Mastering The Second Half Of Life

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By: Rick Higgins

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health. But it's actually far more than that. Hosted by Rick Higgins, the YouTube channel (and podcast!) highlight opportunities and examples of living the best we can after a certain age. https://www.youtube.com/c/MASTERINGTHESECONDHALFwithRICKHIGGINS

Defining YOURSELF in a RELATIONSHIP - You Are More Than JUST A COUPLE
Last Saturday at 9:00 PM

So, you're in a relationship.  Are you still you?  And if not, where are you hiding the old you?  I'll bet they're pretty cramped inside that box.

In today's episode, we're looking for the line between self and couple.

“The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other ... but don’t want to.”  — Harriet Lerner 

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Ho...


Was Breakfast Cereal Invented to CURB SEX? - And Other Wacky Backstories
Last Thursday at 5:00 PM

Your morning bowl of Corn Flakes was originally invented as an "anti-masturbatory morning meal" to reduce the urge to pleasure yourself.

Seriously! The bland cereal was actually designed to put people off sex and to discourage them from pleasuring themselves, according to the book from Kate Devlin, Turned On: Science Sex and Robots.

Apparently, John Kellogg (he of Kellogg's cereal fame, a physician, and a very devout Seventh-Day Adventist) believed that a plain and healthy diet was the key to curbing masturbation.

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50...


Who INITIATES SEX and Why It Matters So Very Much
04/08/2021

Guess what?  Men love to be asked for sex.  It's true!  Really!  We do.  And I'm going to tell you both the how and why.

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Hosted by Rick Higgins, the channel (and podcast) highlights opportunities and examples of living the best we can after a certain age.

Relationships, Sexuality, and Life 
Inspiration, Motivation, and Experiences

LIFE COACHING: http://rickhiggins.com/coaching
COMMUNIT...


TOO LOW MAINTENANCE In Your Relationship? When Does Easy-Going Turn HURTFUL?
04/05/2021

Low maintenance people are great, right?  Well yea ... unless they're not.  It is possible to be TOO low maintenance.  Today we're going low-fi.  Low maintenance.  We're going to be exploring the 'sure, whatevers' of relationships ... and seeing where the line is between good and not so good.

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Hosted by Rick Higgins, the channel (and podcast) highlights opportunities and examples of living the best we can...


Does RETIREMENT Require A DIFFERENT HUSTLE? Lessons From Another Generation
03/30/2021

Remember the days of working for a single company your entire life? Job security. Pension plans. Yea. Well, there is another way. And it comes to us via millennials.

Today ... the gig economy.  Or learning how to have diverse income streams replace a single paycheck ... and actually give us more financial security.  Assuming, we're willing to work for it.

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Hosted by Rick Higgins, the channel (and podcast) high...


How Did KISSING Start? - The Answer Is A LITTLE WEIRD
03/27/2021

It has been reported that you will spend 20,160 minutes of your life kissing.  That's a lot of lip time.  And it's going to require a lot of Chapstick.  Let's take a look at some fun facts and see why we even do this in the first place.

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Hosted by Rick Higgins, the channel (and podcast) highlights opportunities and examples of living the best we can after...


Misogyny - Why Are WOMEN FIGHTING AGAINST WOMEN? - Can Our Generation Help?
03/11/2021

This is not an "Aha! Here's something you should know" kind of video.  It's more of a "What The ... ?" kind of video.  I'm simply flabbergasted at something I found and I needed to share it.  What is it, you say? 

A few weeks ago I was researching YouTube and I found a bunch of examples of not-quite-hidden misogyny channels.  But what surprised me most was ... the number of channels run by women, aimed at women, who didn't really seem to like or respect women.  

Have you seen these things?<...


Learning From BAD HABITS - Like Cigars and Quickie Sex - It's Time To SLOW DOWN Folks
03/09/2021

I saw a short video the other day from Steve Harvey titled 'Why I Smoke Cigars'.  And it made sense, in a weird, unhealthy way.  His basic reason is to slow down.  You can't smoke a cigar fast.  You have to devote time to it.  Which means everything else can wait.

Is there a lesson here?

Mastering The Second Half is an Over-50 Lifestyle Channel which focuses primarily on Relationships and Sexual Health.  But it's actually far more than that.  Hosted by Rick Higgins, the channel (and podcast...


The EMOTIONAL HEALTH of Single and Divorced Men (Sorry Guys, But We Need To Talk About This)
03/06/2021

Gentlemen!  I know I know.  We don't talk openly about emotions.  But we need to for a bit.  You'll understand about halfway through this video when you suddenly realize I'm talking about you.

Guys who are single, separated, or divorced, have higher rates of mental health issues compared to married men and single women.  So says the research, anyway.  A recent study showed that unmarried men who were aged 40-60 were 3.5 times more likely to die by suicide when compared to both married men of the same age and unmarried women...


How OFTEN Should You HAVE SEX? - The Truth About SEXUAL FREQUENCY
03/01/2021

When it comes to sex and sexual frequency, how often is too often?  Or not often enough?  Sure, it's our nature to compare ourselves to others.  Are we doing it right?  Are we doing it wrong?  And the answer to your question on sexual quantity is ... “it depends.”

Because honestly, your first question really should have been "What is OUR normal?".

It's SEX WEEK here on Mastering The Second Half.  Be sure and check out the rest of the week's offerings!

At some point, we’re all going...


My WILDEST Sexual Achievements (Obvious Clickbait)
03/01/2021

Yea, sorry.  I know you were hoping for giraffes and bondage, and you're getting a 59 year old dude babbling on about repressed sexuality.  But hey, it's sex week and I had a day to fill.

It's SEX WEEK here on Mastering The Second Half.  Be sure and check out the rest of the week's offerings!

At some point, we’re all going to get to that point where we say “How the hell did I get to be this age?”. It’s even worse when that number flips to starting with a six. But...


SEX Q&A: How Many People Have Actually HAD A THREESOME?
02/28/2021

Threesome.  Ménage à trois.  Whatever its name, does this act live in fantasy?  Or do people really do it?  Well ... today we find out what we adults are doing behind closed doors.

Also available on the website at:
http://rickhiggins.com/sex-qa-how-many-people-have-actually-had-a-threesome

At some point, we’re all going to get to that point where we say “How the hell did I get to be this age?”. It’s even worse when that number flips to starting with a six. But this isn’t a time for decline, absolutely not. It’s time to...


You CAN'T MAKE ME Exercise and Eat Better! (ft. Nick Lituanio)
02/28/2021

I have a new friend.  His name is Nick.  Nick likes exercise.   He's "active".  And the other day he started asking me questions ... and telling me things.  About movement, ultra processed foods, and choices.

And apparently, my age has something to to with it as well.

I'm starting to really not like Nick.

Nick Lituanio
Act Your Age - Go Do Stuff
http://www.youtube.com/nicklituanio

Nick joins us again to discuss health, exercise, diet, and especially motivation.  All geared towards a 50+...


A World Based On ... SEX? - Did Hippies Have The Right Idea? - A Panel Discussion
02/28/2021

In this episode of The Dialogue, I'm joined by Silke Schwarzkopf, Robert Manni, and Nick Lituanio as we discuss a curious example of a matriarchal, "hippy" society that is based on peace, love ... and sex.  A society from our nearest neighbors in the evolutionary chain.  Can we learn from Bonobos? 

Silke Schwarzkopf
Creator/Host, 2nd Act TV

https://www.youtube.com/user/Our2ndAct 
https://2ndact.tv/

Robert Manni - Host of Guy's Guy Radio show primetime on KCAA in So Cal, worldwide podcast, and YouTube channel...


No, You Were NOT Happier WAY BACK THEN - Wanna Know Why?
02/22/2021

We oftentimes get stuck thinking that everything was so much better and easier back in the day. But it's actually just a mind trick.  Really.  Let me explain.

It's something called 'Rosy Retrospection'.  It happens because when we think about our days past, we're more likely to think about people, places, and activities in the abstract. And when we think about things in the abstract, we're far more likely to focus on the positive parts, rather than the unpleasant and sometimes ugly ones.

Let's dive deeper, shall we?

At some...


Why Do People LOOK DOWN On AGE-GAP Romances? Can They Work?
02/21/2021

How young is too young when you're of a certain age and looking for "Mr/Mrs. Right"?  Aren't Age-Gap Relationships supposed to be really, really bad?

Whether you're considering an age-gap romance yourself, or just mocking one from afar, we usually have a pretty negative opinion of the union.  "What can't he/she just date someone their own age?", we hurl into the void.  So, are we jealous?  Or are we correct in assuming it's a bad idea?

Let's find out ...

The Big Question:
In my future relationship...


Should You Just STAY SINGLE And Alone? - Is It HEALTHIER? - Are You HAPPIER?
02/21/2021

It's funny what my online feeds decide I want to see.  When I do research on how to have happier relationships, I instead get a series of "Why You Should Stay Single" offerings.  Let's take a look at what they have to say.  And answer the question ... Is it better to just be alone?

Story/Script on medium.com:
https://masteringthesecondhalf.medium.com/should-you-just-stay-single-is-it-healthier-are-you-happier-961689723fb9

At some point, we’re all going to get to that point where we say “How the hell did I get to be this age?”. It’s even w...


Opinions On HUGGING - I Think I've Forgotten How - Life Post Covid
02/21/2021

Before you think I've again fallen into the well of despair, fear not, for I have rediscovered the river of life ... and the water's fine.

The agnst side?  Well, like most of you I've been in lockdown.  Trying to think of things to keep me occupied while sitting inside the same four walls.  And yes, trying to remember how to hug people in greeting.  Not that I was ever a real touchy-feely person.  But still, it's going to be awkward.  Will the people in the post-apocalyptic world accept human touch? ...


NO SEX Marriages - Why They Happen - How To Fix Them
02/21/2021

I have a question for you … when was the last time you had sex? The last time you were intimate with your partner. Do you remember the date? The month? How about the year?

A sexless relationship can make your heart hurt. Can make you hesitant to even touch your partner. Can make you feel extremely disconnected. It’s almost certain that left unaddressed it will end in separation and divorce. 

Find the underlying causes and feelings. Commit to understanding and resolving the problems. Make it an absolute priority, not just something on your to-d...


On RETIREMENT, Changing Careers, and STARTING OVER After 50+ (Ft. Nick Lituanio)
02/21/2021

How does one retire without retiring?  Meaning, how does one switch from a long-term career into something completely different?  Where we may be starting from the bottom of the pile?  Why would we do such a thing, and more importantly, how? 

Nick Lituanio, of the YouTube Channel 'Act Your Age', joins us for the discussion (having done this very thing himself).

To dive a little deeper into the subject, restarting life in a new direction usually involves starting over.  Learning a new 'thing'.  And when you're of a certain...


YOUR LIFE NEEDS HELP! - But Don't Worry, We Can FIX THAT
02/21/2021

In life, you're only one decision away from making a change.  Think of a bird in a cage, and one day its human leaves the door open.  The bird sits there, staring at freedom, unsure what to do.  Unable to make a decision.  Do I fly or do I stay?  And then the human comes in the room and shuts the door.

Decision made.

According to science, I'm going to die in about 18.6 years.  Which means that technically I've only got 24% of my life left.  Now to refute...


What Is DOPAMINE FASTING - Can It Help You Live A Happier Life? - Or Will It Kill You?
02/02/2021

Dopamine Fasting is a 'thing' these days.  But what is it?  And is it even healthy? 

Not surprisingly, dopamine fasting is itself what it's trying to eliminate.  Dopamine is a chemical in all of us that is part of the action/reward cycle.  It's necessary for life, and what big companies use to control and steer our actions.  Ironically, this fad to eliminate dopamine plays on the very control mechanisms that it professes are evil.

Let's take a real look at dopamine, how the action/reward cycle works, and...


The BASICS OF SEX - Masters and Johnson Extended - Plus FUN ORGASM FACTS!
01/31/2021

During the 1960s, sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson sat in their Saint Louis laboratory, watching through a one-way glass window, as hundreds of volunteers enjoyed solo or partner sex.  Wanna know what the saw?

Their observations inspired them to describe a four-phase sexual response process: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution.   Turns out they weren't quite right.  They erred in asserting that all men and women experience sex the same way.  Subsequent research added a phase at the beginning for women: Desire.

The new study stated:

Desire. Many...


What Is RELATIONSHIP VISION? Besides Happily Ever After, What Does YOUR FUTURE Look Like?
01/28/2021

I recently read an article professing that rituals were good things, which led me down a rabbit hole about relationships, vision, and how to ritualize them. 

So ... what is your vision for your current relationship?  Meaning, where is it now?  Where is it going?  What does it look like today, tomorrow, and next year?  Is your vision the same as your partner?  Is that even something you know?

Let's chat about what Relationship Vision means.  Shared rituals, day-to-day life, and future goals.  And the paths that lead...


Do You WORRY About ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP After So Many Failures? - The Leftovers Of Divorce
01/21/2021

Are you "back on the market" after a divorce or breakup?  Perhaps you have a few broken relationships in your past?  All of which is making you a little hesitant to put yourself back out there?

It's normal for feel some anxiety.  The dating scene changes daily, and you've been out of practice.  But this video isn't about dating advice.  It's much more important than that.  This is life advice!

So, how's life treating you?  Struggling with decisions?  Relationships?  Have you ever considered LIFE COACHING? ...


What Exactly Is 'LIFE AFTER 50'? Well, It's OUR TIME, That's What! Let's Explore How To Experience It!
01/18/2021

So, you're over 50.  Not quite middle-age anymore, not quite ready for the home.  Where are you exactly?

Well Second-Halfers, I got great news for ya.  50+ is all about living!  Not looking at whatever problems may await, but diving (literally, watch until the end!) into what life has to offer.  Experiences, adventures, learning, and joy.  And passions!  It's always about passions.

In this video we'll explore those desires and opportunities.  I'll give you some suggestions from my list (think motorcycles, travel, and video gear), although your mileage may...


How To GET A TATTOO - Plus Wrinkled Things and The Meaning Of Life - THE MENS ROOM: Things Guys Over 50 Ponder
01/18/2021

Men!  Time to chat about some things that are either currently happening to us (for we of a certain age), or about to happen to you young'uns one day real soon.  Today we're going to cover:   

1. Gray hair, skin tags, and wrinkles ... what to do, or not.  Personally I'm tired of 'em, but apparently just not tired enough to do anything.  Maybe.

2. The real scoop behind tattoos (the whats, not the whys).  Everything you wanted to know about selecting a tattoo artist, creating/selecting designs, and the actual...


How To CONQUER FEAR In Your 50s And Beyond - Don't Be Afraid To BE YOURSELF!
01/15/2021

How many of us want to do something to ourselves (think fashion and accessories), but we wouldn't in a million years because "What would people think?".  Even in our 50s and 60s, we still follow society's rules.

Well, what if you wanted blue tips on your hair?  And if you've ever seen one of my videos, you might have noticed my tattoos.  There's a reason I got them, and it wasn't what you might think.  Let's discuss how to break the taboos and the expectations "of a certain age" and just be ourselves.<...


The 50+ POST-COVID BUST-OUT! What's It Going To Look Like? Our DREAMS OF TOMORROW!
01/12/2021

I saw a video the other day where the host was saying he thought the 2020's were going to be like the Roaring 20s of old.  Especially when covid gets under control.  His belief was that the world had been spring-loaded and locked down for so long that we were just going to spend the rest of the decade living life to the fullest.

So naturally I started imagining my audience and their "New Roaring 20's".  How are WE going to spend the next decade?

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Ladies, ASK ME ANYTHING! Falling In Love, Sex Flicks, and Vaginas
01/11/2021

And off we go again!  Answering the questions that women want to ask men, but know we'll probably just grunt and try to ignore.  But rest assured ladies, while I may appear uncomfortable in my chair as I answer, I will answer.  At least as far as I am able, being a plus-50 member of the male gender and trying to speak for the majority of us.

1. Why do you guys like porn?
2. What's falling in love like, from a male perspective?
3. Do men like women better with a lot of (or...


7 Steps to a FAIR FIGHT ~ Or At Least How To SURVIVE Relationship Hard Times
01/10/2021

Conflicts in a relationship are inevitable, I suppose.  Sure, we try to minimize the arguments, but do we really know how to fight fair?  Shouldn't a disagreement end up with a resolution?  Or are you just fighting to hear yourself fight?

Here are seven (7) things you can do to take a disagreement and turn it into something more productive.

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MASTERING THE SECOND HALF (Opinions On Life After 50/60+)
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THE MENS ROOM - Things Guys Over 50 Ponder - GETTING A VASECTOMY!
01/08/2021

Fellas!  Welcome to OUR Playlist!  I figured that if I had one for the ladies, fair is only fair and we needed a place to call our own as well.  Here's the deal, this is an unedited and free-form blathering of things concerning we guys as we hit the second half.  Things I'm experiencing, answering questions from you, trying out stuff.  With maybe a beverage in hand.  :-)

And this week: 

- What's It Like Getting a Vasectomy?
- Unwanted Hair Everywhere, Including From Your Wife
...


What's So TABOO ABOUT SEX? What Do We Need To Unlearn?
01/06/2021

How many of us born in the 20th century still hold on to old fashioned beliefs about sex?  That masturbation will grow hair on our palms?  That girls don't like sex a much as boys.  Or worse, that it's OK for men to have multiple sex partners, but when women do they are somehow harlots.

Porn, anal, oral, voyeurism, swinging, dildos, vibrators, sex dolls ... how many of you are cringing now, having peeked at that short list?  Are you still living in the 1950s?

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Why Do 50+ People PROCRASTINATE? Is It Normal?
01/01/2021

How many of us, especially as we age, just let things pile up?  Do we somehow believe that problems are just supposed to start occuring in our 50s?  In our 60s?  That it's just the way it is?

I had originally created this episode with a long list of all of the things that I had personally allowed to accumulate.  Meaning, all of the small physical issues that I had just ignored because they were supposed to happen as we all got older.  A whole stockpile of mental and emotional ones as...


How Can I START OVER At 50? I Asked Myself That Very Same Question And I ...
12/31/2020

In 2014, at the tender age of 53 and change, I decided to hit the reset button.  The HARD reset button.  Change everything, completely and irrevocably.  I moved a thousand miles from my home state down to sunny Miami, where I knew zero people.  Had nothing, not even an apartment reservation.  I needed to leave everything behind to start again.  Or did I?

Looking back, I had lots of questions.  Some of which I can actually answer now.  So let's look them over, and see where I went right, and where...


Avoid GIVING IN TO THE COMFORTABLE ~ Better Relationships Start With Better Health
12/30/2020

So you're into a relationship long enough to be comfortable.  Really comfortable.  So much so that you skip a little exercise here and there.  

Hey, those doughnuts look yummy!  
Sure, I'll have another drink, why not?  
Nah, I can wait another week before I get a haircut.  
But I showered yesterday!

And then one day ... you are no longer the person who preened, primped, and cared enough to look good enough to date.  You slipped.  The person looking back in the mirror isn't the...


Ladies, ASK ME ANYTHING! What Questions Do Want Answered From a 50+ MALE POINT OF VIEW?
12/29/2020

Let's start the new year right!  By betraying my gender and answering women's questions honestly.  :-)

Seriously, we men are not the most communicative creatures in the world, especially those of us over a certain age (Boomer-GenX Men, sheesh!).  But I am willing!  Willing to answer whatever you want answered.  And this week, we have these five questions:

1. Do guys ever talk about sex?  Do you talk about us with each other?

2. What do you really think of when you tell us you're not thinking?

3...


It's 2021 And TIME FOR ACTION! And For REMEMBRANCE
12/24/2020

This is not a resolution story, but one of encouragement.  I don't do resolutions usually.  Why pick a random day and change everything?  Makes no sense.  But we are at a unique crossroads, individually and collectively.  So instead of what I'm going to change, I want to do a list of what I hope for you.

The elephant in the room is covid.  It's taken away lives.  Balance.  Joy.  It's replaced them with fear.  And even though there is a light at the end of the tunnel...


Are You SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE? Were You Ever?
12/24/2020

There’s no official definition of sexual compatibility.

But Psychology Today offers this definition: “It’s the extent to which a couple perceives they share sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and needs with their partner".

Let's take a look at what sexual incompatibility is, figure out if it sounds like us, and look at ways to push past it.

Why We Do The Things We Do
Boomer/GenX Edition

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E14: Why Am I ALWAYS SO TIRED? Where'd All My D*** Energy Go?
#14
12/23/2020

The answer to all your problems is in this little ol' bottle, Vitameatavegamin. Vitameatavegamin contains vitamins, meat, megetables and vinerals. So why don't you join the thousands of happy peppy people and get a great big bottle of Vitaveatyvemeanyminimoe.

High school science quiz time! Remember the word Mitochondria? Those little Energy Producing Engines inside us? You're not helping them to help you. We actually do have enough energy, even though we're aging. In our youth, we just had a surplus. We still have enough. We're just choosing to waste it in the wrong places.

Why...