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Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of narcissistic abuse as we expose the manipulative tactics—gaslighting, love-bombing, and emotional sabotage—that keep survivors trapped.  

✔️ Decode the narcissist’s playbook (you’re NOT crazy).  

✔️ Share jaw-dropping survivor stories of escape and empowerment.  

✔️ Reveal actionable steps to break free, heal your self-worth, and THRIVE.  

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Ever feel like your emotions are a tangled mess, steering you off course? In this soul-stirring episode, we dive deep into the truth your heart already knows: Your emotions are not obstacles—they’re your most powerful guides. Join us as we unpack how fear, joy, anger, and even grief can act as signals, pointing you toward authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.  

🔍 What You’ll Learn:  
- How to decode emotional “static” vs. your inner wisdom.  
- Practical tools to honor feelings without being ruled by them.  
- How to Un-fu*k yourse...

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🌟 Boost Your Self-Confidence! 🌟 

In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence. Join us as we share personal stories, expert tips, and actionable strategies to help you unleash your inner powerhouse! 💪✨ Whether you're looking to ace that job interview or tackle a new challenge, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical advice. Don’t miss out on reclaiming your confidence! 🎧❤️ #Podcast #SelfConfidence #Inspiration 

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In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the realms of self-awareness and emotional balance. Join us as we explore the integration of feminine and masculine energies, discussing how these vital aspects shape our identities and relationships. 
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•We’ll reflect on personal journeys, sharing insights on:
- The transformative power of embracing feminine energy
- Practical advice for men seeking to harmonize both energies within themselves
- The nuances of self-relationship and ho...

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It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you want and that makes it hard to enjoy it .It’s hard to feel excited about life when it feels like we are running on a treadmill. It’s time for some 
changes !

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It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you want and that makes it hard to enjoy it .It’s hard to feel excited about life when it feels like we are running on a treadmill. It’s time for some 
changes !

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Understand that life has unpredictable plans in store for everyone. You can’t steer it in any direction or control it. So, never worry about factors out of your influence. Focus on being in flow, and enjoy every moment. Also, relinquishing control and accepting whatever result comes your way will help you become more content in life.and I have 6 actionable steps to help you get there !✨

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In order to break the cycle of toxic behavior, it is crucial to first identify and recognize common toxic traits. These traits can manifest in various ways and have a significant impact on our relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Here we are talking about some common toxic traits to be aware of and a way to break the cycle of toxicity in ourselves and how to recognise it in others as well . Stay tuned ✨

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Dark feminine energy is often a misunderstood concept because we tend to think of darkness as

something negative. Life is full of contrasts and complexities, and much of our living experience comes from the balance between two opposing forces.We can't have light without darkness, and vice versa. This concept of the duality of the universe applies to many areas of life, from the physical to the spiritual.But what is this dark feminine energy exactly, and how can we tap into it for our own? Stay tuned and find out ❤️

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Would you like to know the secrets of how to be a high value woman, and what high value woman traits are?And how to be a high value woman in dating?You’ve come to the right place. I will also share some of the traits that a high value man is looking for in a woman.I don’t support the idea that we should be a certain way that men expect,but I think it is really important to know those things If you want to date a high value man...

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When we think of progress, we often think of moving forward, making improvements, and achieving success. However, defining progression can be challenging as it means different things to different people. Progression can refer to personal growth, societal advancement, or technological innovation. Regardless of the context, progression is about making positive changes and moving forward towards a better future. And I created 9 simple strategies that will work for you into making sure you will be moving towards progress in your field. 

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You might feel stuck on your journey to becoming emotionally mature — or have no idea where you are in your growth. But that doesn't mean you can’t succeed in self-improvement. It simply means you need to learn how to improve your emotional maturity, and we're here to help you do that.In a fun way ? In a crazy way ? Yes ,but trust me it is worth it ! And as a premiere,my best friend Maria Monnerat is live with us today so stay tuned !❤️

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The 4 Attachment Styles & Why a Toxic Attachment Style can Affect your Relationships 

Attachment types develop early in life and often remain stable over time. However, this does not mean that they cannot be changed into more secure forms of attachment–it just means that you may need to develop self-awareness through understanding and resolving attachment issues . The first step of this process is to learn how insecure attachment develops and influences thoughts and actions within the important relationships in our lives.

FREE  ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZZ 

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Making decisions and taking risks has always been a challenge for everyone and it s not easy to actually do it ,especially when it’s about a big decision that brings a lot of risks.And in the episode we will figure out why is it hard to make decisions and take risks,how it impacts us and our future. And as a bonus I will give you 3 habit methods to help you improve your decision making skills and a couple of tips that will help you get there 🤍

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Being intentional is very important when you want to manifest the life that you desire ,because you get to move completely in the direction that you wish .Now for more tips into how to shift with intention stay tuned.

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There is this proverb that I love and it sounds like this „Let go or be dragged.” It reminds me that holding on to what does not contribute to my overall well-being and expansion will eventually cause me even more pain than acknowledging the truth of the situation, facing my fear, and taking action. And now it is time for you to upgrade your perception as well ,so let’s dive into the episode.

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The pressure that’s being thrown upon our generation into becoming someone and living life in a certain way had become an issue for our development.How often do we realize, the people whom we look at for mirroring their actions, styles, trends, behavior may also be trying to conform to something they think is cool or out of societal pressure or peer pressure. Let’s dive into the subject together!

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When you think about the word vulnerability,you probably think it s just about weaknesses which is not entirely true .Yea sure being vulnerable makes you potentially weak in front of someone who might use your vulnerability against you either to optain what they want and manipulate you when it’s convenient for them either to feel more powerful in front of you and I had been in multiple cases in the situation in my life where people I expected the less would turn my vulnerabilities against me . But also times where I ma...

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Have you wondered if it happens to you to be keep wanting love and commitment but somehow you are keep attracting guys or girls that don’t?Well you gotta consider and I know it’s a pill that’s hard to swallow that maybe it’s because on a deeper level you are the one who is not ready to commit .And I am not saying this in a way of judging you like no way this podcast it’s all about helping you grow but sometimes we need a kick in the ass yo...

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If someone consistently makes you feel emotionally drained, anxious, fearful, or doubtful of your own needs, thoughts, and feelings, you may be dealing with emotional manipulation. Follow your gut instinct when it comes to recognizing what is occurring. Sometimes, people may manipulate others unconsciously, without being fully aware of what they're doing, while others may actively work on strengthening their manipulation tactics. Stay tuned and find out all that you need to know

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I know that sometimes it’s really hard to make peace with the fact that we are changing and revaluating our life’s it’s hard and scary . And because it is we tend to distract ourselves and fall into a loop of distractions feeling like we are actually getting further and further away from our true selves.Either we feel like we are stuck in our career and life or even in romantic relationships that don’t seem to bring out our authenticity anymore. Or simply seeking for external attention or situatio...