starts and how small changes can create meaningful progress. Inspired by behavioral science and my family’s New Year’s goals, I’ll share what we’re working on and how I’m building habits and systems to make this year count. It’s all about embracing progress, not perfection—let’s work on it together!
Resources Mentioned:
📚 Books:
How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Katy Milkman...Episode 20 Tennis: The Game That Tells His Life Story-An Interview With My Dad
Last summer in Lake Placid, my dad shared how finding an old tennis racket in his basement during high school sparked a lifelong love for tennis. From starting a grassroots college team at Niagara University to playing at Georgetown during dental school, his passion grew. He truly honed his skills in Pakistan, where he found a mentor, Al Kahn, who pushed him to excel and encouraged him to play in tournaments. He continued to play for recreation as a young man and father and throughout his life. He went on to become one of the best doubles players...
Episode 19: A Pause from the Usual
Summary: In Episode 19, join me as I explore our family’s long-awaited beach vacation and its rejuvenating effects. I’ll unpack the psychology behind our need for breaks from routine and how these pauses can reset our mental and emotional dials. Plus, I’ll share my current reads, favorite shows, and podcast picks that are adding flavor to this time off.
Current Favorites:
Book Recommendations:"My Own Magic" by Anna Kloots – A compelling memoir that captures the essence of self-discovery and personal magic. Read more here."Atomi...Episode 18: Timelines, Watercolor Therapy, Italian Dreams, and HBO Gems
In Episode 18, I take a closer look at my ongoing challenge with time management, sharing new strategies and reflections on progress. I explore the joy of watercolor painting, discuss my upcoming trip to Italy, and share how I’m balancing work and recreation. Plus, I recommend the insightful podcast Death, Sex & Money and the heartwarming HBO series Somebody Somewhere.
Show Notes:
Purchase on AmazonPodcast Recommendation: Death, Sex & Money
Listen He...
Episode 17: Running Late, Running Slow-Slow is Sexy, but Late is Not
Episode Summary:
In Episode 17, Virginia reflects on her journey to overcome chronic lateness, sharing her progress and insights from a week of intentional time management. She also dives into her running journey, inspired by NPR’s Life Kit episode, “It’s OK to Run Slow AF,” exploring how running can be a source of peace, clarity, and growth—at any pace.
Show notes:
Podcast Recommendation:
Check out NPR’s Life Kit episode, “It’s OK to Run...
Episode 16: My Plan for Mastering Punctuality + A Conversation with My Daughter Alie
In this episode, I share my journey to improve time management and overcome chronic lateness, exploring practical tips and insights from books, articles, and podcasts. Then, I’m joined by my daughter Alie for a candid conversation about her busy college life in NYC, balancing studies, internships, part-time work, and her plans for the future. I hope you enjoy it!
Show Notes
Time Management and Punctuality Resources
Here are the articles, podcasts, and resources mentioned in this episode to help improve time management and punctuality:
Ti...
Episode 15: Why Intentions (and Dinner Parties) Matter More Than You Think
In this reflective episode, Virginia shares her love for intentional living, from setting affirmations inspired by Alicia Keys to planning meaningful dinner parties. She discusses reframing mindsets, personal growth, and her husband’s transformative experience on a student trip. She ends with Thanksgiving plans, emphasizing how small intentional practices—whether savoring good food or singing your heart out—can bring joy and purpose to daily life.
🎧 Links Mentioned:
SmartLess Podcast interview with Alicia KeysOn Purpose Podcast Jay Shetty & Alicia KeysEpisode 14 From Wrap Dresses to F-Bombs: A Celebration of Women
This episode celebrates strong women—iconic figures like Sally Field, Diane von Fürstenberg and Vera Wang, as well as the incredible women in our own lives. It highlights female resilience, style, and confidence, embracing the beauty of aging and self-expression. It’s a tribute to the strength and stories of women.
Links & Resources:
Episode 14 From Wrap Dresses to F-Bombs: A Celebration of Women
This episode celebrates strong women—iconic figures like Sally Field, Diane von Fürstenberg and Vera Wang, as well as the incredible women in our own lives. It highlights female resilience, style, and confidence, embracing the beauty of aging and self-expression. It’s a tribute to the strength and stories of women.
Links & Resources:
Episode 13: A Design Deep Dive with Apartment Therapy
In Episode 13, Virginia apologizes for last week's audio mishap and shares a humbling lesson on letting go of perfection. Then, it's all about design! She delves into Apartment Therapy—a fantastic resource for anyone wanting to create unique, inspiring spaces. From its humble origins to its modern, diverse offerings, Virginia walks listeners through the platform, shares her favorite sections, and talks about her latest home updates. Plus, she wraps up with must-listen podcast recommendations that promise inspiration and a fresh perspective!
Here are the links to the resources mentioned in Episode 13:
Ap...Episode 12: Reflection, Happiness Bursts, and My Latest Podcast Finds
Today, I want to start by checking in on some of my goals and intentions to keep myself accountable. When I feel myself slipping, it really helps to come back here on the podcast and share it out loud with all of you – it's one of the best ways I know to stay on track. I also want to take a moment to talk about a few things that brought me genuine happiness this week and to practice a bit of 'reward sensitivity' by savoring those memories and truly appreciating the positive emotions they bring. Finally, I’ll wrap...
Episode 11 Pivoting with Purpose: A Mother-Son Interview
In episode 11 of She’s Working On It, I’m thrilled to share my first-ever interview! Before diving in, I highlight an inspiring SmartLess interview with Tim Walz and recommend Space with Case, a podcast by Casey O'Connell, a former teacher turned digital nomad and UX designer, whose journey to redefine her life and career has been incredibly motivating.
Today’s guest is my son, Isaac, who’s also making a major pivot—from teaching and non-profits to fashion and museum curation. He shares...
Episode 10: Bucket Lists, Life Shifts, and the Art of Eclectic Living
In episode 10, I celebrate the journey so far, reflecting on serendipitous discoveries—like my daughter’s 2015 bucket list—and how they remind us that life’s best moments are often unplanned. I dive into design, sharing how mixing and matching can create a collected look. Plus, a sneak peek into next week: career pivots, podcast recommendations, and my first-ever interview with my son, Isaac!
Links mentioned in the episode:
Your Home Tells the Story of Who You AreRookie Mistake: Matching FurnitureHow to Avoid a Matchy-Matchy Interior...Episode 10: Bucket Lists, Life Shifts, and the Art of Eclectic Living
Episode 10: Bucket Lists, Life Shifts, and the Art of Eclectic Living
In episode 10, I celebrate the journey so far, reflecting on serendipitous discoveries—like my daughter’s 2015 bucket list—and how they remind us that life’s best moments are often unplanned. I dive into design, sharing how mixing and matching can create a collected look. Plus, a sneak peek into next week: career pivots, podcast recommendations, and my first-ever interview with my son, Isaac!
Links mentioned in the episode:
Your Home Tells the Story of Who You AreRookie M...Episode 9 Designing Calm: Inner Peace Meets Outer Order
Episode 9 Designing Calm: Inner Peace Meets Outer Order
Episode Summary
In this episode, I open up about my mental health journey, sharing how daily rituals and intentional habits helped me navigate challenges. I recommend the Science of Happiness podcast’s episode on cyclical sighing, a breathing technique to reduce stress. Finally, I explore how rearranging furniture and thoughtful space planning can bring fresh energy and balance to any room.
Key Topics:
Mental health journey: managing depression, OCD, and stressThe Science of Happiness Podcast: Cy...Episode 8 Framing Memories: From Family Stories to Gallery Walls
Episode 8 Framing Memories: From Family Stories to Gallery Wall
In this episode, Virginia shares heartfelt anecdotes about her dad and her husband's grandparents, weaving together themes of memory, storytelling, and design. She explores how gallery walls create visual stories in the home, offering tips and inspiration for creating your own. Virginia also recommends the Design Curious podcast and checks in on her October goals.
**Show Notes**
Baseball Legend Pete Rose Dies At 83
Dikembe Mutombo, a Hall of Fame player and tireless advocate, dies...
Episode 7 Rest, Rugs, and Resets: A Journey Through Sleep and Home Décor (PART 2)
In this episode, I reflect on how a good night’s sleep turned everything around—especially my mood and takeaways from an educator's conference, where, sleep-deprived, I jokingly didn’t find 'purpose' in a workshop on purpose. I also dive into my love for home décor, sharing tips on using low-maintenance plants and area rugs to transform any space with ease and style.
Low-Maintenance Indoor Plants:
Learn about beginner-friendly plants like the ZZ plant, snake plant, pothos, and philodendron, which are perfect for low-light spaces and require minimal care.
Read more here
Episode 6 - Solo in the City: Authenticity, Podcasts, and October Goals
In this episode, Virginia takes us along to Mexico City, where she attended an educators' conference solo. She reflects on the value of stepping outside your comfort zone and shares how this experience influenced the evolving direction of the podcast. Tune in as Virginia discusses the art of content creation, increasing podcast listenership, and, most importantly, the power of authenticity in any creative endeavor.
Virginia also sets her October goals, focusing on improving sleep hygiene and embracing healthier eating habits. Whether you’re a content creator, educator, or simply working on self-improvement, this episode is...
Episode 5: Elevate Your Space with 3 Creative Design Solutions - PART 1
Episode 5: Elevate Your Space with 3 Creative Design Solutions - PART 1
Hey there, home enthusiasts! 🌿✨ Ready to transform your living space into a stylish sanctuary without breaking the bank? In this episode of "She’s Working on It!", host **Virginia Markman** dives deep into her passion for design and home décor. She's sharing three creative design solutions that will breathe new life into your home: incorporating lush plants, playing with mirrors, and mastering the art of layered lighting.
Inspired by design mavens like Alexandra Gater—who makes design accessible for everyone o...
Episode 4 Boost Your Well-Being: Goal Setting, Less Screen Time, Podcast Listening, Productivity Apps + My Mexican Adventure!
In this episode, I check in on the powerful impact of setting small, daily intentions. I delve into how these intentions create predictability in my schedule, significantly reduce my anxiety, and enhance my overall well-being—all while helping me steer clear of mindless scrolling on my phone. I also revisit my reward sensitivity strategies, exploring the vital process of reminding ourselves to savor positive emotions, which enriches our day-to-day experiences. Plus, I'll share another one of my favorite podcasts and recount the personal journey that led me to build a life, career, and family in Mexico.
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Episode 3: Work Updates, Top Podcasts, and Life Hacks
In this episode, I will talk about my bustling week—navigating new challenges at work, and embracing the change with a smile. I'll also share my top podcast recommendations that fuel my creativity and discuss how tiny tweaks in daily routines can lead to significant joy boosts. Join me for a mix of light-hearted banter and earnest advice, perfect for anyone riding the rollercoaster of life or seeking a dash of motivation. Please Tune in!
LINKS
Podcast She Pivots Emily Tisch Sussman
Article nytimes.com How to Strengthen Yo...
Episode 2: Adjusting to Change and Staying Grounded with Small Steps for Big Impact
In this episode of “She’s Working on It!”, I’m sharing my journey as I adapt to a new role at work. I talk about the challenges I’m facing and how this new role is a big shift from my previous fast-paced job. I also dive into how I’m focusing on personal growth by setting small weekly intentions and bigger more long-range goals to stay grounded and create a better work-life flow. I’ll share some of my favorite podcasts, including a fascinating discussion about habituation, and how this concept is helping me find joy in everyday ro...
Episode 1 Navigating Change and Finding Happiness
In this first episode, I'll share my journey from working in education to launching this podcast, including the challenges and growth I've experienced along the way. You'll hear about my professional background, personal experiences during the pandemic, and the inspiration behind this podcast. Expect to gain insights into embracing change, the importance of mental health, and the power of being intentional about personal growth and happiness.
Show notes Episode 1 of She’s Working on it!
Navigating Change and Finding Happiness
LINKS
Podcast Happier with Gr...
