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Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “Things are good right now… which probably means something bad is coming”? Maybe life feels calm on the surface, but inside you’re tense, waiting for the other shoe to drop. You tell yourself you’re just being realistic or not getting your hopes up, but the truth is, living with that mindset is exhausting. If you’ve ever struggled to actually enjoy a good season because your body doesn’t trust it, this episode is for you.

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Have you ever noticed how easy it is to slip into that “why does this keep happening to me?” mindset without even realizing it? One annoying moment, one tough conversation, and suddenly the whole day feels like it’s out to get you. Trust me, I’ve been there more times than I care to admit. In this episode, I'm unpacking how victim mode quietly shows up in our thoughts, and how to recognize it before it takes over. 

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You know those moments when your brain just won’t let something go? Maybe it’s a conversation you keep replaying or a worry that pops up on repeat like a broken record. I’ve been there too. If your thoughts ever feel like they’re running the show instead of you, this episode is going to feel like a deep breath. Let’s walk through it together. 

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Jessica

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If you’ve been circling the idea of healing, wanting change but talking yourself out of it, this episode is for you.

Today is the final day of the Black Friday 50% off sale for Untangle Your Thoughts, and I’m speaking directly to the woman who still feels stuck in fear, survival patterns, and emotions that feel too big to manage alone. 

In this episode, I’ll help you understand why you feel this way, what your body is trying to communicate, and why now—today—might be the moment you finally choose a different path forward. If...

Sometimes the holidays feel less like a celebration and more like emotional survival. For me, it’s been a tender season. It's been one year since my mom passed, and the emotions still run deep. Maybe you’ve felt that too - sadness surfacing when you were expecting joy, or overwhelm sneaking in while you try to stay present.

If that resonates, I want you to know something that can help. This week, my course Untangle Your Thoughts is 50% off for Black Friday, giving you tools to regulate your emotions, quiet spiraling thoughts, and experience real peace with God...

If you’ve been wanting change but feel unsure where to begin, this episode will speak straight to your heart. So many women feel stuck in spiraling thoughts, fear, overwhelm, and old patterns that keep repeating, even when they’re trying so hard to move forward. 

In today’s episode, I’m walking with you through what this “stuck” actually means, why it’s not your fault, and how real transformation begins with understanding what’s happening in your mind and body. 

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There was a season where I kept thinking, “If I could just hold everything together, maybe I wouldn’t fall apart.” But when things didn’t go the way I wanted - when someone pulled away, when life got messy - it broke something in me. I didn’t want to try anymore. I wanted to retreat, to make myself smaller, to stop caring so it wouldn’t hurt.

If that’s where you are right now (tired, done, unsure what the point even is), stay with me. We’re going to walk through what this moment means from both a bibl...

For the longest time, I thought my anxiety was intuition. I could always spot what might go wrong, so I assumed it meant I was being careful. But what I’ve learned is that the brain confuses hypervigilance for safety - it’s working overtime to avoid pain that’s already in the past.

In this episode, I'm unpacking why your body doesn’t always trust joy, how fear becomes a habit, and what it really means to rebuild trust in God one calm breath at a time.

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Maybe you’ve had a season where you didn’t even try to pray because you thought, “Why would God listen to me after everything I’ve done?” I’ve been there. I’ve tried to hide behind busyness, perfection, even faith that looked fine on the outside, but inside, I felt lost.

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when shame tells you you’re too far gone and how God’s pursuit is louder than your past. 

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Have you ever caught yourself gripping life with both hands, trying to make sure every detail goes exactly how you planned? You call it “being prepared,” but underneath, you’re anxious, tense, and secretly scared that if you let go, everything will fall apart.

In this episode, I'm unpacking why control feels so necessary, what it’s actually costing you, and how to begin shifting that heavy weight into God’s hands without fear of what might happen next.

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For me, the “what ifs” show up right before something new, something that stretches me. My heart starts racing, my chest feels tight, and before I realize it, I’ve built a whole story in my head about everything that could go wrong. It feels like planning, but it’s really fear trying to stay in control.

This week, I want to walk you through what’s actually happening in your mind and body when anxiety starts predicting the future and how shifting from “what if” to “even if” opens the door to peace.

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Ever catch yourself spiraling in the same thought pattern, rehashing what you said, what they thought, or what could go wrong next? It’s like your mind hits repeat, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to switch tracks. I’ve been there too, stuck in the loop of worry or self-criticism that steals peace and energy.

In this episode, we’re discussing how to step off the mental hamster wheel and invite Christ into your thought life, so your mind becomes a place of rest, not rumination.

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Do you ever pray and feel like your words are bouncing off the ceiling? You pour out your heart, ask for help, for relief, or even just a sign, and it feels like silence. The days drag on, the questions keep piling up, and you start wondering, “God, do You even see me?” That tension - the ache of feeling unseen while storms rage around you - is something I’ve wrestled with more times than I can count. 

In this episode, we’ll explore what it really means when God seems silent, why His quiet presence is actually...

Do you ever catch yourself saying things in your head that you would never say to a friend? Things like, “Why can’t you just get it together?” or “You should be over this by now.” For a long time, I thought that kind of self-talk was motivating me to grow, but really, it just kept me stuck in shame.

In this episode, we’ll talk about the difference between self-criticism and self-compassion in Christ, why the critic in your head is not the same as God’s voice, and how to begin shifting into a kinder, more Christ-centere...

Have you ever said “yes” when everything inside of you wanted to say “no”? Maybe it was helping out when you were already stretched thin, or agreeing to avoid letting someone down. That guilty tug you feel afterward isn’t proof you’re selfish - it’s often a sign you need healthier boundaries. In this episode, we’ll discuss how to set boundaries without guilt, how Jesus modeled them, and how they can actually strengthen your relationships instead of straining them.

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It can be confusing when your prayers are steady and your trust in God is real, yet your body still reacts like danger is near. Maybe your stomach knots up, your breath shortens, or you can’t seem to relax no matter how hard you try. That’s because safety isn’t just a thought; it’s something your body has to learn to feel. Today, I want to share five powerful ways to create that felt safety in your body, rooted in God’s presence and truth.

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Do you ever feel like you’re moving through life on autopilot - exhausted, tense, or numb - and you can’t figure out why? You’re praying, showing up, doing all the “right” things, but your body still feels like it’s bracing for impact. That’s often what survival mode looks like - your nervous system stuck in protection mode long after the real threat has passed. In this episode, we’re going to talk about how to recognize the signs, why it’s not a faith failure, and how God wants to meet you right in the middle of it.
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We’ve all heard it - “renew your mind.” It’s one of those phrases that sounds powerful on Sunday, but feels impossible on Monday when negative thoughts won’t quit. I know that cycle personally: waking up already discouraged, fighting fear before the day even starts, and wondering if I was broken because I couldn’t just “think positive.” What I had to learn is that renewing your mind isn’t about ignoring your thoughts or stuffing them down; it’s about inviting God into the process of noticing, naming, and replacing what isn’t true. That’s what we’re unpacking in this...

So often we think healing is supposed to feel light and happy, but the reality is that it can be messy, repetitive, and downright uncomfortable. The church doesn’t always give us language for this, and social media usually skips the hard parts, showing only the highlight reel of freedom. But real healing often means sitting in emotions that don’t feel good, practicing rhythms that feel too simple, and learning to honor your body as the place where God Himself dwells. In this conversation, we’ll talk about what healing actually looks like and why not feeling “good” doesn’t mean you’r...

Have you ever noticed how you can be praying, declaring truth, and reminding yourself of God’s promises, yet still feel fear sitting heavy in your chest? It’s easy to assume that means your faith is weak. But what if that fear isn’t failure, it’s simply your body’s way of saying, “I don’t feel safe right now”? In this episode, I'm unpacking how faith and fear can coexist, and why your nervous system often needs calm before your spirit can fully lean into trust.

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Jessica
 
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Ever had one of those days where you’re convinced you’re spiraling, only to realize hours later you haven’t had an actual meal? Maybe it’s not burnout or a character flaw - maybe it’s just that your body is running on fumes. The truth is, your mood, energy, and focus are all deeply tied to how (and when) you fuel yourself. In this episode, I'm breaking down how something as simple as blood sugar can shape your emotions and why even God built rhythms of eating and resting into the way we’re designed.

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I used to think peace was something I could force. If I just prayed harder, thought better, or pushed through, surely I’d feel normal again. But even in quiet rooms and calm moments, my body was buzzing. I couldn’t shake the edge, the restlessness, the sense that something was off. And for a while, I thought that meant I was the problem. But I’ve come to understand what felt like “too much” was actually my body asking for safety. In this episode, I'm talking about nervous system dysregulation, and why feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make you broken - it makes y...

Some people can see their anxiety. For others, it’s invisible, but it’s there. In the clenched jaw. The afternoon exhaustion that doesn’t match your calendar. The sudden wave of overwhelm in the middle of a normal day. You’re not falling apart - you’re carrying something your body hasn’t had a chance to release yet. In this episode, I'm talking about the kind of anxiety that hides in plain sight and how to start listening to your body before it reaches a breaking point.

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Ever felt a sting from something that seemed small, but your reaction was anything but? A missed call. A comment said in passing. A change of plans. You tell yourself, “It’s not a big deal,” but inside, it feels like one. That’s because sometimes, what pokes the surface is pressing on something deeper - rejection that hasn’t been named yet. In this episode, I'm going to unpack how unresolved rejection can show up as offense, and how healing that root can finally set you free from carrying hurt that was never yours to hold.

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Here’s the part we’re often afraid to say out loud: Sometimes the hardest part of pain isn’t the loss, it’s the way it shakes your view of God. You trusted Him. You prayed. You believed. And still, the relationship ended. The diagnosis came. The door closed. And deep down, a quiet question started forming: “God… where were You?” If you’ve ever felt that tension between faith and disappointment, you’re not alone. In fact, naming that wrestle may be the first step toward healing. Today, we’re going to gently uncover some of the hidden beliefs pain can pla...

You’ve prayed, you’ve quoted all the right verses, and yet your thoughts keep running wild. Ever been there? That frustrating place where no matter how much truth you speak over yourself, the fear or self-doubt just keeps circling back. It’s easy to feel like you’re failing spiritually, as if your faith just isn’t strong enough. But what if your struggle isn’t a spiritual weakness at all? What if your body’s just stuck in a survival loop and your mind can’t access the peace you already know in your spirit?
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Ever felt like your emotions are either locked in a vault or completely flooding the room? One moment you’re holding it all together and the next, you’re either shutting down or snapping. If you’ve been stuck in that all-or-nothing cycle, you’re not alone. Most of us were never taught how to befriend our emotions, only to control or avoid them. But emotional regulation isn’t about being cold or stoic, it’s about learning how to stay rooted when the storm inside starts to rise. I want to show you how to feel without falling apart and why God’...

You want to help. It feels noble - maybe even necessary. You’re the one who jumps in, figures it out, and holds it all together. And when someone you love is struggling? You can feel the pull in your chest, like you’re supposed to do something. But here’s the hard truth: sometimes our fixing isn’t actually compassion, it’s control dressed up like care. We’re not just trying to help… we’re trying to keep the peace, avoid the fallout, and prove we’re worthy of being needed. But that’s a weight your soul was never meant to c...

“I should be farther along by now.” Have you ever thought that? Like there’s an invisible clock ticking and you’re behind - emotionally, spiritually, even physically. Maybe you’ve done all the right things: prayed, journaled, listened to worship… but inside, you still feel raw. Worn out. Maybe even ashamed for not feeling better yet.

Friend, hear this: healing doesn’t have a deadline. And your progress isn’t measured by how quickly you bounce back. God isn’t frustrated with your pace - He’s present in your process. Let’s talk about what emotional pain really does to yo...

Do you ever find yourself stuck in the past, even when you’re trying to move on? Maybe you’ve forgiven, maybe you’ve prayed… but there’s a moment that keeps popping back up. A conversation, a betrayal, a memory you didn’t ask for, but it shows up anyway. Not because you’re dramatic or faithless, but because your heart is still holding the weight of it. That’s not weakness. That’s a signal. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t happen. It means learning how to revisit the memory, with God in it this time.

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Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things - praying, trying to trust God, maybe even journaling or setting goals - but you’re still stuck in the same place emotionally or spiritually? You’re not alone. A lot of us assume if we’re not moving forward, it must be a lack of faith. But sometimes, what’s actually keeping us stuck isn’t our faith at all - it’s a quiet belief under the surface that’s holding us back. Not something obvious, but something internal that needs a little more attention and a lot more grace.
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Ever feel like life is one big “on edge” moment, where you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Whether it’s because of trauma, stress, or even spiritual wounds, so many of us have lost our sense of safety - physically, mentally, and even spiritually. And when you’re stuck in survival mode, it’s hard to trust anyone - even God. But what if feeling safe again isn’t about changing your circumstances, but about learning to ground yourself in God’s presence right where you are? Let’s talk about how to start that process.

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Ever feel like saying no makes you a bad person? Or that being loving means being endlessly available? Well, you’re not alone. But when you look at how Jesus actually lived, you see something surprising - He didn’t say yes to everyone, and He wasn’t afraid to set limits. If you’ve been wrestling with guilt over protecting your time or energy, today’s episode is going to be a game-changer. Let’s talk about what real, Christlike boundaries look like and why they’re not just okay, they’re necessary.

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Jessica

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Today’s episode gets personal—and maybe a little uncomfortable. I'm talking about the lies we believe about ourselves—and the truth that sets us free. These aren’t just surface-level insecurities. They’re the quiet, unspoken beliefs that sneak into your mind when no one’s looking. Beliefs like “I’m too much,” “I’m not enough,” or “I’ll never get it right.” They don’t start as facts, but over time, they feel true—because they’ve been repeated in pain, shame, or silence.

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Today’s topic is one that hits deep for so many: “How trauma affects your view of God—and how to heal it.” In this episode, I'm talking about the connection between what you’ve lived through and what you believe about God. Because here’s the hard truth: trauma doesn’t just live in your past—it can live in your theology. But the beautiful truth is this: Your view of God may have been shaped by pain, but it can be reshaped by truth. 

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“Take every thought captive.” Sounds powerful, right? But let’s be real -what does that actually look like when you’re in the carpool line, the inbox is overflowing, or your inner critic is running wild before you even had your coffee? If your mind ever feels like a battlefield, this episode is for you. Because taking every thought captive isn’t about perfect mental control—it’s about gently, intentionally aligning your thoughts with God’s truth, one moment at a time.

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Ever catch yourself thinking, “Why can’t I just trust God already?” Like if you were more spiritual, more mature, or more faithful, this wouldn’t be so hard? If that’s you, you’re not alone. And you’re not failing. Here’s the truth I want you to carry into this episode: Sometimes your struggle to trust God isn’t a lack of faith - it’s a sign of a deeper wound. In this episode, we’re going to explore how your early relationships, past pain, and nervous system responses can impact your connection with God—and how healing trust is not...

Ever felt like you're doing all the right things—checking the boxes, showing up, pushing through—but deep down, you know you're running on empty? That’s not laziness, weakness, or failure. That’s survival mode. And God never meant for you to live stuck there. In this episode, I want to talk about what survival mode really is, how to recognize it in your everyday life, and—most importantly—how to step out of it with God. Because you weren’t created to just get through life. You were made to live it—fully, freely, and with Him. 

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If you grew up being told to “stop crying,” “toughen up,” or “just be grateful,” you’re not alone. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to mistrust our emotions or even feel ashamed for having them. But I want to shift that narrative today—because your emotions are not a spiritual failure or a sign of weakness. They are signals, not sins. Emotions are how God wired us, not something He’s asking us to overcome. Let’s break this down together—biblically, clinically, and practically—so you can start seeing your emotions as tools for healing, not something to hide.
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Have you ever felt like God was distant—like no matter how much you prayed, you couldn’t hear Him? Maybe deep down, you’re carrying unspoken disappointment or even resentment toward Him. It’s not that you don’t believe He’s good, but a part of you wonders, "If He really loves me, why did He allow these things to happen?" Without realizing it, we can hold judgments against God, using our pain as evidence that He isn’t trustworthy. But here’s the thing—God isn’t the one who hurt you. And rebuilding trust with Him isn’t about pretendi...