Help for Loving Relationships

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By: Shane Adamson

Welcome to the place where we courageously discuss the messy and amazing parts of loving relationships. We'll get into complex problems and be inspired by love stories. As a professional counselor for over 25 years, Shane observes what helps and what hurts individuals, marriages, and families. You'll hear from authors and experts as well as everyday heroes who have something to share about strengthening relationships in your community. Get inspired to do hard things as well as find better ways to live, love and parent!

Mindfulness, Mental Health, and Relationships
Last Tuesday at 2:00 AM

Jacob Hess is lead author of The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-day Saints. With Phil Neisser, he wrote You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, and is a former board member of the National Coalition of Dialogue & Deliberation. Jacob’s life work is dedicated to making space for thoughtful, good-hearted people to find understanding (and affection) while exploring together the deepest of disagreements. He and his sweetheart Monique live in Paradise, Utah having some modest success raising four boys and a baby girl —and proving to be reliably mediocre in raising chickens...


Benefits of Gratitude and Journaling
03/16/2024

Taking the time to reflect on what you're grateful for and writing down your thoughts both require the ability to detach from the inner dialogues in your brain, and with practice bring a host of therapeutic benefits. Shane details many in this short episode:

improves awareness of perceptions & events in your lifehelps you prioritize problems, concerns, fears & goalscreates opportunity for positive self-talkreduces stress & anxietyincreases coping skillsimproves memory & emotional awareness


Betrayal Trauma Healing, Part 2
#4
02/27/2024

Shane offers ideas and resources for healing and recovery based on his 15 years of experience in this specialty and the recent training he did with APSATS (Association of Partner's of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists). He gives best practices for each of the main stages of healing:  
1. Shock and Crisis Stage
2.  Safety and Stabilization
3. Remembering and Mourning



5 Stages in Healing from Betrayal Trauma
#3
02/10/2024

Guest Heidi Hastings is a sex and marriage researcher, educator, and advocate. She details the 5 stages women go through in trying to heal from a betrayal:

Innocence/naiveteCrisisAftermathHealingTransformation 

"Women need women for healing," she says. Her research found that support groups were very helpful, not only in the crisis stage, but all the way through transformation, when they're creating authentic relationships with people who help them feel healthy.

Bio and Contact for  Heidi Hastings
Heidi is a sex and marriage researcher, educator, and advocate. She received Master's and PhD degrees in Human Development and Fa...


Music that Heals and Inspires
#2
01/21/2024

Kayla started singing along side her father on stage at the young age of 2.  Over the years she has brought her music to school assemblies, worship services, and  recently recorded her 2nd album entitled,  "All Things New."  Kayla's Christian faith has been very meaningful to her life and her music.  Kayla explains that her style of music is to tell tell a story that can connect with others as well as include a redemptive message.   Here is an excerpt of Kayla describing herself and her music:

My name is Kayla Rae Atkins, and I’m a small town gir...


Addiction and Loss
#1
01/13/2024

The lawsuit against Meta for allegedly harming teens with their addictive platforms. Opioids. Online porn. Addiction, and the resulting loss, touches us all at some time. 

Shane talks about the accusations that Facebook & Instagram harm teens’ mental health. He also gets into how addiction harms generally and how society can better support people in recovery. Last of all, he opens up about loss.



Navigating Holidays with Family & 2024 Podcast Preview
#18
12/10/2023

Sometimes family dynamics can increase stress during holiday gatherings.  Shane offers 7 tips to help you better navigate these reunions and reduce drama. 

The second half of the podcast Shane gives a sneak preview into episodes for 2024.  Thanks to all of you for being supportive listeners of the show!


How Faith Strengthens Relationships: Romaree F. Herbert
#17
11/21/2023

Romaree's journey in her Jewish faith took a winding road—from feeling disconnected with her Reform upbringing in El Paso to renewed interest while experiencing antisemitism in Germany. She was in college when she decided to go to Israel to attend an Orthodox seminary for girls—an experience that led her to greater spirituality and connection with her faith.

Now practicing a more Conservative faith, Romaree finds saying the Shema Yisrael prayer calms her and brings her back to center in anxious times. The principles she read in The Committed Life by Rebbetzin Esther Junreis strengthened her marr...


How Faith Strengthens Relationships: Almas Muscatwalla
#16
11/07/2023

"He created you all from a single soul." How does this tenet from Islamic theology change the way we think about our relationships? A faithful Ismaili Muslim, Almas Muscatwalla explains that it helps to diffuse conflict if we see the other as having an equal right to their opinion.  And no force. "No mother is going to drag their child to jamatkhana [for local worship], but the parents have the responsibility to engage with their faith intellectually, talk about why they did it, model it for them. What the institution does is give resources to resolve some of the d...


How Faith Strengthens Our Relationships: the Bujnowskis
#15
10/25/2023

Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Aaron & Julie Bujnowski share how insights gained from prayer and personal revelation  informed big decisions: Should we move?  How should we tackle cancer treatment?   They offer many other spiritual insights about personal development, loving relationships and how worship in the temple brings a spiritual power that comes from faith in Jesus Christ.  They provide many life experiences of how this spiritual power deepens their loving relationships and strengthens their resilience to endure the toughest adversities that life can bring.  Here are some nuggets of wisdom from this episode:

Being...