Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

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By: Dr. Nima Rahmany

Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast. This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community. These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy, and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience, heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life. This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audi...

The Willingness Of Imperfection (While On Daddy Duty)
#175
03/12/2024

Take a moment to reflect on how boundaries were modelled to you growing up.
Were you punished for sharing them?
Guilted into removing them?

In my family system, they weren’t really taught to us elegantly.

I’m not even blaming my parents, either.
We can’t lead others where we have never been.

In persian culture, it’s considered rude to set boundaries.

Fawning (performative people pleasing) is taught to us at an early age,
with the concept of “tarof,”
which is all about violating our own boun...


From Dissociation to Reconnection
#174
03/10/2024

There’s a hidden root cause behind
most of our relationship challenges.

And it’s not about the “other” person.

It’s something more insidious.
In fact you can’t even feel it most of the time.

Most of us who are stuck in relationship dynamics that feel toxic,
living in a “should I stay or go” situation are painfully unaware
that there’s something deeper that isn’t being addressed.

It’s called “dissociation”.

Dissociation is a protective mechanism that causes us
to leave our bodies when we a...


How Fantasy Affects Your Relationships
#173
03/08/2024

What are your fantasies?

At first glance, you might be thinking that I’m talking about sexuality and fetishes.

I’m not.

I’m talking about the root cause of our Trauma Bonds.

Picture this:
you grow up in a childhood where you experienced the wounding of:

abuse,
loss,
abandonment
rejection (bullying)
emotional neglect,
maturing too early,

or shaming….

and you didn’t have attuned parents who could hold space for your emotions,
and help you regulate through them…

<...


How a Child Becomes the Narcissist
#172
03/06/2024


These days my inbox is inundated with people
telling me how their ex is a narcissist.


And I get it, too.


I’m married now in a secure bond that’s polarized, but
when I was unpacking the sh*t show that was my last
relationship I was in,
I was surprised to discover that I was in a “trauma bond”
and went down the rabbit hole
through the Manual that psychiatrists use to diagnose mental disorders
and found 8/9 criteria a perfect match for my ex-girlf...


A Man’s Two Greatest Fears In Relationships
#171
02/15/2024

If you’re a man, or you’re in a relationship with a man, you’re wise to learn about the two fundamental fears every man contends with in relationships.
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Being Self-Centered vs Not Giving a F###
#170
02/12/2024

A participant of my recent 3 hour training on Fawning
had a few questions that arose.
She’s in a “should I stay or go” situation
and has been consuming my content
and has now begun her pathway to creating a secure relationship.

Here are some more questions:

What happens when you try to finally set boundaries,
and then get blamed, criticized, and rejected back for it?

How do you know if you’re reading your body correctly,
somatically, and it’s not just an emotion/feeling?

How many...


Healing Your Nervous System Can Save Your Life
#169
01/30/2024

A ruptured attachment can be lethal.


In the last 3 years, I’ve had several participants send me DM’s 

after they attended one of my events to tell me


“Thank you. I wanted to end my life before this….

this was my last hope. I had already made the plans.

I can now let my family know that things are going to be ok.”


I get emotional just thinking about it.


Last year a good frie...


Healing Enmeshment Trauma
#168
01/29/2024

I just had a frustrated commenter (Carol) on my facebook page.


She said “I could care less about having a relationshit”. 

It’s not worth the BS and the hoop jumping, 

and the fact that no one cares about boundaries. 

Single is peace.”


I just wanted to jump through the inter webs and give her a hug.


Too many people these days can relate to this.

Relationships are crumbling.

Dating these days is scary AF. 

...


Anxious Attached To Finding A Secure Connection
#167
01/19/2024

We’ve had over 100,000 people do our attachment-style quiz

that helps you determine your attachment style. 


Guess what the most common attachment style has been??


Nope, not “avoidant”.


Those who identify as “avoidant” will often “avoid" the discomfort 

of looking inward and doing the quiz.


Not too many avoidants.


The answer is “anxious attached”— AKA “ambivalent”.


This is experienced as constantly worrying if your partner is wanting to leave you...


The Responsibility Of Everyone Who's On The Healing Path
#166
01/09/2024

 if you have lived a life

feeling like you needed to wear a mask 

and play a role of “Pleasing others”

in order to get your needs met,


just know that you’re not alone.


“Fawning” is a Trauma response that many 

I’ve spoken to didn’t even realize they were doing,

because they fawn AS A LIFESTYLE.


A personality.


Fawning is akin to “people pleasing.”

Altering my truth, my...