Diary of a Matchmaker
Getting married is tough for the vast majority of Muslims in the West. We know because we’ve been there. My (Zaid) journey spanned nearly nine years. It was filled with rejections and self-doubt. While I (Hiba) didn't know there was a journey to be on in the first place. After we got married we decided to create something different to help single Muslims complete their deen. And so our matchmaking service Halal Match was born. After a few years of interviewing singles, a friend suggested we journal our stories. We tweaked that idea and turned it into a podcast. In...
Masculinity in Crisis: Between Toxic and Weak w/ Dr. Omar Husain
Masculinity is either glorified or vilified, and single Muslims often pay the price. Women get told to avoid “dominant” men, while men are told to tone themselves down to avoid being toxic. The result? Confusion, frustration, and marriages built on false expectations.
In this conversation with Dr. Omar Husain, we confront the uncomfortable truths about masculinity in Islam. Men are challenged to stop outsourcing their growth and step into real responsibility. Women are pushed to look beyond smooth talk and test whether a man’s character is already rooted in faith.
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The Talking Stage: How Long Is Too Long?
How long should the talking stage really last? For many Muslims, what starts as a way to assess compatibility drags on for months or even years with no real progress. In this episode we dive into the question every single faces: when does talking cross the line from intentional to wasted time? We explore why so many get stuck, the signs it has gone on too long, and how to know when it’s time to move forward or move on. If you’ve ever felt trapped in endless conversations with no clarity, this episode is your wake-up call.
Awkward Talks: Childbirth Before Marriage w/ Hebaa Rizeq
Childbirth talk when you’re single? Awkward. “Not for public discussion”? Maybe. “Only for women”? Definitely what most people think. But here’s the truth: understanding this journey before marriage could transform your future relationship. In this episode, we chat with certified doula Hebaa Rizeq about why pregnancy prep isn’t just a “married women’s issue.” From faith-meets-science insights to the overlooked role of men in birth, this conversation breaks taboos in the best way. If you’re single, curious, and maybe a little skeptical, this one’s for you.
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How Our Naivety Almost Killed Our Business
This is the story of how our big idea for Muslim matchmaking nearly backfired. We set out to create the ultimate premium experience, convinced that generosity and effort would guarantee results. Instead, we discovered that the real obstacle wasn’t bad matches but unready hearts. What looked like dream opportunities often ended with hesitation, doubt, or a belief that something better might come along. In this episode, we share the mistakes that nearly sank us, the turning point that reshaped our approach, and the surprising truths about why readiness matters more than perfection. If you’ve ever wondered why good...
The One Thing You Need Before Marriage Fights
Think conflict management is only for married couples? Wrong. If you’re single and hoping for a healthy marriage, now is the time to learn it. In this episode, psychotherapist Kamela Salimi shares why conflict is the top issue she sees in couples therapy and how singles can prepare before saying “I do.” We unpack Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen” and their antidotes, explore how Islam offers built-in tools for emotional regulation long before therapy named them, and reveal why "freedom from the self" is key to lasting love. So say bismillah and hit Download.
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Where To Meet Single Muslims Beyond The Algorithm?
If finding a spouse feels like shouting into the void, it might be a visibility problem, not a you problem. Today we unpack what it really means to be visible as a single Muslim. From offline spaces you might be overlooking to subtle shifts in your digital presence, we share practical ways to rethink where and how you show up. It's not about being everywhere, it's about being in the right places and being intentional. Whether you're feeling stuck or just getting started, this episode helps you build a smarter visibility strategy that reflects who you are and gets...
Marrying in 2025: Here's What We'd Do Differently
If we were getting married in 2025, we’d do things very differently. After four years as professional matchmakers and a whole lot of hindsight we’ve got some honest reflections (and a few regrets) to share.
This episode dives into the blind spots we didn’t see coming, the mindset shifts we wish we had earlier, and the biggest lessons we now pass on to our clients.
Whether you're single, searching, or simply curious, this one’s for you. We’re saying all the things we wish someone had told us before we got married.
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Five Signs You're Not Ready For Marriage
Most of us think readiness means having a stable job, moving out of our parents’ home, or feeling financially secure. And while those things matter, they only scratch the surface. What if the deeper signs you are not ready are less obvious, but quietly showing up in how you think, react, and relate?
After years of matchmaking and nearly six years of marriage ourselves, we have seen subtle patterns that reveal more than any checklist. In this episode, we share five overlooked signs of unpreparedness that could be holding you back. This one might challenge you, but in...
Nine Green Flags You’re Probably Ignoring
Most single people are laser-focused on spotting red flags, but what if that mindset is holding you back? In this episode we flip the script and talk about green flags that often go unnoticed but are key to a successful marriage. From apologizing without a "but" to the ability to disagree without drama, we share nine underrated traits that matter way more than height or income. If you are tired of matching and mismatching for all the wrong reasons, this one is for you. It might just change how you see the search for love.
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Why Disability Is a Dealbreaker for Most People? w/ Rabia Khedr
What happens when love meets real honesty, deep faith, and a few assumptions that need challenging? In this episode, we speak with Rabia Khedr, a blind Muslim woman, community leader, and mother of four, whose story flips the narrative on what it means to marry with a disability. From confident conversations with her future husband to surprising acceptance from her in-laws, Rabia's journey breaks barriers and stereotypes. This episode asks you to listen a little closer, not just for inspiration, but for the assumptions you didn't know you had.
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Can a Strong Independent Woman Be a Wife? w/ Hafsa Taher
She’s got the career, the home, the passport stamps.. so does she really need a husband? Today we sit down with Hafsa Taher, a life coach for high-achieving women to talk about what happens when Miss Independent starts considering marriage. We unpack why checklists might be ruining your love life, how success can clash with surrender, and what healthy partnership really looks like. And brothers, if a woman’s success intimidates you, this one might just shift how you see strength, love, and leading together.
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Unfiltered Reflections From Our Living Room
This episode isn’t polished. It’s not prepped. It’s just raw. We hit record and asked each other honest questions about our marriage, no script, no filters. What unfolded was a vulnerable, improvised conversation about love, fears, cultural differences, and everything in between. If you’re single and wondering what actually matters in a marriage, beyond the lists and bios, this is for you. Real talk, real lessons, and maybe a few surprises that’ll shift how you think about compatibility and connection.
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Considering Marrying a Convert? Listen First w/ Aiah Neamatallah
This week, psychotherapist Aiah Neamatallah joins us to talk about what many converts face after the shahada, especially when it comes to marriage, from feeling caught between two worlds to navigating power dynamics in relationships. We dig into what converts should know before getting married, what born Muslims and their parents often overlook, and how communities can do better. Whether you're a convert, marrying one, or just curious, this episode is packed with honesty, empathy, and practical takeaways.
To connect with Aiah and other amazing counselors go to: https://muslimcounselling.ca/
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Financial Habits Every Single Should Know w/ Jesse Reitberger
Money talks before marriage don’t have to be cringey, they’re actually a must. We brought in Jesse Reitberger, an Islamic finance expert and founder of Canadian Islamic Wealth, to break down why it’s not about the salary number, but how that money’s made. Spoiler: halal income beats a fat paycheck every time.
Jesse drops gems like the $10K question, halal mortgage hacks, and why men need to own their provider role while recognizing the reality of dual incomes today. Plus, his top tip? Start saving now, even $25 a month can seriously change the game. Wh...
The Productivity Shift Every Single Needs w/ Mohammed Faris
🚨 Heads up: If you only listen to one episode of this podcast, make it this one. We’re obsessed.
What if preparing for marriage wasn’t about ticking more boxes, but about aligning your effort with purpose, intention, and barakah? We sat down with Muhammed Faris, founder of Productive Muslim, and the conversation honestly blew us away. He unpacks what productivity actually means for single Muslims, and it’s not what you think.
We talk about shifting from hustle to heart. From scarcity to trust. From doing more to doing it better, with Allah in...
Forget Small Talk: Try This Instead!
Let’s be honest, courting can feel like a weird mix of awkward silences and overly intense “So, where do you see yourself in five years?” vibes. Today, we're sharing a better way: playful, thought-provoking activities designed to spark real connection without killing the vibe.
These aren’t your typical icebreakers. One minute you’re ranking your top values, the next you’re arguing (respectfully!) over whether a $3,000 mattress is worth the splurge. And in the process, you’re learning how someone thinks, what they prioritize, and how they deal with pressure or disagreement.
The best part? You...
Ghosting: The Breakup You Never Saw Coming
Ghosting sucks, especially when you’re serious about marriage. You start overthinking: Did I say something wrong? Is it my looks? But usually, it’s not about you. In this episode we get real about ghosting, from both sides. Zaid admits he once micro-ghosted because he couldn’t be honest, while Hiba shares the pain of being left hanging. We break down why ghosting happens so much in Muslim courting, why silence feels “easier,” and what Islam says about honest communication.
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Istikhara Myths That Need To Go
You made istikhara... now you're just confused, dreamless, and wondering what’s next. Sound familiar? If you're in the marriage search scene, you've probably bumped into the mysterious world of istikhara, or worse, been "istikhara’d" (aka ghosted with a religious excuse).
Today we’re breaking down what istikhara is really about: seeking goodness from Allah, not outsourcing your decisions. We’re busting myths and sharing real stories from our matchmaking experiences where istikhara was misused as an emotional escape hatch.
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Can a Father’s Wilayah Be Taken Away?
What do you do when your dad turns into a one-man dating app filter… and swipes left on everyone? In this episode we’re talking about something major: when your father’s wilayah (guardianship) can actually be removed. Yep, it’s a thing, and it’s not taken lightly.
We’re diving into real stories, like the woman who aged out of her prime while her parents waited for Mr. Perfect Ethnic Match, and another whose mom basically ran the rejection department. We break down what wilayah is really supposed to be, how it's misused, and what to do if you...
Misyar Marriage: A Loophole or a Lifeline?
Misyar marriage—halal but hotly debated. In this episode, we break down what it actually is, why some people turn to it, and why scholars aren’t exactly cheering it on. Think: waived rights, complicated intentions, and a whole lot of ethical gray area. We cover everything from divorced moms looking for companionship to men using it as a loophole—and why that’s a problem. With shifting gender roles and evolving needs, Misyar is becoming more common, but is it the right move? We get into the real talk: when it works, when it hurts, and what to know bef...
Married My Professor: A Love Story From Jordan
What happens when a student catches feelings... for her professor? And what if he feels the same but can't say a word until the semester ends? This isn't your average love story. It’s a journey shaped by quiet moments, bold choices, and some family drama that challenged what they thought love would look like. Now 25 years in, they're sharing how it all started and what kept them going.
This episode is for every Muslim single who still believes in love. Don’t miss it.
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Polygamy: Is It Worth The Drama?
"I wish she gave me more attention.. Why do I have to beg for intimacy?.. Maybe I should consider a second wife!" Today we're unpacking a trend we’re seeing more often: men considering polygamy, and women actually open to it. While polygamy is part of our faith, it’s not a free pass for avoiding deeper issues in a marriage.
We also talk about the practical side: the legal messiness of polygamy in the West (it’s actually criminal in Canada), the emotional toll on everyone involved, and why it’s not always the solution people think it...
How to Attract the Right Partner? w/ Lama Aboubakr
In this episode, we’re diving into the world of halal courting with the incredible Lama Aboubakr, a relationship coach who specializes in helping Muslims attract the right person they truly deserve. Let’s face it—sometimes, past experiences and old patterns can hold us back from finding the fulfilling relationship we long for. But Lama’s here to show us how to break free from those cycles and shift our mindset.
Lama shares powerful insights on building self-awareness, understanding attachment styles, and improving communication—all crucial steps in attracting the right partner. Her approach helps you work on yo...
Hulu's "Muslim Matchmaker": How Islamic Is It?
"Muslim Matchmaker" is making waves, and we’re diving deep into it. In this episode, we break down whether the show hits or misses when it comes to Islamic courtship. Does it reflect our values, or are there some glaring mismatches? We chat about the show's ideas and how it stacks up against other matchmaking shows. Does the flashy aesthetic add anything meaningful, or is it just for the 'gram?
Our conversation goes beyond just the drama. It’s about the principles that should drive real connections, grounded in faith. We want to spark some reflection and crit...
Marriage After Divorce: How To Avoid Past Mistakes w/ Sarah Sultan
Starting over after a breakup or divorce? We know it’s not easy, but you’re not alone. In this episode, we sit down with therapist Sarah Sultan to talk about what it really takes to heal, grow, and move forward with confidence.
We discuss how to recognize red flags you might have missed the first time around and how to rebuild your self-worth so you’re not carrying past baggage into something new. We also cover the importance of finding clarity on what you need in a spouse, and why you should focus on becomi...
Muslim Dating Apps: What No One Tells You
If you’ve ever downloaded a Muslim 'dating' app full of hope, only to find yourself drowning in awkward chats, ghosting, and people who don’t seem to know why they’re there… we get it. It’s exhausting.
In this episode, we’re talking about the real struggles of apps; the disappointments, the confusion, and the moments that make you want to delete them forever. We’re also sharing tips on how to navigate them in a way that actually moves you forward. Because if you’re going to put yourself out there, you deserve to do it in a way t...
Is Social Media Ruining Our Marriage Expectations?
Today we're spilling the tea on how social media is turning our brains into mush when it comes to marriage expectations. From scrolling through picture-perfect weddings to comparing our own love lives to influencer highlight reels. We’ve all been there, feeling FOMO because your friend’s husband just bought her a Ferrari, while you’re getting excited about a new couch. Whether you’re married or still in the "single and scrolling" phase, we get into how social media makes us rush into things or feel like our lives just aren’t up to par. So, if you’ve ever wond...
Money Talk: I Earn, He Pays
In this episode, we’re diving into the classic “I have a career, but I’m not paying for anything” dilemma. You know, the one where women are out here making bank, but somehow, it’s still all on the man to cover the bills. We’re keeping it real and exploring the balance (or lack thereof) between having a career and contributing to the household financially. We’re not here to judge. Just a little honest chat with a side of humor to keep things light.
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Shaking Up Muslim Views on Sex and Pleasure w/ Sh. Habeeb Akande
In this episode, we’re joined by Habeeb Akande, a sex educator and Muslim erotologist, to challenge outdated views on intimacy in Islam. He’s here to remind us of the true Islamic teachings on relationships. Think consent, mutual respect, and yes, female pleasure, and how cultural norms and misinformation have twisted our understanding of intimacy.
We also dive into how to read religious teachings the right way, without getting stuck in outdated, stuffy views. Plus, we tackle real-life topics like STIs and porn addiction. Tune in for a fresh take on sex and pleasure.
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Marriage Leadership: What Men Get Wrong
What does it mean to lead in a marriage? For men, it’s not about being bossy; it’s about responsibility, humility, and knowing when to step up. For women, it’s about recognizing those qualities before you commit.
In this episode, we explore the Prophet's leadership in his family and how it sets the gold standard for modern Muslim marriages. We’ll talk about what real leadership looks like, beyond the big speeches and fancy words, and how it’s built on trust, communication, and action.
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Marriage Material: Do You Make the Cut?
In this episode, we dive into the awkward, and sometimes painful journey of figuring that out. From emotional maturity to basic life skills (yes, knowing how to cook counts), we’re keeping it real and relatable. Spoiler: If you think ‘romantic’ means sending memes at 2 a.m., you might want to tune in. We’re sharing stories, tips, and a few laughs to help you level up for the marriage game. Let’s find out if you’re ready to say ‘I do’—or if you need a little more practice folding laundry first!
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Is Your Past Stealing Your Future Marriage? w/ Hana Alasry
In this episode, we dive into the impact of trauma on single Muslims, especially how past experiences shape relationships. A trauma-informed coach joins us; Hana Alasry who shares insights on the importance of hope in healing and how the Prophet (PBUH) navigated immense personal loss with resilience, trusting in Allah’s Qadr. We also discuss how small triggers can lead to emotional breakdowns and the need to reach out for help, even with the cultural stigma around it. This conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is not only possible but essential, and with faith, even the deepest wounds ca...
Qadr vs. Cupid: Who's Really in Charge?
In this episode, we dive into the concept of soulmates; are they just a rom-com myth, or is there something deeper? We explore the idea from an Islamic perspective, discuss the role of qadr (divine decree), and unpack why "waiting for Mr./Mrs. Perfect" might be holding you back. Spoiler alert: marriage isn't the end of the story. Join us for a fun, insightful chat that might just change the way you see "happily ever after."
Brought to you by your favorite matchmakers; Hiba and Zaid with opinions on everything, including Robert Downey Jr.’s early movies.
...Lessons From The Only Proposal In The Quran
In this episode, we dive into the Quran’s only detailed proposal story—Prophet Musa (AS) and his journey from being a refugee to finding a wife. It’s a story filled with timeless lessons about character, divine timing, and how a simple act of kindness (like watering sheep!) can change your life. We loved reflecting on how this story connects to what we see in matchmaking today. Whether you’re single, married, or just curious, we break it all down with warmth and a light touch. After all, who doesn’t love a story that feels both ancient and surpri...
When Muslims Shame Muslims: The Real Barrier to Marriage
This week we confront the notorious Haram Police! 🚔 From awkward aunties and clapping controversies to MSAs that outdo Islamic rulings themselves, we share our personal run-ins with this self-appointed moral authority. 🎻 Spoiler: classical music, theater, and even holding hands while married aren’t safe from judgment. We discuss how culture complicates the marriage process and why Islam’s simplicity often gets lost in translation. So, ever been “ticketed” by the Haram Police? Drop your stories in the comments. No fines, we promise!
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Behind the Scenes: How We Turn Profiles Into Matches
In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of our matchmaking process, revealing the immense effort and dedication we pour into finding meaningful, compatible matches for single Muslims. From in-depth discovery calls and personalized assessments to carefully planned double dates, we share how our hands-on, halal approach goes above and beyond to help our clients on their journey to marriage.
Ready to take that first step? Visit our website to learn more: https://halalmatch.ca/
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Emotional Intelligence Decoded w/ Imam Navaid Aziz
Unlock the secrets of forming successful relationships as we bring you an exciting conversation with the esteemed Imam Navaid Aziz. Together, we explore the intricate dynamics of emotional intelligence in relationship matching.
This episode promises to provide valuable insights into recognizing emotional intelligence in a potential spouse, a key determinant in nurturing loving connections.
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Status Over Substance: The Dark Side of Biodatas
What if a simple piece of paper could dictate the course of your life's most personal decision? Today we unravel the world of Biodatas, questioning whether this 'marriage resume' truly captures the essence of a person or merely reflects outdated societal norms. From personal stories of arranged marriage proposals to the cultural expectations that surround them, we shed light on the double standards and frustrations that come with being judged by family prestige and hierarchical status.
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Lessons From Twenty Years Of Searching w/ Nida K.
In this episode, we join you on the listening side, as Nida K. shares her twenty-year journey searching for marriage. She opens up about the challenges she faced, the lessons she learned, and her hopes for the future. If you're someone on the journey to marriage, this episode will relate to you in one way or another.
If you have a story to share, we'd love to have you on the podcast. Send us an email with a summary of your story at: info@halalmatch.ca
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