Riffing On Realness™
Welcome to the Riffing on Realness™ podcast. I’m Carla Royal, a mindset and performance coach working with high achieving entrepreneurs, and with me is Jennifer Flynn, an intuitive business strategist. If you are wrestling with how to be real in the midst of rampant superficiality and it’s causing you to overthink, be too guarded, and not live your potential, then you are in the right place. In this podcast, Jennifer and I explore how, dropping the masks, being real and vulnerable, can help us connect, adapt, and find a richness of experience amid the chaos.
Uncertainty and Self Doubt
Listen for These Key Points:
cultivating your own internal compassexploring what to do when we feel our compass needs recalibratingthe value of staying in the present moment vs living in past or futurehow we must balance internal and external feedbackwhy perspective is a valuable calibration toolwhere there is a healthy place for black and white thinkingthe importance of having access to your own wisdomremembering that the only person's job it is to save us is our ownCONNECT WITH CARLA
Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly...
The New Work World
How less oversight impacts creativity….and distractionLearning how our messages can be translated to a broader audienceCreating connection in an online worldThe negatives and positives of the new work worldThe distractions of working from homeHow to have boundaries when working from homeThings that can tank our productivityThe important keys to successful work from home experiencesEnsuring that we don’t make transitionary situations our natural stateThe role of resilience and flexibilityHow our values have shiftedTools to help us get the most out of our day
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Dealing with the Doldrums
Right and left-brained thinking and how it impacts our interest and focusThe value of being grounded in the worldHow assessments and tools can help us better understand ourselves (and which ones we like)The paradigms of structure and discipline and the flexibility required within themWhy discipline can be nuanced and does not have to be as black and white as we all might thinkThe gifts of embracing how you are naturally wired and using your strengthsHow the seasons and the cycles of nature can impact usHow a temporary shift in environment can be key
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Anger, Betrayal, Boundaries
Listen for these powerful truth bombs:
When we can go overboard and take TOO much responsibility for our role in a situationHow it's appropriate to place anger at the feet of people who do harmEverything is not black and white right and wrong….and the skill required to tease out the greyWhy anger is a positive emotion and useful in giving us the energy needed to make necessary and important changesEvaluating our own paradigms, thought processes and lenses through which we look, and change filters where neededThe dark side of personal responsibilityHow being quick to take responsibility is so...Integrity and Wholeness
Listen for these insights:
The win win, the win lose, and the lose loseWhy integrity is not just about telling the truth or being honestWhat do we do when challengedWhat is required to keep ourselves whole and in integrityWhat happens when do fail to honor agreementsCollateral damage and considering the one vs the manyThe necessity to widen our perspective and reflect on each situation individually without black and white rigidityWhy many people don’t do the deep reflection on thisWhat allows us to create and maintain wholenessWhat if it wasn’t about creating win win…but rather creating connec...Banning Banishment
Listen for these insights:
How when we feel the need to banish we can pattern interrupt and open instead of contract and defendWhen a small ‘prayer’ can helpWhy we need to stop contracting and defendingThe necessity of self-trustWhy expansion allows us to also extend our vision and perspectiveVulnerability and its roleHow control and vulnerability cannot exist at the same timeThe of asking the deeper questions and getting curious about our own thoughts feelings and triggersWhat is required to healWhat happens if we don’t healHistory and its repetitions…how we tend to save things for laterHow can we meet the...Next Steps Are Always There… When We Are
Listen for these discoveries and insights:
Why it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a sick societyHow we are tricked into thinking we always have to know the answer, the way to go and what to doThe gift in not just getting comfortable with the not knowing…. but EMBRACING the not knowingThe gold of sitting in the not knowingHow to trust that the next step is revealed.The lessons the caterpillar has for usHow to relax into the process and not rush through itThe importance of allowing yourself to BE in the in-betweenWhat a ‘lack...Stuck!... But Are You?
Listen for expansion on these thoughts:
The gifts of the dark night of the soulHow watching others struggle is sometimes more difficult than our own struggleHow do we know when WE are ready?How do we know when OTHERS are ready?Why the struggle is necessary for the growth and strength for the next stepsListen for a lovely and poignant open from RumiAcknowledging when suffering is present andEmotions are like storm clouds.Why both the shadow and the light are requiredThe spectrum is different for everyoneWhy exploring the range is important to finding out what we're capable ofWhy g...Grinding it Out
Listen for these ah-has and thought nuggets:
Becoming physically aware of our bodies inability to grind in perpetuityThe awareness required to listenThe external search for worthiness and acceptanceKnowing your innate wiring and driveKnowing our limitsKnowing our triggersHow to tune inAsking for help and our bullshit stories about being a burdenFinding the balance between when to push and when to restIt takes a villageHow we have become disconnected from ourselves and thusly one anotherThe importance of remembering who we areShowing up in imperfectionThe value of presence
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Nothing to Lose
Epiphanies include:
The illusions of safetyWhere these illusions come fromThe meaning of life and other questionsHow we create meaningThe stories we createMoving from despair to inspired and empoweredThe gifts of collapse and how it’s necessaryThe illusions of limit and confinementThe value of bearing witness to the struggle of othersHow growth often starts in the dark places and from decayWays to come alongside and support one another betterThe lessons in our discomfort with other peoples painCONNECT WITH CARLA
Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with to...
