Ask Dr. Betters

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I know I need to be in the Word and praying, but I am in such a dark place, filled with sadness. How do I find hope?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique vide...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "If I can't change my past, why is talking about it to a counselor helpful?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Betters and his guests provide clear, biblical answers to l...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am battling a challenging teenager in my home. How does a parent respond to teenage questions that seem to push the envelope, are bold and sometimes scary? How do you know if it is really a cry for help, a means to get attention, or true?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How can I balance grieving and living a fulfilling life?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, through the grid of his own faith struggles, including the tragic death of his sixteen-year-old son Mark, has helped myriads of other fellow strugglers in over 5 decades of ministry and rests in the hope that God is sovereign and He can be trusted. 

In a world filled with broken people and hopelessness, Ask Dr. Betters is a unique video forum, for Dr. Betters and guests to cut through any confusion and offer sound biblical a...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am 32 years old. I’ve been with my husband for 15 years. This year, 2021, my husband unexpectedly passed away, on Valentine’s Day of all days, at 49 years old. We have three children ages 3, 4, and 11. We have already been through so much in our lifetime (financially, mentally, and emotionally) and God took my husband from us, for what?  What kind of God would want to see me and my children suffer? I don’t understand it, and I need answers. It’s not OK for God to leave me in this lifetime...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "People quickly recognize the pain and sin of physical abuse, but what about emotional abuse? I know that everyone is sinful and the tongue can be a weapon, but how far is too far? My husband doesn’t curse me out (so to speak) but yet his words hurt; they break my heart; he is controlling and manipulative, yet when I try to talk about anything he just insists it’s all my fault and that I am the problem. I’ve heard you tell people they need to search themselves and lo...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the following question from Rhonda: "I have heard many people espouse Paul’s teachings about singleness and marriage. I am a single woman who has never married. I am not single by my own choice, but I do have a desire to be married. In serving in ministry, I have found that most churches tend to shun single women in ministry, especially single women who are called into children’s ministry. The trend is to have a husband-and-wife team, believing it is a good balance and representation of godly relationships. Can you explain what...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer tremendously from anxiety and fear of my children dying. I pray about it constantly, but still I fear that God will take them anyway. It is a constant torment that is crippling my life. How can I give up my anxiety to God and trust him with my darkest fears?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the beli...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My child was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease at the age of 5 years old that she will struggle with for the rest of her life. I’m afraid it is going to define her life, and it breaks my heart that she will suffer from this her whole life. The doctors explained it may very well have been caused by me being a carrier of that gene. I had no idea and now, when I look at her in pain, I can’t help but feel like it is all my f...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Dr., I have a question. It hurts me when I see kids in pain and suffering – little babies/kids born with deadly diseases who suffer for 3 to 5 yrs before they die. Why? Kids that are tortured and shot…What about "psychopaths" that abuse and kill innocent kids? Why does God allow this to happen? These kids are angels…they haven't sinned. So why are they being punished? Thank you, Dr."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted c...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Thank you for your informative videos. I became a Christian at age 40. Now I'm 51. I have an autistic teenage son with violent tendencies. Every time he beats us up or hurts himself, I lose more love and respect for the faith I thought I had. Today I hate God like I've never hated anyone or anything. 15 years of beatings and suffering has taken its toll on my faith and love for God. I need a string to hang on to or I will perish; lately, I blaspheme God as if he...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Can I drink alcohol as a Christian? Or, what about drinking only wine, but not getting drunk?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Betters and his guests provide clear, bibl...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm 42. I smoke pot cigs and take a pain pill one time a day. I fully believe and read the Bible daily. Am I going to hell? I was baptized at 14 but didn't know what it meant."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My Dad was an alcoholic and I was told that it’s genetic; therefore, that’s why I struggle with substance abuse. Do you agree with that?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video fo...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi, my name is John. I'm from Ireland and I follow Ask Dr Betters on YouTube. I'm almost two and a half years in recovery from alcohol addiction, thank God in Jesus’ name! What do you think of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)? My experience in AA has been with a mixed bag of people with mixed beliefs. I like the program, but I don't like how they say anything can be your 'higher power'."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My niece recently came out and told the family that she is transgender. I’m not even sure I fully understand what that means. Now, apparently, she has a girlfriend. I have been a Christian my whole life and this just goes against everything I believe. We are getting ready for a family gathering at my house and she wants to know if she can bring her girlfriend. How do I handle this? Is allowing the girlfriend to come being loving or condoning their behavior?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing fr...

In this episode, Dr. Chuck Betters answers the question, "Should I attend my homosexual child's wedding ceremony?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Betters and his guests provide clear, biblical answers to life’s pressing questions about suffer...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “All my life I’ve been attracted to the same sex, going back to early childhood (elementary school age). I’ve heard we’re born straight, gay, or bi. I’ve heard as a Christian that it’s a sin. I believe it is. I have never acted upon with it another man, only in thought and through fleshly pleasures. I am saved and baptized. I believe in God, in Christ. I’ve accepted Him as my creator and Savior and Lord. But I’m torn between why I’m gay and why He has nev...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do you avoid sexual sin when you are single and unmarried? You know what the Scripture says about it. But you know also that the other person is only interested in one thing. It will lead to the consummation of the relationship before marriage, and results from a low standard, one would assume or say."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He find...

In this episode, Dr. Betters, in response to "Will I Know My Abuser in Heaven?", answers the question, "I feel that abusers get away with their actions both on Earth and in Heaven. As a Christian, I know I need to forgive my abuser, but where is the justice for those of us left scarred by the abuse? I believe not all sins are equal. Christians should speak up and report abuse—spiritual forgiveness doesn’t eliminate legal consequences."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assi...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am getting married in a month, and I just found out my fiancée was sexually abused as a child. Knowing this, how should I prepare for my wedding night and our first year of marriage?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hello, I am a college-age female, and I feel that God has left me. I feel like I always tried to follow his path even when none of my family went to church. I felt all my life that God was telling me to go one direction in ministry and then, when it was time to apply for schools and I told people, they told me that was not my calling. I feel like I don't have direction anymore and no one cares about me. I feel like God has put...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My only question is this, and no one has been able to answer it so far. If God knew there would be murderers and people tortured and blown up and raped, etc., why would he create this world even if it’s only temporary? I can’t believe that God would allow that kind of suffering to exist, knowing beforehand it would. You may say it’s free will and we chose it. That well may be true, but he’s omniscient and knew that murderers and torture would exist. Why would yo...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "What if the pain of life has become too hard to bear? What if there have been too many substantial losses to handle life? Will we simply die with broken hearts in the end? God hears us and tells us so in scripture, so why can't we seem to be comforted?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How are we to rejoice in sorrow?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Betters and his guests provide clear, biblical answers to life’s pressing questions about suffering and living...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My friend's dad just died. When I am around my friend, I don't know what to say to her. What do you say to a grieving person?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique vide...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses when he lost 7 sons and 3 daughters? I understand he had 10 more children, but how could that possibly be seen as a restoration?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Due to various health issues, I have not been able to attend church for the past several months, is that sinful?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Betters and his...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer from Chronic Fatigue and I am exhausted all of the time. I’m only in my 40’s but I feel like I am wasting my life. I spend most of my time resting and the few things I am able to do during the day I spend most of that time thinking about how soon I can go back to bed. It makes me so sad. How can I still make my life meaningful instead of just a waste?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith stru...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “Does it really matter to pray if we or a loved one is sick? In that God doesn't change his mind. Our lives are already set...does praying to be well actually do any good?”

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and desp...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "The Bible says that 'God works all things together for the good of those who love him (Rom 8:28)'. How is God using my physical pain for good? What good can come from terrible pain that probably will have no end?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Within the first weeks of marriage, I knew my husband was abusive. I’ve lived with the abuse for years and I’ve hidden it because I don’t want people to think badly of him – especially his boss. He is very charming in his work and socially. I try not to trigger him, but I’m exhausted and afraid. I was taught God hates divorce. So I feel like that is not an option, but is this what God wants for me?"

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In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I was homeschooled and involved in the local church, considered a good kid. During the pandemic, I was isolated and lonely and I discovered a whole other world of beliefs. I question everything about God. Our world is so messed up, so many terrible things happen, including friends who have died from drugs and one who even committed suicide. You say God is sovereign and I can trust Him. But how can I trust a God who doesn’t stop pain? Sometimes I wonder if there is even a God."

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up as a church kid, my parents were leaders in the church. The church was like a second family. But as an adult I am seeing how mean church people are – how they use people – and think nothing of betraying people like my parents. I can’t stand going to church and I have such anger and bitterness. I don’t want to be like this but I can’t let go of the hurt. Help."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am terrified. I am not a Christian. I asked Jesus into my heart when I was a child, and I went to church with my family whenever the doors were open. But now that I’m an adult, I see how sinful I am, and when I ask God to forgive me, I don’t feel anything. I can’t ask anyone for help because they think I’m a wonderful Christian woman. How can I know for sure I’m a Christian?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own fa...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I asked Jesus into my heart when I was a child. I am in my twenties and nothing about the Christian faith is attractive to me – I question whether there is even a God. Am I going to hell?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi Dr. Betters, can you explain 1 Samuel 15, where God says to kill all the Amalekites and kill babies, animals, etc.? It's hard to get my head around it. Many thanks."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi Dr. Betters. Would you please speak some on how Satan can be so influential everywhere at once, yet he is only a fallen angel, not a god? I've struggled with this because only Jesus is omnipresent. Thank you, and God bless."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

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In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do I deal with so many people using God’s name in vain? It seems so many people use the Lord’s name in vain. I’ve noticed many of them wear crosses in their jewelry. Should I always ask them to please not do that?"

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "When we’re in heaven, will we be able to feel emotion or just always be happy? Emotions are what make us human."

Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted.

In a world filled with brokenness and despair, "Ask Dr. Betters" is a unique video forum where Dr. Better...