Self Kindness with Pete

Today's special episode is a live coaching experience with Nadeen Siddiqui.
Listen in as Nadeen gets coaching around feeling scared and experiencing disapproval. 
Where she ends up is more agency, more curious and lots of Self Kindness!

We begin with talking about this feeling of having a foot in two worlds, two identities - the old version and a new emerging version

Seeing her journey as being a caterpillar going through the cocoon experience into flight of the butterfly

And then noticing that flight feeling can be intimidating

I'm in conversation with friend and past client, Nadeen Siddiqui!

Nadeen signed up for Self Kindness coaching during the pandemic 
and has gone on to have some amazing experiences,
including what she calls the benefits of having relaxed shoulders and the ability to smile more easily ;-)

In this conversation we talk about:
The repercussions of speaking unkindly to ourselves

Beginning to find solutions 

Her experience of going through self kindness coaching

The difference between signing up for something like a gym vs signing up for a...

"Having fun is not just something that feels good, it’s also about trust, connection, & engaging with life!  Having fun is some of the most important work you can focus on throughout your day if you desire a life you enjoy!!"

I recently sent this daily reminder to my current client list b/c of the powerful impact simply focusing on having more fun in your life can have for you!

In this episode:
-Why it can be challenging to just have fun
-How to expand that self trust
-Engaging more with lif...

Right now is the moment to experience a life you love!
This episode is focusing on how to move "intellectually" understanding what you can do to FEEL better, to leaping into from wherever you are.
The leap can be BIG & LOUD or quiet and internal.

Today:

Let your life become better & better!

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This episode is here to plug us in!   
We're here to flow all the good into this physical world, open the tap and let it feel good!

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A different story will bring different results.
We're all telling internal stories, are you loving yours?

This episode goes right to how and why telling a new story brings different results.

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You are Safe.
It may not have been true at one point in your life, but right here and now, it's safe.
It's SAFE to let yourself feel good, right now.
It's safe to be allowing yourself feel good!

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Sitting on the beach, in central California, I ask a simple yet PROFOUND question:
"Can it be alright for me to feel good w/o needing the world to change 1st?"
YES!  In fact that is the path to everything I desire to have, be, do, experience in my life,
here's how it can work for you....

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Do you know how to create peace within yourself?
This is the podcast to begin doing just that!

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Weekly calls to cultivate a deep connection with feeling good and inspired about your own inner narrative!
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It's cool to notice that our dreams are actually WAAYYYYYY BIIIIGGGGG!!!
Let them have a life!   Look at how big your dreams actually want to be.
This mini-episode is here to help you feel safe in noticing their breadth and depth!

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Everything we want is b/c we believe in the having of it we will feel better
Life hack - go for felling better right in this moment first - don't wait for the circumstances around you to have to change first!

More Self Kindness:
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This episode: Fear is a crap motivator.  

When I feel fear, I rarely want to then go after what I think needs to get done.  
And fear as a motivator is almost always for something that I didn’t want to do in the first place or isn’t satisfying.  

Then why do I use it?  

Because other people used it on me to motivate me to do what they wanted me to do.  So, I witnessed from those experiences that it was a powerful motivator…for doing things I didn’t want to do.<...

What do you do when you're feeling squeezed in your life? 
The overwhelm, the too much and not enough time feeling, not seeing anything joyful on the horizon...
In this episode I talk about:
1st thing - Get out of the "trash compactor!"
2nd thing - Understand what the contrast in your life is growing within you!  (spoiler - it's better than you think!)

Drama happens b/c your brain loves to chew on things, so you can use this awareness to give your brain better things to chew on,
things that se...

How to move from where you are right now, ie: how you're feeling and what you're thinking...
TO
Arriving at where you want to be, ie: feeling better, thinking more capable, confident, connected thoughts!

We want to be feeling better: more lightness, more powerful, more capable, more worthy, etc
It's much more straight forward than you might think,
it just takes being dedicated to noticing where you are, and having the desire to feel better.

I give the example of how to use this process with money.
I also...

Every want you have is because you believe in the having of it you will FEEL better.
What happens if you go to FEEL better first?

Redefining old definitions that no longer serve you.
Choosing to "grow" without suffering.
How are you choosing?  Is it by default?  Fear-based?

Today we explore two (2) ways to choose with intention:
1 - Choosing thoughts that FEEL a little bit better
2 - Choosing to FEEL a better feeling and moving to that "vibrational" feeling inside of you.

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Are you allowing good into your life?  It happens moment by moment.

How to make small shifts to experience RELIEF and how that adds up to a good life, a great life!

Allowing things to be good and letting good into your life, bc we are so well trained to look for and expect things might good poorly.
Instead we can focus on piling appreciation upon appreciation.
Speaking to another who is in a challenging space w/o adding momentum to their challenges
Being an energetic and vibrational beings.
How my g...

Allowing the feeling of relief, enjoyment and grounding as a result of self kindness right in this moment, is something you can do intentionally.
By putting attention on any emotion you help to create space and dissipate the intensity.
What if you lived the belief that, "All of me makes sense!"
This is the difference between indifference VS independent, being intentional with experiencing inner self kindness

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Life is a journey that happens RIGHT NOW!
Are you enjoying the journey?  Do you LOVE the journey as it unfolds?

There are two (2) simple questions you can as in any moment, if you ask these questions, your life will radically shift!

1 - How am I doing right now?
2 - Do I want/ desire to reach for something different or reach for a little better feeling right now?  OR am I willing to continue to feel this "good" feeling?

In this episode we unpack how to do this, in your life.

Ready to expand your capacity to FEEL better?  YES!

New intentional thoughts have the power to create big shifts in our lives.
However, the mind has a lot of momentum with the old, default thoughts.

So in this episode I share how to begin incorporating the NEW thoughts (as I share and teach it weekly with my Self Story group members www.petesibley.com/story)

New thoughts like, "I can handle this." "All of me makes sense."
Witnessing your emotions NOT a representation of who you are as a person, but, a...

How can we deliberately choose feeling good more often, without the conditions of our lives needing to change?

Ask yourself what are you choosing in the moment, 
in this episode I discuss each of these choices:
Truth or Feeling Good

Go it Alone or With the Divine 

Past/ Future or Present Moment

Victim or Hero

Against me or For Me

Condition or Unconditional

Gain or loss

The quality of your life tomorrow is based upon the decisions you make today.

There is wisdom and knowing that ever human is born with.
Stress, worry and negative emotions are indicators of whether or not you are connecting to this within YOU.

In this episode I share a way I help clients to connect with this wisdom.
You are telling the story, make it a great one!

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We ALL were built to feel good - it's why we don't like feeling bad, and yet
we seem to believe it's more responsible to feel bad more of the time than feel good!!
WHAAA??!!!

Once upon a time you told a beautiful story about yourself, it's time to begin telling it again!!
this episode I talk about:
HOW TO allow more feeling good by following the simple guidance of what hurts and what doesn't
HOW TO remember your power with telling your story

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True self confidence is allowing good and joy into your life EVEN WHILE circumstances look they way that they do.
Maybe the situation has been challenging, but YOU can allow in good regardless,
And when that is TOP PRIORITY in your life, things change dramatically

today's example is around allowing in more abundance, but allowing in good can be applied to all of life's situations.
Every circumstance is positively affected by utilizing this natural ability

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In this episode I share a clip from a recent live talk I gave.
What happens when you experience your power?
What happens when you begin to believe a different and more empowering story about yourself?

In this episode I share two stories that are very different but point to the same truth:
You are the narrator in your life - don't like the story?  you can change it - and these stories tell you how!!

Tell it with more delight for you!  more joy, more worthiness, more ease ;-)

**NE...

The way you feel does not have to be a result of what you see.

And in fact, the way you feel can radically affect what you see.

What would your life look like if you were free from worry, uncertainty and even shame?

That's living in the unconditional and it's so much easier than you think, in fact it's who you are!!

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Self Trust is KEY to creating a beautiful and sustained life that FEELs like it's working for you.

Self Trust is locked in, through the action of BEING that which you desire, in the moment.

If you made it your top priority every moment to deliberately feel better, then you would experience life in a new way.  
As something that is here for you to create a life of your choosing.

Today's episode gives a first hand account of how to begin reestablishing your inner trust with yourself - which leads t...

You are capable of shifting your self story each moment.  
It is less about the zero to hero journey and more about the beautiful unfolding legacy you're creating!
It IS possible to be more deliberate about feeling good and joy in your life.

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We tell ourselves stories all the time,
the one we are most obsessed with is our OWN story.
all about: How things are working (or aren't working) in our lives.
How things are going, stories about how we look and why.
Stories about about our families, our career, other people, the world, etc, etc

In this episode I unpack exactly how being more deliberate about your narration is such a game changer.
This is coming from experience my friend, so you won't want to miss this one.

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We're going there today!   What is behind this thing we call LIFE and even better,
How do you directly connect, inform and co-create with it.

Welcome to the Greatest Journey of Your Life!

This might be too far out there for you, but come along if you're ready!!

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We've been taught that we need certain conditions to happen before we can feel a specific way.

This episode is all about FEELING what you want first, outside of conditions

What if you just felt good first - and then went about addressing the conditions of your life?
Or peace, or joy....FIRST!

How much more powerfully would you meet the conditions of your life?

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Letting go of the blocks we’ve put up

How we’re telling the story, that’s what we can let go of and see things rapidly change in our lives

The biggest take away from today's episode: 

 Letting go of the belief that there is something outside you that you need to learn, understand, adapt, get - that will “complete you”

Every tool, skill, experience that I’ve been through has really only ever revealed one thing: 

I already know this, I’m already tapped...

Did you know that you can change so much in your life, by changing the story that your are listening to in your own mind?

We each are telling a story every moment of every day in our own mind.  The story is explaining things, other people’s behaviors, what you need to do, making sense of the world around you.  It’s also throwing in critiques, past events, old beliefs in an effort to ward off any “unpleasantries” in your day.  

Thing is, these stories are mostly repetitive and they’re...

Now’s the time.

We know this intellectually, as a concept, we can wrap our brains around the idea.

Now is the time when we do, think, say, feel, experience, have…it’s got to be in this moment, right now.

And yet how often do YOU actually live that way?

In this episode How to bring yourself to be present in the moment.
How being present right now is the most important way to shift things in your life.
How Self Kindness is essential to assist...

How you create is how you ARE in this moment.

Again and again.

In this episode I share exactly how to set Your intention so that your attention focuses on where you want to go.

I explain, why it's more important to focus  on where you WANT to go, then focusing on why it's not here or why it's not working.
All to bring us to feeling connected, more at ease, more in our purpose!

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It's not a mystery to your deeper, innate knowing how to create and move towards your dream life,
the true mystery is how we've been made to feel so separate from that inner knowing.
You've the most delicious opportunity right now, are you ready to accept it?
We are born into the world as experiential beings, touching, feeling the world as babies and little children.
Then we move into being intellectual beings and coming to grasp advanced concepts with our brilliant minds.
NOW - the next step we're being invited into;
BLENDING the...

How having a glass door shatter in my hands then plunging in the cold Pacific ocean brought me back to my inner compass!

You can move from overwhelm to more connected and even joy by being aware of the signs and signals you are getting in the moment.
In this episode I will describe how I've helped many of my clients and myself grow this skill

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This IS how life really works!  Becoming aware of what you want, noticing your vibrational intelligence and then begin allowing the good into your life - this episode is all about how to do just that!

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Any shift or change in our lives begins with awareness, and noticing what is happening!
In this episode I'm sharing a client's experience of going from what she didn't want to what she did want.
It's all about connecting with your inner power to intentionally live.

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Too often we get caught up in thinking that something to our benefit (if it's outside of eating, sleeping, using the bathroom) is Selfish.

In this episode I'm going to clearly show you that what you thought was Selfish is actually, Self-LESS...while what we often tout as Self-less is really being selfish.  Why? 
B/c it adds more stress, worry, etc to the world when we DON'T tend to that which is causing stress, worry, etc within us.

We each have a self concept that we can deliberately and intentionally guide towards seeing mo...