Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind Podcast
Divorce is overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. I’m Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, and on Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind, I break down the emotional side of divorce into plain, practical steps so you can think clearly and move forward with confidence. https://www.gettingdivorced.org
The Emotionally Savvy Divorce with Katherine Miller
Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.
Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.
Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains...
Divorce Isn't Just an Ending. It's a Reckoning
Season 6 finale. Five truths to carry forward: clarity over control, balance over fairness, time as currency, emotions that pass, and progress over perfection.
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You Don't Need to Earn Rest
You don't earn rest. You need it to think clearly. Corey explains why self-care isn't optional during divorce and how to start small.
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How Holiday Schedules Actually Work in Divorce
Holiday schedules override your regular parenting routine. Corey breaks down how to define them precisely, handle the collisions, and stop treating December like a zero-sum game.
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Why Some Kids Heal After Divorce and Others Don’t
Some kids seem to bounce back after divorce while others carry the pain for years. Corey Shapiro explains why that happens and how your healing becomes the key to your child’s emotional recovery.
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Can You Find Happiness After Divorce?
Divorce can leave you feeling like love and happiness are over. Corey Shapiro shares how to heal, rebuild trust, and take simple steps toward a life that feels good again.
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Why Your Divorce Recovery Isn't Working and How to Fix It
You’ve done the hard part. The papers are signed, the conflict is over, but you still don’t feel better. In this episode, Corey Shapiro explains why recovery after divorce can stall and what simple steps can help you move forward again. This is not about perfection. It is about rebuilding your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind.
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Are You Accidentally Letting Anxiety Turn into Anger in Your Divorce?
Are you letting anxiety or anger steer your divorce? In this episode, Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, breaks down how strong emotions can cloud judgment and damage credibility in court and co-parenting. Learn the difference between anger that explodes and anxiety that spirals inward, and how to pause before either takes over.
Corey shares a real-world example of how worry can snowball into serious accusations, and what to do instead to stay grounded and strategic.
If you want to protect your children, your peace of mind, and your case, this episode will...
When Your Ex Plays Games with Discovery: How to Protect Yourself
Corey explains what to do when you hand over your documents and the other side plays games with theirs.
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When Child Support Doesn’t Come In: How to Respond Without Hurting Your Case
They stopped paying child support, and Corey explains why blocking parenting time will only hurt your case.
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Escape vs. Take a Break: Which Divorce Strategy Works?
You love your kids, but sometimes you wish you could vanish. Corey breaks down the difference between taking a restorative break and making an escape that leaves lasting scars.
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Court Is a Tool Not a Therapist
Corey shows you how to distinguish between court-worthy problems and everyday disagreements, enabling you to protect your time, energy, and children.
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The Lawyer You Hire Can Save Your Family or Burn It Down
Corey explains why “shark” lawyers often leave families in ruins.
He breaks down the swarmer, the brawler, the boxer, and the top dog.
Corey shares the one question to ask before you hire any attorney.
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How to Respond Wisely When Every Button Is Pushed
Corey Shapiro breaks down one of the nastiest divorce games: serving papers at work just to humiliate. He shares how to avoid firing off a text you will regret and introduces a new 24-minute pause using AI to help you respond wisely, not wildly.
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How to Stay Calm When Your Ex Knows Exactly How to Get to You
Your ex knows exactly how to get under your skin, and that is no accident. Corey explains why reacting in the moment can wreck your case and how a simple pause can save your time, money, and peace of mind.
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Why Pausing During Divorce Is a Power Move
This episode is about why reacting in the heat of the moment can backfire. Corey shares how a simple pause can keep you from making a mistake that hurts your case, your co-parenting, and your peace of mind.
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Why Divorce Feels Like Groundhog Day and How to Break the Cycle
Forget spouse against spouse. Corey makes the case for treating divorce like a family system, not a fight, and shows why you may need to lead even if your ex won’t.
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When the Urge to Leave Isn’t the Answer (Yet)
When tensions rise, Corey shares why sometimes the smartest move in divorce is doing nothing at all.
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Why Clarity Beats Certainty in Divorce
Most people want answers in divorce; Corey explains why better questions matter more.
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When Two Good People Still Struggle to Divorce Well
What happens when both spouses want to divorce well, but emotions still threaten to derail the plan?
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When You’re Both Triggered: How to Divorce Without Escalating
When both sides are in operator mode, Corey shows how to stop the spiral before it turns into all-out war.
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When You’re the Only One Trying to Keep It Peaceful
Corey explains how to stay grounded when you want peace and your spouse chooses conflict.
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The Hidden Cost of Staying Stuck
Most people don’t need more legal tactics; they need a better lens. In this powerful episode, Corey Shapiro challenges you to stop spinning in circles and start asking the one question that changes everything: What am I trading that isn’t equal?
Because staying stuck isn’t neutral, it’s expensive. It drains your time, your peace, and your power. If you’re caught in indecision or obsession, this episode is your wake-up call.
What You’ll Learn:
Why thinking like an Architect, not an Operator, is the first step to clarity
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Don’t Confuse a Big Name with a Big Threat
A high-profile lawyer doesn’t always mean high-quality results. In this final episode of our Divorce Attorney Styles series, Corey Shapiro explains what a “Top Dog” attorney really brings to the table, why reputation can be misleading, and how to protect your case — and your budget — from intimidation theater. Whether you’re facing off with a name-brand firm or just feeling outgunned, this episode will help you stay strategic.
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Why some clients hire big-name attorneys they can't afford, and what happens next
The difference between legal skill and legal theater
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You're Not Losing, You're Lasting
If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?
In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.
You’ll learn:
What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)
Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noise
How to know if you...
Brawlers in Court: Own It or Expose It
If your divorce feels like a boxing match, you might be up against a brawler—someone who’s obsessed with one issue and won’t let go. In this episode, divorce coach and attorney Corey Shapiro unpacks the “brawler” attorney style: what it looks like, how it operates, and how to respond without getting knocked out.
Brawlers aren’t random. They’re focused, strategic, and exhausting. But there’s a smarter way through.
In this episode, Corey covers:
How to tell if you’re dealing with a brawler
Why one obsessive issue can drain yo...
Don’t feed the chaos: how to outsmart a swarmer in your divorce
If every message from your ex or their attorney feels like an ambush, you’re not imagining it—you’re dealing with a swarmer. In this episode, I’ll show you how to spot the tactics that thrive on chaos and keep you stuck in reaction mode. You’ll learn how to stay steady, shut down the noise, and make strategic moves that actually move your case forward. I’m giving you four clear tools—and one mantra—to help you stop feeding the fire and start taking your power back.
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When your ex’s lawyer is the real problem
Sometimes it’s not just your ex—it’s their attorney. In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the four types of divorce lawyers who fuel conflict instead of resolution—and how to stay steady when the other side plays dirty. If you’re months (or years) in and wondering, “Why is this still dragging on?”—this will help you get clear, get grounded, and start moving forward again.
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Divorce can take years. Don’t waste them.
Everyone worries about money. But what about the hours, months—even years—this could steal from your life?
In this episode, I unpack the real cost of conflict: your time, your energy, your peace. I’ll share five ways I help clients protect their calendar and their sanity—including how to avoid pointless meetings, use a 24-hour pause to regain control, and stop letting divorce drama hijack your weekends.
Because the longer it drags, the more it drains. And you’ve got a life to get back to.
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Time Is the hidden cost of divorce—don’t waste It.
Divorce can drag on for years—and no one tells you how much it will take out of you.
In this episode, I talk about why your energy is your most precious resource and how to protect it like a budget. I’ll share three simple tools I use with clients—movement, gratitude, and meditation—to help refill your tank and stop pouring yourself into every fire.
This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about staying strong for the moments that matter.
If you’re running on fumes, start here.
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I think my lawyer’s being honest. But I still don’t understand the bill.
Divorce is expensive, but it should not cost your financial future. In this episode, we break down three hidden traps that often drain money without you realizing it. You will learn how to spot billing abuse, understand the risks of attorney fee dynamics between spouses, and explore alternatives to open-ended hourly rates. If you are worried about how much this is costing or unsure if your legal team is using your resources wisely, this episode will help you take back control.
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Divorce torture comes in only two forms: fast or slow
Divorce is expensive, but not just in dollars. Emotional spending is what drains people the fastest. In this episode, we look at the real cost of reactivity, the difference between fear-based and faith-based decisions, and how to cut your emotional output by half. This is how you stop fueling the conflict and start protecting your future.
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how...
My divorce ended years ago. But it’s still ruining birthdays.
A divorce doesn't end when the papers are signed. Not when there are birthdays, graduations, and future weddings ahead. In this episode, we introduce the Divorce Budget, a four-part framework that helps you protect your emotions, finances, energy, and time. If you want to avoid decisions that drain your future, this is where to start.
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Surviving Divorce
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how divorce can derail even the strongest among us. My job is to help you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter. Let’s get you through this—stronger, clearer, and ready for what’s next.
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Turning Conflict Into Connection
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how divorce can derail even the strongest among us. My job is to help you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter. Let’s get you through this—stronger, clearer, and ready for what’s next.
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The Power of Small Agreements
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how divorce can derail even the strongest among us. My job is to help you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter. Let’s get you through this—stronger, clearer, and ready for what’s next.
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Emotional Divorce Judo
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how divorce can derail even the strongest among us. My job is to help you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter. Let’s get you through this—stronger, clearer, and ready for what’s next.
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Facts Don't Win Divorces
Welcome to Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind—the podcast that helps you stay creative, not reactive, during one of life’s most challenging transitions. I’m Corey Shapiro, a NYC divorce attorney with over two decades of experience. I’ve seen how divorce can derail even the strongest among us. My job is to help you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter. Let’s get you through this—stronger, clearer, and ready for what’s next.
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Divorce Fights Aren't What They Seem
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The Power of Nothing: When Inaction is Your Best Action
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