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Finding a good Dominant isn’t about rushing into a dynamic or ignoring red flags because you want to submit. In this episode, we talk about why self-understanding matters, how desire can cloud judgment, and what core qualities actually make someone a safe, ethical Dominant.

We discuss meeting people in the kink community, recognizing predators, using negotiation as a compatibility test, and why it’s okay if finding the right Dominant takes time. A practical, grounded conversation about consent, safety, and choosing power exchange that supports your well-being.

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This week, Dara and Rara are swapping notes from the road.

From packed classrooms to late-night conversations, they talk about the conferences they attended, the classes they taught, and the moments that stuck with them long after the events ended. It’s part behind-the-scenes, part honest reflection on what teaching and learning in kink actually looks like, and part “wow, I didn’t expect that about myself.”

If you’re curious about what really happens at kink conferences, how educators grow through the work they do, and why stepping into new spaces can change you, this episo...

We’re talking about the things no one told us when we first joined the kink scene. The good, the complicated, and the stuff you usually only learn the hard way. From community and safety to frenzy, vetting, identity, and self-advocacy, this episode breaks down what we wish we had known so you can move through kink with more confidence and a lot less guesswork.

Whether you’re brand new or realizing you learned some things sideways, this one’s worth a listen.

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This episode is our annual reality check. We’re looking back at last year’s New Year’s resolutions, being honest about what stuck, what didn’t, and what we maybe wildly overestimated. Some goals turned into real growth. Others turned into lessons. And yes, there was a little humble pie involved.

Then we talk about how we’re approaching the year ahead. Not with pressure or perfection, but with intention, flexibility, and a better understanding of who we actually are in kink and life.

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Can a power exchange really work if you’ve never met in person? Short answer: yes. Longer answer? It depends on how it’s built.

In this episode, we break down what online Dominant/submissive relationships actually look like, why people choose them, and what makes them healthy or harmful. We talk honestly about the benefits, the challenges, and the risks that don’t always get discussed until something goes wrong.

This isn’t a fantasy version of online BDSM. It’s a real conversation about consent, communication, emotional safety, an...

So many people try to label actions as Dominant or submissive based on how they look from the outside. But in real D/s dynamics, it isn’t the act that defines the role. It’s the intention and the power behind it. In this episode, we break down why the same behavior can mean something completely different depending on who’s driving it, and how understanding the why behind your play can build stronger, more confident dynamics.

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We’re diving back into the madhouse that is Reddit advice, where strangers ask wild kink questions and we do our best not to spit out our drinks while answering them. Expect giggles, good-hearted roast sessions, and the occasional “bless their heart” as we break down what’s actually good advice…and what belongs in the digital dumpster.

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It’s our annual Thanksgiving episode, and this year we’re taking a moment to slow down, reflect, and talk about what we’re truly grateful for. From the growth of our Pink Kink community to the personal lessons, connections, laughter, awkward moments, and meaningful conversations that shaped our year, we’re sharing it all. This one feels especially real and heartfelt, and we hope you’ll feel seen in it too.

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Kink can do more than turn you on. It can help you calm your mind, process emotions, and feel grounded again. In this episode, we talk about how kink becomes a coping tool, why it works, and the difference between healing and avoiding.

We cover both pain and non-pain ways kink helps with stress, connection, and emotional release, plus a few signs to watch for if play starts replacing real support.

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Feeling safe in a dungeon isn’t as simple as having rules on the wall. In this episode, we dig into what really shapes safety in kink spaces, from strong leadership and active dungeon monitors to the messy reality of consent culture and human behavior. We also share stories from our patrons about the dungeons that made them feel protected, the ones that failed them, and how personal history, identity, and community culture all play a role in how safe a space feels.

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We’re back with another round of Niche Kinks and this time we pulled inspiration straight from our episode on America’s Top Fetishes. These were the kinks people kept asking about, the ones we didn’t have time to unpack, and the ones that genuinely surprised us.

Come hang out with us while we explore the weird, wonderful corners of kink and talk about why the niche stuff is usually the most interesting.

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Inspired by the chaos at Sinners & Stardust, this episode takes a hard look at what happens when fantasy goes too far. From groping and flashing to tracking and harassment, we’re breaking down why fictional kinks never excuse real-world violations — and why consent still matters, even at cons.

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“Submissive training” gets tossed around a lot in kink—but when Dominants use it as a control tactic or sales pitch, it stops being education and starts being manipulation. In this episode, Rara and Dara break down why Dominant-led training can be harmful, how predators exploit new subs who just want to “get it right,” and why coaching is teaching—so those offering it need to own that role responsibly.

They also share healthier, collaborative ways to learn and grow in your dynamic. Because real training should build confidence, not dependence.

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Not all kink happens in public spaces—and that’s perfectly valid. While dungeons, play parties, and community events are one way to experience BDSM, many kinksters explore power exchange, sensation play, and ritual entirely in private. In this episode, we unpack the stigma that sometimes surrounds at-home kink and explore why public visibility isn’t the only way to be “real” in this lifestyle. Whether you're private by choice, circumstance, or necessity, we’re here to remind you: your kink counts too.

Romance novels make kink look so easy—instant trust, flawless scenes, and zero talk about limits or lube. But real life doesn’t come with an editor. In this episode, we break down what’s fantasy versus reality and explain how to take what you read and bring it to life safely.

We’ll talk about scene negotiation, bratty play, punishments, aftercare, and all the practical things your favorite books tend to skip. Learn how to turn those spicy pages into real-world experiences built on consent, communication, and trust.

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Our birthday bash was one for the books! In this episode, we’re spilling all the details from our birthday scenes—what we set out to do, how we challenged ourselves, and the goals we crushed along the way. Expect plenty of laughter, some surprising moments, and maybe a few outrageous confessions. Because nothing says “happy birthday” like celebrating with a little (okay, a lot of) kink.

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We’re joined by Alicia M. Walker and Arielle Kuperberg, authors of Bound by BDSM: Unexpected Lessons for Building a Happier Life. Their groundbreaking book dives into the ways BDSM can teach us about trust, communication, vulnerability, and joy — lessons that extend far beyond the dungeon.

We talk with Alicia and Arielle about what inspired their research, the surprising truths they uncovered, and why mainstream conversations about kink so often miss the bigger picture. You’ll hear how BDSM practices can foster deeper intimacy, improve relationships, and even reshape how we approach everyday life.

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This episode is a deep dive into our personal journeys through the lifestyle. We’re answering 20 journaling prompts that explore how kink has shaped us, challenged us, and helped us grow.

From scenes that changed the way we play to beliefs we had to unlearn, we’re reflecting on what it really means to become yourself through kink. Some lessons came through trial and error. Others through joy, community, and pushing our edges.

If you're curious about what experience actually looks like over time, this one is honest, raw, and...

Kink isn’t just about play — it’s stress relief, identity, and connection. But what happens when life throws up walls and you can’t engage the way you want? In this episode, we talk about the realities of dry spells, why they happen, and the emotional toll they can take. We’ll bust the myths that make people feel “less kinky” when they can’t play, and share creative coping strategies to keep your dynamic alive during times of stress, illness, family obligations, money struggles, or burnout. Because kink isn’t a tally of scenes — it’s who you are.

From tickling in Florida to vore in California and cuckolding in Texas, this episode takes you on a kinky road trip through the most-searched fetishes in every U.S. state. Based on recent studies by FetishFinder and Clips4Sale, we break down what each fetish is, where it’s most popular, and what regional patterns might reveal about our private desires.

Some results are expected, some are hilarious, and a few are just… huh.

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Are you just going through the motions in your kink life? Feeling disconnected, uninspired, or like you've hit a plateau? This episode is your wake-up call.

From navigating intense scenes to watching others step into their fears for the first time, this episode explores why self-challenge is essential in kink and how it can reignite your passion, deepen your dynamic, and reconnect you to the parts of yourself that crave more.

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Have you ever felt like someone only wanted you for your kink? Like you didn’t matter—just what you could do for them? In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to be treated like a kink dispenser. We’ll look at how it happens, what it feels like, and what to do if you’re on either side of the issue. You’ll get tips, scripting, and real talk on how to set better boundaries and build stronger, more connected kink relationships.

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Poly Littles can mean twice the fun, twice the Caregivers, and sometimes twice the crayons on the floor. In this episode, we explore the unique joys and challenges of polyamorous dynamics that include Littles—whether that means multiple Caregivers, multiple Littles, or both. We’ll talk about balancing different caregiving styles, keeping rules and routines clear, and making sure every relationship feels valued. Expect stories about shared playdates, overlapping snack times, and the occasional tug-of-war over stuffies. We’ll also share strategies for communication, avoiding favoritism, and creating a safe, happy space for everyone involved. This is poly life with a...

Can a submissive say no to their Dominant and still be in service? Absolutely. In this episode, we’re challenging the outdated idea that submission means saying yes to everything. Instead, we explore how setting boundaries, speaking up, and honoring your own needs are essential parts of a healthy D/s dynamic.

Saying no isn’t disobedience—it’s a powerful act of self-awareness that builds trust, reinforces consent, and protects both partners from burnout and resentment. You’ll learn why submission isn’t about automatic obedience, but about making intentional, informed choices in service of t...

Consent is the foundation of kink—but it’s not the finish line. In this episode, we dig into why “they said yes” shouldn’t shut down deeper conversations about safety, risk, and responsibility. What happens when a scene is so dangerous it could affect more than just the people involved? And who, if anyone, gets to decide what’s too much? Let’s talk about consent, community standards, and the cost of turning recklessness into a punchline.

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Being a Top isn’t just about giving orders or holding the crop—it’s about holding responsibility. In this episode, we’re digging into what it really means to lead with care in kink. From medical safety and emotional well-being to ethical decision-making and community accountability, we’re calling in all Dominants, Tops, and handlers to step up and do better.

We’ll break down why “they consented” isn’t always enough, why jokes about dangerous play can harm more than reputations, and how to actually earn the trust your role demands. This one’s packed with...

Feeling drained by your kink life? In this episode, we talk about what burnout looks like in the BDSM lifestyle, how to spot the signs, ways to prevent it, and how to come back from it. If kink is starting to feel like a chore, this one’s for you.

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What happens when abuse is disguised as kink? In this episode, we unpack the disturbing trend of powerful people—like Diddy and Marilyn Manson—using BDSM as a cover for coercion and control. We break down why that’s not kink, how it harms the community, and what ethical BDSM actually looks like. Spoiler: consent isn’t optional.

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When do you tell someone you’re kinky? On the first date? After sex? Six months in?

In this episode, we break down the pros and cons of revealing your kink at different stages of dating, how to know when you’re ready, and tips for having that conversation with confidence. There’s no one right answer—but we’ll help you find yours.

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Who says you need a Caregiver to enjoy Littlespace? In this episode, we’re busting the myth that Littles need a Daddy, Mommy, or CG to feel valid. We explore the beauty of peer-based Littlespaces—where Littles support each other through creativity, connection, and care, without formal power exchange. From craft nights and snack rotations to setting healthy boundaries and avoiding burnout, this episode is packed with ideas, emotional insights, and real talk for Littles looking to build their own village.

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What makes a kink “extreme”? And why does that word cause so much harm?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the myth that certain kinks are more real, more intense, or more valid than others. Whether your play leaves bruises or just leaves you breathless, your kink counts. We’ll explore the hidden hierarchies in the kink world, why emotional intensity matters just as much as physical, and how to stop comparing your edge to someone else’s.

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Inspired by a post on FetLife and real conversations with kinksters, this episode explores why both Dominants and submissives need clear, affirming rights in BDSM. We walk through the Submissive’s Bill of Rights and the Dominant’s Bill of Rights—not as rules, but as tools to support autonomy, respect, and consent in power exchange.

Because no matter your role, your needs, boundaries, and voice matter.

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CG/L dynamics are deeply personal and emotionally rich. They can offer comfort, structure, play, and healing—but only when built on a foundation of consent, communication, and respect. From bottle feeding to bedtime routines, from emotional support to power exchange, caregiving in kink is never one-size-fits-all. And it definitely isn’t just about being sweet and cuddly. In this episode, we’re digging into what healthy CG/L dynamics really look like, how to avoid common caregiving mistakes, and why consent, boundaries, and mutual respect matter more than cute rules and nap times.

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Get ready to crack into the world of Spankos! In this episode, we’re joined by the legendary Miss Chris—Professional Disciplinarian, BDSM educator, and all-around badass—to take us deep into the Spanko community. We talk about what defines a Spanko, the unique appeal of spanking as a kink, and how this corner of the kink world builds trust, connection, and sometimes very sore bottoms.

Miss Chris shares her journey, her insights on the psychology of spanking, and some of the common misconceptions about Spankos. Whether you're curious, confused, or already clutching your favorite paddle, this episod...

Who comes first in a D/s dynamic? The Dominant? The submissive? Their needs? Their wants? In this episode, we’re digging into the D/s Hierarchy of Needs—a framework that helps make sense of how to prioritize care, safety, and power in a consensual exchange.

We’ll explore what qualifies as a need versus a want, how to tell the difference, and why getting this balance right is essential for a healthy and thriving dynamic. Expect real-life examples, a dash of humor, and a few spicy truths kinksters don’t always want to hear.

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We’re sharing our strong (and spicy) opinions on the all-too-common idea that Dominants should “break” their submissives. Hint: we’re not fans. We’ll dive into where this harmful mindset comes from, why it shows up in kink spaces, and the real damage it can cause. Plus, we’ll talk about what ethical, empowered D/s actually looks like—because submission isn’t something to destroy, reshape, or control.

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We’re turning up the voltage and diving deeper into electro play! Dara’s absolutely buzzing to explore the three electrifying styles—sensual, sadistic, and sexual—and share how each one charges up your scenes in totally different ways. From teasing tingles to shocking surprises to hands-free O’s, we’re breaking it all down with new tips, tools, and zappy scenarios.

This isn’t just a kink—it’s a whole circuit board of fun. Plug in, tune in, and get ready to find your favorite frequency.

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It’s time to get wet and wild—literally. In this episode (affectionately known as The Wetpisode), we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and controversial kinks out there: watersports. This is a topic that brings out very strong opinions, and we get it—it’s not for everyone. But that’s exactly why it deserves a closer look.

We explore the emotional, physical, and psychological appeal of watersports by hearing directly from kinksters who enjoy it. They share what draws them to it, how it fits into their play, and why it’s about s...

We're back with another fan-favorite In The News episode, and this one is packed with deliciously kinky chaos. From a steamy music video dripping in BDSM visuals to articles diving into DD/lg dynamics, modern vampirism, and the age-old question—why are people so horny for monsters? We’ve got thoughts, opinions, and our usual blend of education and sass. Grab your headphones and your holy water—this one's a wild ride.

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Dominance isn’t just about giving orders—it’s about leading with skill, intention, and heart. In this episode, we’re unpacking the essential tools every Dom should have, like clear communication, creative scene planning, emotional awareness, and the ability to check your ego when it matters most.

Packed with real talk, personal stories, and plenty of laughs, this episode is your guide to leveling up your dominance and building stronger, more connected dynamics.

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