Having It A.L.L.

You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why?

In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself.

This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a person...

Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns?
You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive?

In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them.

This isn’t about criticism. It’...

Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want?
That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be.

But that’s not how it works.
If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under pressure—you’ve got to flip the script.

In this episode, I break down the Be-Do-Have framework through a powerful lens—...

Are you really living... or just reacting?

In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness.

This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one.

You'll explore:

Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity

What you’re truly committed to (and what you say you're committed to)

When you tend to abandon yourself

Where your environments are either draining or fueling you

What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance?

In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle—a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance.

Here’s the idea:

If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels—Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Physical.
When those wheels are under-inflated, over-inflated, or straight up missing... your ride through life gets bumpy.

Uneven.

Chaotic...

Are you showing up like the person you say you want to be?
Or are you still stuck in habits that keep you in survival mode—burnt out, resentful, and playing small?

In this episode, I’m joined by my powerhouse wife Sarah—Balance Lifestyle Coach, Personal Trainer, and walking embodiment of what I call a Humble Badass. Together, we break down the 8 habits she uses (and teaches) to help high-performing women reclaim their power without losing their softness.

This isn’t about hustle.
It’s about alignment.
It’s about embodiment.
It’s abo...

Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession.

His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile.

He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy.

But behind the smile is a man who has been some incredibly trying times in his life. At a young...

When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth?
Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.”

In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution.

If you're someone who's been "doing the work...

What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of time or willpower—but a lack of trust in yourself?

Every broken promise to yourself chips away at your confidence—and you don’t even realize it’s happening. From missed workouts to late-night scrolling instead of journaling, it’s not about discipline—it’s about self-trust.

In this episode, I break down why the seemingly small commitments you flake on matter more than you think. Because if you can’t count on YOU…who can?

We tal...

In today's episode I'm sharing with you three mindsets that have been the biggest catalysts for my personal transformation over the past 4 years. From my self confidence, to the quality of my relationships, to my ability to attract money and create wealth, these 3 things have been the spark for them all. 

This episode was inspired by a question I was asked last week, "What would you attribute to the huge transformation you've made in your life over the past 4 years?".

Here's where I was:

What do you lean on when life blindsides you, again and again—and you’re too tired to pretend you’ve got it all together?

When life throws you into the fire—when the hits keep coming and you’re running on fumes—it’s easy to spiral, snap, or shut down.

In this episode, I’m handing you two powerful beliefs to anchor you when everything feels like too much.

They were given to me in the middle of a tough moment.

My...

There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships.

This episode was inspired by an article I read titled "The Pros And Cons Of Brutal Honesty".

The following quote from the article sets up this episode perfectly:

"People that stop growing are individuals who decide they can no longer handle brutal honesty." 

I believe part of what it means to love someone unconditionally...

What if gratitude isn’t what you think — and what you’ve been taught is keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I’m breaking down 7 powerful gratitude truths that will flip the way you think about appreciation, happiness, and abundance. This isn’t your typical gratitude list — we’re going deeper.

You’ll discover:

✅ How gratitude can instantly shift your mood

✅ The surprising link between gratitude and your finances

✅ Tools to build a gratitude habit that actually sticks

In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct.

We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life balance. It’s a phrase and concept we’ve been fed for years. But have you really thought about the implications? What the phrase implies? And have you been able to create a work-life balance in your life for a significant period of time, and kept it going?!

I consi...

I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show.

Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life.

You can boil your decisions down to a choice between fear and love, and that includes your decision on how and who to BE in life.

So yes, fear is worth talking about!

Today I’m sharing with...

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned. 

Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and behaviors. 

There are many different centers you can have. You can be Spouse centered, Money centered, Family cente...

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act. 

But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING. 

I've talked about Doing vs...

Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener.

Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS.

Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged all over again, and wonder "Why this keeps on happening to me?".

Sound familiar?

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something.

I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER.

On Sunday September 11th, 2016 Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far.

Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to he...

You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker).

They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets.

But I think the fact that they are used (perhaps overused today) so much has watered down the impact of the message.

The things that we choose to focus our time, energy, thoughts and resources on, grow and multiply and become more real for us.

We c...

By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch!

Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one.

It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. Instead, I was inspired by the people in the documentary who recognized their opportunity for breakthrough, and boldly ste...

I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking).

You don't want to miss this one because this episode will get you thinking!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

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This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”.

I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!”

Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it.

So I checked it out….and liked what I read!

But the point of the article made me think about my one thi...

Who will you become in 2018? We're all used to setting new years resolutions and goals for what we want to DO in the upcoming year, but rarely do we make time for a much more important exercise -- being clear on who we want to become in the new year.

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This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for "having it all". 

In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. 

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Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE. 

I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love.

In this conversation you'll learn:

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I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully.

Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic.

I knew t...

What does "having it all" mean to you?

It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice.

I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question.

On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the other side you ha...

We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held. 

Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs. 

Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview!

The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wa...

Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.

And I completely understand why.

Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.

That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home.

Growing up in an area...

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor

You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”

In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning.

Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed t...

At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger.

Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?"

I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest. 

Well...here we are!

T...

I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them.

Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of.

Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances!

I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on t...

We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending.

Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past.

Going through hell feels like going through hell.

But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived!

Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient.

Coll...

What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self?

Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential.

It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation.

Any ideas yet?!?

What you’ll...

This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!”

The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills.

Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas.

The Small “s” success is the thriving business that Mike has built o...

We are all influencers.

Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life.

However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have.

Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly than others.

In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to...

Love and Fear.

It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to.

Fear can be one heck of a beast!

We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions.

I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on.

And I also remember the feeling after those choices...

How do you define "wellbeing"?

How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you?

My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing. 

Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself into an author, speaker, and podcaster.

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You have been lied to about success.

Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there".

Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal.

But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful.

But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" success and big "S" Success.

We may all define success in our...