Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your kid about this important part of life? You are in the right place. Whether your kid is neurotypical or neurodivergent, I've got ya. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full-of-swears-advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut fr...
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Librarian needs script for teachers who are complaining about sex ed books and lesbian moms need to buy condoms for their kid and need some pointers
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Amaze video: How to Use Condoms Effectively
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How to make all your convos with your kids short and sweet! With Mary Willcox Smith -- Episode 198
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My guest star Mary Willcox Smith!
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Explaining STIs to kids under 10 -- Episode 197
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Health officials recommend more syphilis testing after U.S. newborn cases skyrocketed in 2022
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Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196
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Good old Amaze has great videos on masturbation (and more)! Show your kids ages 9+.
Anime Body Pillows! Check some out here.
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What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195
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The Meaning of Sex Positivity, Explained - My pal and colleague Nadine Thornhill is interviewed for this article! She's fab. Check her out here.Â
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The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging?
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Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193
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Joyful Courage with Casey O'Roarty
The Heartful Parent with Christy Keating
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Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192
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How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries
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Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 2
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31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post
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How to talk about C-Sections -- Episode 185
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My two superpowers, Thanksgiving, and talking about Two-Spirit people -- Episode 187
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These folks do a great job of explaining the two-spirit identity.Â
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Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 1 -- Episode 189
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31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post
Sugar Dating podcast
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4-year-old obsessed with private parts and a funny story about getting caught in the act -- Episode 188
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RAINN.org - To find a child advocacy center in your area Consent Parenting for support for surviors.
Consent Parenting for support for surviors.Â
Savvy Parents Safe Kids for general info to keep kids safe.
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A fetus isn't a baby and gay marriage doesn't mean people will marry their pets, idiot! -- Episode 186
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Kiddo thinks he isn't horny enough and the connection between sex talk freak out and porn exposure -- Episode 184
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What's wrong with a lack of interest in or desire for sex? Nothing.Â
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How to talk about kink -- Episode 183
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Working the kinks out
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Talking with neurodiverse kids about masturbation and what to do if your kiddo REALLY doesn't want to talk about sex -- Episode 182
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The top 3 STIs and how to talk about them -- Episode 181
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What Are the 3 Most Common STIs? STDs and HIV (from Amaze.org for kids age 10+)
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9-year-old is pushing boundaries with clothes and makeup, how to handle anime with a teen, and a funny sex talk story --Episode 180
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Chirp: When is it okay for someone to have sex? -- Episode 179
In this episode, Amy assigns a bit of homework. When is it okay for someone to have sex? You have to be able to answer this question for yourself before you can help your kids find the answer.
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Should younger teens be put on birth control and kid majorly breaks down (and shuts down the talks) after sex ed at school -- Episode 178
In this episode, Amy answers a question about when to start birth control and offers help for a parent whose kid has shut down after sex ed at school.
Resources:
Learn more about Christy Keating and her amazing work at The Heartful Parent Collective. Safety of oral contraceptives for teenagers Amaze.org Every Body CuriousGOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522
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Chirp: How to find your child a therapist if they have been porn exposed -- Episode 177
In this episode, you'll learn how to find a therapist for your child if they have been porn exposed.
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Sex is on the table for 15-year-old kid with first girlfriend and kid watching "breast spanking" videos -- Episode 176
In this episode, Amy answers a question from a mom about her 15 year-old and his interest in sex. Also, Amy offers advice to a parent who is concerned about her 12 year-old who is watching porn.
Resources
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My dated (2014) book for teens Dating Smarts: What Teens Need to Know to Date, Relate or Wait! Helps with values clarifcation and making sure they know what they are getting into (like that's a thing).Â
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Chirp: What a healthy vagina smells like (usually) -- Episode 175
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In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain how a vagina should smell.
Great article on vaginal smells
The Body Drama Book has great info about female bodies and more - including a bunch of photographs of different vulvas!
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Porn exposed kiddo acting out and mom's abuse triggering her. Daughter cries when mom tries to talk to her. -- Episode 174
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In this episode, Amy answers questions from the mail bag about porn exposure and how to talk with a kiddo who is distraught by the talks.
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Book: Good Pictures, Bad Pictures
Amaze.org
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Chirp: Emergency Contraception -- Episode 173
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In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain emergency contraception.
Effect of levonorgestrel emergency contraception on implantationÂ
What is EC and How Does it Work? Info from the World Health OrganizationÂ
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Kid buys tubular masturbation assistant and how to explain teen sister's pregnancy to her 8-year-old sibling -- Episode 172
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In this episode, Amy answers questions about how a mom should handle a kid who bought a tubular masturbation assistant. Also, how to explain teen sister's pregnancy to her 8-year-old sibling
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Babeland has great sex toys! Feminist and birthed in Seattle
Catamenial epilepsy
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Chirp: Midwife -- Episode 171
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In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain what a midwife is.
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Mom overhears gay son say he's going to 'slut his way through high school' and questions from kids with special guest star Rowena from Amazing Me! -- Episode 170
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Rowena's IG account is fab!
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REPLAY - Chirp: Sixty-nine (how could I resist?) -- Episode 169
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In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain 69 to your kiddos.
Resources
How do you have oral sex? From Planned Parenthood - don't let the title freak you out! Also, throw a little cash their way if you can afford it!
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Phubbing and birth control for teens -- Episode 168
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In this episode, Amy gives advice on phubbing (and why not to do it) and also talks about the hows, whens, and whys of birth control for teens.
Resources:
Parental Phubbing Leaves Kids Feeling Ignored and May Increase Depression
How to Deal with People Who Won't Make Eye Contact
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F-you detrans movement; explaining Mx. to a preschooler, and navigating friends' phones -- Episode 167
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In this episode, Amy gives advice on talking to a kiddo about a new teacher with the Mx. prefix. She also helps a mom whose 10-year-old doesn't have a phone when all of the 10-year-old friends do.
Resources:
The Trans "Detransition" Wars
Study Examines The "Social Contagion" Hypotheses of Transgender and Gender Diverse Identities
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Annie's Plaid Shirt
I'm Not A Girl...
REPLAY - How to explain what being a lesbian means -- Episode 166
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In this episode, Amy explains what being a lesbian means.
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REPLAY - Alternatives to porn: The Joy of Sex! The Joy of Gay Sex! The Lesbian Sex Bible! -- Episode 165
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In this episode, Amy discusses alternatives to porn for teenagers.
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The Joy of Gay Sex
The Lesbian Sex Bible
The Joy of Sex
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REPLAY - Gay guy and his gal-pal sexually bullied by 10-year-olds. True story. -- Episode 164
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In this episode, Amy interviews two college students about their weird experience with a group of young kids.
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Be a Positive Bystander
What is Sexual Bullying and Why Do Kids Engage in It?
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Gay Pride Episode! -- Episode 163
REPLAY - A 13-Year Old With a Newly Transgender Friend... Who He Kissed Before, A 9 Year Old Who Wants to Dress Sexy, and Explaining Rape Scenes in Movies -- Episode 163
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In this episode, Amy gives advice to a mom who wants to know how to support her son whose friend has recently come out as transgender - after the son and his friend shared their first kiss. She also...
Slut -- Episode 162
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In this episode, Amy talks about the term 'slut'.
List of sexual slang terms from Bark
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