Transparently Speaking
We are Diana and Joy - two moms who each supported their children to transition in early elementary school to become their true selves. We are using our voices to reflect our child’s voices, and have navigated everything from family and friends, to health care offices and schools. We are here to share our experience and our learning along this transgender journey, to provide support and guidance, parent-to-parent, and if you find yourself on a similar journey, we want you to know that you are not alone. Beyond parenting, we are also excited about building a community of allies an...
3rd Annual Pride Letter (99)
In this special Pride Month episode, Diana and Joy share their third annual letter to LGBTQIA+ youth, families, and allies. In a year marked by escalating attacks on transgender and queer youth, they offer solidarity and support and speak to the fear, the grief, and the fierce love that define this moment. Pride is more than celebration — it’s resistance, resilience, and community. To our kids, and to all trans folx out there: You are seen. You are not alone. And we’re not going anywhere.
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Hormones, Surgery and How We Define Sex (98)
In this episode, Joy shares updates from her daughter’s recent endocrine visit—including conversations about hormone levels, breast development, and timing for potential surgeries. She also reflects on a powerful session with a legal coach that shifted how she understands disclosure, identity, and what it means to legally and medically define sex. Together, Joy and Diana explore how policies, procedures, and personal decisions intersect in the evolving landscape of gender-affirming care.
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Clark's call for support (97)
In this episode, Diana receives an SOS call from Clark and cancels her commitments to travel and support him. This episode explores Diana's approach to supporting him, and the layered frustration and fear resulting from our current sociopolitical environment.
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Courtrooms to Volleyball Courts: Preparing for What Next (96)
From a hard-won court victory to the uncertainty of college athletics, this episode moves through triumph, fear, frustration, and hope. Joy shares the emotional journey of changing her daughter’s birth certificate—and the questions that remain about safety, outing, and the future of sports for transgender youth.
Listen in as we explore what progress looks like when the path ahead is still uncertain.
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Greatest fear comes to life: the latest Federal Proclamation (#95)
In Episode 95 of Transparently Speaking, Diana and Joy share their response to the new federal proclamation, "National Child Abuse Prevention Month," which indicates that gender affirming care is child abuse. They also reflect on how they are choosing to show up and resist, each in their own way.
https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/04/national-child-abuse-prevention-month-2025
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Bathroom Bans and Travel Plans: Raising Trans Kids Today (94)
Spring break used to mean picking a destination based on fun and weather. Now, it involves scanning state laws and planning how to stay safe in public spaces. In this episode, we talk about how political shifts are changing everyday decisions for families with transgender kids—and how we try to hold onto joy anyway. We also share two court rulings that offer real hope.
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Unpacking / Understanding Trans Girls in Sports Legislation (93)
Join Diana and Joy as they reflect on continued national and state level legislative efforts, specifically transgender girls in sports. The key arguments offered by those proposing these bills are based largely on considerations of safety and fairness. In this episode, those considerations are explored and challenged.
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Meaning of a Name Fluidity: Balancing Advocacy, Privacy, and Protection (92)
What happens when a name becomes a risk factor? In this episode, we explore the emotional toll of parenting transgender children in a time of heightened scrutiny, the delicate balance between advocacy and safety, and the exhaustion of constantly weighing the risks of visibility. How do families decide when to speak up and when to stay quiet during a child's transition? And what does it mean to reset expectations with self-compassion in uncertain times?
Listen in as we unpack these challenges and consider what it means to protect, support, and sustain ourselves in the face of ongoing...
4 Executive Orders later… How are we? (#91)
Diana and Joy share how they are navigating their anxiety associated with the current political environment. Since the 47th President's inauguration there have been 4 Executive Orders focused on transgender people (youth especially). In this episode, join us to hear how Diana is setting boundaries in offering support to other families and how she is finding space for joy, and how both moms explore the concept of trust as they question the level of support they have from friends and acquaintances. Joy also shares her plan and path to resist, as her family continues to support Samantha to live and pla...
What Now? The Executive Order Targeting Trans Youth and Medical Care (#90)
The latest executive order banning gender-affirming care for anyone under 19 has sent shockwaves through families with transgender children. In this episode of Transparently Speaking, Diana and Joy share their raw and honest reactions—from shock and anger to the looming fear of what comes next.
How will this order impact hospitals, physicians, and the future of care for trans youth? What can parents do to fight back? And how do we protect our kids in the face of such overwhelming uncertainty?
This conversation is a call to awareness, action, and community. If you’re feeling lost...
Fears Coming to Life (#89)
As the inauguration looms less than a week away, Diana and Joy reflect on their biggest fears and how they are currently thinking and preparing to face challenges. After this recording was complete, the House Bill, "Protection of Women and Girls in Sports Act" passed 218-206; if passed into law, this legislation would amend Title IX to ban transgender girls and women from sports in federally funded schools.
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Preparing Our Transgender Families for January 20th (#88)
As January 20th approaches, many families with transgender children face uncertainty, fear, and the need to prepare for possible changes. In this episode, Diana and Joy discuss the steps they’ve taken to safeguard their children, including creating safe folders, updating documents, and navigating the current political climate.
They also reflect on the emotional toll of recent events, share moments of resilience, and highlight the importance of supporting organizations like Lambda Legal, ACLU, and NCLR.
For families, this episode offers a sense of solidarity and practical advice. For allies, it’s a call to action to s...
Catching up & Happy Holidays (#87)
In episode 87, Joy and Diana share key updates, including: Clark's first vote, Samanta's doctor's response to insurance denial and final decisions, navigating an inadvertent sharing of Samantha's medical procedure, and ongoing challenges with preferred names and pronouns at the Children's hospital.
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Reflection on episode #83: Letting Go of Clark (#86)
In this heartfelt episode, Diana & Joy reflect on Diana's recent conversation with Clark from episode 83, offering an intimate look into her journey as a parent of a transgender young adult. From the wisdom Clark shared about navigating disclosure and safety to the bittersweet experience of letting go as a parent, this episode explores the complexities of growth, identity, and love.
Diana & Joy revisit key moments from Diana's discussion with Clark, including his thoughtful advice for young transgender individuals, his awareness of challenges faced by those in unsafe environments, and his clarity about living authentically while setting boundaries...
Post Election Reflections (#85)
Following the 2024 Presidential election, Diana and Joy reflect on the results and share insights about their families' personal reactions and responses upon learning that Trump will be president in 2025. The discussion includes a reflection upon biggest concerns and how they are navigating next steps. Resources mentioned include a reference to Erin Reed's "Erin in the Morning" journalism and FreeMomHugs.org.
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Why Your Vote Matters: Voting, Misinformation, and Protecting Our Families (#84)
In the lead-up to Election Day, Diana and Joy discuss the escalating impact of political misinformation—particularly surrounding transgender rights. With personal stories and clear-eyed insights, they explore the emotional toll of anti-trans rhetoric in media, the role of misinformation in shaping public perception, and the essential need to vote. This episode is a call to action, encouraging listeners to make their voices heard, support truth over fear, and stand firm against disinformation. Diana and Joy’s candid reflections underscore how every vote impacts families, truth, and the rights of marginalized communities.
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Clark Speaks: Reflections on Transition and Identity (#83)
In this special episode of Transparently Speaking, we have a first-time guest: Clark. After sharing stories about him for so long, we are excited to present Clark's own voice as he opens up about his transition journey, his identity, and his thoughts on the challenges and triumphs he’s faced. Clark reflects on his childhood, discusses navigating life as a transgender man, and offers his insights on issues like misgendering, the importance of safe environments, and what he hopes for the future of transgender rights.
Tune in to hear Clark’s perspective on what it means to be h...
Navigating They/Them Pronouns (and family communication) (#82)
We're excited to invite Sophie back in Episode 82. Join Joy and Sophie in exploring parental roles and responsibilities in communicating preferred pronouns and navigating extended family understanding (in Alex’s case, in advance of a 1:1 ten day trip with their Aunt, who doesn’t yet know Alex is nonbinary). Also, in this episode, Sophie names her (and our generation’s) challenge in having minimal visible adult nonbinary role models.
Sophie also references a helpful book: A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns (Quick & Easy Guides), by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson. NOTE: Joy has several pronoun misses in...
Cancelled for the Safety of Transgender/Nonbinary Children (#81)
In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss the unexpected cancellation of a conference for families with transgender and non-binary children. Five days before it was set to occur, the conference was called off for security reasons.
They explore the implications of this disruption, the emotional and physical safety concerns it raised, and the broader societal context impacting transgender support events. They also examine the personal experiences of their own families, the resilience of their children, and the ongoing importance of advocacy and community.
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Values and boundaries (#80)
Diana shares a specific challenge she's facing as she discovers an organization she enjoys working with is not currently open to conversation around gender identity. Join us in Episode #80 as Diana and Joy explore how values drive boundaries and influence the ways in which we choose to engage.
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Navigating Club Sports as a (Non-Disclosed) Transgender Athlete
Join Diana and Joy as they discuss the ongoing journey of supporting Samantha, a transgender athlete, in youth sports. This episode explores the importance of maintaining Samantha's privacy while ensuring her right to play. Hear their insights and correspondence with regional authorities to navigate these evolving policies.
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Introducing Sophie and Alex (#78)
In Episode #78 we welcome a new voice and storyline to share another family's journey as they support their non-binary child. Joy introduces her friend Sophie, whose child recently named their pronouns as "they/ them."
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The Wounds Have Not Healed (#77)
In this episode, Diana shares a recent incident involving Clark with an organization they previously had to educate to ensure Clark’s equal rights. This new interaction sheds light on the deeper impact last year's events had on Clark and reveals that his wounds are still far from healed. Tune in to learn more about their ongoing journey in advocacy.
If you want a reminder of the events of last year, listen to Episode 52 from July 1, 2023: Celebrations & Adventures in Advocating
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Navigating Sleepovers (#76)
In Episode #76, Joy and Diana reflect on how gender identity (and nondisclosure of gender identity) has influenced their thinking about who, when and how their kids might spend an overnight with others. Join us to hear a broader reflection on sexuality and how we navigate the topic for our cisgender kids, too!
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Evolving Summer Strategies (75)
In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss how their approach to managing summer activities has evolved since their children first transitioned. They explore the challenges and strategies related to their children using gendered facilities, such as bathrooms and locker rooms, and share their experiences navigating summer camps. Additionally, they reflect on how their decisions regarding disclosure have shifted over time.
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Tradition... 2024 Pride Month Letter (#74)
Join us in episode #74 to kickoff and celebrate pride month! Joy and Diana share another letter of hope and love, dedicated to any and all who might benefit from being seen and supported.
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The "Big" Reveal (#73)
In this episode, Diana and Joy continue their discussion from last time, focusing on the book about a transgender boy that was shared in Dinah's class. It's an episode you won't want to miss, full of laughter and hope. Diana also shares a letter she wrote to the parents, which is a valuable resource. Tune in to hear Diana and Joy talk about navigating this "big" reveal and the reactions it elicited.
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Undisclosed: Navigating What Ifs (#72)
In Episode 72, Diana shares the details of a school-based scenario that’s arisen, and how she’s preparing for the possibility of Dyna disclosing his transgender identity. Join Joy and Diana as they explore what’s different this time (vs. with Clark & Samantha), and listen to their reflection on how gender identity disclosure may help or hinder success (e.g., in sports or music / the arts).
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Preparing to Let Go (#71)
Diana gives an update on preparing Clark to leave the house and go to school next year. Listen as things get real for Diana, as she realizes her feelings as she considers saying goodbye to her oldest child.
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Lets' talk about s3x (#70)
Join Diana and Joy as they share what's been holding them back from having conversations with their trans youth about intimacy and safe sex, and learn what they are taking away as opportunities for further conversation.
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Movin' Out (#69)
Diana talks about Clark's next steps after graduation and her feelings about them. Joy helps Diana explore what is coming up for her and provides perspective.
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Nex Benedict (#68)
Diana and Joy share their experience in discovering and navigating the news of Nex Benedict’s tragic bullying and death in Oklahoma.
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Navigating Athletic Eligibility (#67)
Join Joy and Diana for an update on the discussion with school district administration, as Joy pursues Samantha's eligibility to participate in the sport she loves. Listen to learn about an Endocrinologist's perspective on sex vs. gender, ongoing considerations for maintaining privacy in non-disclosure, and Diana's advice about how to set the tone in making requests for confidentiality.
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Trust in...who? (#66)
In this podcast episode (#66), Joy is getting ready for a meeting with her child's school district to discuss sports participation. The focus shifts to the importance of trust in the administration to safeguard her child's identity during this process. This prompts a broader conversation between Joy and Diana about the trust parents place in others, specifically in not disclosing their child's identity. The discussion extends to the broader theme of trusting others with personal feelings, emphasizing the delicate balance between openness and privacy when it comes to one's emotions and family matters.
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Support Groups (#65)
Joy, after many years, has returned to attending a support group. This leads to Diana and Joy reflecting on their experiences attending various support groups in Episode 65. They discuss the advantages and disadvantages of attending support groups.
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New Years Resolutions (key lessons learned in 2023) - #64
Join us in this episode to hear more about Diana and Clark's trip to Mexico in October. This episode is also a reflection and celebration of key learnings from 2023.
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Slow Down and Enjoy (#63)
Diana and Joy discuss their holiday traditions and reflect on what the first years post-transition were like. They share their advice and lessons learned.
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Giving & Receiving Support (#62)
In this episode, Diana and Joy explore assumptions, fears, and challenges in giving, receiving, and asking for support. The concept of support is in the context of anti-trans legislation that has been passed or proposed in many states. Joy and Diana articulate the impacts of proposed anti-trans legislation, even when not likely to be passed into law, and name the burden carried of navigating the news and risks our kids and families experience.
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Preparing for Family Gatherings
In episode 61, Joy and Diana talk about their experiences with how they approached family gatherings. They discuss everything from the tone of their presentation to setting boundaries.
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Legislation hitting our state (again) (#60)
In Episode 60, Diana and Joy reflect on the latest round of legislative bills being proposed in their state; one, named the “Help Not Harm Act,” is legislation similar to that which has been passed in 20 states. Also proposed is regulation around transgender participation in sports. Join to hear about Joy's reflection as Samantha continues to participate in competitive volleyball, undisclosed.
This episode references a few resources we encourage you to check out:
Powerful testimony by Representative Ryan Clancy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PqsFLWXKv4Skylar Bailar, transgender advocate and athlete: https://www.pinkmantaray.com/Chris Mosier...
