Courtney Nolan - The Podcast

You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

We dive into:

Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

Inside this episode:

Feel like a total badass at work but fall apart over a one-word text from your partner? Yeah—this one’s for you.

In this episode, Courtney breaks down anxious attachment in a way that actually makes sense—no therapy jargon, just real talk for high-achieving women who are sick of spiralling in silence. Learn why you overthink, shut down, and keep chasing emotional safety in all the wrong places—and how to finally get off the anxiety rollercoaster.

This is your no-fluff, luxe AF guide to understanding the emotional wiring behind your bedroom blocks. And the...

You’ve got the candles lit, the laundry folded, and maybe even the lube nearby… So why does sex still feel like something you’re performing instead of something you’re enjoying?

In this unfiltered, juicy AF episode, I take you on a real-talk car ride (yep, nips freezing and all) to unpack the truth most women never get taught:

If you’re obsessing over your angles, your sounds, or whether you’re “doing it right”—you’re not broken. You’re conditioned.

We dive into:

Ever tried to give feedback during sex and it totally backfired? You're not alone. In this refreshingly honest episode, Courtney breaks down one of the most common intimacy blocks for couples: when feedback in the bedroom feels like criticism… and suddenly, your partner shuts down. Whether you’ve been left wondering “Did I just ruin the vibe?” or you’re tired of tiptoeing around your own pleasure, this one’s for you.

Courtney shares:

This episode wasn’t planned. It poured out of me. And it might be one of the most important ones I’ve ever recorded.

I’m sharing the part of my story I never thought I would: How working in the police force made me shut down my sensuality… Not because of trauma—but because sex started to feel unsafe. Because expressing desire made me a target. Because being bold, feminine, and flirty in that world came at a cost.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

In this spicy solo ep, I’m pulling back the covers on something a lot of you have been quietly thinking: “I don’t know what I need… I just know I need something.”

Let’s talk about that.

In this episode, I share:

In this juicy solo episode, I’m coming to you straight from Adelaide—midway through a business leadership workshop and fully inspired to drop some truth.

Let’s talk about what no one tells you: You can be a confident, capable, magnetic woman in business—and still feel like a shy beginner when it comes to sex. And it's not because you're broken. It’s because no one ever taught you how to feel powerful in your body. Only how to perform.

Inside this episode, I cover:

✨ Why high-achieving women often feel disconnected in the bedro...

You’re crushing it in business. In meetings, on Zoom, in your calendar chaos—you're that woman. But the moment sex enters the picture? Initiating intimacy feels like learning a new language… backwards… in stilettos.

In this episode, Courtney strips back the layers of why smart, capable women feel like absolute beginners in bed. Spoiler alert: it’s not your fault. And you’re definitely not the only one.

If you’ve ever felt confident giving a TED Talk but terrified to give a blow job—or if your idea of foreplay is “sending a calendar invite”—t...

You know what most people get wrong about sex coaching? They think it’s all technique, toys, and bedroom acrobatics. But in this episode, Courtney strips away the misconceptions and lays out exactly how bedroom confidence ripples into every single area of your life.

From school drop-offs to sales calls, the way you move in the bedroom changes how you show up everywhere else. This is your permission slip to step out of your routine, stop second-guessing yourself, and start owning your voice, your power, and your presence.

🔥 In this episode:

💋 Why "sex coach" n...

Episode Summary:

In this quickie solo episode, Courtney drops a little love bomb for anyone feeling like their relationship is turning... well, a bit soggy. Especially during school holidays, when you're spinning plates, breaking up sibling arguments, and trying to remember your husband’s name (let alone flirt with him).

This episode is a juicy reminder that tiny acts of love = lasting connection. From handwritten notes to micro-moments of intention, Courtney shares exactly how she keeps the spark alive—even when she’s running on caffeine and chaos.

You’ll hear:

✔️ Why foreplay...

SPOILER ALERT - she obviously did a fab job raising me to think as an independent woman, it was just nice to really unpack her views on sex ed and i want to share those.

In this candid and humorous episode, I share an eye-opening conversation with my "conservative" mum about sex education, intimacy, and the misconceptions that many of us inherit from our upbringing.

From my Catholic-school roots to becoming a confident sex and intimacy coach, I reveal how family conditioning shapes our views on intimacy and sexuality.

I'll tell...

You weren’t born knowing how to file your taxes, host a boardroom meeting, or build a business empire—so why do we assume sex should come naturally?

In this empowering and unfiltered episode, Courtney pulls back the curtain on one of the biggest myths holding women back in the bedroom: the belief that you’re either “good at sex”… or you’re not.

Whether you feel stuck in your head during intimacy, unsure how to communicate your needs, or like you missed the sex-ed class that actually mattered, this is your sign to stop blaming yourse...

Your husband loves you. He adores you. But lately? Something feels off.

And if you’re honest with yourself? You’re scared.

Scared that he’s going to get bored. Scared that he’s thinking about other women. Scared that he might stop trying altogether.

Babe, let’s get ahead of this before it gets to that point.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

🔥 Why male desire is di...

You’re a powerhouse in life. You’re polished, elegant, and know how to take charge—except when it comes to sex. In the bedroom, you find yourself overthinking every move, wondering if you’re doing it “right,” and second-guessing whether your husband still finds you desirable.

Babe, let’s fix that.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

🔥 Why sex feels like an obligation instead of something to look forward to

🔥 The real reason you struggle to feel sexy (and no, it’s not your body)

🔥 How to stop overthinking and start...

Host: Courtney Nolan

Babe, you run a tight ship. You’re making CEO-level moves, handling school pickups, planning events, and keeping life running flawlessly—but have you ever wondered if your boss mode is blocking your intimacy?

In this episode, we’re diving into how being in control all the time is killing your ability to let go, be playful, and feel sexy in the bedroom. And don’t worry—this isn’t about “fixing” you. It’s about learning how to switch from high-achiever mode into full-body pleasure mode with ease.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This...

You’ve got your routine down to a science—wake up early, gym, celery juice, school drop-offs, boss moves all day. But… where does your relationship fit into that?

If you’ve ever felt like your marriage is just another checkbox on your daily list, babe, you’re not alone. It’s easy to slip into autopilot—until one day, you look up and realise you and your partner are more like roommates than lovers.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✨ The subtle ways autopilot creeps into your relationship (and why it’s so dangerous)

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Unfiltered Intimacy: Can You Be Bad at Sex? The Perfectionist’s Guide to Playful Confidence in the Bedroom

Join Courtney Nolan in this captivating episode as she dives into the candid conversation surrounding the age-old question: Can you be bad at sex? With her signature wit and sincerity, Courtney challenges you to rethink how you approach intimacy and helps you shed those perfectionist tendencies for a more playful and fulfilling experience.

Key Takeaways:

We all have our morning routines that set the tone for our day. But have you ever paused to think if you're making time for your most important relationship amidst the hustle? In this latest episode, Courtney Nolan dives into integrating intimacy into our daily lives in the simplest, yet profoundly effective ways.

Here are some highlights from the episode:

Welcome to another episode of "Courtney Nolan – Unfiltered Intimacy," where we crack the code on shifting from powerhouse mode to pleasure queen—because let’s be real, shutting off that boss brain isn’t always easy. 🚀🔥

Feeling stuck in work mode when it’s time to get saucy? You’re not alone. If your brain is still in "reply-all" mode when your partner gives you that look, this episode is your cheat sheet for flipping the switch from high-achiever to high-desire.

What We’re Diving Into:

🔥 Why Work Mode Kills the Mood – That dopamine hit from smashin...

Alright, my high-achieving, go-getting, slightly overwhelmed CEO queens—this one’s for you.

Today, I chat with the powerhouse Laura Fuchs, a life coach who helps women in business get their actual lives back while growing their empire. If you’ve ever found yourself running on caffeine, living in your inbox, and wondering where your real life went—this episode is your wake-up call.

We dive into: ⚡️ Why women keep believing they have to choose between business and joy 🙃

The sneaky ways we think we're practicing self-care—but we’re actually just ticking a box

How to...

Host: Courtney Nolan

Episode Title: Sex Less Intimacy Jar POD

🎙️ Episode Overview:

Welcome back, lovebirds! Courtney Nolan here with another juicy episode of Unfiltered Intimacy. This week, we're diving into the steamy (and sometimes hilarious) world of "Sexless Intimacy." That's right, folks! Intimacy isn't just about the "P and V," as Courtney puts it. It's about connection, effort, and attention, especially when you're too tired to even think about anything sexy.

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If you haven't subscribed to Courtney's uncut newsletter, you're seriously missing out! It's the chee...

Get ready to climb the pyramid of self-care and relationship goals with yours truly - Courtney Nolan!

This week, we’re tackling the big, guilty “Mum (and Dad) Feels” – you know, that internal tug-of-war about carving out ‘me’ time.

🌟 The Guilt Trap: We dive right into the heart of juggling family life and personal care. Your family isn't getting leftovers; they’re getting the best version of you when you’re taken care of.

🗺️ Your Personal Pyramid: Just like the food pyramid but WAY more fun! Picture what’s at the pinnacle of your li...

Strengthening Intimacy: Mastering the Weekly Check-In

In this podcast episode, I tackled an often overlooked, yet profoundly impactful practice in relationships—the weekly check-in.

As many of you know, maintaining a thriving, intimate connection requires more than just love; it demands consistent effort and open communication.

Here’s a recap of what was discussed:

💬 The Art of the Check-In:

Nudity isn’t just about steamy moments—it’s a pathway to profound connection, confidence, and closeness in your relationship.

In this episode, I dive into the beauty of embracing your bare self, both emotionally and physically, and how it can elevate your bond with your partner to a whole new level.

Inside This Episode:

Ever heard of the phrase “eat the frog”? It’s all about tackling your hardest task first thing in the morning. But what if I told you the same concept could totally transform your relationship? In this episode, we’re diving into the power of morning intimacy and how it sets the tone for an amazing day—for both your relationship and your productivity.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

Start Your Day with a Win

Are you ready to transform your relationship this holiday season?

Join me in today's eye-opening episode where I introduce the revolutionary Holiday Spice Challenge!

Specially designed for busy business women and parents, this challenge aims to reignite the spark in your marriage with easy, actionable tasks.

I tooootally understand the holiday hustle and how it can turn even the most loving partner into a "soggy Mrs. Claus", you're focused solely on giving to others, making sure everyone else is happy you kinda forget about your relationship.

But what about...

GUEST EP - AJ PAPS 🎙️ - Unfiltered Intimacy with AJ Paps

🔞 Ready to indulge in some unfiltered, NSFW kink talk? This episode has everything to spice up your high-achieving, professional life!

🎙️ Guest Introduction: Dive deep with sex educator AJ Paps, the master of making intimacy relatable and dangerously delicious. With 11 years in the adult industry and an EPIC online presence, AJ tantalises us with raunchy tales and expert advice that's includes everything from vanilla to beyond.

🔥TUNE IN ASAP - NOT AN EP FOR WHEN THE KIDS ARE IN THE CAR

1. Steamy Communal...

The Art of Connection: Romantic Activities for Busy Couples

If your vibe is Seductive, Saucy, and Oh-So-Samantha Jones, you're going to loveeee this one!

Ladies, grab your coffee—or your wine—and get ready to turn your everyday moments into the stuff of steamy fantasies. This week, I’m diving into the juicy, untapped side of intimacy that doesn’t require bedroom acrobatics (but will leave you feeling just as satisfied).

As a high-achieving woman, you already own the boardroom, but what if you could bring that same confidence and allu...

🔥 Ready to Get Down and Dirty? Episode Breakdown: 🔥

Ever find yourself buried in the hustle, forgetting the tantalizing touches that once set your world on fire? Dive into this quick and raunchy car pod with me, Courtney Nolan, where we peel back the layers of your relationship and sex life.

In today’s episode, I deliver the provocative goods on why your sex life is crucial, how to audit it, and unapologetically prioritize that fiery passion once again. Whether you’re juggling business meetings or closing massive deals, I knows you still have a wild side. 😉

Welcome to this week’s episode of Unfiltered Intimacy with Courtney Nolan! In this empowering conversation, I’m joined by Sophie, a Women’s Embodiment Photographer and Creative Business Director, to explore how high-achieving women—CEOs, entrepreneurs, and leaders—can reconnect with their authentic selves and infuse their lives with personal pleasure and empowerment.

Episode Title: Self-Love for CEOs and High-Achieving Women

Guest: Sophie – Women’s Embodiment Photographer & Creative Business Director

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✨ Balancing Power and Pleasure Discover how successful women can feel mor...

💡 ADHD in Relationships: Strategies That Work To Keep Your Intimacy SPICY!

Hey there, babes!

Welcome to this week's edition of Unfiltered Intimacy—your go-to place for bite-sized tips and deep dives into creating more meaningful and connected relationships 💕. If you haven't tuned in to the latest episode yet, let me fill you in on the gems we covered. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one!

🎙️ Latest Episode Recap: Strategy so you don't forget

This week, Courtney Nolan tackled a topic that's all too relatable for those who sha...

🎧 Unfiltered Intimacy: Conflict Resolution, Emotional Intimacy, and Parenting Insights!

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of relationships, conflict resolution, parenting, and the genuine struggles of balancing intimacy with our wonderful guest, Bri Rossato.

🎙️ Episode Highlights:

Conflict Resolution in Front of Children: Bri shares the importance of resolving conflicts in front of her child, Ocie, to foster a sense of safety and security. She highlights a touching moment when Ocie tried to mediate a situation between her parents, underscoring the impact our behaviours have on our children.

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Welcome back to Courtney Nolan - the Podcast, the unfiltered version of Intimacy you neeeeed to hear about. This episode is a little out of the ordinary—think car confessions and juicy tidbits. So, today, you’re getting a "Quickie Car EP" quite literally from, you guessed it, my car! 🤪

I’m Courtney Nolan, and I’m spilling some freshly-brewed tea about my morning routine, those little pain-in-the-butt errands, and how a small but oh-so-sexy act of service from my hubby turned my day around. Turns out, even filling the car with fuel can be a love lang...

Let's Talk Kink, Toys & Female Domination with Patricia, the Pleasure & Toy Queen

Welcome back, babes! This week, I’m joined by the fabulous Patricia, the one and only Pleasure & Toy Queen. Patricia’s a certified sex educator who knows her way around all things kink, BDSM, and (wait for it) over 250 pleasure toys!

YASSS! You read that right. From reviewing everything from crystal Yoni eggs to kinkier tools like floggers and furniture, Patricia is the go-to when it comes to levelling up your pleasure game or simply giving you a new and...

A Deep Dive into Relationship Connection: Communication, Vulnerability, and the Art of Checking In

I popped his Podcast cherry and you all get to listen to it first here ✨

In this episode, I welcome a very special guest – my husband Mick!

After years of people asking how Mick feels about this work I do within the world of sex and relationships, he’s finally here to spill the tea.

We cover a lot of stuff - from the beginning, where Mick had to adjust...

Exploring Female Sexuality, Non-Monogamy, and Sexual Empowerment with Kiki Maree

In this episode, we chat heappppps about the complexities of female sexuality, non-monogamous relationships, and the journey toward sexual empowerment. Keeks was super candid and insightful, she's a seasoned Sexologist, Somatic Sex Coach, and teacher of Therapeutic Yoni Massage, this episode covers everything from embracing sexual liberation to balancing polyamory and intimacy.

Kiki talks about discovering her sexuality, navigating non-monogamous relationships, and creating inclusive spaces for people to explore their sexual identities without judgment. Together, Kiki and I unpack the age-old question: "How...

In this episode, I dive into the topic of threesomes, addressing common questions and concerns. The inspo for this episode came after I received a DM about it, the questions about where to start, how to have the convo and where to look for your third..

There's 10 essential tips to ensure a successful and enjoyable threesome experience, where everyone has a good time! I chat about all the things, from understanding your motivations and communicating super clearly with your partner to planning and choosing the right third person, I cover it all.

In this insightful episode I delve into the crucial topic of online safety, particularly within the context of the disability sector.

Drawing from extensive experience including years working in law enforcement, I provide valuable insights and practical tips to ensure safety in online interactions.

The episode begins with a personal reflection on the evolving landscape of online safety, emphasizing the significance of staying informed and vigilant in the digital age. I highlight the growing importance of understanding online platforms like Snapchat and the potential risks associated with them.