The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Somatic Sex Coach Danie Bergstrom where we explore what it really means to initiate intimacy with confidence—especially for queer women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folks navigating trauma, social conditioning, and disconnection from desire.

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with clinical psychologist and neurodiversity expert Dr. Matt Zakreski about navigating sex, dating, and relationships through the lens of neurodivergence. From decoding consent to building confidence in communication, Dr. Matt offers real talk, deep insight, and practical tools for connection.

In this conversation, we go behind the scenes of the social dynamics most people take for granted—like reading the room, picking up on flirting, or knowing how to initiate intimacy—and what happens when your brain processes the world differently. Dr. Matt breaks down why things like...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Adult Film Performer, Producer and CEO of Red MILF Productions, Rachel Steele about the liberating—and often misunderstood—world of sexual fantasy. From taboo storylines to personal empowerment, Rachel shares how her work creates space for people to safely explore their desires without shame.

In this fascinating conversation, we take you behind the scenes of the adult film industry—from camming and casting to scripting and shooting—and unpack the difference between sexual entertainment and education. Rachel opens up about how she accidentally entered the industry, why she...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and longtime partners Jason and Tina Marie Scott. We explore what it really takes to keep love alive beyond the honeymoon stage—and how a thriving relationship is built not on perfection, but on presence, communication, and intentional care.

During this conversation, Jason and Tina Marie discuss the foundation of friendship in their 33-year marriage, how they’ve redefined traditional roles in their partnership, and why self-awareness is key to lasting intimacy. Along the way, they share their own story—from a bumpy...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Dominatrix and kink educator Miss. Em, who brings over 20 years of experience in the world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics. Hear about how her early curiosity around taboo desires became a calling—and how she uses passion, presence, and emotional intelligence to create safe, transformative experiences.

During this conversation, Miss. Em shares her insights on everything from the origins of fetish and submission to the importance of aftercare and the art of psychological play. We explore how kink isn’t always about sex—and how ritual...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sexologist and Educator Dr. Evelin Molina Dacker about the power of open conversations around sexual health at every stage of life. She gets real about her own journey—breaking free from societal expectations and redefining what pleasure looks like, especially through menopause.

During this conversation, Dr. Eveline shares her simple but powerful STARS framework to help guide open and shame-free discussions around intimacy. We discuss how this tool can help anyone—whether single or partnered—navigate important conversations about sex with ease and confidence.

Along...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity.

Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can create stress in r...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with international Sex and Intimacy Educator and Relationship Coach, Ken Blackman. In this conversation, we dive deep into the nuance of jealousy and how it appears in relationships, exploring the different types of jealousy that can uniquely affect intimate connections. We also touch upon the transformative power of identifying different relationship motivations and how understanding these can shift things from transactional interactions to passionate partnerships.

Along the way, Ken shares his inspiring story from being an Apple software engineer to his current mission of helping couples co-create...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it.  Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including therapy, coaching, and self-reflection techniques all l...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating  and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal communication can transform sexual experiences. This episode is absolutely p...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise.  During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being.

Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, a...

In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure.

Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual self-discovery, revealing how approaches like the Erotic Blueprints and sexological body...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of 

drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration.

Annie’s extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to ou...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership.

Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with B...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women’s sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life.

Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with acupuncturist, theta healer, and sex relationship coach Alexis Ware, for a deep dive into voicing our desires. We explore the fascinating connection between the throat and the clitoris, and how speaking our truth is vital for intimacy and connection in relationships. Along the way, Alexis shares powerful insights on the importance of feeling safe to express our needs and the role open communication plays in fulfilling sexual and emotional connections.

As we chat, Alexis reveals her transformative journey through orgasmic meditation, and emphasizes the significance...

Is there such a thing as ‘ethical porn’?

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships . 

Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom’s story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider’s view to the industry.  Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling,  in relation...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Licensed Social Worker and Sexual Freedom Advocate, Mandy Salley of the Woodhall Freedom Foundation. In this conversation, we chat about some of the limitations of sexual freedom in the United States, touching on laws against activities like cunnilingus or interracial sex and how outdated these laws have become. We delve into the Comstock Act and its lingering effects on mailing erotic materials and contraception information. Along the way, Mandy shares insights into effective laws that protect sex workers, such as the "Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act"...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist, author, and sexual strategist Marla Renee Stewart who shares her extensive experience studying human sexuality and running workshops worldwide through her sexuality education company, Velvet Lips and as co-founder of the groundbreaking Sex Down South Conference. Marla shares her own journey, including her move from California to the South, and how it shaped her mission to create spaces for marginalized communities to explore sexual liberation and within the kink world.  She also talks about what she’s seen in the evolving landscape of sex and relationship from des...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Hypnotherapist, Subconscious Reprogramming Expert and Relationship Coach,  Kate Shelor who takes us into the complexities behind the differences between how men and women perceive and communicate love and intimacy. Kate shares some of her personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome her personal challenges with orgasms.  This led her to develop her own work bringing hypnotherapy into the realm of sex, body trauma, orgasms, and erections.  Along the way we chat about the power of ‘scheduling’ intimacy, the unrealistic expectations created by the media, the differences between men and women’s...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Spiritual Teacher, Adam Chacksfield who takes us on a journey through spiritual healing and transformation of Erotic Shadows through his unique work combining non-duality and somatic practices.  Adam discusses how shadow work can empower individuals to embrace their desires, set boundaries, and break free from shame stories, particularly with our erotic turn-ons and fantasies. Along the way, we hear about Adam's journey through inner transformation, exploration of the relationship between eroticism and spirituality, and development of his method for healing shadow.  Adam's insights on embracing and exploring shadow as...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with certified Tantra educator and level two teacher trainer, Lisa Rizzoli. Lisa shares profound insights into the integration of sexual energy with life force energy, and how it can be harnessed to manifest the life we desire. We delve into her journey into Tantra, starting at a transformative retreat at Esalen, and how her experiences shaped her current practices. Lisa introduces a daily meditation practice called "loving myself awake," and discusses how it brings more sensation and awareness into the body. We also explore the spiritual and creative power...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Intimacy Expert to millions and best-selling Author Susan Bratton who brings her personal stories of receiving adoration to our discussion of expanding the definition of orgasm. During this fun and insightful conversation, we delve into the importance of knowledge, vulnerability, and meticulous scheduling to navigate different kinds of complex relationships while touching on the significance of adoration as a fundamental human desire that society often suppresses.

Susan sheds light on the benefits of oxytocin, the need for more time and stimulation to achieve arousal a...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with CEO of Firmtech, Dr. Elliot Justin. Dr. Justin brings his extensive knowledge in medical technology and personal experience to share his innovations towards improved male sexual health and performance.

Beyond the technology available, we talk about the importance of non-rushed, pleasurable sexual experiences, prioritizing regular lovemaking and how planning intimate moments can help maintain the romantic connection between partners.  Diving into the science of pleasure a bit, Dr. Justin shares the benefits of regular sexual activity for maintaining penile and overall health, highlighting the ro...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sexual Fantasy Expert, Artemisia de Vine. Artemisia shares her personal story from her restrictive upbringing through her discovery of sexual fantasies and expanded consciousness to becoming a professional dominatrix.  During this conversation, we dive into the exploration of desires rather than suppression of them in forming a healthy relationship with desire for sexual play.  Atemisia brings a wealth of training and expertise in creating emotional and psychological safety during sexual play, offering listeners a unique exercise to explore sexual preferences.   With insights from her upcoming book "The Spirituality of...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sensuality and Love Coach Maya Kova.

Maya's journey began as young woman fascinated by love, propelling her on a path to conquer her own relationship anxiety. Her journey and expertise offer a treasure trove of enlightenment that has the potential to revolutionize your experience with love and desire. With her partner, Maya has navigated the challenges of anxiety and attachment, crafting a grounded and secure co-creative partnership built upon self regulation of your nervous system.

Now, Maya draws on these personal experiences along...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pioneering erotic bodywork educator Joseph Kramer, PhD. Joseph shares his transformative journey from academia to becoming a leading teacher of erotic massage and sexual embodiment. In this conversation, we delve into how pornography– which is often seen as ‘bad’-- can be used as a tool to learn the art of touch in your relationship.  Along the way, we chat about methods for increased body awareness during self-pleasure, how to enhance erotic experience through breath and presence, and the value of experiencing all kinds of touch… even beyond the eroti...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Tantric Lawyer,  Kim Mukti Nirjhara.  Kim blends the worlds of deep spiritual practice and the legal field, using tantric principles to navigate personal evolution through conflict resolution. Kim shares her transformative journey to discovering tantric therapy, the revitalization of her yoni, and how she came to bring together the intertwining of emotion and pleasure into working with legal disputes. During our conversation, Kim talks about her unique path of facilitating community leadership and the importance of healing sexual trauma within the body. This rich conversation touches on misconceptions of...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with PhD, Sex and Relationship Coach, Sexuality Educator, and Sexological Bodyworker Charlie Glickman. Charlie shares his extensive experience and wisdom from over three decades of working in the field of sexuality education. We talk about his book,  "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" providing listeners with an in-depth look at the pleasures and benefits of prostate stimulation for cisgender men, as well as touching on experiences for transgender women, non-binary, and gender-neutral individuals with prostates. As Charlie shares about his own journey to sexual education, he shares about the i...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with NeoTantra Educator and Pleasure and Intimacy Expert Caroline Carrington. Caroline shares her transformative journey from the corporate world to the rich and empowering realm of NeoTantra. During our conversation, we explore the differences between NeoTantra and traditional Tantra, discussing how dynamic meditations and mantras can act as profound tools for sexual mastery and deeper connection. Caroline provides valuable tips on reconnecting with the body and utilizing the chakras to improve sexual experiences.   Along the way, we talk about how to improve communication, sexual stamina and increase ov...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bloom Community CEO, Noa Elan. Noa brings an innovative and refreshing approach to finding experiences and creating connections in the dating and social world bridging online access with live, in-person events.   During this conversation we dive into how a digital event & community site like Bloom can allow folks to communicate more authentically to form deeper relationships.  Along the way, Noa shares her story of learning about sexuality, connection, embodiment and relationship all leading to the creation of Bloom.  We talk about the nuances of consent, the valu...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Family, Divorce and Relationship Coach Veronica Nabizade. Veronica brings her wide range of experience from legal mediation to deep spiritual practice, and immense work on inner growth to support women in difficult marriages.   Her feeling is that “if it’s worth fighting about, it’s worth fixing.” which is the heart of her work as the founder of Relationship Restart. This was an extremely rich conversation exploring leverage, personal development and the importance of self-relationship as the path towards either thriving together or divorcing with dignity.  We talked about code...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Physician Healthcare Consultant, Keynote Speaker and Best-Selling Author, Dr. Erkeda.   Dr. Erkeda brings us their wisdom related to sexual health and wellness, particularly women’s health issues and how to advocate for oneself with healthcare providers.  We touch on the struggles women have in the healthcare system due to poor education in women’s health as well as getting support around sexual disorders.  We explore pelvic floor health and how physical wellness plays a major role in our sexual wellness.  Dr. Erkeda speaks about her commitment to provid...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bodyworker, Sexual Pioneer, Sound Healer, Dominatrix, and Visionary Craniosacral Practitioner, Emily Oren. Emily reflects on patterns of being absorbed into relationships and how that led to learning important insights on boundaries, self-intimacy and vulnerability.  She deep dives into what boundaries are, exploring your personal boundaries and expressing them in healthy ways.  During this conversation, we talk about vulnerability, self-intimacy, physical pleasure and slowing down to explore emotional intimacy.  Along the way, we hear a bit about Emily’s journey as a model, artist, singer, and storyteller as we...

In this episode I talk with Happiness Empowerment and Couples Intimacy Coach, Shay Sun.  Shay tells us about their journey with understanding the changing nature of relationships over time.  He shares about his exploration into Chinese Philosophy and its wisdom for the constant change of relationship as well the secrets it reveals about feminine pleasure .  In this conversation, we talk about strong women, creating desire, Tantra Speed Date, and the communication needed between a couple for great sex and deeper intimacy. We also chat about shutdown and resentment between couples and some tips for healing that divide by coming bac...

In this episode I talk with mentor, breathwork teacher, storyteller and creator of the Yoniverse Monologues, Sirena Andrea.  Sirena tells us about her work with women telling their stories to release shame around their experiences and desires.  She shares her journey as a breathwork practitioner and the transformative power breathwork has for healing and empowerment.  In this conversation, we explore the impact the stories we tell about our bodies have on our identities and the effect that has both in and out of the bedroom. We also chat about uncomfortable emotions and how to embrace them better sex and a f...

In this episode I talk with autistic polymath, maverick leader, business & life strategist and Tantra lineage holder Tanja Diamond. Tanja opens up about her own experiences as an introvert and offers valuable advice on embracing awkwardness during the dating process.
She shares her insights on autism, relationships, and the journey to better sex. Hear more of Tanja’s journey with the unique dating challenges faced by individuals on the autism spectrum. During our conversation, we talk about understanding love and lust, autistic struggles, healing trauma and how to turn awkward conversations into fantastic sex.  You don’t have to be...

In this episode I talk with Love, Sex & Relationship Coach Iryna Sulim who specializes in men’s empowerment and sexual mastery.  Hear Iryna’s journey into Tantra and sacred sexuality and how that has informed her relationships as she becomes a mother.  During this conversation, we talk about the dance of the polarities within everyday life of kids, partners and jobs.  Iryna shares with us the importance of deep inner self-knowledge and tells us some easy ways to reconnect to your sexy self to share with a partner.

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In this episode I talk with Sex Coach, Will Tantra about the practice of Tantra and its impact on enhancing pleasure and intimacy in relationships. Hear about Will’s personal journey in the field of sex coaching and the benefits of practicing edging and energywork during masturbation.  We also talk about how to create a masturbation practice to prepare for partnered sex, the role of breath, sound, and movement in experiencing touch and the role porn plays in sexual fantasy.  Along the way, Will shares about the need for comprehensive sex education for women as well as men, optimizing plea...