A Contagious Smile Podcast

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Abuse does not have to leave a mark on your skin to change the way you think, remember, and trust yourself. We sit down with Daniel Ryan Cotler, author of *Voiceless No More* and founder of the Heal Loudly movement, to name what so many survivors struggle to explain: coercive psychological abuse that feels like love at first, then turns into confusion, isolation, and relentless self-doubt. If you have ever wondered why smart, capable people stay, or why the pain gets dismissed as “just a breakup,” this conversation puts clear language to a real...

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Somebody can be laughing with you one minute and quietly fighting shame the next and that whiplash is real. We start with our usual marriage banter (dogs, treats, and a brand-new tattoo), then slide straight into the bigger topics people dodge: weight loss, body dysmorphia, and what it feels like to step out of a 20-year comfort zone and finally wear the clothes you avoided out of fear. 

From there, we talk about respect in public and why “checking someone out” can turn into humiliating, dehumanising behaviour fast. A night out at a...

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“Bounce back” sounds motivating until you’re living with chronic pain, a major diagnosis, or a life event that permanently changes the map. We sit down with speaker, author, and resiliency expert Alison Graham to talk about what resilience looks like when the old path is gone and your capacity is stretched thin. If you’ve ever felt burnt out, stuck, or quietly overwhelmed while still trying to perform, this conversation gives you language and tools that actually match real life. 

We get honest about the healthcare experience too: the gaps between s...

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“A cup of mud” turns into a whole philosophy tonight. We start with the messy, funny reality of married life: coffee orders that confuse strangers, typing versus dictation, getting roasted by our kid, and yes, losing at bowling even when the lane has every possible advantage. It’s light, it’s chaotic, and it’s us.

Then we pivot into something heavier: what happens when post-op care feels rushed, inconsistent, or flat-out disrespectful. We walk through a follow-up appointment after a serious reaction, how allergy concerns get handled (or ignored), and why readin...

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He could memorize a shuffled deck of cards in 21.5 seconds, compete on a massive Chinese TV stage, and beat world-class opponents with pure focus. Then he found himself calling 911, convinced he was having a stroke or a heart attack. That contrast is what makes our conversation with three-time USA Memory Champion John Graham so gripping: elite performance is not the same thing as inner safety, and the tactics that win trophies can also feed anxiety and panic.

We dig into the real story behind the highlight reel, including John’s “chaos trai...

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A six-hour ER wait time shouldn’t come with a text message like you’re waiting for a table, but that’s exactly where we found ourselves and what happened next still doesn’t feel real. After we send love to Jessie Tyler Williams as she shares the devastating loss of her daughter to overdose, we shift into a raw, unfiltered talk about addiction, grief, and what families carry when the worst call comes through.

Then we tell the story of a hospital visit that turns into a front-row seat to chaos: p...

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We start with the kind of married banter you can only have when you know each other too well, then we turn toward something bigger: what it means to show up for people’s mental health in a way that is real, affordable, and grounded in lived experience. Along the way, we celebrate major milestones like an Evergreen Award for our contribution to the mental health space and exciting book news, but we also say the quiet part out loud about being taken advantage of and why boundaries are a form of self-respect.

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Some people don’t just accept kindness, they consume it. We’re candid about what it’s like to be the kind of person who will give time, energy, money, and care without keeping score, and how easily that generosity can attract people who take advantage. We also wrestle with the protective side of love: as spouses, how do we shield each other from being used without hardening our hearts or turning into someone we don’t recognise? 

Then the conversation turns to family, estrangement, and the moment our daughter decides she wants...

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“Literally” might be the most abused word in the English language, but our real problem is bigger than a few annoying phrases. We start out laughing about the modern lexicon that drives us nuts, from “also too” to “no worries” to the oddly formal “have a great rest of your day,” and then we follow the thread to what’s underneath: when language gets lazy, our thinking gets sloppy, and our empathy can shrink right along with it.

From there, we dig into the labels that people toss around like confetti. We talk about how...

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The scariest thing you can do in a family built on masks is tell the truth out loud. We sit down as Michael and Victoria and talk through a chain of stories that start with a simple change, Victoria’s hair after surgeries, and quickly turn into a deeper conversation about identity, grief, and what we refuse to chase anymore. Along the way, Victoria shares a Make-A-Wish memory where she handed scissors to a beautiful little girl who wanted to be a redhead, a moment that still shapes how we think about giving, le...

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Electronic medical records were supposed to make healthcare simpler. Instead, we’re watching patients get buried under repeated intake forms, duplicated medication lists, and “pre-check” paperwork that seems to disappear the moment you walk through the door. We say what a lot of people are thinking: if the chart is electronic, why are we answering the same questions at every visit, sometimes while we’re in pain, dizzy, or just trying to get basic care? 

Michael Macnack and Victoria Cure dig into what this does to trust and safety, from the everyday...

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A seven-hour surgery is one thing. The days after can be the real test, especially when your body reacts, your pain is off the charts, and you’re trying to get medical people to listen while you’re still healing. We share what spinal surgery recovery looks like in our house, why Victoria refused to use a pain pump, and how a “simple” allergy oversight can turn into swelling, skin reactions, and a scary infection concern that sends you looking for a second set of eyes.

Then we get into the part nob...

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Your gut knows things before your brain can explain them, but how do you tell the difference between real intuition and a loud imagination? We sit down with Danielle Ribbon Clumber, an LCSW trauma therapist in Utah and founder of Willow Medella Wellness, and her husband Nganga Mr. Pishu, a medicine man and practitioner, to talk about mediumship as a lived reality: confusing, validating, and sometimes isolating. With Abby jumping in as our guest co-host, the questions are curious, direct, and refreshingly human.

We dig into the hardest part of being “gi...

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One minute we’re hearing, “You can go home,” and the next we’re being warned that leaving in the wrong condition could mean paralysis. That whiplash sets the tone for a raw, honest update from Victoria and Michael after a major spinal surgery that turns into a week of complications, extreme pain, and a crash course in what patient safety really looks like when you’re the one in the bed. 

We talk through the surgery and the aftermath: blood pressure dropping dangerously low, being flooded with monitoring and IVs, and the dis...

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A Father’s Day pedicure turns into a surprisingly tender milestone when my husband walks in convinced it “isn’t for men” and walks out admitting the hot rocks, paraffin, and toe rubs were the best part of his day. We laugh about gifts that are equal parts love and necessity, like replacing a ruined recliner and an air fryer that became a health hazard, then we pivot into the real wins: cutting sugar, making diabetes-friendly choices, and watching A1C move in the right direction. 

We also talk about body image in...

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The fastest way to break a person isn’t always the illness; it’s the system that treats them like a number and calls it “care.” We sit down with veteran attorney and nonprofit leader Michael Mackniak, a nationally recognized mental health advocate and the founder behind the Guardian Model and the Care Coalition, to talk about what actually changes outcomes for people who are stuck in high-need, high-risk cycles.

We get specific about care coordination: why the client has to be the captain, how a “bicycle wheel” team falls apart when communi...

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Some people call you a friend, then disappear the second you stop being convenient. We get blunt about that kind of fake loyalty and what it does to your trust, your energy, and your peace. From old work “friends” who vanish to the constant drain of being the dependable one, we talk about how to spot the pattern early and set boundaries without turning cold.

Then we shift to what real love looks like when it’s lived out, not posted. We tell the story of our daughter Faith saving her change...

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A stranger says one word that stops us cold: “hands.” Danielle Worthen Columber has never met us, never heard our backstory, and we give her nothing to work with. Then she describes what she’s sensing and I lift my arm and she realises I’m an amputee. That moment sets the tone for a conversation that’s equal parts psychic medium reading, trauma-informed care, and the kind of grief honesty most people avoid.

Danielle brings her lens as a licensed clinical social worker and trauma therapist who also practices mediumship, and her hu...

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The most dangerous abuse is often the kind nobody can photograph. We talk with Daniel Ryan Cotler, author of *Voiceless No More* and founder of the Heal Loudly movement, about the reality survivors describe as narcissistic psychological warfare: coercive control, gaslighting, charm in public, cruelty in private, and the slow collapse of self-trust that makes you question your own reality.

We also get precise about language. We’re tired of every bad partner being labelled a narcissist, because that buzzword culture makes the people living through true psychological abuse easier to di...

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A kid who has endured more surgeries than most adults can fathom sits beside a mother who refuses to let trauma be the last word. Then our guest, an actor best known for his work on The Blacklist, steps in with a mix of warmth, honesty, and wildly curious detours that somehow land exactly where they need to: on resilience, meaning, and the small choices that keep you alive.

We talk about Faith’s tattoos as a living record of survival, how adoption became a deliberate break from domestic violence, and wh...

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A few lines of poetry can hit harder than a whole hour of advice, and that’s exactly how we choose to end this one. We wrap up by reading a poem from Faith Cure Solomon that puts a mother-daughter relationship into plain, vivid words: shared humour, shared pain, and a love that doesn’t disappear when life gets messy. If you’re drawn to spoken word, emotional storytelling, and real family bonds, this closing is built to stay with you. 

Faith’s poem moves from warmth to truth without flinching. She talks...

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When you’re trying to keep a loved one safe, get the right diagnosis, or survive a crisis, the healthcare system can feel less like support and more like a test you did not study for. We sit down with attorney and systems advocate Michael Magniak and domestic violence advocate and therapist Victoria Cure to talk about what gets lost between insurance rules, rushed appointments, and the real lives happening outside the exam room. We keep coming back to one sharp idea: people deserve dignity, and care should not depend on your ability to...

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She said one word that changed the whole room: hands. Danielle Worthing Columber had never met Victoria before, didn’t know her history, and was doing a true cold read when that detail landed and the camera revealed an amputation. What follows is not a polished performance. It’s a raw, human conversation about validation, grief, and what it feels like when someone names the thing you’ve been carrying silently. 

We talk with Danielle, an LCSW trauma therapist and founder of Willow Medella Wellness, and her husband Ganange Mishapeshu, an intuiti...

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You’re getting a front-row seat to a special kind of family chaos: we hand the mic to the crew, announce a roast of Michael, and let the night spiral in the funniest way possible. What starts as trip talk and a Stranger Things tour recap turns into a rapid-fire comedy session where nobody is safe, everyone talks over each other, and the jokes land like popcorn. If you love an unfiltered family comedy podcast energy, this is the one that sounds like real life, just louder. 

But under the roasting, the...

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A schizophrenia diagnosis can feel like your future just collapsed into one terrifying question: what happens now? We talk with Matthew Dixon, founder of MindAid and the first person living with schizophrenia to bicycle across Canada twice, about what it actually feels like when symptoms creep in, intensify, and reshape your identity. Matthew shares the parts people rarely explain, the fear of the unknown, the confusion of disorganised thinking, and the lonely weight of trying to function while feeling disconnected from your own life.

We also get specific about schizophrenia recovery...

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“HIPAA” gets blamed for everything, families get shut out, and a loved one in crisis gets reduced to a label and a sedative. We’re not doing that. Michael Makniak and Victoria Cure unpack the real-world misconceptions that derail caregiving and fiduciary decision-making, especially when mental illness shows up as episodes, psychosis, and emergency room chaos.

We talk about why mental health treatment cannot be treated like “any other illness” and why medication can take weeks or months to dial in. Then we get practical: how to advocate when your loved one is not...

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A lot of people say they want survivors to “speak up” until the story gets messy, angry, and specific. We go there. We talk about domestic violence and coercive control the way it actually shows up: not as a single incident, but as a system of fear, manipulation, and escalating harm that can follow you into the ER, the workplace, and the courtroom.

We also zoom out to the global reality of intimate partner violence, including cultures where reporting abuse brings stigma instead of protection. Michael shares what he learned in law...

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Caregiver resilience stories come alive when you laugh through the hard moments. Your body can outpace your mind, and when sciatic nerve pain hits while life demands everything, standing tall means honest marriage talk, real laughter, and asking for help. Join us as we check in from the chaos of caregiving life, navigating trauma recovery one day at a time.

Your body can change faster than your mind can catch up, and sometimes it takes a mix of laughter, honesty, and a whole lot of standing up through pain to keep...

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When Anil Gupta's wife heard "we're homeless," she smiled. That single reaction becomes the foundation for trauma recovery, not from abuse, but from the identity collapse of financial ruin. In the 2008 crisis, Anil lost everything and convinced himself he was a failure. Her belief in him when his own mind wouldn't listen reveals what caregiver resilience truly means. A powerful story on rebuilding identity after devastation.

He told his wife they’d be homeless and had lost everything. She smiled. That single reaction flips the entire story, and it’s where our...

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When love alone won't stop the spiral, families need answers. A parent's worst nightmare: substance use disorder and mental illness collide, triggering crisis calls, involuntary holds, and court battles. Trauma recovery isn't just emotional; it's legal. Florida attorney Mark Astor reveals how families navigating addiction, mental health emergencies, and special needs crises can protect their rights and understand the system before it's too late. Real talk for caregivers facing the legal crossroads.

A parent’s most frightening moment is realizing love alone will not stop a spiral. When substance use disorder an...

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One conversation can shake your certainty, even if you’re the type of person who normally needs proof. We sit down and tell the story of meeting Danielle, a therapist who is also a medium, and why what she shared stopped us cold. Victoria is careful about what she reveals publicly, especially when it comes to her grandparents and the kind of grief that never really fades, so when Danielle repeats specific phrases and names a deeply private family promise, it doesn’t feel like a lucky guess. It feels personal, precise, and impo...

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A schizophrenia diagnosis can feel like your life has been rewritten without your consent, and the hardest part is often the unknown: Will I get better, will I ever feel like myself again, and who will still see me as me? We talk with Matthew Dixon, who answers those questions with uncommon honesty, detail, and calm. He shares what it was like to go from university life to suicidal thoughts, psych ward stays, and years of disorienting mental pain and confusion, and how he kept going minute by minute when the days felt...

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A guy offers to help us move a table and chairs, and for a few minutes it feels like a normal neighborly moment. Then, out of nowhere, he mentions multiple felonies and casually claims he got caught trying to kill his wife. That single sentence flips the whole night on its head, and we walk through what happened, what safety steps we had in place, and why “he seems fine” is never a real plan when you are responsible for your home and family. 

From that shock, we zoom out into Menta...

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When trauma survivors stop seeking help, the system has failed. Michael Mackniak and Victoria Cuore share how retraumatization in healthcare and mental health settings can silence the very people who need support most—and what we learned about rebuilding trust in recovery. A raw conversation on surviving systems that don't listen, and finding providers who actually do.

The fastest way to feel powerless is to sit in a hospital room while someone talks about your child like a “case” instead of a person. So we invited two caregivers who refuse to be sid...

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Domestic violence recovery and caregiver resilience aren't one-time breakthroughs; they're built day by day. This week, we sit down with actor Amir Arison to explore what it really takes to keep showing up through trauma, medical complexity, and the kind of responsibility that never clocks out. A conversation about miracles, work ethic, and the practical faith that sustains survivors.

One family’s survival story collides with a working actor’s hard-earned truth, and the result is a conversation that feels both cosmic and deeply practical. We talk about what it means to k...

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When doctors told Faith's family to "let her go," they chose courage instead. NBC journalist Cheryl Preheim sits down to discuss trauma recovery, special needs parenting, and how refusing limits transformed one family's pain into a lifelong mission to help other survivors. A story about caregiver resilience, medical trauma, and the power of choosing hope when the system says surrender.

Someone once told Faith’s family to “keep her comfortable and let her go.” That moment could have been the end of the story, but it became the start of a lifelo...

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The moment “help” makes you feel smaller, unheard, or more afraid, something in the system has already failed. We sit with the uncomfortable reality that mental health care and hospital care can retraumatise the very people they are meant to support, and that one bad experience can shut the door on treatment for years. If you’ve ever walked away from an appointment more confused than when you arrived, you’ll recognise the patterns we name out loud.

We move from personal stories to system-level problems: patients being treated like diagnoses, families...

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Michael and Victoria reveal why A Contagious Smile stays unscripted on purpose, because trauma recovery and caregiver resilience stories can't be rehearsed. Discover how lived experience teaches what textbooks can't, why real conversations create healing, and what "anything goes" actually means for abuse survivors navigating domestic violence recovery.

A show can be funny and still hit like a truth bomb. Michael and Victoria keep Contagious Smiles unscripted on purpose, because real life doesn’t come with neat transitions, and neither does healing. We talk openly about why our conversations move the wa...

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When special needs families fight healthcare systems, they're told they're doing everything wrong, while goalposts keep moving. Michael Mackniak and Victoria Cuore expose how institutions abandon caregivers, blame survivors, and fragment care into impossible bureaucratic labyrinths. This isn't a survival hack episode; it's an accountability conversation about why families in trauma deserve better. Hear how to recognize system gaslighting, document the chaos, and reclaim agency.

Healthcare can make you feel like you’re doing everything “right” while the system keeps moving the goalposts. We’re tired of families being told to stitch t...