The Best Life Podcast

Is ChatGPT taking over the world? Is it making us dumber? Less social? Is it ruining our critical thinking? Nope! At least for us, AI programs like ChatGPT have been a powerful tool we’ve used to enhance and simplify our lives, and it’s certainly not a crutch. Being scared of the implications of AI makes sense, but ChatGPT isn’t a replacement for human interaction. If you use it well, it can make your life better than you ever imagined.

Is ChatGPT brainwashing us? [2:15]

ChatGPT is made to be kind to us...

Katy Perry went to space, and women everywhere rejoiced. Except that didn’t actually happened. Well, Katy Perry DID go to “space” but the rest of us were pretty unimpressed. There’s a lot of talk about what rich people should and shouldn’t do with their money, and while you’ll never hear us telling anyone how to spend their cash, whenever a celebrity does a stunt like this, it makes you wonder why, and what better things they could be doing with their seemingly unlimited wealth. Whether you think billionaires should be doing more or not, we think all of...

Getting older is already enough of a mind-fuck, and now Danny has to start adding dating back into the mix? Are you fucking serious? We thought dating in our mid-30’s was bad, but now it seems so much worse. People are lying about their ages left and right, men we don’t even know judge us on if we’re “fuckable” enough (like we even asked them), dating apps are full of meaningless connections, but looking for men who spend their time online is a brand-new ick we didn’t know we had. Dating has never been easy—well, except f...

The person you decide to build a life with is one of the most important decisions you can make, but also… Sometimes the person you once knew (or even the person you once were) changes unexpectedly. There are things we know now that we never could have predicted in our 20s and were getting married. When we picked our ex-husbands, we really thought we made the right choice, but shit happens and shit changes. Even with all the planning and foresight in the world, you can never predict how things will change, and putting pressure on marriages to be ei...

When you’ve travelled as much as we have, and worked from home for as long as we have, building an in-person community is harder than it looks. We have so many deep friendships that we love and cherish, but those people we love are often states away. That’s all well and good, except for the times when you’re in need, and you need the support of a community. It’s something we’ve taken for granted before, but as our lives change more and more, community is something we’re really craving. We’ll always love our online com...

What makes a good friend? Is it someone with lots of wealth, power, or status? Someone who can connect you with important people? Kind of sounds like a business colleague or mentor to us. When we think of the best friends we have, none of those qualities is at the top of the list. Friendships that are meaningful and lasting aren’t transactional. So, some people think that friends that are too busy to see you are “better,” but we think that’s bullshit.

Lashes and Love is Blind [1:45]

Moving somewhere new [6:03]

A t...

Have you ever had someone (usually an internet marketer trying to sell you something) tell you to “build a life you don’t need a vacation from”? It’s a nice little sound bite, but it’s not always practical advice. Once upon a time, we would have eaten that shit up, but now we don’t see why you can’t love your job AND need a vacation every now and then. Your job doesn’t need to be your whole life! Of course, you should never force yourself to do things you hate, but loving every moment doesn’t feel nec...

If men cared about their relationships with women, it would make sense to listen to what women have to say, right? Yeah, we know, sounds unrealistic. Mens work is important, but in this culture we live in, very few men listen to or even care about what women have to say. But we can’t force anyone to hear us and we certainly can’t force men to care—only other men seem to be able to do that. We’re hopeful for the future, but in the mean time, it would really be helpful if everyone just started going to...

Jill is newly and happily engaged, but her relationship hasn’t always been perfect. When it came time to decide to break-up or take the next step in the relationship, Jill and Keith made the choice to start working on building something even better than before. Today, Jill is sharing the 4 main changes she and Keith have been practicing that have made their relationship deeper. It takes some practice and might seem counterintuitive, but when you act in love, you feel more in love, and isn’t more love always better?

A history of over...

Sometimes we’d like to wave a magic wand and be miraculously healed from all our traumas and pain. Unfortunately for us (and you) we live in the real world where our pains demand to be felt and there’s not much we can do but to wait it out. There is one bright spot: just like in business growth, change happens gradually… gradually… gradually… and then all at once! So maybe we can’t wave a magic wand to get rid of all of our pains and be healed suddenly, but we can show up daily and keep trying new t...

We’ve finally arrived at “mid-life” and if there were ever a time to have a crisis, it’s now. It’s easy to get swept up in the fast pace of our lives and forget to ask ourselves what we really want, but there’s a lot of courage in knowing exactly what you want and being willing to ask for it. Nothing in life is guaranteed—not even life itself—so let’s enjoy it which we can, right Bestie?

Wanting a Big Life [1:33]

Have the courage to know what you want [4:36]

No one loves feeling like an Impostor, but there are some people who probably should feel like one. There’s utility in Impostor Syndrome—if you’re feeling it, is it possible that you actually aren’t that good yet? Do you actually struggle with your money mindset, or should you just not be charging that much for your services yet? Get a few more reps in and really start walking your walk, and then we can talk about Impostor Syndrome.

The utility in Impostor Syndrome [2:04]

Sometimes it’s not “money mindset” issue [4:07]<...

Everyone knows that if you dare to have a presence on the internet, you have to stay the same forever. Duh. Changing your mind and evolving as a person is a luxury allowed only for others and not for you! And while we’re certainly being facetious right now, there are many people who fully believe that, even if just subconsciously. As entrepreneurs with personal brands, we’ve faced pushback over the years when we start acting differently to the way we’ve “always” been. But look, Besties, we want this to be a long and meaningful friendship with you, so we...

Even for people who know everything there is to know about having a healthy mindset need to check themselves at some point. Sometimes, it’s exactly the people that “know better” that need help acting right, not just thinking right. Mindset starts with awareness, but awareness alone isn’t enough. Accountability, emotional regulation, and self-compassion are all just as important when you need to Mindset yourself.

Sharing your relationship on social media [3:10]

You know the mindset piece, now implement the behavior [4:58]

Awareness isn’t enough without accountability [8:55]

A pause betw...

Today, Jill is having a conversation with fellow fitness business coach, Nardia Norman. Nardia shares her journey as a trainer of personal trainers, how a personal health crisis led her to understand the unique needs of women in fitness, and all about the challenges faced by new online coaches in a saturated market. But not only does Nardia know her shit and talk her talk… she walks her walk too—Nardia is building a brand new business in real time, all while navigating career and life changes. Whether you’re a personal trainer, business owner, woman, or just a fan of...

This podcast grew out of some really shitty times in our lives, and since then we’ve learned a lot about how to deal with all that shittiness, especially when that shittiness is inescapable. No one wants to suffer, but the hard times happen and we feel better prepared to deal with them now. In the last episode, Danny J shared a bit about how she’s in a tough place right now, so today she wanted to share a little about how she’s sitting in the discomfort and making it through as best she can. It’s never a...

We’ve fucked up and started over and changed our minds so many times in this life that we lost count. In our younger years, we made a lot of decisions that we thought other people wanted us to make and when we wanted to do something different, we waited for someone to tell us it was okay before we acted. But here’s a tip, Bestie: it’s not your job to convince someone to “get” you. There will always be people who don’t understand why we make the choices we do, but instead of waiting for someone else...

Somehow, it’s a new year again and this time we’re feeling neither well-rested, nor excited to do it all again. It’s almost like the years start coming and they don’t stop coming. Wish someone could have warned us about all that. But even though we’re exhausted, we’ve got plans for 2025 that include both leaning in to and leaning away from social media and… getting married! With the bad things in life, good can always coexist. So even if we’re feeling shitty or sorry for ourselves a little, we can always celebrate love when we find it...

As much as we all love being petty (and you know we’re good at it, too) there is something to be said about being the “bigger person.” While the un-evolved versions of ourselves might like pointing out when Brenda is acting like an idiot, that kind of negativity never brought out the best in anyone. Whether you realize it or not, people are looking to you to see how you act. Are you proud of the way you handle conflict? Do you respond to situations rather than react? Maybe it’s less “fun” tone the bigger person, but the way we s...

Let’s normalize taking a break. Our society focuses heavily on constant productivity and hustling 24/7 but let’s be honest, it’s just not sustainable! Sometimes your creative well dries up or you just need a little more rest, and that’s normal. If you don’t make time for yourself, the universe might just force it upon you. Soooo… let’s just all take the rest of 2024 off, yeah? We're already doing it 😜

(This episode is a replay from November 2021.)

Is it okay to take a moment of pause? [0:46]

Sometimes the uni...

As the year comes to a close, there is a lot of messaging to keep going, to push through—to push harder, even. We’d like to offer up another perspective: chill the f*ck out. Jokes aside, we like to use December as a month to reflect on the past year and prepare for the next. Want to perform a 2024 audit? Here’s how we do it. (We do say 2021 in this episode, but hey, it still works for 2024!)

(This episode is a replay from December 2021.)

https://bit.ly/202...

Yes, food is fuel but it is so much more than that. Food is community and connection, and honestly, sometimes that shit is simply delicious. We used to be those kinds of people who weighed every ounce of food and cried if you asked for a bite—aka, we were obsessed and dysfunctional. Now we can share food without a second thought and it no longer has the same kind of power over us. If you’re stuck in an unhealthy relationship with your food, know that food freedom is possible! It takes a little mindfulness and a lot of p...

The holiday season is just around the corner and with the holidays comes a lot of stress, expectations, and obligations. Fuck that. Just because someone said you “should” spend the holidays with your family (who you might not even like!) doesn’t mean you have to! If it takes away from your peace and joy, it doesn’t have to be a priority. You may end up having a few difficult conversations and you may end up breaking a few traditions, but there’s always time to make some of your own.

(This episode is a repla...

We’ve been entrepreneurs for well over a decade now, and we know we have plenty of listeners with their own businesses or with entrepreneurial dreams, so we wanted to talk a little about the problems that come up in the course of doing business. It’s never fun when things go wrong, but struggle is sometimes the price we have to pay in order to meaningfully grow. You’ll never make everybody happy and you’ll grow resentful of your business if you even try, so it’s better to start viewing your problems as a sign of leveling u...

Is it just us, or is Black Friday out of control now? Less than 10 years ago, Black Friday was a one-day event where you’d slap a bitch at Walmart for taking the last flat-screen TV you wanted. Now, the entire month of November (and even into December!) we’re getting inundated with emails and texts and ads about every little thing you could ever dream of being on sale. We love buying things as much as the next person, but didn’t Black Friday start as a way to buy gifts for other people, and not ourselves? And aren’t...

Everyone’s been asking the same question for years: can men and women be friends? We see no problem with male-female friendships, but things feel a little more complicated when it comes to your partner’s work-wife (or work-husband for that matter). Being in a relationship doesn’t stop people from falling for someone else, but there are signs to look for and ways to communicate your feelings. Besides, do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel insecure? And if all goes wrong, there’s always the option of kicking someone’s ass.

Life is complicated and as much as we would love some straight-forward answers, it’s rare we get any. Lately we’ve been thinking about how our consumer habits might be harmful, and how to deal with trolls on social media in a healthy way. Whether it’s Amazon or Instagram, we can’t run from our lives and our society, so if we want to live the Best Life in this world we were given, we’re gonna need to practice some mindfulness in all the things we do.

Some thoughts on sustainability [0:43]

Feeli...

Somehow, this is a hygiene podcast now. It was never our intent but either we’ve jumped the shark, or our lives are filled with really stinky people. We were personal trainers once and one thing personal trainers run in to is lots of sweat, and lots of sweat tends to mean lots of stank. It may be an occupational hazard, but no one wants to work closely with someone who smells awful. Telling someone they smell bad is never fun, but it doesn’t have to ruin your relationship with them.

A stinky pers...

Pretty privilege is undeniable, but did you know that the more attractive you are, the more money you’ll make too? It doesn’t seem fair since our levels of attractiveness are pretty much fixed, but there are ways we can play up what makes us hot. People are always going to judge us for the way we look, so should we be focusing on looking hotter, just to make a little more money?

“Don’t be embarrassed, but…” [2:48]

Bad lighting and long chin hairs [5:09]

Pretty privilege in making money [8:00]

Is ther...

Did you watch the big fight? You know, the one between Mike Tyson and Jake Paul. We were never much fans of fighting, but it seems like the whole world was tuned in to watch Jake Paul get knocked out, but we didn’t get what we wanted. Some people claim it was rigged, while others claim it was unfair to watch a 27-year-old beat up an old man. Personally, we were just glad to get a night off from talking about the election.

Mike Tyson vs. Jake Paul [0:50]

How the match we...

Money matters, whether you like it or not. We believe that women deserve to make just as much money—and more!—as any man, and that wanting money is not a moral failing. After our marriages ended, it was more important than ever to be able to provide for ourselves, and we want the same for everyone. At the same time, we want to spend our money exactly the way we want to, while still living abundantly and generously, and of course getting to live a fun life that we fucking love. Money isn’t good or bad, but having...

Danny has a secret weapon in her relationship, and it isn’t therapy. It’s ChatGPT. When things get heated, communicating is hard! Luckily there’s a perfectly neutral third party who has the brains to put together exactly what you want to say. It doesn’t even have to be romantic relationships—Chat can help with professional relationships and friendships, too. If you’re stuck looking for the right thing to say, maybe try asking ChatGPT what they would do.

ChatGPT saved my relationship [1:07]

The right words to get what you want [1:45]<...

Relationships are tricky, and it’s normal to wonder what life might look like outside of the one you’re in. Things get even stickier when the person you’re with is the only person you’ve ever known. We had a listener bravely share her doubts and confusion surrounding her relationship and her feelings of curiosity about what lies beyond and we wanted to give this more thought. We all only have one life, and spending it less than satisfied only hurts us down the road, but is there a clear answer in a situation like this? Can you trus...

When you split from a long-term partner, there’s a real period of grief you’ll experience. No one ever goes into a marriage thinking that it’ll end, and when the unthinkable happens, it’s normal to feel lost and lonely—your world has been uprooted entirely, but life just keeps going on. So what do you do with your time when, for the first time in a long time, you find yourself single? We’ve been there, Bestie, and while it isn’t easy, there’s a lot of beauty that can be found in being on your own.

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Y’all know that we want to stay as healthy (and as hot) as we can for as long as we can, and a large part of that is our dental health. We’ve been taking our oral health seriously lately, and clearly, you need to hear all about it. But really, there’s nothing more humiliating than having ass-breath and as your Official Internet Besties, we needed to share our best teeth tips and tricks so you never have to worry about it.

Dental health hacks [1:09]

Our theories about mouth wash [5:15]

M...

We’re feeling a little chaotic lately, so we’re recording a chaotic episode for you today. We talk a little about the possibility of doing a retreat with all of our Besties, looking forward to our dogs’ extracurricular activities, and our favorite (and by that we mean our least favorite) subject—aging. Somehow, we just keep getting older, but we’re doing everything we can to cut that shit out. Maybe we can’t prevent ourselves from physically getting older, but we can guarantee our brains and energies stay sharp.

An intimate retreat with friends...

We know the internet is full of people who say shit they don’t even believe just to rile us up, but damn does it get to us sometimes. There’s a new wave of men out there that think women who are single over the age of 30 can’t be happy, and if you’re a woman, you know how bullshit that idea is. We LOVE men, but sometimes they really piss us off. Yes, being in a relationship can make us happy, but it’s not the only thing that makes us happy, and at this point we’s be ju...

Looks aren’t everything—but that doesn’t mean they don’t matter. But are you a bad person for turning someone away for the way they look? It’s normal to have physical preferences in a romantic partner, and of course you’re never an asshole for having them, but in our experience, for the right person, you’ll be willing to make some sacrifices on physical appearance. We’d rather look for a few really great personal qualities and a less than perfect body than a Greek God with the personality of a piece of cardboard.

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We love talking about relationships on this show, and that interest started with the upheaval we faced when our respective marriages ended due to infidelity. What we never realized was that that experience was a traumatic event for us—the kind of event that permanently alters our mental and emotional states. Dealing with betrayal and infidelity felt so lonely and isolating almost a decade ago as we went through it, but now there are people like Lindsay Haverslew, aka The Betrayal Trauma Therapist, who are normalizing and educating people on the real traumas of betrayal, and helping other people li...

Would you date someone with a history of addiction? We all have different feelings about addictions, and different histories with addictive substances. We don’t believe that struggling with addiction is a moral failing that makes you a bad person, but we do know that addictions impact relationships in big ways, and should be taken seriously. People who have addictions deserve love just like anyone else, but there are some parts of addiction that need to be taken into account when starting a relationship with someone.

Can you be “too old” to get married? [1:17]

H...