The Money Advantage Podcast

Investing” Is Not the Same as “Owning” A client said something to Bruce recently that stuck with me: “I despise the idea of a 401(k)… but I also know I’ll spend the money if it hits my checking account.” That single sentence captures the tension so many families feel. https://www.youtube.com/live/1d8Ln6EsBxk On one hand, you want control. You want options. You want the ability to pivot when life changes or opportunity shows up. On the other hand, you’ve been trained to believe the “responsible” path is to lock money away, chase a rate of return, and...

The “Real Show” Reminder (and why that matters) We kicked off this episode the way we often do—by being real. A quick tech hiccup, a laugh, and the reminder that this is not a polished production pretending to be perfect. It’s a real show, with real people, talking about real money decisions. https://www.youtube.com/live/JDkaHi_66d8 And that imperfect start is a perfect picture of what’s happening in the Infinite Banking world right now. As Infinite Banking becomes more popular, the internet makes it look clean and effortless: slick graphics, big promises, “hacks,” and fast results...

The moment we realized “liquidity” isn’t a theory Thirteen years ago, Lucas and I thought we were being responsible by storing a lot of our capital in gold and silver. It felt safe. It felt timeless. It felt like the kind of move people make when they’re thinking long-term. And then we needed cash. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M3go-H641ZU Not someday. Not “in retirement.” We needed liquidity for real life—building a business, making decisions, moving when opportunities showed up. And in that moment, we learned something the hard way: an asset can be valuable and s...

The “Clean Slate” That Changes Your Decisions Every January, Bruce and I have this running joke: as a society, we collectively decide that January 1 magically flips a switch—life will be calmer, more organized, more intentional. Bruce thinks it’s strange. (He’s not wrong.)I love it. I love a clean slate. A fresh start. A targeted window that says, “This is the beginning.” https://www.youtube.com/live/_cgm7sJ6SDc And here’s why that matters for your money: when you feel like you have a beginning, you’re more willing to think differently. You stop drifting on autopilot and s...

The Questions No One Can Answer After Dad Dies A man spends his life building a sophisticated estate plan—brilliant strategies, impeccable legal work, a network of trusted advisors, and layers upon layers of entities. His son is a lawyer. He even gets 18 months to prepare before his father passes. https://www.youtube.com/live/hCA_R52ZyrQ And yet, within days of his death, people start asking questions he can’t answer. That story belongs to Josh Kanter, founder of Leaf Planner—and it’s exactly why Bruce and I wanted to bring him to The Money Advantage Podcast. Because...

The Moment “Confident” Sounds Like “Certain” A few weeks ago, we found ourselves talking about how quickly AI is moving. It’s not just that it can answer questions fast—it’s that it can sound certain while doing it. https://www.youtube.com/live/mWd2QqPzFWA And when you’re staring at a big money decision—debt, investing, taxes, retirement—certainty feels like relief. It feels like clarity. But after thousands of conversations with real families, we’ve learned something that never changes: people don’t just need answers. They need judgment. They need wisdom. They need someone who can hear what’s not bein...

The “Billion-Dollar Asset” That Still Had to Be Sold A story Bruce shares in our retirement class teaching always stops people in their tracks. A family inherited an NFL team worth just under a billion dollars. The asset was valuable. The legacy was real. But the planning wasn’t there. When estate taxes came due, the heirs didn’t have the liquidity to pay the bill. And because the wealth was tied up in an illiquid asset, they had to sell the team. https://www.youtube.com/live/6lCgo4y3LYs Most families will never own an NFL franchise. But plenty o...

Bruce said something on the show that stuck with me because it’s so honest: Everyone thinks they’re an aggressive investor… until they lose money. And it’s true. Most people don’t even realize the biggest financial planning mistakes they’re making until the moment something “unexpected” happens: a market drop, a job change, a medical curveball, an opportunity they can’t jump on because their money is locked away. https://www.youtube.com/live/wp4PzmsvzFQ Bruce also joked that when people go to casinos, nobody ever admits they lost. They either “won” or “broke even.” But those crystal chandeliers...

A Hospital Room Reminder About What Really Matters When Bruce recorded this episode, I was in the hospital. He carried the podcast solo while I was headed into yet another surgery connected to pregnancy complications—a storyline some of you know has been part of our family’s journey for years. https://www.youtube.com/live/Fbq412_k_mU That day was a harsh reminder: life is fragile, the future is never guaranteed, and your family’s financial stability cannot depend on “hoping it all works out.” It has to be built on purpose. And that’s exactly what cash flow vs accu...

The Couple With $8.5 Million… and One Salad “Bruce, I’m afraid we’re going to run out of money.” He had over $8.5 million across different accounts. They were in their early 70s. On paper, they were far ahead of where most people ever get. https://www.youtube.com/live/L4phmdaJydw But his fear was so real that when they went out to dinner, his wife shared a salad instead of ordering her own—because he was afraid they “couldn’t afford” it. This is what we see over and over again. People obsess over the question “how much do I need to retire?”Th...

The Day a Cookie Business Changed How My Daughter Saw Money After watching a kid biz launch challenge our eight-year-old decided she wanted to start a cookie business. She figured out recipes, canvased the neighborhood, and delivered her first batch of cookie dough. By the end of the day, she had a stack of cash in her hand and stars in her eyes. https://www.youtube.com/live/yzjkVUl38HM Then we sat down at the table. “Okay,” I said, “you didn’t just make $100 you made $100 of income. Now we’re going to give, save, and spend.” Suddenly, that pile of mone...

The Day the “Emergency Fund” Met Real Life Rachel here. Many tell us the same story: “I saved the emergency fund, but I’m worried I’m losing ground to inflation and missed opportunities.” https://www.youtube.com/live/T7O8abZDKw8 Because for most people, the “emergency fund” is a lonely pile of cash—stuck in a corner doing next to nothing. It feels safe, until inflation and opportunity cost quietly erode it. Today Bruce and I want to reframe that pile into something far better: emergency fund alternatives that give you liquidity and momentum. What You’ll Get From This Guide If y...

Many people make more money and somehow feel more afraid. Afraid to decide. Afraid to lose. Afraid to look foolish. Afraid to miss out. https://www.youtube.com/live/00ErZ7MiuEM This isn’t a fringe problem. It’s everywhere.And it’s solvable. Bruce and I recorded this episode to hand you a simple tool you can use to reframe fear and build the kind of financial life that runs on clarity, certainty, and stewardship. Overcoming financial fear starts hereWhat Financial Fear Really IsMake Financial Fear Work For YouScarcity vs Abundance With MoneyWhy Typical Financial Planning Fuels AnxietyTraditional Planning Builds...

A few weeks ago our 14-year-old daughter ordered a $30 item online with her own hard-earned cash. She was proud of herself—until a notice popped up: the product was coming from overseas and a tariff of roughly $30 would be due at delivery. She looked at me, stunned. “Wait… I have to pay double to get it?” She paused, thought, and said, “I still want it.” https://www.youtube.com/live/gV_EvvpiXww That tiny moment shows a big reality: taxes aren’t just something you deal with in April. They show up everywhere, often without warning, and every one of them is a leak...

We went live, the chat exploded, and a listener voiced what so many feel but rarely say out loud: “I’ve followed the rules—so why doesn’t my Retirement Plan feel safe?” https://www.youtube.com/live/gFQYEJWlWpI Bruce gave me the look that says, “Let’s tell the truth.” Because we’ve seen it over and over: neat projections, tidy averages, and a plan that works—until the world doesn’t. Markets don’t ask permission. Inflation doesn’t use a calendar. Life throws curveballs, blessings, and bills. If your Retirement Plan only survives in a spreadsheet, it’s not a plan—it’s a hope. To...

Why the Indexed Universal Life lawsuit is a wake-up call The headlines about the Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life indexed universal life lawsuit sparked the same question I hear from thoughtful families: is my policy designed to serve me, or to serve a sales incentive? This isn’t tabloid noise. It’s a real-world reminder that choices around products, product design, and behavior determine outcomes. When insurance gets framed like an investment, confusion wins—and families pay for the confusion later. https://www.youtube.com/live/3aLnzmv2dlc Behind the headlines is a deeper issue many families face: when insurance starts...

“It’s not the math. It’s the mindset.” When Bruce recorded this episode solo, he opened with something we’ve learned after thousands of client conversations: the biggest Infinite Banking mistakes aren’t about policy illustrations or carrier choice. They’re about us—our habits, our thinking, and the quiet patterns we bring to money. https://www.youtube.com/live/tvSGb9GkRG4 I remember Nelson Nash repeating, “Rethink your thinking.” That line annoys the part of us that wants a clean spreadsheet answer. But it’s also the doorway to everything you actually want—control, peace, and a reservoir of capital that serves y...

If you want to increase your savings, don’t start with your budget—start with your lifestyle.Your lifestyle isn’t about how much you spend.It’s about what you prioritize.It’s the visible result of invisible decisions—what you say yes to, what you say no to, and what you're building quietly behind the scenes. https://www.youtube.com/live/wZIJnteQW-g Too many people let lifestyle be the engine of their money—chasing comfort, appearances, or upgrades without ever asking: Does this reflect the values I want to pass on?Does this build up my family or just maintain...

Premium financing life insurance for estate planning is one of those strategies that sounds impressive—and sometimes is. But for most families, it introduces more complexity and risk than benefit. https://www.youtube.com/live/8Dav7pQVOrc At The Money Advantage, we don’t lead with premium financing, and we rarely recommend it. But in a recent conversation with a client facing an eight-figure estate tax liability, the question came up: “Is there a way to fund a large life insurance policy without disrupting my investment portfolio or using my own capital?” That opened the door to a serious conversation about pr...

The Corvette and the $80,000 Lesson Have you ever made a money decision that felt right in the moment… only to realize later it pulled you further from your goals?You’re not alone—and you’re likely facing one of the hidden money traps that quietly sabotage even the most well-intentioned wealth-builders. https://www.youtube.com/live/I-1F6u7Z8Bk Imagine this: You’ve worked hard, saved diligently, and finally have $80,000 sitting in your bank account. Then, one emotional moment later, it’s gone. Bruce shared this story in a recent episode of our podcast. A client had just finaliz...

The Gas Station Story That Reveals a Common Money Mistake Let me paint a picture for you. https://www.youtube.com/live/uqGN5Sz9tJg You’re driving down the highway and see gas at $3.00 a gallon. Three miles later, you spot it for $2.97. You think, "Yes! A deal!" So you turn around, drive the extra six miles, and save... 30 cents. Except you used 40 cents of gas to get there. This is the kind of logic many people use when comparing Infinite Banking vs Index Funds. It’s a hyper-focus on rate of return, while missing the bigger picture of fina...

When Bruce came back from recording this episode of The Money Advantage podcast, he told me something that hit hard: https://www.youtube.com/live/r5oyEytzj1w He shared how frustrated he feels every time he hears about a family who loses a loved one without proper life insurance. Suddenly, their friends and community are scrambling to create a GoFundMe page just to cover funeral expenses and basic needs. Life insurance is more than numbers—it’s a financial hug that wraps around your family when they need it most. And the person who helps you design and implement it—y...

Have you ever heard someone say you can use an IUL for Infinite Banking? Maybe you’ve seen a slick video online, or a persuasive advisor with charts and projections that promise you higher returns, flexible premiums, and “upside potential.” It sounds convincing—especially when you compare the numbers on an illustration. Who wouldn’t want more cash value and lower premiums? But here’s the sobering reality: when it comes to Infinite Banking, an Indexed Universal Life policy (IUL) doesn’t deliver what matters most. https://www.youtube.com/live/beR3FnHLAG4 And that’s a big problem, because Infinite Banking...

When most people first hear about Infinite Banking, one of the first questions that comes up is: “But what are the risks of Infinite Banking?” It’s a fair question. We live in a financial world where we’ve been conditioned to look for the fine print, the hidden traps, and the potential downsides of anything that sounds “too good to be true.” https://www.youtube.com/live/7JHmm5jEfQ0 I get it. When you first hear the concept of becoming your own banker through whole life insurance, the mind immediately goes to skepticism: Are the premiums too high? Is whole life a...

“Is Infinite Banking a sales tactic?” It’s one of the first questions we hear—and it’s a valid one. When I first encountered Infinite Banking, I wasn’t looking for a new strategy. I was simply trying to find a better place to store cash. https://www.youtube.com/live/K00YrFJtIQE Like many families, Lucas and I were putting our savings into gold and silver. It felt like a smart move—until we needed liquidity. The value dropped. Selling took time. We lost money. That painful experience pushed us to rethink everything. We didn’t just need a safe place to...

A Story That Changes the Way You See Wealth When Bruce and I sat down with Michael Cole for The Money Advantage Podcast, the conversation didn’t just scratch the surface of wealth management—it went straight to the heart of what wealth really means. Here’s a man who has advised families with an average net worth of more than $500 million, co-founded the largest network of centimillionaires in the U.S., and written the bestselling book More Than Money. https://www.youtube.com/live/DTWacmQHhSU And yet, when we asked him about retirement, he smiled and said, “I don’t plan on...

How a Campfire Call Sparked a Financial Movement It started with a campfire. Lucas and I were out camping when I made a phone call that would unknowingly change the course of our lives and the lives of thousands of families:“Bruce, want to start a podcast?” https://www.youtube.com/live/GKrk_LOMwI4 As we looked back over the years, a theme emerged. The conversations that mattered most weren’t about rates of return, product comparisons, or clever tax tricks. That single conversation planted the seed for what is now 400 episodes of The Money Advantage Podcast—a platform that’s helped p...

A friend called and said four words that changed the trajectory of a young family’s finances: Becoming Your Own Banker. At that moment, Jesse Durham was a former cop turned Spanish teacher in North Carolina. New baby. Second on the way. About $50,000 of debt. A man raised to do what most of us were taught to do: get the degree, get the job, ride the hamster wheel, and hope the math works out. https://www.youtube.com/live/kgT_7O5YHec He walked into a live presentation with an open mind and a hungry heart. He walked out with a...

What Most Families Miss About Whole Life Insurance Tax Strategies Most people miss the hidden power of whole life insurance tax strategies—and in doing so, they overpay in taxes and underfund their legacy. In today’s podcast episode, Bruce Wehner dives deep into how the tax code is designed to reward strategic behavior—and how you can align your actions to reduce your tax burden and redirect that capital into wealth-building vehicles like whole life insurance. https://www.youtube.com/live/Z4BEoTli--k In this blog, I’m going to walk you through the real, practical ways to lower your tax...

What’s Really at Stake When it comes to short-pay vs long-pay life insurance, the question isn’t just about convenience—it’s about control, options, and legacy. https://www.youtube.com/live/dPxt8Nui4g4 In this article, you’ll learn: The difference between short-pay and long-pay policies Why a long-pay design gives you more flexibility and cash value How reduced-paid-up life insurance contracts really work What to consider if you want to use your policy as a family bank How to align your design with your legacy goals and future self Let’s pull back the curtain on what really...

SLAT vs ILIT for High Net Worth Estate Planning isn't just a legal distinction—it's a strategic decision that could determine how well your wealth serves your family, both now and for generations to come. https://www.youtube.com/live/CzyssnZbzD0 We were deep into a conversation with Andrew Howell, one of the foremost estate planning attorneys in the country, when he casually dropped a statement that made us pause: "I haven’t drafted a new ILIT in over a decade." Wait… what? For those of us in the world of estate strategy, that kind of remark is the equivalent of a m...

The Power of a Love Letter When Shannon sat down to write her love letters to her children, she didn’t expect just how meaningful the process would be. What began as a simple act of putting words on paper quickly became one of the most profound steps in her family’s legacy journey. The letters reflected a lifetime of love, intention, and values that now had a permanent home. https://www.youtube.com/live/VzJGf5fD2Jk For Shannon and her husband, legacy planning for families wasn’t about cold documents or rigid legal structures. It was about love, clarit...

I’ll never forget Bruce’s story about his car—check engine light on, a mechanic insisted it needed a $1,500 catalytic converter. Bruce knew better and fixed it by simply tightening the gas cap. That story isn't just about auto repair; it perfectly illustrates why questions a good financial advisor should ask matter. Without probing, you might be sold something you don't need. Competency—not just good intentions—matters. https://www.youtube.com/live/oyEbgdU1MGI It’s not about distrust—it’s about asking the right questions so you're not blindly following advice. And that principle applies fully when choosing a finan...

I’ll never forget the moment my co‑host Bruce Wehner shared a powerful story: Nelson told his wife, Mary, “I need to teach you how to be a widow.” That striking phrase stopped us in our tracks. It wasn’t morbid—it was strategic. Nelson recognized that spouse financial preparedness is the cornerstone of true legacy planning. If your partner isn’t prepared to manage finances when the unthinkable happens, your careful planning unravels—and unintentional burdens form. https://www.youtube.com/live/bVBMnWHGp1Y In today’s fast-paced world, talking about money can be uncomfortable. But taking the time to ensure spo...

How Much Life Insurance Do I Need? Why That’s the Wrong Question If you’ve ever asked, “How much life insurance do I need?”—you’re not alone. It’s a common starting point. But in this article, Bruce and I (Rachel) want to challenge that question and offer something better. Because "need" is often based on a survival mentality—what’s the bare minimum? But the real question isn’t about scraping by. It’s about what you want your life insurance to do—for you, for your spouse, for your children, and for future generations. https://www.youtube.com/live/xhGublG...

Lately, we’ve seen a troubling trend online. People—some well-meaning, some not—are sharing misinformation about mutual holding companies, claiming these companies are no longer mutually owned or that they’ve quietly abandoned their policyholders. That couldn’t be further from the truth. So Joe, Bruce, and I decided it was time to clear the air. Because when it comes to protecting your family’s legacy, clarity matters more than opinion. You deserve to understand the facts—not fear-based interpretations. And as we’ve seen too often, when confusion spreads unchecked, people start making financial decisions on the wrong foundation. That...

A few weeks ago, something special happened as we kicked off a podcast recording—Joe DeFazio held up a first edition copy of Becoming Your Own Banker by Nelson Nash. It had just arrived in his hands, passed down like a sacred trust. https://www.youtube.com/live/4MpwxirBpGA We weren’t in the same room, so Bruce and I couldn’t flip through the pages or feel its weight for ourselves—but even through the screen, we felt the gravity. Because legacy isn’t just a word. It’s a responsibility. A principle to be protected. A baton handed from one gen...

In today’s post, Bruce and I (Rachel Marshall) want to bring you behind the scenes of a candid and educational conversation we had with Matt Ewald, Vice President of Life Insurance at Advisors Excel. If you’ve ever wondered when and why to use guaranteed universal life insurance (GUL) —especially in the context of estate planning—this one is for you. We’ve been having more and more conversations with families who aren’t just thinking about how to grow their wealth—but how to keep it intact for the next generation. And when estate taxes enter the picture, the stakes cha...

There’s a story Buffy Ruthardt shared that still gives me chills. She and her husband Darren were on a drive, just processing life and legacy—wondering aloud what it might look like for their children to live in their inheritance while they were still alive. Not just financially, but spiritually, relationally, and generationally. https://www.youtube.com/live/dMMgfxEohsI It was a bold idea. But they didn’t know how to do it. No roadmap. No clarity. No strategy to get there. And then… they heard a Facebook ad for Seven Generations Legacy®. That was the nudge. They followed that mome...

Let me tell you a quick story. Imagine walking into your local grocery store, grabbing a can of peas, and sneaking out the back door without paying. It sounds ridiculous—maybe even unethical, right? Now, imagine the opposite: You pick up the same can, go to the register, pay for it, and walk out the front door with a receipt in hand.  https://www.youtube.com/live/GZ7wNDb-ugY That simple act—paying at the register instead of sneaking out the back—perfectly illustrates one of the most misunderstood aspects of how to design a whole life policy for Infinite Banking...